Love him or hate him, the Gay Bt Friend (GBF) plays a big role pop culture.
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- WILLIE GARSON, CARRIE'S GAY BTIE ON SEX AND THE CY, HAS DIED
- WILLIE GARSON, CARRIE'S GAY BTIE ON SEX AND THE CY, HAS DIED
- WILLIE GARSON, CARRIE'S GAY BTIE ON SEX AND THE CY, HAS DIED
- SEX AND THE CY STAR WILLIE GARSON DI AT 57HE PLAYED CARRIE’S BT IEND, STANFORD BLATCH, ALONG WH MEMORABLE ROL WHE COLLAR AND FARRELLY BROTHERS FILMS.BY ANTHONY BREZNINSEPTEMBER 21, 2021BY CRAIG BLANKENHORN/HBO/DARREN STAR PRODS./KOBAL/REX/SHUTTERSTOCK.SAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVEWH HIS BOOKISH LOOK, FSY MEANOR, AND VILISH SE, WILLIE GARSON WORKED FOR A PLAYG UNNAMED CHARACTERS LIKE “NW EXECUTIVE,” “CORPORATE GUY,” AND “ANNOYG GUY” BEFORE BREAKG THROUGH WH HIS REER FG ROLE: SEX AND THE CY’S NATTILY DRSED NFIDANTE AND BT IEND STANFORD BLATCH. ARMED WH A RAZOR W AND EQUALLY SHARP SKEPTICISM ABOUT THE DATG SCENE, “STANNY” OFTEN JOED SARAH JSI PARKER’S CARRIE BRADSHAW AND HER TR OF GIRLIENDS NAVIGATG THE MEN OF MANHATTAN. FROM 1998 TO 2004, AND OVER TWO FEATURE FILMS, GARSON, WHO DIED TUDAY AT AGE 57, PLAYED THE PART OF THE “GAY BT IEND” YEARS BEFORE MOST PEOPLE KNEW A REAL-LIFE IEND OR RELATIVE WHO WAS FORTABLE BEG OUT.GARSON’S FIRST APPEARANCE AS STANFORD, THE 1998 PILOT FOR SEX AND THE CY, ARRIVED JT A YEAR AFTER ELLEN DEGENER’S CHARACTER OM HER SELF-TLED ABC S ME OUT PUBLICLY, CREATG A CULTURAL STIR AT A TIME WHEN SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS WERE SELDOM SEEN MASTREAM ENTERTAMENT. GARSON’S STANFORD PHED THE DOOR OPEN FURTHER AS A GAY CHARACTER WHO TALKED ANKLY WH HIS STRAIGHT IENDS ABOUT SEX, DATG, REJECTN, SECURY, AND THE ETERNAL NUNDM OF THE MALE MD. AS THE WORLD CHANGED, SO DID HE. IN THE 2010 MOVIE SEQUEL SEX AND THE CY 2, STANFORD SETTLED DOWN AND MARRIED HIS LONGTIME RIVAL, ANTHONY, A CEREMONY OFFICIATED BY NO LS THAN LIZA MNELLI. THAT WAS FIVE YEARS BEFORE THE 2015 SUPREME COURT LG THAT LEGALIZED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ALL 50 STAT. GARSON, WHO REPORTEDLY HAD BEEN BATTLG NCER, WAS NOT GAY HIMSELF, BUT TOOK PRI PLAYG A CHARACTER WHO ULD MAKE DIENC LGH WH STANFORD RATHER THAN AT HIM. WHILE DIENC WERE BEG ENTERTAED, THE ACTOR ALSO HOPED THE LOVABLE CHARACTER WOULD MAKE VIEWERS MORE ACCEPTG AND TOLERANT. “IT WAS ALSO VERY IMPORTANT TO THE SHOW TO SHOW SOMEONE HAVG FUN BEG GAY, BEG PROUD, OPEN AND FORTABLE WH WHO THEY ARE,” HE TOLD THE HUFFGTON POST 2016. “YOU KNOW, WE’D JT E THROUGH THE [AIDS] CRISIS AND EVERY REPRENTATN OF GAY WAS KD OF DARK, AND SPOKEN HHED TON,” GARSON ADD. “BUT STANFORD WAS LIKE, ‘HEY, I’M GAY. REALLY GAY. SUPER GAY. AND I’M