I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop beg gay? – The Answer Wall

Contents:

• HOCD BUT GAY ANYWAY
• HOCD: IF YOU FEAR BEG GAY OR BI, YOU'RE NOT!
• HOCD; GAY OR STRAIGHT OR OCD?
• YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

HOCD BUT GAY ANYWAY

I have many (I would say nearly all) the symptoms of hocd but am nvced Im gay. OCD pag always say the difference between HOCD and beg gay is that gays arent aaid of their attractns but are aaid of society etc..

This sounds straight but then I read Empty Closets and many gays never even thought about guys sexually until much later life and assumed they were straight.

Then somethg happened that make them thk they were gay and then beg wh guys sudnly seemed way better than beg wh Im gay:Gay fger rat - only gays have thisbetter asms to thoughts of guys when I masturbategroals rpons or aroals to seeg guys every day No groals for girls. Jt bee you havent had loads of sexual feelgs for girls, dont mean you are tomatilly gay.

HOCD: IF YOU FEAR BEG GAY OR BI, YOU'RE NOT!

Gays ually have feme rat which is what I I get terrible anxiety around girls and on Empty Closets they say s bee 'you are feelg prsure to feel what you are SUPPOSED to feel and nt bee you are gay' so lled groal rpons are so strong for me. To ask gay people their experienc and see if they are siiar to groasl feel like sudn jolt of aroal, blood flow to ballsack, sexual tgl, tighteng, fast heartbeat, nervons etc.. “HOCD”, short for “Homosexual OCD”, is the term ed for a theme of Obssive Compulsive Disorr which the sufferer has obssns—unwanted tsive thoughts—surroundg their sexual orientatn.

I will be g the term “HOCD” throughout this article to discs obssns of those who intify as heterosexual and have relentls doubts about whether or not they are gay. A more reprentative way to scribe the obssns is “Sexual Orientatn OCD” bee OCD n latch onto anyone’s sexualy, whether that be someone who intifi as gay or queer or asexual. Furthermore, as sexual obssns of OCD n be about perverse ntent (fear that one is a pedophile or unwanted thoughts about ct), the term “Homosexual OCD” impli that homosexualy is perverse.

The way many clients scribe is that they had a good sense of their heterosexual orientatn and then randomly had an tsive thought such as “what if you’re gay? HOCD is not to be misnsted wh nial or sexual reprsn, as those who are reprsg their te sexualy know that they are attracted to the same sex but ph away, often due to shame that om livg a heteronormative and homophobic world. It is a touchy subject among OCD sufferers and therapists alike who proclaim that HOCD is not homophobia.

HOCD; GAY OR STRAIGHT OR OCD?

While HOCD is not sexual reprsn, is not accurate to say that every person wh HOCD is not homophobic. “I have HOCD and I’m not homophobic but I would tell my kid that they should not act on their sir if they were gay.

YOU’RE NOT GAY: HOMOSEXUALY ANXIETY OCD

“I have HOCD and jt bee I am not fortable wh or don’t agree wh one’s sexual preference don’t make me homophobic.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

All of the people above may have HOCD but that do not erase the blatant homophobia. It is important to weed out what is what bee addn to hurtg the LGBTQIA+ muny, ternalized homophobia may be keepg those wh HOCD further stuck.

An OCD specialist n addrs unrlyg, or sometim overt, homophobia by askg the sufferer why their tsive thoughts bother them so much. It is important to note that not everyone wh HOCD is homophobic and that the tsive thoughts are not a choice. It is equally important to acknowledge homophobia that is prent among some OCD sufferers bee nyg the existence of homophobia perpetuat s existence.