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WHY CAN’T YOU JT BUTCH UP? GAY MEN, EFFEMACY, AND OUR WAR WH {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}NEWSBY BRENT HARTGERJUNE 11, 2009/7:33 AMBY BRENT HARTGERJUNE 11, 2009 / 7:33 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"WHY CAN’T YOU JT BUTCH UP? GAY MEN, EFFEMACY, AND OUR WAR WH OURSELV","DATEPUBLISHED":"2009-06-11T11:33:13.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2009-06-11T11:33:13.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"BRENT HARTGER","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"NEWS"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN FEBARY, SKATE CANADA, THE ERNG BOARD OF CANADIAN FIGURE SKATG, ANNOUNCED THAT WAS EMBARKG ON A MPAIGN TO CHANGE THE IMAGE OF MEN’S SKATG – OM SOMETIM ILLY AND FLAMBOYANT TO MORE OF AN EMPHASIS ON POWER, SPEED, AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE ANNOUNCEMENT WAS GREETED NEGATIVELY BY SOME GLBT GROUPS WHO SAW THE MOVE AS LTLE MORE THAN THLY VEILED HOMOPHOBIA AND A SLAP THE FACE OF THE SPORT’S EXISTG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TWO-TIME OLYMPIC SILVER MEDALIST ELVIS STOJKO SEEMED AWARE OF THE NTROVERSY WHEN HE TOLD THE TORONTO SUN, "IT HAS NOTHG TO DO WH YOUR SEXUAL PREFERENCE. IT'S ALL ABOUT WHAT MEN'S SKATG IS – POWER AND STRENGTH. WHETHER HE'S GAY OR STRAIGHT, DON'T MATTER. IT'S WHAT YOU'RE SHOWSG ON THE ICE. IF YOU'RE VERY LYRIL AND YOU'RE REALLY FEME AND SOFT, WELL, THAT'S NOT MEN'S SKATG. THAT IS NOT MEN’S SKATG, OKAY?” [NOTE: THE EMPHASIS WAS STOJKO'S.]{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ELVIS STOJKO (RIGHT) ATTEMPTS TO DISTGUISH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OM OTHER MALE CANADIAN FIGURE SKATERS  {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WAS STOJKO RIGHT? AFTER ALL, A GAY MAN N BE JT AS MASCULE AND ATHLETIC AS A STRAIGHT ONE. STOJKO MIGHT HAVE BEEN TACTLS, BUT HE WASN’T BEG HOMOPHOBIC – WAS HE?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NIGEL LYTHGOE, A JUDGE ON THE FOX REALY SHOW SO YOU THK YOU CAN DANCE, WAD TO A SIAR NTROVERSY A UPLE OF WEEKS AGO WHEN HE BERATED A UPLE OF SAME-SEX DANCERS – NOT FOR BEG GAY (OR SO HE CLAIMED), BUT BEE HE “LIK TO SEE GUYS BE GUYS AND GIRLS BE GIRLS ON STAGE,” A STANCE LYTHGOE HAS EQUENTLY TAKEN WHEN TO EFFEMATE DANCERS. OFF MERA, HE TOLD THE DANCERS, WHO WEREN’T PARTICULARLY EFFEMATE, THEY WERE HURTG THE “IMAGE” OF DANCG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND THE LATT ISSUE OF ROLLG STONE, WHICH ADAM LAMBERT OFFICIALLY OUT, HE TELLS A STORY ABOUT AN AMERIN IDOL CHFFR WHO TOLD ADAM HE HAD NO PROBLEM WH HIS BEG GAY, "BEE AT LEAST YOU'RE NOT GIRLY."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CLEARLY, A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE A PROBLEM WH GUYS WHO DON’T ACT TRADNALLY MASCULE – OTHER WORDS, WH GUYS WHO ARE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND ’S NOT JT STRAIGHT PEOPLE. TWO WEEKS AGO, 18-YEAR-OLD SERG GARCIA OF LOS ANGEL MA NATNAL HEADL BY GETTG HIMSELF ELECTED PROM QUEEN AT HIS HIGH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SERG GARCIA, HIGH SCHOOL PROM QUEEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“I FEEL VCIBLE,” HE SAID, WEARG BOTH A TUXEDO AND A TIARA, PROMPTG ONE GAY BLOGGER TO WRE, “METHKS THE LADY DOTH BE A DOUCHEBAG TOO MUCH.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHAT IS EFFEMACY ANYWAY? WHERE DO E OM? AND WHY THE WORLD DO SEEM TO GET EVERYONE SO VERY UPSET?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NEXT PAGE! THE BLOGIL "E" OF EFFEMACY?  {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PHOTO CRED: DP CLARK/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“I LL THE PK ELEPHANT THE ROOM,” SAYS TIM BERGLG, THOR OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BOOK SISSYPHOBIA. “WHY DO SOME GAY MEN BEHAVE EFFEMATELY AND SOME DO NOT?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“NO ONE REALLY KNOWS,” SAYS ROBERT-JAY GREEN, PHD, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ROCKWAY INSTUTE, AN LGBT PSYCHOLOGY REARCH CENTER. BUT, HE SAYS, THERE’{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOME REARCH TO SUGGT THAT EFFEMACY MEN MAY RULT WHEN A FET {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMEHOW EXPOSED TO FEWER ANDROGEN HORMON – TTOSTERONE IS ONE ANDROGEN – {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE THIRD TRIMTER OF PREGNANCY. SCE THE POUND IS RPONSIBLE FOR “MALE”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CHARACTERISTICS, THIS MIGHT E SOME SORT OF “FEMIZATN” OF THE CHILD,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AFFECTG THE WAY HE THKS AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHICH ISN’T TO SAY EFFEMACY IS SOME SORT OF FICIENCY OR FLAW. IT’{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MERELY PART OF THE NATURAL VARIATN OF HUMAN MAL, LIKE EYE LOR, OR THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOME PEOPLE LIKE VANILLA ICE CREAM AND SOME PEOPLE PREFER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT ’S ALSO NOT AN AFFECTATN, AND ’S FELY NOT A “CHOICE.” {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS ’S OFFENSIVE TO SUGGT THAT PEOPLE ARE GAY ORR TO REBEL OR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OTHER PEOPLE, ’S OFFENSIVE TO SUGGT THAT MOST EFFEMATE MEN ARE THAT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FOR ANY REASON OTHER THAN THAT’S GENUELY HOW THEY FEEL MOST {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PRENTG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ARE ALL EFFEMATE MEN GAY OR BISEXUAL? GREEN REFERS TO A 1986 STUDY OF ONE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OF “EXTREMELY EFFEMATE” YOUNG BOYS – BASILLY, GUYS WHO PUT THE “FAB” FABULO – AND HOW, BY ADULTHOOD, 75% OF THEM INTIFIED AS GAY OR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“I’M SURE THERE ARE THOANDS, IF NOT LNS OF EFFEMATE STRAIGHT GUYS,”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BERGLG SAYS. “BUT I ULDN’T FD ANY. WHEN I TALKED TO SOME, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BEME CLEAR THEY WERE GAY, BUT NIAL.