HAPPY ABOUT , I’M LOOKG FOR A BOYIEND, LOOKG FOR A HBAND,’ AND WAS VERY OPEN, AND DIFFERENT TO WHAT HAD BEEN SHOWN BEFORE.”GARSON’S ATH WAS NFIRMED ON SOCIAL MEDIA BY HIS SON, NATHEN GARSON: “YOU ALWAYS WERE THE TOUGHT AND FUNNIT AND SMARTT PERSON I’VE KNOWN. I’M GLAD YOU SHARED YOUR LOVE WH ME. I’LL NEVER FET OR LOSE . I LOVE YOU SO MUCH PAPA,” NATHEN WROTE ON INSTAGRAM.STANFORD WAS GARSON’S MOST FAMO ROLE, BUT THE ACTOR PLAYED SR OF OTHER CHARACTERS MOVI AND TV SHOWS OVER THE S, CLUDG A REGULAR ROLE AS THE N ARTIST, FIXER, AND RMATN GATHERER MOZZIE ON THE SERI WHE COLLAR. HE ALSO MA GUT APPEARANC ON CHEERS, THE X-FIL, QUANTUM LEAP, NYPD BLUE, AND SUPERGIRL. IN FILM, HE HAD SUPPORTG ROL GROUNDHOG DAY, SOAPDISH, AND MARS ATTACKS!, AND APPEARED THREE EDI DIRECTED BY THE FARRELLY BROTHERS—THERE’S SOMETHG ABOUT MARY, FEVER PCH, AND KGP.GARSON WAS OUTSPOKEN SEVERAL YEARS AGO WHEN FIGHTG BETWEEN THE OTHER ACTORS AND -STAR KIM CATTRALL LED TO THE LLAPSE OF PLANS FOR A THIRD SEX AND THE CY MOVIE, BUT FANS MAY GET TO SEE SANFORD ONE MORE TIME. IN A STATEMENT TO DEADLE MOURNG THE ACTOR, SERI CREATOR MICHAEL PATRICK KG SAID GARSON HAD BEEN WORKG ON THE NEW HBO FOLLOW-UP SERI AND JT LIKE THAT, EVEN WHILE BATTLG HIS ILLNS.INIALLY, GARSON HIMSELF WAS APPREHENSIVE ABOUT THE CHARACTER WHO WOULD MAKE HIM FAMO. WHILE ACKNOWLEDGG THAT STANFORD WAS MORE OF AN EMBRACE OF STEREOTYP THAN A REFUTATN OF THEM, THE ACTOR WAS WORRIED ABOUT HOW LGBTQ+ PEOPLE WOULD FEEL ABOUT THE PERFORMANCE. “I DIDN’T WANT TO OFFEND THE MUNY AT ALL, AND THAT WAS A REALLY BIG NCERN OF ME, TO THE POT WHERE I DIDN’T EVEN HAVE HBO FOR THE FIRST THREE YEARS BEE I DIDN’T WANT TO SEE , BEE I WAS SO TERRIFIED OF BEG OFFENSIVE,” THE ACTOR TOLD HUFFGTON POST. “BUT THE GAY MUNY REALLY ROSE UP, AND SAID ‘WE KNOW PEOPLE LIKE THIS, THIS IS REAL.’ AND SO THAT MA ME FEEL GREAT, AND I ULD START WATCHG THE SHOW.”STANFORD WAS PERFORMED WH PASSN AND EMPATHY, EVEN THOUGH HIS SENSE OF HUMOR WAS THLS. THAT ANKNS MA HIM ENARG, LIKE A REAL IEND WHO MIGHT TELL YOU ANYTHG. CONSIR THIS EXCHANGE HE HAD WH CARRIE SEASON THREE: “I N ONLY STAY A FEW MUT,” STANFORD SAYS. “I’VE GOT TICKETS TO THE VAGA MONOLOGU.”A PERPLEXED CARRIE ASKS HIM PLATIVELY: “WHY?”HIS REPLY: “JT BEE I DON’T EAT AT THE RTRANT DON’T MEAN I N’T HEAR THE SPECIALS.”MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIR— UNHAPPY LTLE TRE: THE DARK LEGACY OF BOB ROSS— THE TE STORY OF A HOLLYWOOD PARTNERSHIP BUILT AND DTROYED BY MONEY, SEX, AND CELEBRY— TED LASSO’S ROY KENT ON WHY THE SHOW ISN’T “WARM AND FUZZY”— CAFTANS, GOYARD, AND ELVIS: INSI THE WHE LOT’S COSTUM— THE CHAIR IS LIKE AN AMIC GAME OF THRON— THE BT MOVI AND SHOWS STREAMG ON NETFLIX THIS