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- LBIANS ARE GETTG DIVORCED AT AN ALARMG RATE. I WAS ONE OF THEMARE WE JT WIRED THIS WAY?{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY TRISH BENDIXOCTOBER 23, 2017/11:35 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:574PX;WIDTH:1020PX;}GETTY IMAGCIVIL PARTNERSHIP LBIAN DIVORCE KEBY TRISH BENDIXOCTOBER 23, 2017 / 11:35 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"LBIANS ARE GETTG DIVORCED AT AN ALARMG RATE. I WAS ONE OF THEM","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2017-10-23T15:35:33.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2017-10-23T15:35:33.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TRISH BENDIX","KEYWORDS":"MARRIAGE EQUALY, LOVE AND SEX, OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I GOT ENGAGED WHEN I WAS 25. I HAD BEEN DATG MY GIRLIEND FOR LS THAN A YEAR AND WE ALREADY LIVED TOGETHER. THE PROPOSAL SURPRISED ME—I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY BUT "Y," BEE THAT'S JT WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO SAY, RIGHT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEN SUDNLY EVERYONE WAS ASKG WHEN THE WEDDG WAS AND I WAS MARRIED BY 27 (LEGALLY, IOWA, ONE OF FEW STAT THAT ALLOWED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE AT THE TIME).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAYBE 27 SEEMS LIKE A TOTALLY NORMAL AGE TO GET MARRIED—MY MOM HAD ME AT 27—BUT NSIRG I'D SENTIALLY SHED TO , WASN'T IAL FOR ME. AND SO, UNSURPRISGLY, END DIVORCE. A NEW STUDY OM THE UNED KGDOM OFFICE FOR NATNAL STATISTICS (ONS) SUGGTS I WAS SOMETHG OF A TRENDSETTER.GETTY IMAGSIMPLE GAY/LBIAN MARRIAGE GRAPHIC WH TWO FEMALE STICK FIGUR HOLDG HANDS WH TWO WEDDG RGS SI A THOUGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MARRIAGE EQUALY ME TO THE UK MARCH 2014: THREE MONTHS LATER, THERE WERE 1,409 SAME-SEX MARRIAG, 56% (796) OF WHICH WERE WOMEN. BY 2015, 22 OF THOSE UPL BROKE UP. BUT 2016, THE NUMBER OF DIVORC LEAPED TO 112, MORE THAN THREE-QUARTERS OF WHICH (87) WERE LBIAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE MOST MON REASON FOR THOSE SPLS WAS "UNREASONABLE BEHAVR"—WHICH N MEAN ANYTHG OM REFG TO GET A JOB TO BEG UNFAHFUL. BUT SOCLOGISTS BELIEVE THE HIGHER DIVORCE RATE AMONG LBIANS IS ED BY WOMEN HAVG HIGHER EXPECTATNS AND SHG TO A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EVEN BEFORE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ME TO BRA, LBIAN UPL WERE NEARLY TWICE AS LIKELY AS GAY MEN TO END A CIVIL PARTNERSHIP. OF THE 794 PARTNERSHIPS DISSOLVED 2012, ALMOST 60% WERE BY FEMALE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GUNNAR ANRSSON, PROFSOR OF MOGRAPHY AT STOCKHOLM UNIVERSY, FOUND THE SAME TREND A 2013 STUDY OF CIVIL PARTNERSHIPS NORWAY, SWEN, AND DENMARK. QUEER WOMEN WERE TWICE AS LIKELY TO DISSOLVE THEIR SAME-SEX PARTNERSHIPS AS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“THIS REFLECTS TRENDS A HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAGE—BEE WOMEN ARE MORE PRONE TO SAY THEY WANT TO MARRY, BUT THEY’RE ALSO MORE LIKELY TO IATE A DIVORCE," HE TOLD THE INPENNT. "WOMEN UALLY HAVE HIGHER MANDS ON RELATNSHIP QUALY, THAT’S [BEEN SHOWN] STUDI. EVEN IF YOU NTROL FOR AGE THERE IS STILL A TREND OF MORE WOMEN ENDG PARTNERSHIPS THAN MEN."WOMEN WH RELATNSHIP {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ADM I HAD HIGH EXPECTATNS FOR MY MARRIAGE, BUT I WASN'T THE LTLE GIRL WHO DREAMED OF A WHE DRS AND BIG FORMAL WEDDG. I ACTUALLY DIDN'T EVEN REALLY FANTASIZE ABOUT BEG SOMEONE'S WIFE. BUT DIDN'T I, A FEMIST LBIAN WHO DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO SOCIETY'S EXPECTATN OF WHAT A "WOMAN" SHOULD BE, WANT TO BE WANTED?