Contents:
- GAY RELATNSHIP BREAKUP CAN BE PROBLEMATIC. HERE’S HOW TO AVOID THE RISKS
- HOW TO SURVIVE (AND W) A GAY BREAKUP
- GAY RELATNSHIP: TO TAKE A BREAK OR BREAK-UP?
- GAY BREAKUPS: WHEN THE RABOW ENDS
GAY RELATNSHIP BREAKUP CAN BE PROBLEMATIC. HERE’S HOW TO AVOID THE RISKS
Us gays, wh our propensy for the dramatic, might wish that when a relatnship ends we'd bee Dty's Child and emerge om the tear-staed sea, cked mo, reborn strong and pennt "Survivor"-style, but realistilly you're gog to be a plete fuckg begs are predictable creatur. Breakg up a 10 year gay relatnship. Let me start by sayg that I am a 33 years old gay asian man.
I have a gay relatnship, wh a 46 years old gay whe man Sgapore, whom told me that he has a 20 years partner UK (Luton / Brighton). And I ankly also admired him for beg fahful to the partner (which mak me believe gay love exists), few nights later we bumped to each other aga.
I qu my fortable zone, like a cent 9-5 job, lots of good iends (straight, gay, bi, any rac, man, woman), and possibly my love life. I felt beg played, beg betrayed, and not sure whether I n believe gay love I stayed at his apartment, he still sent some texts to Harvey, and talked to Harvey via the phone. It's mon for gay men to rema iends wh their ex-boyiends; ci for yourself if this is somethg that you would be able to do, and if so, allow yourself some time and space first to grieve.
HOW TO SURVIVE (AND W) A GAY BREAKUP
Rzepczynski, The Gay Love Coach. Of the many state and feral marriage rights gay and lbian upl are nied, accs to the urts when a relatnship fails is arguably one of the most important. As more stat grant legal rights to gay and lbian upl, same-sex divorce is likely to bee a prsg issue for the urts.
In the meantime, many gay and lbian upl who want to dissolve their relatnships are left wh more fancial and emotnal sts than married heterosexual upl. Compared wh married heterosexual partners, gay and lbian partners often report more tonomy and fewer barriers to leavg a relatnship (Kurk, 1998).
However, by and large, gay and lbian relatnships are siar to heterosexual relatnships, although they are not always perceived as such (Tta, Kr, & Ironson, 1987). In stat where same-sex unns are not regnized, gay and lbian upl nnot dissolve their relatnships fay urt. Civil urts may not nsir such thgs as sweat equy or implied ntracts among gay and lbian upl.
GAY RELATNSHIP: TO TAKE A BREAK OR BREAK-UP?
Feral law pre-empts state law and n elimate benefs that a urt might want to extend to gay and lbian upl. Furthermore, bias agast gays and lbians has been shown to have trimental effects when to the legal system (e.
G., Anrson, 2004), so is important for to unrstand how homophobia and heterosexism might fluence legal cisn-makg same-sex divorce s.
It's also important to note that gays and lbians who are gog through a breakup often do not have the same sourc of support as heterosexuals.
GAY BREAKUPS: WHEN THE RABOW ENDS
For the reasons, gay divorce may be particularly prone to self-blame, prsn and feelgs of isolatn.
Clicians who treat gay and lbian clients should be aware of the plitns and be faiar wh the laws and practic of judg and agenci their areas. Bee of the legal limbo which gay and lbian upl often fd themselv, they are likely to be better served by mediatn rather than the urt system.