MONTH— RACHAEL LEIGH COOK ON RECLAIMG SHE’S ALL THAT— WATCH KRISTEN STEWART CHANNEL PRCS DI SPENCER’S OFFICIAL TRAILER— FROM THE ARCHIVE: JEFEY EPSTE AND HOLLYWOOD’S OMNIPRENT PUBLICIST— SIGN UP FOR THE “HWD DAILY” NEWSLETTER FOR MT-READ DTRY AND AWARDS VERAGE—PL A SPECIAL WEEKLY EDN OF “AWARDS INSIR.”MOST POPULAROUR FLAG MEANS DEATH SEASON 2: EXCLIVE FIRST LOOKBY SARAH CATHERALLNEW ON NETFLIX: SEPTEMBER 2023'S BT NEW MOVI & SHOWSBY CHRIS MURPHYFLORENCE PUGH SAYS CHRISTOPHER NOLAN “APOLOGIZED” FOR HER SMALL OPPENHEIMER ROLEBY SAVANNAH WALSHANTHONY BREZNIN
- THE EVOLUTN OF THE GAY BT IEND ROMANTIC EDI
- BEFORE STANFORD: MEET CARRIE BRADSHAW'S FIRST GAY BTIE
WILLIE GARSON, CARRIE'S GAY BTIE ON SEX AND THE CY, HAS DIED
Willie Garson, the actor known for playg Carrie Bradshaw's gay bt iend, Stanford Blatch, on Sex and the Cy, has died at age died "after a short illns, " People reports. His character, a talent agent, was always well-drsed and ready wh a wty was straight but stayed the closet about his sexualy durg the n of the show, sayg he didn't want to offend gay people. In a Page Six terview last year, he referred to "people playg gay characters jumpg up and down screamg that they're not gay, like that would somehow be a bad thg if they were.
Garson played Stanford Blatch, a gay talent agent and the pendable, wty and always well-drsed nfidant of Carrie Bradshaw, played by Sarah Jsi like the four lead characters (some fans lled him “the fifth lady”), Stanford was put through the datg rger.
He was one of the few openly gay characters on TV at the time. Garson, who was not gay, told The Huffgton Post.
WILLIE GARSON, CARRIE'S GAY BTIE ON SEX AND THE CY, HAS DIED
“But the gay muny really rose up, and said ‘We know people like this, this is real.
”He said another terview: “I always felt that there’s nothg worse than straight actors playg gay characters televisn and then dog rtwheels to tell people that they’re straight all the time — as if they were gay, that’d be a bad thg.
WILLIE GARSON, CARRIE'S GAY BTIE ON SEX AND THE CY, HAS DIED
From 1998 to 2004, and over two feature films, Garson, who died Tuday at age 57, played the part of the “gay bt iend” years before most people knew a real-life iend or relative who was fortable beg ’s first appearance as Stanford, the 1998 pilot for Sex and the Cy, arrived jt a year after Ellen Degener’s character om her self-tled ABC s me out publicly, creatg a cultural stir at a time when same-sex relatnships were seldom seen mastream entertament. Garson’s Stanford phed the door open further as a gay character who talked ankly wh his straight iends about sex, datg, rejectn, secury, and the eternal nundm of the male md.
