Si Guys: Thkg Beyond Gay Male "Tops" and "Bottoms" | Psychology Today

Contents:

• WHY DO GAY MEN WALK SO FAST?
• SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
• GAY PEOPLE LOOK DIFFERENT, WALK DIFFERENT THAN STRAIGHT PEOPLE
• GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

WHY DO GAY MEN WALK SO FAST?

Am, Iowa, pated s first crosswalks wh the lors of the gay, genr non-bary and transgenr pri flags September. “[The tersectn] is where many gay people who felt isolated–particularly young gay people–knew we uld go to be around other people jt like , and an area where you uld go to support gay bs, ” Smh said. “I ntributed a term to the gay male muny.

Gay men are always fg themselv as top and bottom or verse for terurse. What about gay men who don’t engage terurse?

A third add: “Personally I’m not crazy about the term ‘si’ (sounds to me like someone lyg there, dog not much) but ’s good that Grdr acknowledg that there’s more to gay sex than anal. Growg up, people would often tell me that I “walked gay. ” I ed to wonr how puttg one foot ont of the other uld seem gay, but I heard so equently that I accepted as tth.

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

To fd out what else was gay, I looked to popular-culture, where I saw gay men mostly adherg to a fairly one-dimensnal set of stereotyp: fashnable, wty, effemate. Historilly, gay stereotyp have been even ls kd. Yet today’s gay men aren’t as reliant on reprentatns crafted by others, wh social media helpg to mocratize storytellg by providg a platform for people to share their experienc.

Inevably, gay people beg active onle (Twter gays, I’m lookg at you) has ed new stereotyp to emerge. From “gays n’t drive” to “gays love iced ffee, ” new on seem to appear every day.

Earlier this year, Vice wrer Jam Greig attempted to fact-check the “new gay stereotyp.

GAY PEOPLE LOOK DIFFERENT, WALK DIFFERENT THAN STRAIGHT PEOPLE

” GQ wrer Alim Kheraj also vtigated the gay love of iced ffee. Both found the accuracy of the new trop difficult to prove, but explored their plex and often ntradictory that sense, the new(ish) stereotype that “gay men walk fast” is no different. If “walkg gay” really is a thg, seems that many gay people perceive speed to be a part of that.

On Twter, one person wr: “Straight people, look behd you, chanc are there's a gay person tryg to get past bee you're movg at an extremely glacial pace. ” Others joke that gays n halve the journey time timate on most travel apps, or suggt that gay men walk fast “to flee the straights” bee “they learned to walk to the beat of ‘Womanizer’ by Brney Spears. To create “gay walkg lan” bee gay men supposedly walk so a fast walker, I’ve fely been there: that moment when you’re walkg through a public place, listeng to “Jump” by Madonna, and the (prumably heterosexual) public n’t seen to hurry up and get out of your way.

But beyond my personal experience, and the admtedly pretty lazy humor of “gays walk fast” jok, is there any tth to the stereotype? There’s never been a scientific study parg gay walkg speed wh straight men of a siar age and physil ndn. We know that gay men tend to gravate towards urban areas, where walkg is the flt travel method.

GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

Gay men the Uned Kgdom, for example, are 30% ls likely to own a r when pared to the average populatn, ditg that they’re more acctomed to walkg. Confince ach Lisa Phillips says that a fear of homophobia strangers uld make gay men walk quickly.

“If gay men feel self-nsc or fear attack, they uld walk quickly to get away om perceived risks orr to feel safe aga, ” she explas. ”Sam, a 26-year-old gay man om London, agre wh this. “I lived Sydney for 20 years and there were a lot of nfint walkers Oxford Street, one of Sydney's gay areas, as this was a ‘safe’ area for people.

Psychologist Ian MacRae agre that walkg speed and style n be affected by eher posive or negative emotns, but also says that gay men are statistilly predisposed to walkg fast.