3 Ways to Know if You Are Gay - wikiHow

Contents:

• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• WHY GAY IS NOT OK
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• I'M NOT GAY
• I’M NOT GAYJ PEEPRODUCED BYJ PEETHE SONG “I’M NOT GAY” BY J PEE IS A HUMORO TAKE ON THE TOPIC OF G OUT AS GAY. J PEE GO THROUGH A SERI OF SCENARS THAT ULD BE TERPRETED AS GAY BEHAVR… READ MORE 20131 VIEWER146K VIEWS33 CONTRIBUTORSI’M NOT GAY LYRICS[INTRO: J PEE]J PEE BABY, YUP, YUPYEAH, YOU KNOW WHAT ISCHECK THIS SH OUT MANCHECK OUT, CHECK OUTCHECK OUT, YEAH[VERSE 1: J PEE]CHILL' WH MY HOMI AT THE HOME DEPOT(HOME DEPOT)BUY' SCREWS AND NAILS, MANLY SH YOU KNOW?(YOU KNOW?)MY HOMIE SAYS TO ME "WHAT KD OF DRILL YOU WANT?"(HE ASKED ME)SO I SAID I WANTED ONE RIGHT THE ASSWHAT?[HOOK 1: J PEE]I'M NOT GAYI'M NOT GAYIT WAS A JOKE GUYS, E ONI'M NOT GAYI LIKE VAG MORE THAN A PORNSTAR SNDALBUT N I GET THE DRILL WH THE BRIGHT PK HANDLE?YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[VERSE 2: J PEE]PLAY' TACKLE FOOTBALL WH MY HOMI THE PARKHAD TO WRAP UP E WAS GETT' DARK(GETT' DARK)THE OTHER TEAM WAS LOOKG STRAIGHT SRY AS SH(OOOOO)BUT MY QUARTERBACK, HE A'T HAVG NONE OF (HE A'T SRED)HE LOOKED AT ME AND TOLD ME NO MATTER WHERE I WAS ATMY PRRY JOB WAS TO PROTECT THE SACK(OKAY)SO FOURTH DOWN, HE BENDS OVER AND YELLS "HIKE!"SO I WENT AND GRABBED HIS BALLS!HUH...[HOOK 2: J PEE]I'M NOT GAYI'M NOT GAYI'M JT DOG MY JOB, STEP OFFI'M NOT GAYIT'S NOT LIKE I WAS PURPOSEFULLY TRY' TO FEEL THEM(I WASN'T)I JT RE ABOUT THE SAFETY OF YOUR FUTURE CHILDREN(GODFATHER)I'M NOT GAY, I'M NOT GAYQU TELLG ME THAT, MANI'M NOT GAYNEXT TIME I'LL JT LET YOUR BALLS GET MANGLED, SONP.S. I DIDN'T KNOW THAT YOU WERE SO WELL HUNG[VERSE 3: J PEE]STROLL' WH MY HOMI WT HOLLYWOOD(HOLLYWOOD)WASN'T MY IA BEE I'M NOT GAYDU WALKS BY ME WH HIS SHIRT OFF, AND I WAS LIKE"DAMN BCH, YOU FE!"..[HOOK 3: J PEE]I'M NOT GAY GUYSTHAT A'T MEI'M JT FORTABLE WH MY SEXUALYSO I N ADM WHEN I SEE A GUYWHO HAS A HANDSOME FACE, AND PRETTY EYAND A ROCK HARD CHT, AND RIPPLG ABSAND THE TIGHTT ASS, AND THOSE SCULPTED LVAND THOSE BULGG QUADS, AND THE PERFECT BODAND OHH MY GOD, TAKE YOUR PANTS OFFUM..FUCK [HOOK 4: J PEE]I'M SO GAYI'M FUCKG GAYI'M THE DU WEAR’ NAIL POLISH YELLG "HEY!"I'M THE DU AT THE PARTY WHO'LL GRAB YOUR BUTT(THAT'S ME)AND WHEN YOU TURN AROUND AND LOOK AT ME I'LL BE LIKE "WHAT?"YEAH!I'M GAY(I'M GAY)I'M HELLA GAYI WATCH ZAC EON MOVI EVERY SATURDAYAND NORMAL SELF EXPRSN DON'T SU ME EHERTHAT'S WHY MY GREE IS MIL THEATERI'M SO GAY MAN...8EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTGENI ANNOTATN2 NTRIBUTORSTHE SONG “I’M NOT GAY” BY J PEE IS A HUMORO TAKE ON THE TOPIC OF G OUT AS GAY. J PEE GO THROUGH A SERI OF SCENARS THAT ULD BE TERPRETED AS GAY BEHAVR, BUT HE REPEATEDLY NI BEG GAY. HOWEVER, BY THE END OF THE SONG, HE FALLY ADMS THAT HE IS GAY, AND HE EVEN CELEBRAT HIS SEXUALY. THE SONG IS TCHY AND FUNNY, AND DO A GOOD JOB OF POKG FUN AT THE STEREOTYP SURROUNDG GAY MEN.EXPAND +20SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “I'M NOT GAY” BY J PEE?WHEN DID J PEE RELEASE “I'M NOT GAY”?WHO WROTE “I'M NOT GAY” BY J PEE?CREDSPRODUCED BYJ PEEWRTEN BYJ PEERELEASE DATE2013TAGSRAPLGBTQ+EXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE
• IS STRANGE TO WEAR THE PRI STRAP IF YOU'RE NOT GAY?
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• IM NOT GAY
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label. Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex. Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them. I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology. Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man.