Garson, who reportedly had been battlg ncer, was not gay himself, but took pri playg a character who uld make dienc lgh wh Stanford rather than at him. “It was also very important to the show to show someone havg fun beg gay, beg proud, open and fortable wh who they are, ” he told The Huffgton Post 2016.
SEX AND THE CY STAR WILLIE GARSON DI AT 57HE PLAYED CARRIE’S BT IEND, STANFORD BLATCH, ALONG WH MEMORABLE ROL WHE COLLAR AND FARRELLY BROTHERS FILMS.BY ANTHONY BREZNINSEPTEMBER 21, 2021BY CRAIG BLANKENHORN/HBO/DARREN STAR PRODS./KOBAL/REX/SHUTTERSTOCK.SAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVEWH HIS BOOKISH LOOK, FSY MEANOR, AND VILISH SE, WILLIE GARSON WORKED FOR A PLAYG UNNAMED CHARACTERS LIKE “NW EXECUTIVE,” “CORPORATE GUY,” AND “ANNOYG GUY” BEFORE BREAKG THROUGH WH HIS REER FG ROLE: SEX AND THE CY’S NATTILY DRSED NFIDANTE AND BT IEND STANFORD BLATCH. ARMED WH A RAZOR W AND EQUALLY SHARP SKEPTICISM ABOUT THE DATG SCENE, “STANNY” OFTEN JOED SARAH JSI PARKER’S CARRIE BRADSHAW AND HER TR OF GIRLIENDS NAVIGATG THE MEN OF MANHATTAN. FROM 1998 TO 2004, AND OVER TWO FEATURE FILMS, GARSON, WHO DIED TUDAY AT AGE 57, PLAYED THE PART OF THE “GAY BT IEND” YEARS BEFORE MOST PEOPLE KNEW A REAL-LIFE IEND OR RELATIVE WHO WAS FORTABLE BEG OUT.GARSON’S FIRST APPEARANCE AS STANFORD, THE 1998 PILOT FOR SEX AND THE CY, ARRIVED JT A YEAR AFTER ELLEN DEGENER’S CHARACTER OM HER SELF-TLED ABC S ME OUT PUBLICLY, CREATG A CULTURAL STIR AT A TIME WHEN SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS WERE SELDOM SEEN MASTREAM ENTERTAMENT. GARSON’S STANFORD PHED THE DOOR OPEN FURTHER AS A GAY CHARACTER WHO TALKED ANKLY WH HIS STRAIGHT IENDS ABOUT SEX, DATG, REJECTN, SECURY, AND THE ETERNAL NUNDM OF THE MALE MD. AS THE WORLD CHANGED, SO DID HE. IN THE 2010 MOVIE SEQUEL SEX AND THE CY 2, STANFORD SETTLED DOWN AND MARRIED HIS LONGTIME RIVAL, ANTHONY, A CEREMONY OFFICIATED BY NO LS THAN LIZA MNELLI. THAT WAS FIVE YEARS BEFORE THE 2015 SUPREME COURT LG THAT LEGALIZED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ALL 50 STAT. GARSON, WHO REPORTEDLY HAD BEEN BATTLG NCER, WAS NOT GAY HIMSELF, BUT TOOK PRI PLAYG A CHARACTER WHO ULD MAKE DIENC LGH WH STANFORD RATHER THAN AT HIM. WHILE DIENC WERE BEG ENTERTAED, THE ACTOR ALSO HOPED THE LOVABLE CHARACTER WOULD MAKE VIEWERS MORE ACCEPTG AND TOLERANT. “IT WAS ALSO VERY IMPORTANT TO THE SHOW TO SHOW SOMEONE HAVG FUN BEG GAY, BEG PROUD, OPEN AND FORTABLE WH WHO THEY ARE,” HE TOLD THE HUFFGTON POST 2016. “YOU KNOW, WE’D JT E THROUGH THE [AIDS] CRISIS AND EVERY REPRENTATN OF GAY WAS KD OF DARK, AND SPOKEN HHED TON,” GARSON ADD. “BUT STANFORD WAS LIKE, ‘HEY, I’M GAY. REALLY GAY. SUPER GAY. AND I’M HAPPY ABOUT , I’M LOOKG FOR A BOYIEND, LOOKG FOR A HBAND,’ AND WAS VERY OPEN, AND DIFFERENT TO WHAT HAD BEEN