How to Addrs a Married Gay Couple wh the Same Last Name

Contents:

• HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
• Q&A: INVATNS: ADDRSG ONE TO A GAY OR LBIAN COUPLE?
• WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?
• MISS MANNERS: ADDRSG A MARRIED GAY UPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME
• THE GAY MARRIAGE VICTORY IS A REMR OF THE IMPORTANCE OF NAM

HOW TO ADDRS A MARRIED GAY COUPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME

Feel ee to apply the l when you’re referrg to a married gay uple on thgs like weddg vatns, holiday rds, and letters. Addrs each member of a male married gay uple as “Mr.

Q&A: INVATNS: ADDRSG ONE TO A GAY OR LBIAN COUPLE?

All the l for addrsg a married gay uple wh the same last name apply whether they have chosen to e 1 last name or to e a hyphenated versn of both their last nam. There are general l you n follow, but not every gay uple has the same preference, so they might appreciate if you ask.

Addrs each member of a female married gay uple as “Mrs. This uld apply anytime you're vg a married gay person you know to some kd of formal event and you're vg they're partner as a "pl 1.

WHAT DO IT MEAN WHEN A GAY SON TAK HIS HBAND’S SURNAME?

There are no l set stone about whose name you have to put first when you’re addrsg a gay uple. For example, one member of a gay married uple might intify as more feme and would th prefer to be lled Mrs.

But when genr norms go out the wdow, the cisn n take on a whole new level of plexy and year’s landmark Supreme Court lg, which legalized gay marriage around the untry, means same-sex upl will be facg the name-change qutn more than ever before. Q:How do you addrs an vatn to a gay or lbian uple? · “I thk the son is celebratg the fact that he has this optn, which was not available to gay people before now.

”· “For gay upl, choosg one name or the other n have ls to do wh the ‘dynamics’ of the relatnship than who has a ‘better name, but outsirs’ worryg/wonrg about this says a lot about existg sex-role stereotyp. I emailed Andrew Solomon, the thor of the acclaimed “Far From the Tree, ” and hband of John Habich Solomon, for his take on John’s name change:“We felt that the same way that ’s radil for heterosexual women to refe to change their nam, ditg that they haven’t been subsumed to a new inty wh marriage, so is equally radil for gay people to change their nam; associat firmly wh the ia of fay, of permanence, of beg part of a many-generatns tradn of timacy. Nicely what of gay male upl wh a shared name?

MISS MANNERS: ADDRSG A MARRIED GAY UPLE WH THE SAME LAST NAME

Buttolph, Falls ChurchA: This qutn, the form of a letter to the edor, me rponse to my recent lumn on a gay uple who were angered when addrsed by a rtrant as Mr. Wh holiday vatns and rds soon to be sent, as well as many gay upl planng to tie the knot ( stat where same-sex marriage recently beme legal), now seems the perfect time for this primer.

THE GAY MARRIAGE VICTORY IS A REMR OF THE IMPORTANCE OF NAM

Alas, when to namg nventns, whether for straight or gay people, there's no one-size-fs-all solutn. Miss Manners) answered this qutn: “What should I say when troduced to a homosexual uple?