WHY GAY IS NOT OK

They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight. Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg.

Beg homosexual, gay, or havg same-sex attractn is not sex addictn, and should never be treated as such. In orr to have doubts about one’s sexual inty, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

If on the other hand they happen to be homosexual they may obss about the possibily that they might really be straight.

” Some people’s doubts are further plited by havg such experienc as hearg other people talkg or lookg their directn and thkg that the people mt be analyzg their behavr or appearance and talkg about them – discsg how they mt be gay (or straight). Let’s face , gay people have always been an opprsed mory wh our culture, and to sudnly thk of beg this posn, and to be stigmatized this way, n be ighteng.

I have sometim wonred if those who experience the most distrs om such thoughts as the do so bee they were raised wh more strongly homophobic or anti-gay attus to beg wh, or if is simply bee one’s sexualy n be such a basic doubt. Lookg at attractive men or women, or pictur of them, or readg sexually oriented lerature or pornography (hetero- or homosexual), to see if they are sexually excg. Observg themselv for evince of “lookg, ” talkg, walkg, drsg, or gturg like someone who is eher gay or straight.

I'M NOT GAY

Compulsively reviewg and analyzg past teractns wh other men or women to see if they have acted like a gay or straight person.

I’M NOT GAYJ PEEPRODUCED BYJ PEETHE SONG “I’M NOT GAY” BY J PEE IS A HUMORO TAKE ON THE TOPIC OF G OUT AS GAY. J PEE GO THROUGH A SERI OF SCENARS THAT ULD BE TERPRETED AS GAY BEHAVR… READ MORE 20131 VIEWER146K VIEWS33 CONTRIBUTORSI’M NOT GAY LYRICS[INTRO: J PEE]J PEE BABY, YUP, YUPYEAH, YOU KNOW WHAT ISCHECK THIS SH OUT MANCHECK OUT, CHECK OUTCHECK OUT, YEAH[VERSE 1: J PEE]CHILL' WH MY HOMI AT THE HOME DEPOT(HOME DEPOT)BUY' SCREWS AND NAILS, MANLY SH YOU KNOW?(YOU KNOW?)MY HOMIE SAYS TO ME "WHAT KD OF DRILL YOU WANT?"(HE ASKED ME)SO I SAID I WANTED ONE RIGHT THE ASSWHAT?