SHOWN BEFORE.”GARSON’S ATH WAS NFIRMED ON SOCIAL MEDIA BY HIS SON, NATHEN GARSON: “YOU ALWAYS WERE THE TOUGHT AND FUNNIT AND SMARTT PERSON I’VE KNOWN. I’M GLAD YOU SHARED YOUR LOVE WH ME. I’LL NEVER FET OR LOSE . I LOVE YOU SO MUCH PAPA,” NATHEN WROTE ON INSTAGRAM.STANFORD WAS GARSON’S MOST FAMO ROLE, BUT THE ACTOR PLAYED SR OF OTHER CHARACTERS MOVI AND TV SHOWS OVER THE S, CLUDG A REGULAR ROLE AS THE N ARTIST, FIXER, AND RMATN GATHERER MOZZIE ON THE SERI WHE COLLAR. HE ALSO MA GUT APPEARANC ON CHEERS, THE X-FIL, QUANTUM LEAP, NYPD BLUE, AND SUPERGIRL. IN FILM, HE HAD SUPPORTG ROL GROUNDHOG DAY, SOAPDISH, AND MARS ATTACKS!, AND APPEARED THREE EDI DIRECTED BY THE FARRELLY BROTHERS—THERE’S SOMETHG ABOUT MARY, FEVER PCH, AND KGP.GARSON WAS OUTSPOKEN SEVERAL YEARS AGO WHEN FIGHTG BETWEEN THE OTHER ACTORS AND -STAR KIM CATTRALL LED TO THE LLAPSE OF PLANS FOR A THIRD SEX AND THE CY MOVIE, BUT FANS MAY GET TO SEE SANFORD ONE MORE TIME. IN A STATEMENT TO DEADLE MOURNG THE ACTOR, SERI CREATOR MICHAEL PATRICK KG SAID GARSON HAD BEEN WORKG ON THE NEW HBO FOLLOW-UP SERI AND JT LIKE THAT, EVEN WHILE BATTLG HIS ILLNS.INIALLY, GARSON HIMSELF WAS APPREHENSIVE ABOUT THE CHARACTER WHO WOULD MAKE HIM FAMO. WHILE ACKNOWLEDGG THAT STANFORD WAS MORE OF AN EMBRACE OF STEREOTYP THAN A REFUTATN OF THEM, THE ACTOR WAS WORRIED ABOUT HOW LGBTQ+ PEOPLE WOULD FEEL ABOUT THE PERFORMANCE. “I DIDN’T WANT TO OFFEND THE MUNY AT ALL, AND THAT WAS A REALLY BIG NCERN OF ME, TO THE POT WHERE I DIDN’T EVEN HAVE HBO FOR THE FIRST THREE YEARS BEE I DIDN’T WANT TO SEE , BEE I WAS SO TERRIFIED OF BEG OFFENSIVE,” THE ACTOR TOLD HUFFGTON POST. “BUT THE GAY MUNY REALLY ROSE UP, AND SAID ‘WE KNOW PEOPLE LIKE THIS, THIS IS REAL.’ AND SO THAT MA ME FEEL GREAT, AND I ULD START WATCHG THE SHOW.”STANFORD WAS PERFORMED WH PASSN AND EMPATHY, EVEN THOUGH HIS SENSE OF HUMOR WAS THLS. THAT ANKNS MA HIM ENARG, LIKE A REAL IEND WHO MIGHT TELL YOU ANYTHG. CONSIR THIS EXCHANGE HE HAD WH CARRIE SEASON THREE: “I N ONLY STAY A FEW MUT,” STANFORD SAYS. “I’VE GOT TICKETS TO THE VAGA MONOLOGU.”A PERPLEXED CARRIE ASKS HIM PLATIVELY: “WHY?”HIS REPLY: “JT BEE I DON’T EAT AT THE RTRANT DON’T MEAN I N’T HEAR THE SPECIALS.”MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIR— UNHAPPY LTLE TRE: THE DARK LEGACY OF BOB ROSS— THE TE STORY OF A HOLLYWOOD PARTNERSHIP BUILT AND DTROYED BY MONEY, SEX, AND CELEBRY— TED LASSO’S ROY KENT ON WHY THE SHOW ISN’T “WARM AND FUZZY”— CAFTANS, GOYARD, AND ELVIS: INSI THE WHE LOT’S COSTUM— THE CHAIR IS LIKE AN AMIC GAME OF THRON— THE BT MOVI AND SHOWS STREAMG ON NETFLIX THIS MONTH— RACHAEL LEIGH COOK ON RECLAIMG SHE’S ALL THAT— WATCH KRISTEN STEWART CHANNEL PRCS DI SPENCER’S OFFICIAL TRAILER— FROM THE ARCHIVE: JEFEY EPSTE AND HOLLYWOOD’S OMNIPRENT PUBLICIST— SIGN UP FOR THE “HWD DAILY” NEWSLETTER FOR MT-READ DTRY AND AWARDS VERAGE—PL A SPECIAL WEEKLY EDN OF “AWARDS INSIR.”MOST POPULAROUR FLAG MEANS DEATH SEASON 2: EXCLIVE FIRST LOOKBY SARAH CATHERALLNEW ON NETFLIX: SEPTEMBER 2023'S BT NEW MOVI & SHOWSBY CHRIS MURPHYFLORENCE PUGH SAYS CHRISTOPHER NOLAN “APOLOGIZED” FOR HER SMALL OPPENHEIMER ROLEBY SAVANNAH WALSHANTHONY BREZNIN
