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SGLE FOREVER: STORI AND INSIGHTS OM GAY MEN

Jt days ago, a ment ntributed to one of my posts alerted me to Steven Bereznai's book, Gay and sgle... It strik me as ftg that Gay and sgle was published the same year that Sgled Out first appeared prt.

Another is that my book clus no gay sex. What I loved about Gay and sgle were the many observatns, valu, and attus Bereznai and I did share.

Sgle gay men, I learned, are targets of some of the same kds of stereotyp that other sgl are - and they, too, are at risk for takg those charg a b too serly. His mom is OK wh him beg gay but worri that as a sgle person, he may grow old alone.

GAY AND SGLE...FOREVER?

"Beg gay and sgle is the new smokg. Once upon a time, the gay muny, sgle was good. "The gay movement of the 70s, " the thor explas,.

"regnized that the stigma of homos and sgl were tw opprsns om a sgle source - heterosexual uplehood - and so took aim at many of the assumptns of marriage and other forms of tradnal pair bonds. "In the shadow of gay and more sgle gay men are buffeted by a variety of ternal and external forc to buddy up, oftentim wh nsequenc not unlike those of the closet: a sense of shame, failure, and a quiet (or not so quiet) speratn.

The tle of the book ends wh a qutn mark: Gay and sgle... Do need sgle role mols, if only to know that 's possible to be gay and sgle and happy and dignified. For Bereznai, ntemplatg a life-long sglehood meant "lookg at how, stead of g out of the closet to be myself, I have spent more than a nstctg the faça of the person I thought gay guys would want to date.