Can Someone Be Homosexual and Not Gay? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• AM I GAY?
• WHY WOULD PEOPLE 'CHOOSE' TO BE GAY?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

AM I GAY?

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc.

WHY WOULD PEOPLE 'CHOOSE' TO BE GAY?

There are doubtls many reasons for this, but one recurrg paranoia among many I’ve met (all of whom were men, out of tert) is that I’m gog to tell them that they’re gay.

Bee beg gay is bad, apparently. I’m not sure how the guys thk homosexualy works or how you end up beg gay, but one thg I n nfirm is that ’s not my cisn. Bis, even if I did thk they were gay, ’s certaly not somethg I’m gog to brg up when first meetg someone, given how ’s a) irrelevant, and b) none of my damn don’t feel the same though.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

Homosexual members of society n unfortunately expect to regularly be challenged, sctised and nmned by belligerent type who are seemgly nvced that homosexualy is a “liftyle choice” issue has e up aga (for what is possibly the 12, 456, 987, 332nd time) for several reasons. There was a recent study that suggts homosexualy is lked to the X chromosome, so is therefore geic, ie herent, not a choice. Also, UK prime mister David Cameron recently ma ments that suggt he nsirs homosexualy the aforementned “liftyle choice” (although this uld easily have been poorly chosen wordg).

A high-profile homosexual person dog this (or pretty much anythg) is certa to get objectns om those who “don’t approve” around the thgs is evable, and so is the whole “beg gay is a choice” accatn. Basilly, why would someone “choose” homosexualy, like you’d choose a new r or tattoo?

Firstly, what mak people thk homosexualy is a choice the first place?

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

Most ce relig beliefs, although the notn that relign is flat-out opposed to homosexualy is far om accurate, and gettg more uncerta as time progrs.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

The mastream media has always been somewhat blunt or ham-fisted s portrayal of even heterosexual relatnships (for evince of this, see pretty much any married uple an advert), so was a long shot that they’d show homosexuals accurately.

Normally heterosexual characters sudnly displayg homosexual leangs when a boost viewg figur are need is a mon trope the days, so you n sort of see how this might make some people thk ’s a “choice”, if they lack more realistic sayg that sexualy is set stone om birth is also not que right, the ma emphasis of those g the choice argument is that homosexuals have weighed up their optns and nscly cid “I am gog to be gay om now on”. And some people choose homosexualy.

Is choosg homosexualy jt another example of a sire to not nform, like shavg your head or wearg outlandish cloth?