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SISSYPHOBIA THOR TIM {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN OTHER WORDS, MOST EFFEMATE GUYS REALLY ARE GAY – THAT LACK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANDROGENS THE THIRD TRIMTER MAY EVEN BE ONE OF THE WAYS THAT GUYS END {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GAY, GREEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT HOW MANY GAY GUYS ARE EFFEMATE? WELL, HERE’S WHERE GETS A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OBVLY, PLENTY OF GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN ARE AS “MANLY” AS THE DAY IS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT ONE 1982 STUDY FOUND THAT 42 PERCENT OF A SAMPLE OF GAY MEN WERE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“SISSI” AS CHILDREN, PARED TO ONLY 11 PERCENT OF HETEROSEXUAL MEN. {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DIFFERENT 1981 STUDY FOUND THAT HALF OF GAY MEN DISPLAYED SOME “{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ATYPIL” BEHAVR AS CHILDREN, BUT ONLY A QUARTER OF STRAIGHT MEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THAT DON’T MEAN THIS MANY GAY MEN ARE OUTWARDLY EFFEMATE – THEY’RE NOT –{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT DO MEAN THAT THERE’S SOME TTH TO THE STEREOTYPE THAT GAY MEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MORE LIKELY THAN STRAIGHT MEN TO BE, UM, “ARTISTIC,” OR AT LEAST {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LET’S ADM : ISN’T THAT PART OF WHAT “GAYDAR” IS ALL ABOUT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“SOME DAYS I WALK AROUND, AND I’M JT A NORMAL DU,” SAYS ED KENNEDY, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}37-YEAR-OLD GAY MAN LIVG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}VIRGIA. “AND SOME DAYS I HAVE MORE OF A SWISH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STEP.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN SHORT, MOST GAY MEN AREN’T “LIKE WOMEN.” BUT WE REALLY DO TEND TO BE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LTLE DIFFERENT OM THE “TYPIL” STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STILL, THE ARE ALL JT TENNCI. PLENTY OF GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN DON’{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EVER SWISH, NOR DO THEY WANT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AN ONLE POSTER A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STUNT FOM PUT LIKE THIS: “THERE ARE TWO GAY GEN: ONE MAK A PERSON GAY, AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAK THEM MP. IF THEY HAVE GOT BOTH, THEN THEY ARE GAY AND MP. IF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}JT HAVE THE GAY GENE, THEN THEY WON'T BE AS EASY TO SPOT. IF THEY JT HAVE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MP GENE THEN THEY WILL BE NORMAL, AS THE MP GENE NEEDS THE GAY GENE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ACTIVATE .”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“I JT MA MOST OF THAT UP,” THE POSTER ADD, “BUT ULD BE TE.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NEXT PAGE! "STRAIGHT-ACTG ONLY!" "NO FEMS!" {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PHOTO CRED: STOCKBYTE/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“IF I WAS ATTRACTED TO FEME BEHAVR, I’D BE WH A WOMAN!”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ALMOST EVERY GAY OR BISEXUAL MAN HAS HEARD SOME FORM OF THIS EXPRSN,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}JT AS WE’VE ALL READ ONLE PROFIL THAT SPECIFY “STRAIGHT-ACTG ONLY” {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“NO FEMS.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“FOR THE MOST PART, THE GAY MUNY HAS A PREFERENCE FOR MASCULE MEN,”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SAYS BRANDON MACK, A SOCLOGIST AT TEXAS A&M WHO IS STUDYG “EFFEMIPHOBIA”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}– THE FEAR AND HATRED OF EFFEMATE BEHAVR. WHEN HE MA A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STUDY OF ONLE DATG PROFIL, HE SAYS HE WAS SURPRISED AND SHOCKED BY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EQUENTLY NEGATIVE, AND SOMETIM VERY SULTG, ATTUS TOWARD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SPENCER WS, THE DIRECTOR OF THE DOCUMENTARY STRAIGHT ACTG, AGRE:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE IS A DIVI. AND ’S SOMETHG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DON’T TALK ABOUT. I THK THAT SOME GAY MEN OVERREACT TO THE FACT THAT THEY'{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GAY BY TRYG TO BE MORE MASCULE, BEE THEY'RE AAID OF WHAT PEOPLE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THK OF THEM [IF THEIR GAY INTY IS REVEALED]. THEY DON'T LIKE TO BE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}VERY EFFEMATE GAY MEN BEE THEY GET CLASSIFIED WH THEM. SO THEY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}VERY EFFEMATE GAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE’S NO QUTN THAT EFFEMATE MEN NFE A LOT OF PEOPLE, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND GAY. IT’S ONE THG TO BE TRANSGENR – TO FEEL THAT YOU WERE BORN TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“WRONG” BODY. IN ONE WAY, THAT’S A MASSIVE VLATN OF SOCIAL NORMS, BUT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANOTHER WAY, ’S NOT. FOR MANY TRANSGENR PEOPLE, THERE’S STILL A “RIGHT” {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FOR A MAN AND A WOMAN TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT MANY EFFEMATE MEN DIDN’T GET THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“I DON'T WISH TO BE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GIRL,” SAID THAT TEENAGE PROM QUEEN, SERG GARCIA. “I JT WISH TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MYSELF."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT IF HE DON’T WISH TO BE A GIRL, WHY DID HE WISH TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PROM QUEEN? DON’T HE KNOW HOW LOAD AND MARGALIZG THE OLD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ARE, AND HOW MUCH TIME AND ENERGY THE GLBT MUNY HAS SPENT, FOR EXAMPLE,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EXPLAG THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN “GAY” AND “TRANSGENR” – ONLY TO HAVE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LIKE HIM E ALONG ON THE EVENG NEWS AND PH OVER THE APPLE RT ALL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AGA? COULDN’T HE AT LEAST TRY TO F FOR THE SAKE OF THE RT OF ?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SERG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT WHY? WHAT’S FOR HIM? THE SWISHY GUY N TRY TO BUTCH UP, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HE’LL NEVER REALLY MEASURE UP. AND BY GOG AGAST HIS NATURE, HE’LL JT MAKE HIMSELF MISERABLE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“MOST GAY MEN WANT A SEAT AT THE TABLE,” SAYS SISSYPHOBIA’S {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BERGLG. “BUT SOME PEOPLE WANT TO TURN THE TABLE OVER. SOME EFFEMATE MEN, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LEAST SOME VERY FLAMBOYANT ON, WANT TO BE OUTSI THE MASTREAM. THEY’{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BEEN EMOTNALLY AND PHYSILLY ABED BY THE MASTREAM ALL THEIR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEY’RE ALWAYS GOG TO BE OUTSI THE MAJORY, BEE THAT’S HOW THEY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEMSELV.