A Gui for Gay Men on Both Open and Monogamo Marriage | Psychology Today

Contents:

• A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE
• SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?
• WHAT IS THE STATE OF GAY MARRIAGE THE US?
• GAY MARRIAGE IS GOOD FOR AMERI
• GAY MARRIAGE ESSAY TOPICS FOR QUALY WRG
• GAY MARRIAGE TOPICS FOR REARCH PAPER THAT YOU CAN MAKE USE OF
• GAY MARRIAGE: THEOLOGIL AND MORAL ARGUMENTS
• MANY BRONS HAVE CHANGED THEIR MDS ON GAY MARRIAGE

A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE

The fai and iends of lbian and gay upl who are nied marriage rights may also experience negative physil and mental health nsequenc siar to those experienced by their loved on. The vast majory of scientific studi that have directly pared lbian and gay parents wh heterosexual parents have nsistently shown that the same-sex upl are as f and pable parents as heterosexual upl, and that their children are jt as psychologilly healthy and well adjted. MDK: I began offerg workshops for gay, bisexual, and transgenr men about eighteen years’ ago, and after a uple of years there were always a few guys who me up to me and said ( whispered ton), “You’ve got to put this stuff a book.

While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay weddg, there were virtually none that addrs what to do after the honeymoon is over (lerally and figuratively). Same-sex marriage has been a long time g – a few thoand years or so - and now that ’s fally here, many gay, bisexual and transgenr men may thk that ’s a bad ia to “rock the boat” by discsg the kds of ias that this book prents.

While marriage wasn’t a possibily then, the qutns those workshops were basilly the same as those this book: as gay men, do we choose the monogamy of heterosexual marriage as our mol, or do we prefer an open marriage? As a psychotherapist for gay upl for many years’ now, ’s been que clear to me that “handbooks” for heterosexual marriage don’t really apply to our marriag several signifint ways: our marriag are more “signed” than “assumed.

SHOULD GAY MARRIAGE BE LEGAL?

Dpe major chang laws and norms surroundg the issue of same-sex marriage and the rights of LGBT people around the world, public opn on the acceptance of homosexualy society remas sharply divid by untry, regn and enomic velopment. US public opn had shifted signifintly over the years, om 27% approval of gay marriage 1996 to 55% 2015, the year beme legal throughout the Uned Stat, to 61% 2019.

WHAT IS THE STATE OF GAY MARRIAGE THE US?

Proponents of legal gay marriage ntend that gay marriage bans are discrimatory and unnstutnal, and that same-sex upl should have accs to all the benefs enjoyed by different-sex upl. On July 25, 2014 Miami-Da County Circu Court Judge Sarah Zabel led Florida’s gay marriage ban unnstutnal and stated that the ban “serv only to hurt, to discrimate, to prive same-sex upl and their fai of equal digny, to label and treat them as send-class cizens, and to em them unworthy of participatn one of the fundamental stutns of our society. The Amerin Psychologil Associatn, Amerin Psychiatric Associatn, and others nclud that legal gay marriage giv upl “accs to the social support that already facilat and strengthens heterosexual marriag, wh all of the psychologil and physil health benefs associated wh that support.

A 2010 analysis found that after their stat had banned gay marriage, gay, lbian and bisexual people suffered a 37% crease mood disorrs, a 42% crease alhol-e disorrs, and a 248% crease generalized anxiety disorrs.

In July 2012 New York Cy Mayor Michael Bloomberg announced that gay marriage had ntributed $259 ln to the cy’s enomy jt a year sce the practice beme legal there July 2011.

GAY MARRIAGE IS GOOD FOR AMERI

In 2012, the Williams Instute at the Universy of California at Los Angel (UCLA) found that the first five years after Massachetts legalized gay marriage 2004, same-sex weddg expendur (such as venue rental, weddg k, etc. 2016 printial ndidate and former Hewlett-Packard CEO Carly Fra stated that civil unns are aquate as an equivalent to marriage: “Benefs are beg btowed to gay upl [ civil unns]… I believe we need to rpect those who believe that the word marriage has a spirual foundatn… Why n’t we rpect and tolerate that while at the same time sayg ernment nnot btow benefs unequally. Court papers filed July 2014 by attorneys fendg Arizona’s gay marriage ban stated that “the State regulat marriage for the primary purpose of channelg potentially procreative sexual relatnships to endurg unns for the sake of jog children to both their mother and their father… Same-sex upl n never provi a child wh both her blogil mother and her blogil father.

