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Contents:
- I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
- WHAT IF YOU ONLY THOUGHT YOU WERE GAY?
- HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
‘In gay years, you’re rather past your sell-by date, aren’t you?’ the person ont of me said, raisg an eyebrow. * but were not gay *
In the early neti, Dan Rothenberg was havg a gay old time—lerally.
” Fifteen years later, he ss outsi a Wt Hollywood Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf remiscg wh a woman about his days as an out-and-proud gay man.
Five or so years before that, Rothenberg was paralyzed by fear over the realizatn that he wasn’t actually gay. ’”From the Edors of DetailsDpe the sistence of many—straight and gay—that swchg between sexual preferenc n’t technilly happen, Rothenberg isn’t the only man to have believed he was homosexual before cidg that he was wrong. The aren’t gays who attend fah-based programs to be “cured, ” or bisexuals who rotate between male and female sex partners the way the rt of alternate pairs of sho.
WHAT IF YOU ONLY THOUGHT YOU WERE GAY?
And they’re not the type who hi gay urg public while privately trottg off to the lol Andrew Br, who grew up Milwkee, was all about girls—until he had sex wh a guy at the end of his senr year of high school. When he later fell love wh a woman (who was at the time a lbian) and realized he was straight, he didn’t rm anyone that he’d been wavg that rabow flag although there aren’t statistics to show how many men go through a siar sexual shift, anecdotal evince suggts that some men who nsir themselv to be gay experience this kd of change not bee of sexual experimentatn or peer prsure but bee they ci that they want to sleep wh women stead of Ethan Robson (not his real name), a 37-year-old film edor om Los Angel, chasg women durg his post-llege years beme a chore. “If I went to a gay bar I got h on like crazy, whereas at a straight bar the women all but turned their backs, ” Robson says.
“At gay clubs you danced, you had fun.
”After that relatnship fizzled, Robson dated another guy but eventually realized that he wasn’t gay.
HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
Bob (not his real name), a 33-year-old artist om Los Angel, cid he was gay when he was about 10. Although he had sex wh girls high school, an extremely close iendship wh a neighborhood boy, bed wh homophobic tnts om his sports ach, only strengthened his belief that he was gay. I was like, ‘I’m not gay, I’m not gay, I’m not gay.
’ It was like the flip scenar of when I thought I was gay. ”While the men all thk the swch om gay to straight was a five experience, some experts are skeptil that such a turnaround happens any but the rart s.
“I’ve only n across men who me out of the closet and pursued their gay inty but uldn’t whstand the prsur of fay and society so returned to beg closeted and heterosexual relatnships, ” says Ian Kerner, Ph.