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}RENTMENT OF SUCH MEN IS PARTICULARLY STRONG AMONG GAY AIN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MEN, SAYS MACK, WHO SPECIALIZ MUNI OF LOR. BUT THIS MAK SENSE, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SAYS, SCE HOMOPHOBIA IS OFTEN STRONGER THE MUNI; MASCULE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GAY MEN HAVE MORE TO LOSE IF THEY’RE EXPOSED AS GAY BY AN EFFEMATE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BRANDON MACK, DARRYL STEPHENS AND JENSEN ATWOOD OM NOAH'S ARC: JUMPG THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT THE REJECTN OF EFFEMATE MEN IS ALSO MORE PLITED THAN JT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}QUTN OF PUBLIC EMBARRASSMENT. MOST GAY MEN REALLY DO PREFER A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MASCULE MAN – SOMETHG THAT’S OBV TO ANYONE WHO’S EVER WATCHED GAY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND WHY WOULDN’T THEY? WE GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN MAY EVENTUALLY BE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OM MUCH OF SOCIETY, BUT WE STILL GROW UP A CULTURE THAT REJECTS ,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ADOPTG ALL S STANDARDS OF BETY AND EXACTLY WHAT MEANS TO BE A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NEXT PAGE! IS "EFFEMIPHOBIA" A FORM OF HOMOPHOBIA? AND WHAT DO ADAM LAMBERT THK? {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHAT DO THAT MEAN ANYWAY: TO BE A “MAN”? MOST OF TALK LIKE ’S SELF-EVINT, LIKE BLOGY TERM BEHAVR – EXCEPT FOR THOSE FEW STUBBORN DIVIDUALS WHO REFE TO GO ALONG WH THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WOMEN’S FIGURE SKATG IS GRACEFUL AND LYRIL WHILE MEN’S SKATG IS ABOUT POWER, STRENGTH, AND ENDURANCE – BY FN. IT’S JT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OR IS ? ISN’T THIS EXACTLY HOW ANTI-GAY BIGOTS TALK ABOUT GLBT PEOPLE – THAT THEIR POT OF VIEW IS SO SELF-EVINT THAT THEY DON’T EVEN HAVE TO BOTHER EXPLAG OR JTIFYG ? WHICH IS A GOOD THG, BEE WHEN THEY ACTUALLY DO TRY TO JTIFY , THEY UALLY END UP SAYG VARIATNS ON, “BEE I SAID SO!”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE ANTI-EFFEMACY ARGUMENTS ARE JT AS SPEC. THE TRADNAL STEREOTYP ARE NOT BLOGY. OR IF THEY ARE, EFFEMATE BEHAVR IS ABOUT BLOGY, TOO. AFTER ALL, EFFEMATE MEN ACT EXACTLY THE WAY THEIR BRAS ARE TELLG THEM TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND ANYWAY, ’S SIMPLY A FACT THAT A LOT OF GENR BEHAVR IS ARBRARY, A CULTURAL NSTCT. HOW DO WE KNOW? BEE THE GENR “S” CHANGE OVER TIME AND VARY OM PLACE TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYONE WHO’S EVER BEEN TO EUROPE KNOWS HOW MUCH MORE AFFECTNATE THE STRAIGHT MEN THEY ARE TO EACH OTHER AND NO ONE THOSE UNTRI VIEWS THEM AS LS MASCULE. AND ACRDG TO GREEN, REARCH SHOWS THAT THE CURRENT GENERATN OF YOUNG MEN IS MORE ANDROGYNO – MORE LIKE GAY MEN HAVE LONG TEND TO BE – THAN THE GENERATNS THAT ME {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FOR BERGLG, THE HATRED OF EFFEMATE MEN IS ALL ABOUT THE GENR S, AND ABOUT GENR GENERAL. “THERE REALLY IS AN GRAED FEELG SOCIETY THAT MASCULY IS BETTER THAN FEMY,” HE SAYS. “AND THERE’S THIS IA THAT WHEN A MAN GIV UP HIS MASCULY, HE SHOULD BE TREATED WH SRN.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SURE ENOUGH, WHEN BERGLG SURVEYED A LARGE GROUP OF MEN, HE FOUND A STRONG RRELATN BETWEEN NEGATIVE FEELGS ABOUT WOMEN – HOLDG STEREOTYPIL VIEWS OF THEM, OR SEEG THEM SOLELY AS SEX OBJECTS – AND NEGATIVE FEELGS ABOUT EFFEMATE MEN. THE TWO BIGOTRI GO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ACRDG TO GREEN, RIGID GENR S MAKE SENSE OM AN EVOLUTNARY PERSPECTIVE. IN PRE-AGRARIAN SOCIETY, MEN WERE THE HUNTERS AND THE WARRRS. THE MUNI NEED MEN TO BE BOLD AND THLS AND PETIVE AND STOIC WH THEIR FEELGS. TO ENURAGE MEN TO BE THE BT WARRRS AND HUNTERS THEY ULD BE, THEY ADOPTED ALL KDS OF PROHIBNS AGAST “UNMANLY” {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NEEDLS TO SAY, WE’RE NOT A PRE-AGRARIAN SOCIETY ANY LONGER. YET THE PROHIBNS AGAST MEN BEG SOFTER, LS AGGRSIVE, AND MORE EMOTNAL HAVE PERSISTED, LONG PAST ANY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ACTOR WILSON CZ RAN TO THE PREJUDICE AGAST THE SWISHY WHEN HE MPED UP A GAY ROLE THE MOVIE HE’S JT NOT THAT INTO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WILSON CZ (LEFT) A SCENE OM HE’S JT NOT THAT INTO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“SOME PEOPLE HAD SOMETHG TO SAY ABOUT THE FACT THAT I MAY HAVE BEEN TOO EFFEMATE,” HE TOLD “WE DO HAVE A LOT OF EFFEMATE MEN OUR MUNY. I CELEBRATE THAT. AND I CELEBRATE THE FACT THAT THEY SHOULD BE WILLG AND ABLE TO BE EXACTLY WHO THEY ARE. WHEN WE AS A MUNY START TO TEAR EACH OTHER DOWN BEE OF THE FACT THAT SOME OF THE MEMBERS OF OUR MUNY FEEL SO EE AND SO ALIVE, THAT THEY FEEL THEY N BE WHOEVER THEY ARE PUBLIC, THEN WE HAVE LOST THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF OUR MOVEMENT.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"WHY N'T MEN HAVE STRONG FEME SIS?" AGRE ADAM LAMBERT ROLLG STONE. "DO THAT MAKE THEM LS OF A MAN? I DON'T KNOW WHY OUR SOCIETY HAS SUCH AN EMPHASIS ON MASCULY AND FEMY — 'S REALLY GROSS. I DON'T THK YOU'RE TLY SEXY UNTIL YOU DON'T RE ABOUT THAT."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OR AS BERGLG PUTS , “NOBODY SHOULD HAVE TO APOLOGIZE FOR WHAT GETS THEM HOT. BUT JT BEE YOU FD SOMEONE UNATTRACTIVE DON’T GIVE YOU LICENSE TO BE A DICK.”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NEXT PAGE! THE SID PLOT TO KEEP GAY MEN HATG EACH OTHER (AND THEMSELV)!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PHOTO CRED: GLOWIMAG/GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND WHAT ABOUT ALL THOSE STUDI THAT SHOW THAT MANY GAY AND BISEXUAL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DISPLAY SOME GREE OF GENR NON-NFORMY? THAT WE’RE MORE LIKELY TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANDROGYNO THAN THE TYPIL STRAIGHT MAN?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN OTHER WORDS, MANY OF EXHIB “GENR ATYPIL” BEHAVRS – OR WE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EXHIB THEM IF WE HADN’T LEARNED AT AN EARLY AGE NOT TO. BUT AT THE SAME TIME,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WE BELIEVE THE BEHAVRS TO BE EPLY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HOLY SELF-LOATHG, BATMAN!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN SHORT, AS A MUNY, WE’RE LERALLY AT WAR WH EACH OTHER AND, OFTEN,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OURSELV. 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Why do so many effemate gay men prefer their partners the very masculy they've bleached out of themselv? * gay effeminate *

