Rourc for stunts and psychologists to ga a better unrstandg of issu that may affect the straight spoe when a wife or hband out as lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr.
Contents:
- I ME OUT AS GAY TO MY WIFE. NOW SHE AND MY SON HATE ME. WHAT N I DO?
- ‘HONEY, I’VE GOT A SECRET’ : WHEN GAY MEN E OUT TO THEIR WIV
- ASK JOHN: 'I'VE HAD A GAY AFFAIR ON MY WIFE'
- MARV GAYE’S WIFE JANIS HUNTER GAYE DI AGED 66
- WHEN YOUR SPOE OUT AS GAY
I ME OUT AS GAY TO MY WIFE. NOW SHE AND MY SON HATE ME. WHAT N I DO?
* gay wife away *
Many lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr people e out years after they have been married to an oppose-sex heterosexual wife or hband. Was she accg me of turng her hband gay? Like the time he told me he had gone on a porn se to see how gay men “do .
I’ve known upl, gay and straight, who were open relatnships. The steam room and sna at my lol Y served as a kd of after-work social club for men who were gay ― and for those who had wiv and kids. I knew a gay imprar when I lived San Francis the 1980s.
One night he threw a dner party for his gay circle of iends at Trar Vic’s. I me out as gay and divorced her.
‘HONEY, I’VE GOT A SECRET’ : WHEN GAY MEN E OUT TO THEIR WIV
My wife said she would rather I be ad than gay. I want to affirm that you serve to live your tth as a gay person, and to be happy, regardls of how your fay has experienced your g out. It was wrong for your wife to say she would rather you be ad than gay.
While I image she was gog through some terrible feelgs of her own, and she serv to be supported as well, ’s never okay to imply that a gay or queer person is better ad than out. I’m so glad you’re gay. This world needs you , exactly as you are—a gay man wh the urage took to e out now, after all this time.
I enurage you to nnect wh a gay or queer muny that will give you this same msage, over and over, until you start to really believe . There are people the gay muny who would like to meet you.
ASK JOHN: 'I'VE HAD A GAY AFFAIR ON MY WIFE'
For example, groups such as Prime Timers Worldwi (wh chapters throughout Canada and the Uned Stat) and Gay and Grey Montreal specifilly seek to support and create muny for mature gay and bisexual men. The SAGE LGBT Elr Hotle ns a 24-hour phone service for olr gay and queer people.
When you got married 33 years ago, the AIDS crisis was at s peak, and was still legal to discrimate agast gay people most parts of Canada. “I’m gay. ”Around the world, many gay men are married to women.
” Jim, now 62, ns a group Boston lled GAMMA – the Gay and Married Men’s Associatn – one of many siar groups which meet ci around the a month they gather for two hours to share stori. ”He patiently explas to them that the group is actually for gay men heterosexual marriag.
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In Boston, Jim says he’s seen men outed after beg arrted cisg at gay bears, or outed by private vtigators hired by their those who are still the closet, n be paful, terrifyg, and exhstg. ”Why gay men marry womenWhen he got married, Jim knew somethg was different.
WHEN YOUR SPOE OUT AS GAY
He knew he had been attracted to men adolcence, but was somethg he tried not to thk was the mid-70s, but spe the sexual revolutn happeng around him, he says homosexualy jt wasn’t somethg you thought loved his wife.
“Some guys believe that beg gay has lerally jt happened then, but then you dig a ltle eper and you often fd out that they’ve had [those feelgs] sce childhood, ” he both Sydney and Boston, the average age of men who e to group meetgs has been fallg. “A lot of the younger people we see knew they were gay and realised but wanted to have the tradnal fay and kids and thought they uld ratnalise , or told themselv they were bi, ” Jim says.