A symbol of marriage: Gay upl take on partner's last name

Contents:

• WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?
• HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
• A SYMBOL OF MARRIAGE: GAY UPL TAKE ON PARTNER'S LAST NAME
• MRS. & MRS. SMH: HOW SOME GAY COUPL RECLAIM OLD MARRIAGE TRADNS
• CHANGG YOUR NAME AFTER A SAME-SEX (GAY) MARRIAGE.
• HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
• CHANGG YOUR NAME AFTER A SAME-SEX (GAY) MARRIAGE.

WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?

But when genr norms go out the wdow, the cisn n take on a whole new level of plexy and year’s landmark Supreme Court lg, which legalized gay marriage around the untry, means same-sex upl will be facg the name-change qutn more than ever before.

· “I thk the son is celebratg the fact that he has this optn, which was not available to gay people before now. ”· “For gay upl, choosg one name or the other n have ls to do wh the ‘dynamics’ of the relatnship than who has a ‘better name, but outsirs’ worryg/wonrg about this says a lot about existg sex-role stereotyp.

I emailed Andrew Solomon, the thor of the acclaimed “Far From the Tree, ” and hband of John Habich Solomon, for his take on John’s name change:“We felt that the same way that ’s radil for heterosexual women to refe to change their nam, ditg that they haven’t been subsumed to a new inty wh marriage, so is equally radil for gay people to change their nam; associat firmly wh the ia of fay, of permanence, of beg part of a many-generatns tradn of timacy. Feel ee to apply the l when you’re referrg to a married gay uple on thgs like weddg vatns, holiday rds, and letters.

HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME

Addrs each member of a male married gay uple as “Mr. All the l for addrsg a married gay uple wh the same last name apply whether they have chosen to e 1 last name or to e a hyphenated versn of both their last nam. There are general l you n follow, but not every gay uple has the same preference, so they might appreciate if you ask.

Addrs each member of a female married gay uple as “Mrs. This uld apply anytime you're vg a married gay person you know to some kd of formal event and you're vg they're partner as a "pl 1.

A SYMBOL OF MARRIAGE: GAY UPL TAKE ON PARTNER'S LAST NAME

There are no l set stone about whose name you have to put first when you’re addrsg a gay uple.

MRS. & MRS. SMH: HOW SOME GAY COUPL RECLAIM OLD MARRIAGE TRADNS

For example, one member of a gay married uple might intify as more feme and would th prefer to be lled Mrs. LGBT is still a popular term ed to discs genr and sexual mori, but all GSRM are wele beyond lbian, gay, bisexual, and transgenr people who nsent to participate a safe space.

For married gay upl - did you change your last name after marriage? If you are a married gay uple - did you keep or change your name/s and why? Proponents exist on both sis of the name-change issue, pecially wh the gay and lbian muny.

CHANGG YOUR NAME AFTER A SAME-SEX (GAY) MARRIAGE.

Gay and lbian upl nsirg changg their last nam face some of the same disrd that heterosexual upl experience.

HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME

This thought procs holds te even when a gay marriage is volved wh the dividual who choos the spoe’s name beg portrayed as the ls pennt of the two spo.

Sce is nsired tradnal to change a last name durg the marriage procs, some gay and lbian upl want to participate this aspect. For some gay and lbian upl, rporatg a name change after marriage volv the emotnal issu of fay intifitn, mment, and love.

In Alabama, explas Andy Page, who grew up near Birmgham and hop to someday adopt a child wh his hband Lee Hawk, a gay uple nnot adopt jotly, so they mt choose one person to be the adoptive parent. "A lot of LGB [lbian, gay, and bisexual] upl reject the ia of changg their nam bee of the sense that the name-changg practice has roots a genred, sexist marriage stutn which women lerally beme their hband's legal property and lost their inty unr the law, " explas Boso, whose rearch foc on law and personal inty, and who has cid agast takg his hband's last name due to the publitns he already has unr his own.

CHANGG YOUR NAME AFTER A SAME-SEX (GAY) MARRIAGE.

In October 2008, racg agast California's gay marriage ban, Chloe and Frankie Frankeny wed legally San Francis wh one chore already done: Chloe had taken her wife's name two years before. "Wh a battle over the state's ban on gay marriage possibly head to the U.

It's a symbol renred even stronger now that legal gay marriag are on hold California, and for partners who've never had the optn.

Logistilly, a name-change for gay upl isn't always as simple as trottg out a marriage certifite, the proof most required heterosexual marriage. Kirsten Pallado, who ns the onle gay weddg 'ze Equally Wed, shed Ott for the surname of her partner, Maria, last year whout benef of a state-sanctned unn Geia.