Ocsnally the digizatn procs troduc transcriptn errors or other problems; we are ntug to work to improve the archived young boys who persistently act like girls grow up to be homosexuals or bisexuals, a 15-year study of ''sissy boys'' has shown. Acrdg to the fdgs, neher therapy signed to disurage the extremely feme behavr nor ial child rearg uld guarantee that the boys would velop as heterosexuals, although parental disuragement of the boys' girlish behavr tend to rult a more heterosexual of 44 extremely feme boys followed om early childhood to adolcence or young adulthood matured as homosexuals or bisexuals, as agast only one bisexual among a parison group of more typilly mascule many s parents eher overtly or subtly enuraged the feme behavr.

Recent rearch animals suggts that prenatal hormonal fluenc n terfere wh programmg the bra of the male fet and rult the birth of mal that act like study supports a recent Ksey Instute survey of 1, 500 adults that sgled out ''genr nonnformy'' childhood as the most important predictor of homosexualy. Isay, who is affiliated wh Columbia Psychoanalytic Instute and New York-Cornell Medil School, suggted that the mon pictn among homosexual men of an absent, distant father is fact a fense agast an unrlyg erotic attachment to their Green, who is now studyg the velopment of tomboy girls, said the issue for girls who act like boys is very different. Judd Marmor, profsor emer of psychiatry at the Universy of Southern California and the Universy of California at Los Angel, said that they ''are another ditn there is a blogil element volved the genis of homosexualy, at least for those homosexuals wh effemate quali.