“You know, we’d jt e through the [AIDS] crisis and every reprentatn of gay was kd of dark, and spoken hhed ton, ” Garson add. “But Stanford was like, ‘Hey, I’m gay.
Really gay. Super gay. ”And yet, Willie Garson, who played Carrie’s gay bt iend, Stanford Blatch, died durg the filmg of “And Jt Like That, ” a sad remr of time’s passage and the grief n brg.
THE EVOLUTN OF THE GAY BT IEND ROMANTIC EDI
TV lov a gay bt iend! The Gay Bt Friend is a trope as old as homosexualy self.
While straight people haven't always been supportive of our rights, there's nothg they want more than a sassy and stylish gay bt iend to give them advice, read them when necsary, and never be aaid to speak the tth.
Kurt, played by Chris Colfer, actually had a lot of character growth over the seri, but still, for much of , he was basilly Rachel's gay bt iend. Cz beme the first out gay actor to play a lead gay character on Amerin TV when he played Vasquez, forever changg gay Hollywood ABC. One of the most classic exampl of this trope, the entire premise of Will & Grace was explorg the Gay Bt Friend and his relatnship wh his straight btie.
BEFORE STANFORD: MEET CARRIE BRADSHAW'S FIRST GAY BTIE
And while the trope was already old and ed up at this time, the show did help a whole segment of Ameri bee more fortable wh gay people, even if Will was played by a straight NBC. That was the se season four, when Carrie starts small talk wh another gay gentleman at a club. Love him or hate him, the Gay Bt Friend plays a big role pop culture.
Almost as long as rom-s and high school TV shows have existed, the Gay Bt Friend(tm) has been a source of edy and ntroversy. Often an important first step troducg queer storyl to mastream dienc, the GBF trope had a tenncy to rerce stereotyp about gay men: that their only terts are makeovers, shoppg and drama, that their stggl and relatnships fa to the background unls they're supportg a straight person's story, and that they only exist to be wise oracl about love and LGBTQ+ reprentatn Hollywood improv both onscreen and behd the mera, movi and TV shows are gettg creasgly self-aware, creatg gay characters who provi the ic relief we love while tearg down outdated ias. Perhaps the earlit example of the classic Gay Bt Friend character is 1984 movie The Woman Red, a Gene Wilr edy about a married man who be obssed wh a mol (Kelly LeBrock) after he se her skirt get blown up by a wd grate, Marilyn Monroe-style.