Advice on how to nont ageism the gay muny spe earlier loss and how to avoid beg alone.
Contents:
- HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
- A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’
- GAY GUYS: DO YOU FEEL ALONE?
- IS LONELS THE GAY MAN’S CURSE, OR A PRODUCT OF 21ST CENTURY LIFE?
- SAVAGE LOVE: I AM A LONELY, AGG GAY MAN; WHAT SHOULD I DO?
HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
* gay feel alone *
Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player. I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown.
A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’
I know ’s not jt our muny, but ’s creasgly mon for gay men to feel isolated and alone. * gay feel alone *
For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work.
In our lifetime, the gay muny has ma more progrs on legal and social acceptance than any other mographic group history. As recently as my own adolcence, gay marriage was a distant aspiratn, somethg newspapers still put sre quot. Still, even as we celebrate the sle and speed of this change, the rat of prsn, lonels and substance abe the gay muny rema stuck the same place they’ve been for s.
GAY GUYS: DO YOU FEEL ALONE?
Gay people are now, pendg on the study, between 2 and 10 tim more likely than straight people to take their own liv.
IS LONELS THE GAY MAN’S CURSE, OR A PRODUCT OF 21ST CENTURY LIFE?
In a survey of gay men who recently arrived New York Cy, three-quarters suffered om anxiety or prsn, abed dgs or alhol or were havg risky sex—or some batn of the three. Dpe all the talk of our “chosen fai, ” gay men have fewer close iends than straight people or gay women. “Marriage equaly and the chang legal stat were an improvement for some gay men, ” says Christopher Stults, a rearcher at New York Universy who studi the differenc mental health between gay and straight men.
In the Netherlands, where gay marriage has been legal sce 2001, gay men rema three tim more likely to suffer om a mood disorr than straight men, and 10 tim more likely to engage “suicidal self-harm. TTravis Salway, a rearcher wh the BC Centre for Disease Control Vanuver, has spent the last five years tryg to figure out why gay men keep killg themselv.
SAVAGE LOVE: I AM A LONELY, AGG GAY MAN; WHAT SHOULD I DO?
“But now you’ve got lns of gay men who have e out of the closet and they still feel the same isolatn.
By the late 2000s, he was a social worker and epimlogist and, like me, was stck by the growg distance between his straight and gay iends. When the dispary first me to light the ’50s and ’60s, doctors thought was a symptom of homosexualy self, jt one of many maniftatns of what was, at the time, known as “sexual versn.