For example, photographs of the boys drsed as girls were found many fay albums of feme boys but none of the albums of the parison group of mascule relatnship was found between later homosexualy and the amount of time a boy spent wh his mother. In Febary, Skate Canada, the erng board of Canadian figure skatg, announced that was embarkg on a mpaign to change the image of men’s skatg – om sometim illy and flamboyant to more of an emphasis on power, speed, and announcement was greeted negatively by some GLBT groups who saw the move as ltle more than thly veiled homophobia and a slap the face of the sport’s existg Olympic silver medalist Elvis Stojko seemed aware of the ntroversy when he told the Toronto Sun, "It has nothg to do wh your sexual preference.

WHY EFFEMATE GAYS ARE FABULO

As verbs the difference between effemate and gay is that effemate is (archaic) to make womanly; to unman while gay is... * gay effeminate *

Nigel Lythgoe, a judge on the Fox realy show So You Thk You Can Dance, wad to a siar ntroversy a uple of weeks ago when he berated a uple of same-sex dancers – not for beg gay (or so he claimed), but bee he “lik to see guys be guys and girls be girls on stage, ” a stance Lythgoe has equently taken when to effemate dancers. Off mera, he told the dancers, who weren’t particularly effemate, they were hurtg the “image” of dancg the latt issue of Rollg Stone, which Adam Lambert officially out, he tells a story about an Amerin Idol chffr who told Adam he had no problem wh his beg gay, "bee at least you're not girly. Two weeks ago, 18-year-old Serg Garcia of Los Angel ma natnal headl by gettg himself elected Prom Queen at his high Garcia, high school Prom Queen “I feel vcible, ” he said, wearg both a tuxedo and a tiara, promptg one gay blogger to wre, “Methks the lady doth be a douchebag too much.

” Jtas ’s offensive to suggt that people are gay orr to rebel or shockother people, ’s offensive to suggt that most effemate men are that wayfor any reason other than that’s genuely how they feel most fortableprentg all effemate men gay or bisexual? Adifferent 1981 study found that half of gay men displayed some “genratypil” behavr as children, but only a quarter of straight men don’t mean this many gay men are outwardly effemate – they’re not –but do mean that there’s some tth to the stereotype that gay men aremore likely than straight men to be, um, “artistic, ” or at least ’s adm : isn’t that part of what “gaydar” is all about?

Don’t he know how load and margalizg the old stereotypare, and how much time and energy the GLBT muny has spent, for example, explag the difference between “gay” and “transgenr” – only to have folkslike him e along on the eveng news and ph over the apple rt all overaga?

IS EFFEMACY GAY MEN A FUNCTN OF NATURE OR NURTURE?

Some gay men are preoccupied wh tradnal notns of masculy and exprs negative feelgs towards effemate behavr gay men. Var scholars have speculated that such attus by gay men reflect ternalized negative feelgs about beg gay. Th, we sought to asss the importance … * gay effeminate *

And acrdg to Green, rearch shows that the current generatn of young men is more androgyno – more like gay men have long tend to be – than the generatns that me Berglg, the hatred of effemate men is all about the genr s, and about genr general. Yet the prohibns agast men beg softer, ls aggrsive, and more emotnal have persisted, long past any Wilson Cz ran to the prejudice agast the swishy when he mped up a gay role the movie He’s Jt Not That Into Cz (left) a scene om He’s Jt Not That Into You“Some people had somethg to say about the fact that I may have been too effemate, ” he told “We do have a lot of effemate men our muny. Although the Wtern tradn, as scribed below, effemacy has often been nsired a vice, ditive of other negative character tras and often volvg a perjorative suatn of homosexual tennci, other societi men who do not nform to male genr rol may have have a special social functn, as is the se of Two-Spirs some Native Amerin groups.

EFFEMATE VS GAY - WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?EFFEMATE | GAY |AS VERBS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN EFFEMATE AND GAYIS THAT EFFEMATE IS (ARCHAIC) TO MAKE WOMANLY; TO UNMAN WHILE GAY IS TO CROW.AS AN ADJECTIVE EFFEMATEIS (OFTEN|ROGATORY|OF A MAN OR BOY) HAVG BEHAVUR OR MANNERISMS NSIRED UNMASCULE OR TYPIL OF A WOMAN OR GIRL; FEME.AS A NOUN GAY ISNAPE.EFFEMATE

Mascule bias is prent among gay and straight men, acrdg to new rearch, and ’s havg an effect on feme men’s reers * gay effeminate *

Mascule gay men did exist but were margalised (Warren 1972, 1974; Helmer 1963) and formed their own muni, such as leather and Wtern (Goldste, 1975), and/or donned workg class outfs (Fischer, 1972) such as sailor uniforms (Cory and LeRoy, 1963). Translatns e different terms to exprs this: "The JB (1966) choos 'tame, ' the NAB (1970) renrs arsenokoés and malakos together as 'sodome, ' others translate malakos as 'male prostute' (NIV 1973, NRSV 1989), and aga some be both terms and offer the morn medilised tegori of sexual, or particularly homosexual, 'perversn' (RSV 1946, TEV 1966, NEB 1970, REB 1992). effemate | gay |As verbs the difference between effemate and gayis that effemate is (archaic) to make womanly; to unman while gay is to an adjective effemateis (often|rogatory|of a man or boy) havg behavur or mannerisms nsired unmascule or typil of a woman or girl; a noun gay isnape.

"STRAIGHT-ACTG GAYS": THE RELATNSHIP BETWEEN MASCULE NSCNS, ANTI-EFFEMACY, AND NEGATIVE GAY INTY

The Nazi regime rried out a mpaign agast male homosexualy and persecuted gay men between 1933 and 1945. * gay effeminate *

* 1992, Unto the Sons, Ballante Books 1993, ISBN 0804110336, page 15- - - my father's father, Gaetano Tale ( whose name I hered after my birth 1932, the anglicized om of "Gay "), was an atypilly fearls traveler, * 2004, Bad Dirt, Fourth Estate, ISBN 0007196911, page 32"Mr Gay Brawls.