GAY MARRIAGE ESSAY TOPICS FOR QUALY WRG

Contrary to the pro gay marriage argument that some different-sex upl nnot have children or don’t want them, even those s there is still the potential to produce children. Lee Badgett, PhD, Director of the Center for Public Policy and Admistratn at the Universy of Massachetts at Amherst, stated that for many gay activists “marriage means adoptg heterosexual forms of fay and givg up distctively gay fay forms and perhaps even gay and lbian culture.

GAY MARRIAGE TOPICS FOR REARCH PAPER THAT YOU CAN MAKE USE OF

Pla Ettelbrick, JD, Profsor of Law and Women’s Studi, wrote 1989, “Marriage ns ntrary to two of the primary goals of the lbian and gay movement: the affirmatn of gay inty and culture and the validatn of many forms of relatnships.

LGBT activist llective Agast Equaly stated, “Gay marriage ap hetero privilege… [and] creas enomic equaly by perpetuatg a system which ems married begs more worthy of the basics like health re and enomic rights. Queer activist Anrs Zanichkowsky stated June 2013 that the then mpaign for gay marriage “tentnally and malicly eras and exclus so many queer people and cultur, particularly trans and genr non-nformg people, poor queer people, and queer people non-tradnal fai… marriage thks non-married people are viant and not tly servg of civil rights. In Islamic tradn, several hadhs (passag attributed to the Prophet Muhammad) nmn gay and lbian relatnships, cludg the saygs “When a man mounts another man, the throne of God shak, ” and “Sihaq [lbian sex] of women is za [illegimate sexual terurse].

Matt Barber, Associate Dean for Onle Programs at Liberty Universy School of Law, stated, “Every dividual engaged the homosexual liftyle, who has adopted a homosexual inty, they know, tuively, that what they’re dog is immoral, unnatural, and self-stctive, yet they thirst for that affirmatn.

GAY MARRIAGE: THEOLOGIL AND MORAL ARGUMENTS

A 2003 set of guil signed by Pope John Pl II stated: “There are absolutely no grounds for nsirg homosexual unns to be any way siar or even remotely analogo to God’s plan for marriage and fay… Marriage is holy, while homosexual acts go agast the natural moral law. On May 17, 2004, the first legal gay marriage the Uned Stat was performed Cambridge, MA between Tanya McCloskey, a massage therapist, and Marcia Kadish, an employment manager at an engeerg firm. It also requir stat and the feral ernment to rpect gay marriag the stat where is the seven years sce the Obergefell cisn, same-sex marriag have bee more mon, but the chang have differed by has the number of same-sex marriag changed over time?

In the years after Massachetts beme the first state to legally regnize same-sex marriage 2004, gay marriage legalizatn efforts picked up other 2011, there were around 168, 000 married same-sex upl the US. They talk about the risks to parentg, when there is no evince that suggts that gay and lbian upl are worse parents, pecially when pared to dysfunctnal upl tradnal marriag or sgle parents of limed fancial means.

MANY BRONS HAVE CHANGED THEIR MDS ON GAY MARRIAGE

Answer: In gay marriag, if you are married to the blogil/adoptive parent, you should do a stepparent adoptn and dite to the Clerk that you did a send parent adoptn the past, but believe to be valid. What if gay marriage be a vehicle for polygamists who want to marry multiple partners, egalarians who want to radilly rewre fay law, or secularists who want to supprs relig objectns to homosexualy? Space don’t perm me to treat those and other objectns tail, beyond notg that same-sex marriage no more leads logilly to polygamy than givg women one vote leads to givg men two; that gay marriage requir only few and most chang to existg fay law; and that the Constutn provis robt protectns for relig eedom.

I’ll also note, passg, that the arguments nscript homosexuals to marriagelsns orr to stop heterosexuals om makg bad cisns, a al to which we gay folks say, “Thanks, but no thanks. The other is as the end of somethg radil: an experiment which gay people were told that they uld have all the sex and love they uld fd, but they uld not even thk about marriage.

Even those of who have ethil objectns to homosexual practice should be able to regnize the posive dimensns of a mment between two persons for mutual support, provisn, and pannship. What is beg sought civil partnerships, and even more sistently same-sex marriage, is the public affirmatn and celebratn of homosexual sex, as terchangeable wh maral sex between a man and woman. To make civil partnerships ntgent upon homosexual sex or to offer same-sex marriag would be unjtly discrimatory agast those who serve the same social goods apart om sexual relatns.