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'M SECURE ENOUGH (NOW, ANYWAY) TO ADM THAT ULD'VE BEEN A PART OF WHY I SAID "I DO." THE IA OF MARRIAGE WAS ROMANTIC, BUT THE REALY? NOT SO MUCH. AND AT 25 (OR 26, OR 27), I DIDN'T REALIZE HOW MUCH WORK GO TO BEG SOMEONE'S SPOE. BY THE TIME I DID, MY SIRE TO WANT TO BE THE RIGHT SUATN WAS OVERSHADOWED BY THE HONT FACT THAT JT WASN'{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY EX-WIFE WAS (AND PROBABLY STILL IS) FANTASTIC. SHE WAS A DREAM FOR ANYONE WHO WANTS TO SETTLE DOWN, WHICH I THOUGHT I DID. OUR NEWFOUND EEDOM TO MARRY GAVE A NEW DREAM TO ASPIRE TO. BUT WE DIDN'T TAKE THE TIME TO CI IF WAS THE RIGHT DREAM FOR . (MY WIFE WAS SIGNIFINTLY OLR THAN ME. SHE ACHIEVED SOME MEASURE OF THE AMERIN DREAM—A SUCCSFUL REER, A HOE—AND THAT LIKELY FUELED HER SIRE TO TIE THE KNOT, TOO.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A 2011 WILLIAMS INSTUTE STUDY FOUND THAT 134,000 SAME-SEX UPL THE U.S. (ABOUT 21%) WERE LEGALLY BOUND SOME WAY. OF THEM, 62% WERE WOMEN, EVEN THOUGH WOMEN MAKE UP JT 51% OF SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS. THREE YEARS LATER, THAT PERCENTAGE ROSE TO 64%. IN MASSACHETTS ALONE, THE FIRST STATE TO REGNIZE THE EEDOM TO MARRY, 75% OF GAY UPL TYG THE KNOT WERE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S NOT HARD TO NNECT THE DOTS: MORE MARRIAGE MEAN MORE DIVORC. SO WHY ARE LADI SO HASTY TO SAY Y TO THE VT?GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAYBE WE'RE SHG TO MARRIAGE BEE 'S FALLY AVAILABLE TO . BUT FOR QUEER WOMEN, MIGHT BE BEE WE'RE WIRED THAT WAY. IN LBIAN LOVE ADDICTN, LREN D. COSTE SUGGTS WOMEN FD FORT RELATNSHIPS BEE ONCE WE FD A NNECTN, WE FEEL A SH OF DOPAME AND OXYTOC. (LERALLY ALL THE FEELS.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"MEN DON'T EM OXYTOC THE SAME WAY," COSTE TOLD PSYCH CENTRAL. "THEREFORE, WHEN TWO WOMEN GET TOGETHER THE 'OXYFT' IS BEYOND TOXITG."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PROBLEM, OF URSE, IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THAT CHEMIL SH WEARS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE'S NOT YET GOOD DATA ON THE SAME-SEX DIVORCE AND DISSOLUTN RATE POST-OBERGEFELL V. HODG—AT LEAST NOT BY GENR. THE WILLIAMS INSTUTE STUDY DID FD THAT THE 19 STAT THAT GRANTED SOME KD OF LEGAL REGNN TO GAY UPL BETWEEN 1997 AND 2011, THE RATE FOR SAME-SEX SPLS WAS ACTUALLY SLIGHTLY LOWER FOR SAME-SEX UPL THAN HETEROSEXUALS. (1.1% ON AVERAGE PARED TO 2%.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DIVORCE IS NEVER FUN (TAKE OM ME), BUT 'S LS EVABLE IF WE ENTER TO MARRIAGE WH PARTNERS WHO ARE REALLY RIGHT FOR , AND WHOM WE'RE REALLY RIGHT FOR. WE OWE TO OURSELV TO PUT THE WORK—OR EVEN MAKE PEACE WH SGLEHOOD—SO WE N STOP LG THE POCKETS OF DIVORCE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'M NOT SAYG LOWER YOUR EXPECTATNS OR HOLD OFF THE ALTAR FOREVER. JT TO NSIR HOW EASY IS TO BEE A ANOTHER STATISTIC STEAD OF HAPPILY EVER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}MARRIAGE EQUALYLOVE AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
