Assalam wa Alaikom, I am a 21 year old Male Mlim and ever sce I was 11 I have been havg gay thoughts. The reason I got the gay thoughts ...
Contents:
- HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
- HOCD; GAY OR STRAIGHT OR OCD?
- INTSIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT BEG GAY
- AM I GAY IF I HAVE SAME SEX FANTASI?
HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
Homosexual OCD (HOCD) volv obssns related to one's sexual orientatn. Straight people wh HOCD fear they may bee gay or are secretly gay. * i keep having gay thoughts *
24, 2014— -- Steven Brodsky, a psychologist who specializ obssive-pulsive disorr, says that at any one time he has a "handful" of clients who are straight and spect that they are gay. J., said he had one adult patient who was so crippled by obssive thoughts about beg gay that he was unable to live penntly and had to move back wh his parents to pe. Brodsky said a prev therapist had misdiagnosed his patient as gay, and at the patient's requt, sent him off to reparative therapy, a ntroversial method that has not been proven to be effective and n be harmful.
"Brodsky argu that today's open acceptance of homosexualy and gay liftyl n bld therapists to this kd of anxiety disorr straight men.
HOCD; GAY OR STRAIGHT OR OCD?
Jack Drcher, a noted New York Cy psychiatrist who is nsired an expert gay and lbian mental health and treats patients for OCD, agreed that "beg worried that one might be gay is not the same thg as beg gay. ""A person wh OCD who has is havg tsive thoughts about whether or not he is gay, is not gay, the sense that he has not rporated a homosexual orientatn any mimally affirmg way to his inty, " said Drcher.
"Also, if he is not actually attracted to people of the same sex, do not masturbate to fantasi of people of the same sex, is not really aroed by same sex pornography, then is hard to make the se that he has a homosexual orientatn. Another was heterosexual and feared he had agreed wh Brodsky that some therapists may miss an OCD diagnosis, but "the most likely e of that is not that they are too gay-affirmg but that they lack trag regnizg the symptoms of OCD.
INTSIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT BEG GAY
Brodsky said that a gay person has "pleasant associatn" wh same-sex attractn and a person wh OCD do not. "Repeatedly, anxly, reviewg past suatns, ttg themselv, askg for reassurance, pulsively rearchg the Inter for gay tts, ttg themselv wh gay porn or gay people. "A iend might say somethg and they thk, 'Gee, I uld be gay or I am dog somethg a gay person would do.
"As for treatment, Brodsky said he would help a patient who was tly gay validate their feelgs and atta self-acceptance, "achievg lm and peace of md. If you are qutng your sexualy, how do you know the difference between havg HOCD and actually beg gay?
Currently sufferg om OCD (Obssive Compulsive Disorr)Recurrg unwanted or tsive thoughts about your own sexualyConstantly reassurg yourself that you are straightAvoidg people of your same genr due to anxiety or unwanted fears that you might be gayWorryg that you might be sendg out “signals” that will make others thk you are gayHomosexual thoughts are repulsive to you, rather than arogFeelg no attractn to your same sexRepeatg an actn bee you worry that you might have done somethg a way that mak others thk you are gay (example: a man repeatedly gets up and ss down on a chair bee he worri that he tak a seat a way that looks too feme). Homosexual thoughts are enjoyable and/or arog to the person, even if they hi their sexual orientatn om others or are ashamed of Havg had past sexual experienc wh those of their same genrPreferrg to date or have sexual enunters wh people of their same genr stead of wh those of the oppose sexOften, people who are gay report havg felt differently than their same-sex peers at an early age.
AM I GAY IF I HAVE SAME SEX FANTASI?
Homosexual Obssive Compulsive Disorr (HOCD) is tegorized by tsive thoughts revolvg around one’s sexual orientatn. Homosexual OCD n be bilatg to one’s assured that HOCD Treatment volv many of the same typ of therapi ed for other typ of OCD. A person sufferg om this sub-type of OCD nstantly doubts their sexual orientatn:A straight person worri whether they might actually be gay even though they haven’t doubted their sexual orientatn the pastThey might worry that homosexualy is “tchg”They may thk that talkg wh a gay person will make them act out by triggerg their own latent homosexual tennci.
Sometim, HOCD sufferers are so sure they are gay that they actually out themselv and beg homosexual relatnships. Where a tly gay person obtas happs and relief the act of revealg their homosexual orientatn, HOCD people who e out ntue to doubt their wh tradnal OCD, people who are affected by this ternalized homophobia engage ruals to help them alleviate their anxiety and prove to themselv that they are tly straight.
When around lbians or gay men, they might check their bodi for aroal or qutn if they are attracted to the person. People wh Homosexual OCD may also keep up a nng mental dialogue or obss over past sexual enunters an effort to nvce themselv that they are straight.