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Contents:

• EXPLORG WHO IS AND WHAT MAK A GAY “DADDY”
• GAY BEAR VIOS: THE BT OF THE BT
• THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW
• GAY DADDY
• HOW TO BE A GAY DADDY 101 – PART 1: KNOW YOURSELF, WHAT YOU SEEK AND WHO’S LOOKG FOR YOU
• MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI
• GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG
• DAD AND DAD: A JOURNEY TO GAY FATHERHOOD – PICTUR
• GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON
• THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

EXPLORG WHO IS AND WHAT MAK A GAY “DADDY”

While the term “daddy” has gotten more and more popular the gay muny over the past several years, therapist Matthew Dempsey’s latt YouTube vio explor what mak a gay “daddy? “Growg up gay, most of didn’t have parents who shared that inty and uld gui through that experience as we stepped to adulthood. Enter the gay daddy, ” Dempsey shar the tro to the vio.

“Whether for iendship or romance, we n easily fd ourselv drawn to olr gay men for answers we never got and always need. Dempsey enlists the aid of his iend and “rint daddy, ” Eric Rutherford, to chat on how beg a gay “daddy” affects gay men regard to agg, datg, and takg re of yourself mentally and physilly. It’s no secret that gay culture n be a b youth-obssed.

Rutherford shar that the “first big love” of his life mted suici when he reached his 60s feelg he had “aged out” of gay culture.

GAY BEAR VIOS: THE BT OF THE BT

It’s an tertg chat for anyone who is, or is attracted to, a gay daddy. I also knew that my dad mt be gay—bee, well, of urse.

While I’d never met an out gay man, I kd of knew what they were supposed to be like om movi and TV, and Dad f the mold: He loved to ok; he cleaned obssively; he kept the Internatnal Male talog around, bee, he said, “I like the cloth. “You know, ” I said to Dad, “I asked Mom once if you were gay.

” she’d said our kchen—after a long nversatn she’d had wh an openly gay iend om llege, Pat, who had, apparently, been a nfidant of Dad’s. Years later Mom told me that, acrdg to Pat, Dad had been active Lexgton and Louisville’s gay club scene.

THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW

) But to actually let me —to s on that blue blanket, look me the eye and tell me he was gay—was somethg he uldn’t do. “I asked Mom once if you were gay, ” I would have said.

He would be taller wh dark hair and mascule featur, but no more than five years my did I know, I'd bee part of a very popular relatnship trend the gay muny and was only perpetuatg s stigma. The tergeneratnal romance is nothg new for gay men.

GAY DADDY

"It's a dynamic that materializ not jt realy, but the fantasi of numero gay men, men who are probably faiar wh adult film star, Adam Rso.

"Te to another gay datg trend, they met onle. "Although the relatnships have long rried a stigma, Fager has seen beg creasgly accepted amongst the gay muny.

For Carrier and Keh and numero other gay upl, 's the new normal.

HOW TO BE A GAY DADDY 101 – PART 1: KNOW YOURSELF, WHAT YOU SEEK AND WHO’S LOOKG FOR YOU

"Shame n e om multiple angl stigmatized relatnships, om both the straight muny and the gay muny.

A gay man who is ually middle-aged (40-60+), who has a more domant personaly and don't md providg moary funds and/or protectn and guidance to his mate/boyiend.

MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI

The term is not to be nfed wh "sugar daddy, " which impli a young mate beg showered and lavished wh gifts and money exchange for a sexual, and possibly, romantic relatnship; a gay daddy and his mate are most often romantilly volved, and the ma motivatn for the younger male the relatnship isn't money or material ems, but bee he prefers olr men due to their matury or their attractivens. However, a gay daddy often do provi money or material objects to the younger male due to havg more means due to his age and experience and his role the the Gay Daddy mug. Beg a gay Daddy has s perks, but also prents a set of challeng that make perfect for some and undoable for others.

So let’s talk about the assumptns, the realti and whether gay Daddydom — or seekg out a gay Daddy — is right for you. There are gay Daddi their 20s rangg up age as far as you n image.

GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG

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DAD AND DAD: A JOURNEY TO GAY FATHERHOOD – PICTUR

A Daddy n help put life to ntext for someone feelg overwhelmed by the randomns of the world — pecially gay culture.

Part 3: Gay Daddy 101 – Part 3: What Do a Daddy Do Wh a Boy? Such a photograph would have been extraordarily rare jt s ago, but now is one of many published the book “Dads, ” a four-year visual archive of gay fatherhood across Ameri that began 2016. “I felt a ltle b lonely as a gay dad – although there are two of – but lonely the sense that all the other fai I knew were straight parents, ” Heynen said a vio ll, explag why he began photographg the seri.

“I also thought was important for (my kids) to see other fai wh gay dads. “For many people, the book will be an troductn to gay fatherhood.

GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON

For Heynen, they reprent addnal love and re and help illtrate some of the cisn-makg that, though not exclive to them, all gay fathers mt ntend wh.

THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

“Most of the women are Mormon, and Mormons don’t believe gay marriage and gays havg kids. Heynen, as well as the fathers he photographed, hope that the photographs “Dads” will dispel some of the hurtful stereotyp that still lger around gay fatherhood.

Abplanalp never knew when he was younger that fatherhood would be possible for him as gay man. Listen: “Daddy Squared: The Gay Dads Podst” (2019-ongog). Hosted by Wt Hollywood uple Yan and Alex, the dads e each episo to chat parentg and relatnships, and lately have been focg each episo on the gay rights and fatherhood pathways by untry, and vg a gay father om each lotn on as a gut.