Often the real reason gay men fd so difficult to fd love and happs is bee they are their own worst enemy. YourTango expert Rick Clemons, The Comg Out Coach, drops some rather blunt tth about how gay men need to get out of their own way.
Contents:
- HOW TO BE HAPPY AS A GAY MAN
- ARE GAY MEN HAPPIER THAN STRAIGHT MEN?
- GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)
- 5 (RATHER BLUNT) REASONS WHY GAY MEN STGGLE TO FD HAPPS
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
- WHO ARE THE HAPPIT? STRAIGHTS AND GAYS, BUT NOT BISEXUALS
- GAY
HOW TO BE HAPPY AS A GAY MAN
* gay happy person *
This is supposed to be gay heaven. We’ve left the dull, homophobic towns, but we’ve lost somethg the procs. A good illtratn of the facts is the recent spate of news stori about how gay men are happier than heterosexual men.
"A new study has found that gay and bisexual men are ls likely to be prsed and have psychologil problems than heterosexual men.
ARE GAY MEN HAPPIER THAN STRAIGHT MEN?
"Of urse gays are ls strsed.
Alas, none of this good news for gays and spankg fetishists is really backed up by the data the origal study, which, while trigug, is hardly evince that is beg out and gay that mak men happier (let alone women). For one, the study reced participants Montreal, a large and fairly progrsive cy where beg openly gay do not e wh high social or enomic sts. While gay men the study seemed to experience ls strs and prsn than straight men, there are a variety of alternative explanatns that might expla this fact (like whether they worked out or not; whether they had children or not; e level and stabily).
GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)
In other words, you might be out at work and at home, but if your grandparents don't know you're gay, then you're marked as closeted. Once upon a time there was a gay man and he me out of the closet and was happy and lived happily everyafter.
It seems like more than jt bad reportg to tell gay men and women that happs is up to them, not the world at large, and happs will rive om disclosure when that very disclosure n be dangero.
All the study really told is that beg gay, male, young, ted and whe a large, libreral cy like Montreal n be advantageo. LGBTQ stands for lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr and queer.
5 (RATHER BLUNT) REASONS WHY GAY MEN STGGLE TO FD HAPPS
Tom Robson a Brish mician and sger, one of the first, if not the very first pop artist who did not disguise or hi his homosexualy om the general public.
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
Until then homosexual actors, micians, athlet or anyone the public eye had two choic life: to keep their homosexualy a secret, pecially om the media, or adopt the mannerisms and a of drs which were very mp but at the same time (ironilly) never admtg their sexual preferenc publicly.
Tom Robson released a very succsful song entled (Sg if you're) Glad to be Gay, was the mid-70s, and I was still at a Catholic primary school when I remember que distctly hearg gay beg ed for the first time to unteract the BrEng rogatory terms such as: poofter, poof, queer, not normal, fairy and queen that were rife at the time.
Glad to be Gay. The song was origally wrten by Tom Robson for a London gay pri. An out gay sger, he subsequently formed the.
WHO ARE THE HAPPIT? STRAIGHTS AND GAYS, BUT NOT BISEXUALS
"Glad to Be Gay" is built around four vers cricizg Brish society's attus towards gay people. In the first verse, criciz the Brish police for raidg gay pubs for no reason at all, once homosexualy had been crimalized sce the 1967 Sexual Offenc Act.
In the send verse, pots to the hypocrisy of Gay News beg prosecuted for obsceny stead of porn magaz like magaz Playboy or the tabloid The Sun which publish photographs of topls girls on Page 3.
GAY
It also criciz the way homosexual people are portrayed other parts of the prs, pecially nservative newspapers News of the World and Sunday Exprs. On the third verse, pots out the extreme nsequenc of homophobia, such as vlence agast LGBT people. For me, a young child livg London at the time, the term gay (meang homosexual and not "happy") was ed much more equently by the media and the general public after the release of "Glad to be Gay".
It also helped that Tom Robson looked straight and was not the least mp, he did not f the stereotypil ia of how homosexuals looked and behaved. Bee I'm tired of hearg gay men talk about how unhappy they are. The problem wh gay men...