Gay Men and Straight Men as Friends | Psychology Today

Contents:

• MEETG YOUR FIRST GAY FRIEND
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

MEETG YOUR FIRST GAY FRIEND

It's no secret that growg up gay n be a lonely experience.

At tim, many gay men feel as though they're the only on experiencg certa thoughts and feelgs, on that society still often ems abnormal. So when a gay man first bonds wh someone else who intifi as gay or queer, 's evably a total lightng bolt moment. I'm no longer close wh my first gay iend, Jam, bee we're very different people now.

But I still remember clumsily g out to him after a Le Tigre ncert and him sayg, "I thk I'm gay, too.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY

" He was hot—I thk everyone thought so—but I didn't thk he was gay.

Then we started chattg and he said "I'm gay" the most offhand way. He didn't still a sense of ternalized homophobia me, which was important bee I was a mpy gay guy who'd always been teased for beg mpy.

" He gave me the permissn to be myself when I didn't even know who that, on DeanI grew up a small nservative town and didn't know anyone gay at school, so I met my first gay iends through social media.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Keep readg for a thorough list of potential signs that your boyiend might be gay.

There are many reasons why someone might act this way, so this by self is not a surefire sign that he’s gay.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

If you believe your boyiend lov and r for you but he "seems to be gay, " keep md that he uld be bisexual, pansexual, or terted men.