Photographer Bart Heynen set out across the untry to make a visual archive of gay fatherhood "Dads."
Contents:
- THE SCENT OF A MAN: GAY MEN AND PHEROMON
- HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
- IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
- HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
- MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI
- ‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
THE SCENT OF A MAN: GAY MEN AND PHEROMON
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HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
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IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
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HOW TO TELL YOUR PARENTS YOU ARE GAY
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MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI
Gay culture at 's ft. The gays really are wng, huh.
— Rural South Gay (@ralsouthgay) July 3, 2018. #weirdshonTV #allthefay #mercial #homoeroticism #sniff.
‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
Gay culture at ’s ft. In late 1980, at a support group for gay fathers, my dad met Lnel –– the man wh whom he would spend the next 23 years. He had seemed kd of lost his new life – phg 60, recently divorced om my mother, recently out of the closet as gay man.
He asked that I march wh him, alongsi the other gay fathers and their kids, the Los Angel Pri Para. What I do remember was that someone had ma T-shirts that said "I LOVE MY GAY DAD" and I refed to wear one.
I told my dad, “I love you, but not bee you’re gay. ” The tth, though, is that I lacked the urage to stand all the way up for my father and his ras agast a homophobic and different world.