[HOOK 1: J PEE]I'M NOT GAYI'M NOT GAYIT WAS A JOKE GUYS, E ONI'M NOT GAYI LIKE VAG MORE THAN A PORNSTAR SNDALBUT N I GET THE DRILL WH THE BRIGHT PK HANDLE?YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[VERSE 2: J PEE]PLAY' TACKLE FOOTBALL WH MY HOMI THE PARKHAD TO WRAP UP E WAS GETT' DARK(GETT' DARK)THE OTHER TEAM WAS LOOKG STRAIGHT SRY AS SH(OOOOO)BUT MY QUARTERBACK, HE A'T HAVG NONE OF (HE A'T SRED)HE LOOKED AT ME AND TOLD ME NO MATTER WHERE I WAS ATMY PRRY JOB WAS TO PROTECT THE SACK(OKAY)SO FOURTH DOWN, HE BENDS OVER AND YELLS "HIKE!"SO I WENT AND GRABBED HIS BALLS!HUH...[HOOK 2: J PEE]I'M NOT GAYI'M NOT GAYI'M JT DOG MY JOB, STEP OFFI'M NOT GAYIT'S NOT LIKE I WAS PURPOSEFULLY TRY' TO FEEL THEM(I WASN'T)I JT RE ABOUT THE SAFETY OF YOUR FUTURE CHILDREN(GODFATHER)I'M NOT GAY, I'M NOT GAYQU TELLG ME THAT, MANI'M NOT GAYNEXT TIME I'LL JT LET YOUR BALLS GET MANGLED, SONP.S. I DIDN'T KNOW THAT YOU WERE SO WELL HUNG[VERSE 3: J PEE]STROLL' WH MY HOMI WT HOLLYWOOD(HOLLYWOOD)WASN'T MY IA BEE I'M NOT GAYDU WALKS BY ME WH HIS SHIRT OFF, AND I WAS LIKE"DAMN BCH, YOU FE!"..[HOOK 3: J PEE]I'M NOT GAY GUYSTHAT A'T MEI'M JT FORTABLE WH MY SEXUALYSO I N ADM WHEN I SEE A GUYWHO HAS A HANDSOME FACE, AND PRETTY EYAND A ROCK HARD CHT, AND RIPPLG ABSAND THE TIGHTT ASS, AND THOSE SCULPTED LVAND THOSE BULGG QUADS, AND THE PERFECT BODAND OHH MY GOD, TAKE YOUR PANTS OFFUM..FUCK [HOOK 4: J PEE]I'M SO GAYI'M FUCKG GAYI'M THE DU WEAR’ NAIL POLISH YELLG "HEY!"I'M THE DU AT THE PARTY WHO'LL GRAB YOUR BUTT(THAT'S ME)AND WHEN YOU TURN AROUND AND LOOK AT ME I'LL BE LIKE "WHAT?"YEAH!I'M GAY(I'M GAY)I'M HELLA GAYI WATCH ZAC EON MOVI EVERY SATURDAYAND NORMAL SELF EXPRSN DON'T SU ME EHERTHAT'S WHY MY GREE IS MIL THEATERI'M SO GAY MAN...8EMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (<I>LYRIC</I>) AND BOLD (<B>LYRIC</B>) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTGENI ANNOTATN2 NTRIBUTORSTHE SONG “I’M NOT GAY” BY J PEE IS A HUMORO TAKE ON THE TOPIC OF G OUT AS GAY. J PEE GO THROUGH A SERI OF SCENARS THAT ULD BE TERPRETED AS GAY BEHAVR, BUT HE REPEATEDLY NI BEG GAY. HOWEVER, BY THE END OF THE SONG, HE FALLY ADMS THAT HE IS GAY, AND HE EVEN CELEBRAT HIS SEXUALY. THE SONG IS TCHY AND FUNNY, AND DO A GOOD JOB OF POKG FUN AT THE STEREOTYP SURROUNDG GAY MEN.EXPAND +20SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “I'M NOT GAY” BY J PEE?WHEN DID J PEE RELEASE “I'M NOT GAY”?WHO WROTE “I'M NOT GAY” BY J PEE?CREDSPRODUCED BYJ PEEWRTEN BYJ PEERELEASE DATE2013TAGSRAPLGBTQ+EXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

