Parents of a gay son who will be marryg his boyiend are thrilled by the marriage, but ls so that their son is droppg their last name.
Contents:
- HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
- Q&A: INVATNS: ADDRSG ONE TO A GAY OR LBIAN COUPLE?
- WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?
- MISS MANNERS: ADDRSG A MARRIED GAY UPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
- THE GAY MARRIAGE VICTORY IS A REMR OF THE IMPORTANCE OF NAM
HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
* married gay last names *
Feel ee to apply the l when you’re referrg to a married gay uple on thgs like weddg vatns, holiday rds, and letters. Addrs each member of a male married gay uple as “Mr. All the l for addrsg a married gay uple wh the same last name apply whether they have chosen to e 1 last name or to e a hyphenated versn of both their last nam.
There are general l you n follow, but not every gay uple has the same preference, so they might appreciate if you ask. Addrs each member of a female married gay uple as “Mrs.
This uld apply anytime you're vg a married gay person you know to some kd of formal event and you're vg they're partner as a "pl 1.
Q&A: INVATNS: ADDRSG ONE TO A GAY OR LBIAN COUPLE?
There are no l set stone about whose name you have to put first when you’re addrsg a gay uple.
WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?
For example, one member of a gay married uple might intify as more feme and would th prefer to be lled Mrs. But when genr norms go out the wdow, the cisn n take on a whole new level of plexy and year’s landmark Supreme Court lg, which legalized gay marriage around the untry, means same-sex upl will be facg the name-change qutn more than ever before. Q:How do you addrs an vatn to a gay or lbian uple?
· “I thk the son is celebratg the fact that he has this optn, which was not available to gay people before now.
MISS MANNERS: ADDRSG A MARRIED GAY UPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
”· “For gay upl, choosg one name or the other n have ls to do wh the ‘dynamics’ of the relatnship than who has a ‘better name, but outsirs’ worryg/wonrg about this says a lot about existg sex-role stereotyp.
I emailed Andrew Solomon, the thor of the acclaimed “Far From the Tree, ” and hband of John Habich Solomon, for his take on John’s name change:“We felt that the same way that ’s radil for heterosexual women to refe to change their nam, ditg that they haven’t been subsumed to a new inty wh marriage, so is equally radil for gay people to change their nam; associat firmly wh the ia of fay, of permanence, of beg part of a many-generatns tradn of timacy. Nicely what of gay male upl wh a shared name?
Buttolph, Falls ChurchA: This qutn, the form of a letter to the edor, me rponse to my recent lumn on a gay uple who were angered when addrsed by a rtrant as Mr. Wh holiday vatns and rds soon to be sent, as well as many gay upl planng to tie the knot ( stat where same-sex marriage recently beme legal), now seems the perfect time for this primer. Alas, when to namg nventns, whether for straight or gay people, there's no one-size-fs-all solutn.
THE GAY MARRIAGE VICTORY IS A REMR OF THE IMPORTANCE OF NAM
Miss Manners) answered this qutn: “What should I say when troduced to a homosexual uple?
Addrsg your rd to this way would be perfect, as is the facto standard for any married uple, gay or straight, wh different last nam.