‘GAY GLASS CEILG’: WHY MORE FEME MEN GET PASSED OVER FOR LEARSHIP ROL

There's a way to burst through the shame gay men are ma to feel about homosexualy. * gay effeminate *

Th, we sought to asss the importance of masculy among gay men, to pare their ial vers perceived masculy-femy, to ask how gay men asss masculy, and to tt whether mascule nscns and anti-effemacy uld predict negative feelgs about beg gay. Gay and heterosexual men prefer mascule-prentg men learship posns over those emed more feme, acrdg to a Universy of Sydney study, suggtg that gay men themselv are “plic” penalisg “feme-prentg members of their own muny” Gerrard, the study’s lead thor, told Guardian Atralia: “In society there is a strong associatn between gayns and femy and many gay men grow up wh an unnsc ia that gayns is bad, so they may nscly or unnscly supprs feme tras.

GAY MEN UNR THE NAZI REGIME

The Catholic Church is an almost unique stutn — shunng homosexualy but havg so many gay men s ranks, wr Andrew Sullivan. The Vatin’s failure to reckon wh their sexualy has created a crisis for Catholicism. * gay effeminate *

The rearch suggts that spe beg part of the same mory group, gay men may be “plic” bias agast feme-prentg gay men om reachg higher-stat adds to growg rearch about gay men’s “tramory” bias agast feme-prentg men, whereas mascule quali, behavurs and appearanc are regard as more favourable.

THE GAY CHURCH

* gay effeminate *

He is ncerned that media pictns of gay men are not tly reprentative of the wir gay muny and are creasgly mascule nature, wh gay rol often given to straight men – such as Daniel Craig Netflix’s Glass Onn: A Kniv Out Jamie Hakim is a lecturer culture and media at Kg’s College London and rearch queer timacy digal spac.

“There is a persistence gay culture of eroticisg particular forms of masculy … It n e lots of anxiety and a sense of failure for those who don’t feel they match a certa image, ” he self-image, mascule bias may have wir implitns for gay men the workplace.

GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?

“Prr to transng, I lived as a queer man and I saw gay men told to ‘tone down’ or that they drsed ‘too gay to be taken serly’ at work, ” she livg as a trans woman, she regnis the penalti placed on women who act assertively the workplace and as a member of a mory wh very ltle visible reprentatn the workplace, “everythg I do is seen as reprentg my trans inty too”.

Bee most LGBTQ people are raised the same society as heterosexuals, they learn the same beliefs and stereotyp prevalent the domant society, leadg to a phenomenon known as ternalized homophobia, whereas LGBTQ-intified dividuals feel shame, guilt or hatred towards the part of themselv intified as LGBTQ. Worst of all, though, the shame attached to the memori of those first tim marred how I would approach sex for was listeng to Years & Years’ new song “Sanctify, ” and seeg the band’s out gay sger Olly Alexanr talk about how the song was spired his sexual trysts wh straight men, that I realized that the feelgs are way more mon than people let on.

‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’

Sure, I know all about gay guys havg sex wh straight guys, but felt reassurg to see him scribe the “sat and sner role” he embodied durg those experienc, and to hear the uncertaty and melancholy weaved to the than anythg though, was the repeated lyril mantra of “I won’t be ashamed.

A church that, sce 2005, bans prits wh “ep-seated homosexual tennci” and officially teach that gay men are “objectively disorred” and herently disposed toward “trsic moral evil” is actually posed, ways very few other stutns are, of gay men. This cultural and moral shift has not only changed the nscns of most Amerin Catholics (67 percent of whom support civil marriage for gay upl) and gay prits (many of whom are close to qutg) but also broken the silence that long shroud the subject.

Alarmed by the possibily that divorced and remarried people might be weled as well as gays, tradnalists lnched a fierce rearguard mpaign agast the new papacy, wh a foc on what some lled a “Lavenr Mafia” nng the church, and broke new ground nnectg this directly to the horrifyg revelatns of sex abe that me to light 2002.

IS YOUR CHILD GAY?

” Michael Hichborn, head of the ge-right Lepanto Instute, lled for a “plete and thorough removal of all homosexual clergymen om the church … It is gog to be difficult and will likely rult a very ser prit shortage, but ’s fely worth the effort. At one pot as we spoke the next day the hospal, he was greeted by a woman who asked for an on-the-spot nfsn and he shooed me asi; later I met an anguished gay man om an ultra-Catholic fay he was unselg; and for a few hours on Sunday morng, he was wh the wife and teenage sons of a dyg man.

For example, as the late historian John Boswell monstrated his groundbreakg, ntroversial book Christiany, Social Tolerance, and Homosexualy, a fourth-century Christian wrer, John Chrysostom, attacked the lears of the church for beg too acceptg of same-sex love and even sex: “Those very people who have been nourished by godly doctre, who stct others what they ought and ought not to do … the do not nsort wh prostut as fearlsly as they do wh young men … None is ashamed, no one blh … the chaste seem to be the odd on, and the disapprovg the on error. Carl Jung intified the archetypal gifts of the homosexual: “a great pacy for iendship, which often creat ti of astonishg tenrns between men”; a talent for teachg, athetics, and tradn (“to be nservative the bt sense and cherish the valu of the past”); “a wealth of relig feelgs, which help to brg the ecclia spirualis to realy; and a spirual receptivy which mak him rponsive to revelatn. He was also the theologian who monstrated a manic sire to police the slightt viatn om orthodoxy, who scribed gay people as “objectively disorred” and cled toward an “trsic moral evil, ” and who, after he banned gay prits, lled them “one of the miseri of the church.

(Whether celibacy is healthy for the church is s own qutn, one oddly distct om the current crisis; a relaxatn of the l wouldn’t self rolve the church’s posn on homosexualy, and an embrace of homosexualy is patible wh a celibate prithood. You so obvly nnot be gay, was her implitn, bee this is good was 2006, a full five years before Lady Gaga would set the Born This Way argument atop s unassailable cultural perch, but even then the popular unrstandg of orientatn was that was somethg you were born wh, somethg you uldn’t change. But what feels most accurate to say is that I’m gay – but I wasn’t born this people may fd their sir changg directn - and n't jt be explaed as experimentatn (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)In 1977, jt over 10% of Amerins thought gayns was somethg you were born wh, acrdg to Gallup.