Readg articl on the ter about how an dividual n tell if they are gay or straight to see which group they might be most siar to. Can you sudnly turn to a homosexual (or heterosexual) even if you have never felt or acted that that way? If I get sexual sensatns when viewg sexual material of an oppose orientatn do mean I am gay (or straight)?

A typil example would be a heterosexual man who experienc an erectn while lookg at gay eroti. This reactn is strengthened by the rrect belief that homosexual cu never stimulate heterosexuals. Avoidg standg close to, touchg or bshg agast members of the same sex (or oppose sex if the sufferer is gay).

Not readg or lookg at vios news reports books or articl havg anythg to do wh gay people or other sexual subjects.

IS STRANGE TO WEAR THE PRI STRAP IF YOU'RE NOT GAY?

Tryg to not look or act effemately (if a man), or a mascule way (if a woman), (or vice versa if the sufferer is gay). Not drsg ways that would make one look effemate (if a man), or mascule (if a woman), (aga vice versa if the sufferer is gay). Avoidg associatg wh anyone who may be gay or who seems to lean that directn (if the sufferer is heterosexual).

The flip si of this is when they look at thgs havg to do wh sex of an oppose orientatn and then feel aroed some way, which they then nclu to mean that they liked , which means that they are gay (or straight).

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

Visg gay meetgs shops, browsg gay bookstor, or visg areas of town that are more predomantly gay. Dog a seri of wrg assignments of a uple of pag each that suggt more and more that you actually are gay or wish to be. Makg a seri of three-mute tap that based on the wrgs gradually suggt more and more that you are gay, and listeng to them several tim a day changg them when they no longer bother you).

Avoid observg yourself to see if you behaved a way you image a homosexual or member of the oppose sex would.

A youth and genr specialist wh Foc on the Fay, he is now active ex-gay youth mistry, leadg semars around the untry. After speakg to a group of high school senrs about the damage of viewg homosexualy as a normal, alternative liftyle, I opened up for qutns. But how n we unter arguments for homosexualy whout relyg on Scripture, which our opponents may dismiss as valid?

IM NOT GAY

While I wasn't ready for my Q&A ssn wh the high schoolers, I vowed that I'd learn to prent a biblil view of homosexualy to nonbelievers. They vised a seven-pot sle that placed exclive heterosexualy and exclive homosexualy at oppose pol, wh bisexualy at the midpot.

Usg this sle, the rearchers averaged figur supportg their claims that 10 percent of mal between the ag of 16 and 55 were more or ls exclively homosexual for at least three years.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

On March 31, 1993, The Wall Street Journal ran an article tled "Homosexuals and the 10-Percent Fallacy. Gordon Muir reported that he had found "substantial evince ditg that ls than 5 percent of men and women have had any homosexual ntact their lifetime, and no more than 3 percent of men and nsirably fewer women claim to be bisexual or exclively homosexual.

Dpe the fdgs, some groups ntue to e the 10 percent figure to make homosexualy sound more wispread. The latt rearch on this area, published this April Science, uld not reproduce the fdgs of a prev study which had tied homosexual behavr to certa geic patterns. Each of most choose his battl wisely--and I would not die on the sword of a nongeic lk to homosexualy.

Even if rearchers were to suggt a heredary tie wh homosexualy, as they have wh alholism, the right tack wh this argument is not to ntend that 's false, but that promot life-threateng behavr.