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The northern Italian cy of Padua has started removg the nam of non-blogil gay mothers om their children’s birth certifit unr new legislatn passed by the “tradnal fay-first” ernment of Prime Mister Grgia Meloni.

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MEMORI OF A GAY BOY

A Mnota school district is facg a Department of Jtice vtigatn and a private lawsu over s alleged failure to bat antigay bullyg.... * gay childhood stories *

I (male) had my first gay experience when I was around 12 years old.

I never associated what we did wh the ia of ‘gay’. Homosexualy at that age.

Now, as an adult, I primarily intify as gay, and I feel strongly that havg those experienc durg my formative years helped shape my sexual inty.

I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

* gay childhood stories *

Still, as an adult, whenever I've brought this up wh my straight (and generally gay-iendly) buddi, they whout exceptn ny ever havg had siar experienc. As a twelve-year-old, prr to the upheaval by way of my homosexual sight, I only imaged that all boys felt as I did when I experienced the tense and almost unsettlg visn of male bety, when I fell love wh my classmate, when I disvered the light of naked male magaz (Trim, Fizeek, and Grecian’s Guild), and when I iated a sexual experience wh a fourteen-year-old male – an experience which until that time was unthkable to me and which turned out to be awome beyond scriptn.

I was on the verge of g face to face wh knowledge of the ultimate taboo, homosexualy, and simultaneoly beg predisposed to the immutable world view that homosexualy was the epome of reprehensible pravy. Wh such valuable support, a gay child will be equipped to enter society both wh self-assurance and as an open, lovg, and empathetic human beg.

WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?

Richard Bagarozy disclos his story openly his memoir, Trapped: Memoirs of a Gay Boy the Fifti and Sixti, first support of other gay human begs who have experienced signifint sufferg their liv as a rult of the surge of prejudice, but primarily to give a bird’s-eye view to receptive heterosexuals who are open to tryg to unrstand and empathize wh the plight that a gay child may be experiencg.

NAVIGATG ONE SON'S G OUT N BE A BIG AL. FOR PARENTS WH SEVERAL GAY CHILDREN, N BE OVERWHELMG

One day, he hop open-md heterosexual rears of his book may fd themselv a posn to spare a stgglg gay child om the unrelentg self-loathg he found himself unable to tach om and afford them wisdom, fort, love, and perhaps even a served sense of self worth. As a gay man my early 30s I am not now attracted to children but to. The Homo Sapiens Agenda and The Mistn of Cameron Post have been turned to blockbter films, and jt about every YA agent out there has “own-voic LGBTQ+ stori” on their mancript wish list.

How AIDS shattered the silence about gay liv. There’s a price of admissn for g out as gay later life.

MEMORI OF A GAY CHILDHOOD

I kept wag for the moment where I would realize I was no longer gay so I uld put a halt to everythg. I was nsumed by the p my stomach – the shame of endg my marriage bee I was gay was like luggg a sandbag over my shoulrs and havg a rock my stomach at the same time.

I wasn’t sure how to tell my nservative, Geia-born and bred parents that their former pageant queen dghter was endg her marriage bee she is gay. I wasn’t brave enough to actually say the words – the label of beg gay or a lbian was too much for my soul to bear at the time – so I sent her a text msage, “I am not straight. Democratic printial ndidate Pete Buttigieg – who, like me, is his late 30s and, like me, me out publicly jt a few years ago – put this way: “It’s hard to face the tth that there were tim my life when, if you had shown me exactly what was si me that ma me gay, I would have cut out wh a knife.

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