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I’D GO SO FAR AS TO SAY THAT I’M A GOLD-STAR TOP, MEANG I’VE NEVER BEEN PERATED. FULLY, ANYWAY. THOUGH SEVERAL BRAVE SOULS HAVE TRIED, MY BACK DOOR IS AS TIGHT AS THE DEMOCRATIC PRIMARY AND AS ACCSIBLE AS THE LOGIC OF A TMP VOTER. IT’S NOT A POT OF PRI OR ANYTHG—JT THE WAY MY SEXUAL LIFE TURNED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IALLY, I WOULD INTIFY AS AN "ASPIRATNAL VERS," SCE I’VE ALWAYS FELT LIKE I’M MISSG OUT ON A WHOLE DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE THAT MANY, MANY, MANY MEN SEEM TO REALLY, REALLY, REALLY ENJOY. BUT I JT HAVEN’T FOUND THE RIGHT MR. GORBACHEV TO TEAR DOWN THIS WALL. THAT BEG SAID, I DO LIKE BEG A TOP. A LOT. WHILE I DO APPRECIATE A NICE DICK ON A MAN, I’VE GOT A TA BELCHER–QUE FASCATN-CUM-OBSSN WH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SAME, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’D E ONE FOR A PILLOW IF I {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE THG IS, WHILE I’VE EMBRACED BEG A TOP, I’VE ALSO EMBRACED BEG A FULL-BLOWN FAGGOT. BUT IF MY BUTCH-QUEEN DICHOTOMY WORKS WELL FOR ME, I’VE LEARNED THAT ’S NOT EVERYONE’S CUP OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU KNOW THOSE KIDS WHO BASILLY E OUT OF THE WOMB GAY, CLUTCHG A JUDY AT CARNEGIE HALL RERD ONE HAND AND A TY VODKA SODA WH TWO LIM THE OTHER? I WAS ONE OF THOSE KIDS. LIKE, EVERYONE KNEW ON SOME LEVEL THAT I WAS A FAG. AT LEAST, THAT’S WHAT THE OTHER KIDS AT SCHOOL TOLD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I HAD A HIGH, VERY LOVELY VOICE—TO BE HONT, I REALLY MISS BEG A SOPRANO—AND WAS MISTAKEN FOR A GIRL ON A NUMBER OF OCSNS UNTIL MY VOICE FALLY CHANGED AND I SETTLED TO THIS TENOR-BARONE RANGE THAT’S FE, I GUS. AND WHILE I WOULD NY THAT I WAS GAY, I KNEW THE REAL TEA. HOW MANY 6-YEAR-OLD BOYS N RECE THE “I’M A WNER, BABY!” MONOLOGUE OM MAHOGANY? THE AWOME ON, THAT’S {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BY THE TIME I STARTED G OUT TO MY IENDS AROUND AGE 14 AND 15, I HAD GOTTEN FAIRLY FORTABLE WH MY SISSYHOOD. I DIDN’T RE FOR SPORTS, ULDN’T PLAY THEM, STILL N’T TCH A BALL TO SAVE MY ACTUAL LIFE. I FELT FAR MORE FORTABLE WATCHG RENS OF THE GOLN GIRLS OR MEMORIZG KATHARE HEPBURN’S MANNERISMS THE PHILALPHIA STORY THAN DOG MORE STEREOTYPILLY BOYISH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ME DURG SUMMER BREAK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE CRAVG BARBIE DOLLS I DUTIFULLY PLAYED WH MY OLD HAND-ME-DOWN ACTN FIGURE OF FUTURE FORMER ERNOR JSE “THE BODY” VENTURA, FDG AN ODD PLEASURE HIS HARD PLASTIC MCL AND ROUND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LTLE DID I KNOW THIS WOULD PLANT A SEED THAT WOULD BEAR S U YEARS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ALWAYS ASSUMED WHEN I HAD SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME THAT I’D BE GETTG NAILED LIKE A POSTER TO THE WALL—CROOKED AND (AT LEAST AT FIRST) UPSI DOWN. I JT ASSUMED I WOULD BE THE PASSIVE ONE BEE BOYS LIKE ME, SEEMED, WERE THE ON WHO GOT FUCKED. IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO LOSE MY VIRGY UNTIL I JT TOOK MATTERS TO MY OWN HANDS AND DID THE OLD-FASHNED WAY: I FOUND SOME RANDO ON CRAIGSLIST AND GOT OVER WH. IT’S LLED {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FOR THE RT OF MY 20S, I WAS SGLE AND BEGDGGLY READY TO MGLE, AND ONCE GRDR BEME A THG, MOM WAS OUT GETTG LAID THE STREETS. IN THIS SE, I’M MOM.GIPHY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND MOM LIKED BEG A TOP. THE PROBLEM WAS THAT GRDR TRODUCED A VERY SPECIFIC STANDARD OF MASCULY THAT I FOUND ALL BUT IMPOSSIBLE TO REACH. IMPOSSIBLE MOSTLY BEE I DIDN’T WANT TO CHANGE WHO I WAS ORR TO GET LAID. THAT SEEMED TO UNRME THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE OF DATG OR HOOKG UP SCE I'D ALWAYS HOPED, RATHER NAIVELY, THAT A GUY WOULD BE TO ME FOR ME, NOT JT THE IA OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT THEN SOME GUY ASKS YOU TO LEAVE BEE YOU’RE GAYER THAN HE THOUGHT, AND YOU START TO DOUBT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I WAS HOOKG UP WH THIS GUY WHO WAS OM GUYANA, WHERE I WAS BORN. SO I KNEW THAT ’S A HEAVILY WT INDIAN CULTURE WH HOMOPHOBIC BAGGAGE MIRED TOXIC MASCULY. BLAME LONIALISM. I WAS TO HIM, BUT THE MORE WE TALKED THE LS TO ME HE SEEMED. HE WOULD EMPHASIZE HOW NOT STEREOTYPILLY GAY HE WAS AND I WOULD… NOT. I HAD GAY IENDS. I DID GAY THGS. I WAS GAY, GAY, GAY. THEN, WHEN SOME CHEERLEADG PETN ME ON THE TV, I REMARKED THAT I THOUGHT I KNEW ONE OF THE FLAMGLY GAY MALE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TURNS OUT I DIDN’T, BUT THAT WAS THE LAST STRAW AND HE ASKED ME TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THAT WAS A RATHER EXTREME SE. SOME GUYS WANTED TO TALK ON THE PHONE FIRST TO MAKE SURE I DIDN’T SOUND TOO GAY, WHICH I FOUND KD OF IRONIC. I MEAN, ON THE ONE HAND, I GUS NO ONE REALLY WANTS TO BE GETTG H OM THE BACK THEN SUDNLY HAVE ME LEAN OVER AND WHISPER TO THEIR EAR, WHO’S YOUR MOM? BUT ON THE OTHER, PLETELY REASONABLE HAND, WHAT’S GAYER? A LTLE SIBILANT LISP OR GETTG RAMMED OM BEHD BY A STRANGER WHILE BLASTG EDM? MAYBE ’S SIX OF ONE, HALF A DOZEN OF THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO BEG A TOP PRENTED S OWN SET OF PRSUR. BUT BEG A BLACK TOP (AND I’M NOT TALKG ASPHALT) ADD EVEN MORE EXPECTATNS SURROUNDG MY MASCULY AND SEXUAL PROWS. SOME BLACK GUYS DON’T MD LEANG TO THE WHOLE “BBC” (“BIG BLACK COCK”), MANDGO FANTASY, WHICH IS FE—THE OLR I GET, THE LS I RE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE’S “PREFERENC” ARE WHEN TO RACE AND DATG THE QUEER MUNY—BUT I’M JT NOT TO RACE PLAY. THE MOMENT I GET LLED THE N-WORD IS THE MOMENT SOMEONE HAS TO DIE, AND I’M NOT TRYG TO TCH A SE UNR THIS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BUT BEG A QUEER PERSON OF LOR, I’VE KNOWN HOW TO -SWCH MY ENTIRE LIFE. IF I WAS TOO GAY OR TOO BLACK OR NOT BLACK ENOUGH OR—RARELY—NOT GAY ENOUGH, I ULD REACH DOWN TO MY BAG OF DOUBLE-MORY TRICKS JT TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE FEEL FORTABLE. SO WHEN I REALIZED THAT I NTAED MULTUS AND THAT I DIDN’T HAVE TO BE ONE THG—JT BLACK OR JT GAY OR JT A BAD BCH—THE -SWCHG BEME LS ABOUT DULLG SOME ASPECTS OF MYSELF AND MORE ABOUT EMPHASIZG OTHERS. AND OM THERE, I JT BEME MORE FORTABLE WH MYSELF, AND OTHER PEOPLE'S FORT DIDN'T TAKE PRECENCE OVER MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO WHILE I’M A TOP—AND ACRDG TO MY YELP REVIEWS, A DAMN GOOD ONE—I STILL LOVE TO ENTER A DANCE-FLOOR ASS FIRST AND THEN PROCEED TO CRAWL LIKE A PSYT DOLL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ACTUAL FOOTAGE OF ME AT AKBAR LOS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THAT DON’T MAKE ME LS OF A TOP—IF ANYTHG, HAVG LUGUBR HIPS HAS ONLY MA ME A BETTER ONE. JT AS BEG MORE TOUCH WH MY NER FEMME QUEEN HAS ONLY MA ME A MORE WELL-ROUND PERSON. A PERSON WHO, AGA, NNOT TCH ANYTHG EVER, SO PLEASE DON’T EVEN TRY, FOR BOTH OUR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND IF A GUY IS SO VOTED TO THE CHURCH OF MASC FOR MASC THAT MY MASCULY, OR LACK THEREOF, IS AN ISSUE… WELL, THANKFULLY THERE IS NO SHORTAGE OF BOTTOMS OUT THERE TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}LOVE AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

Throughout the same perd, the number of Amerins who believe homosexualy is “due to someone’s upbrgg/environment” fell om jt unr 60% to ias reached cril mass pop culture, first wh Lady Gaga’s 2011 Born This Way and one year later wh Macklemore’s Same Love, the chos of which has a gay person sgg “I n’t change even if I tried, even if I wanted to. ”People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backwardAs Jane Ward not Not Gay: Sex Between Straight Whe Men, what’s tertg about many of the claims is how transparent their speakers are wh their polil motivatns. In fact, the homophobic and non-homophobic rponnts he studied shared siar levels of belief a Born This Way Samantha Allen not at The Daily Beast, the growg public support for gays and lbians has grown out of proportn wh the rise the number of people who believe homosexualy is fixed at birth; would be unlikely that this small change opn uld expla the spike support for gay marriage, for stance.

“It don’t seem to matter as much whether or not people believe that gay people are born that way as do that they simply know someone who is currently gay, ” Allen spe of the studi, those who ph agast Born This Way narrativ have been heavily cricised by gay activists.

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The efforts are potentially harmful, acrdg to the APA, “bee they prent the view that the sexual orientatn of lbian, gay and bisexual youth is a mental illns of disorr, and they often ame the abily to change one’s sexual orientatn as a personal and moral failure.

The APA, for example, while notg that most people experience ltle to no choice over their orientatns, says this of homosexualy’s origs:“Although much rearch has examed the possible geic, hormonal, velopmental, social and cultural fluenc on sexual orientatn, no fdgs have emerged that perm scientists to nclu that sexual orientatn is termed by any particular factor or factors.

”Siarly, the Amerin Psychiatric Associatn wr a 2013 statement that while the of heterosexualy and homosexualy are currently unknown, they are likely “multifactorial cludg blogil and behavral roots which may vary between different dividuals and may even vary over time.

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