- 20 YEARS OF GAY MARRIAGE THE NETHERLANDS: 20 THOAND UPL
LBIANS ARE GETTG DIVORCED AT AN ALARMG RATE. I WAS ONE OF THEMARE WE JT WIRED THIS WAY?{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY TRISH BENDIXOCTOBER 23, 2017/11:35 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:574PX;WIDTH:1020PX;}GETTY IMAGCIVIL PARTNERSHIP LBIAN DIVORCE KEBY TRISH BENDIXOCTOBER 23, 2017 / 11:35 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"LBIANS ARE GETTG DIVORCED AT AN ALARMG RATE. I WAS ONE OF THEM","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2017-10-23T15:35:33.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2017-10-23T15:35:33.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TRISH BENDIX","KEYWORDS":"MARRIAGE EQUALY, LOVE AND SEX, OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I GOT ENGAGED WHEN I WAS 25. I HAD BEEN DATG MY GIRLIEND FOR LS THAN A YEAR AND WE ALREADY LIVED TOGETHER. THE PROPOSAL SURPRISED ME—I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY BUT "Y," BEE THAT'S JT WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO SAY, RIGHT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEN SUDNLY EVERYONE WAS ASKG WHEN THE WEDDG WAS AND I WAS MARRIED BY 27 (LEGALLY, IOWA, ONE OF FEW STAT THAT ALLOWED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE AT THE TIME).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAYBE 27 SEEMS LIKE A TOTALLY NORMAL AGE TO GET MARRIED—MY MOM HAD ME AT 27—BUT NSIRG I'D SENTIALLY SHED TO , WASN'T IAL FOR ME. AND SO, UNSURPRISGLY, END DIVORCE. A NEW STUDY OM THE UNED KGDOM OFFICE FOR NATNAL STATISTICS (ONS) SUGGTS I WAS SOMETHG OF A TRENDSETTER.GETTY IMAGSIMPLE GAY/LBIAN MARRIAGE GRAPHIC WH TWO FEMALE STICK FIGUR HOLDG HANDS WH TWO WEDDG RGS SI A THOUGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MARRIAGE EQUALY ME TO THE UK MARCH 2014: THREE MONTHS LATER, THERE WERE 1,409 SAME-SEX MARRIAG, 56% (796) OF WHICH WERE WOMEN. BY 2015, 22 OF THOSE UPL BROKE UP. BUT 2016, THE NUMBER OF DIVORC LEAPED TO 112, MORE THAN THREE-QUARTERS OF WHICH (87) WERE LBIAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE MOST MON REASON FOR THOSE SPLS WAS "UNREASONABLE BEHAVR"—WHICH N MEAN ANYTHG OM REFG TO GET A JOB TO BEG UNFAHFUL. BUT SOCLOGISTS BELIEVE THE HIGHER DIVORCE RATE AMONG LBIANS IS ED BY WOMEN HAVG HIGHER EXPECTATNS AND SHG TO A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EVEN BEFORE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ME TO BRA, LBIAN UPL WERE NEARLY TWICE AS LIKELY AS GAY MEN TO END A CIVIL PARTNERSHIP. OF THE 794 PARTNERSHIPS DISSOLVED 2012, ALMOST 60% WERE BY FEMALE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GUNNAR ANRSSON, PROFSOR OF MOGRAPHY AT STOCKHOLM UNIVERSY, FOUND THE SAME TREND A 2013 STUDY OF CIVIL PARTNERSHIPS NORWAY, SWEN, AND DENMARK. QUEER WOMEN WERE TWICE AS LIKELY TO DISSOLVE THEIR SAME-SEX PARTNERSHIPS AS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“THIS REFLECTS TRENDS A HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAGE—BEE WOMEN ARE MORE PRONE TO SAY THEY WANT TO MARRY, BUT THEY’RE ALSO MORE LIKELY TO IATE A DIVORCE," HE TOLD THE INPENNT. "WOMEN UALLY HAVE HIGHER MANDS ON RELATNSHIP QUALY, THAT’S [BEEN SHOWN] STUDI. EVEN IF YOU NTROL FOR AGE THERE IS STILL A TREND OF MORE WOMEN ENDG PARTNERSHIPS THAN MEN."WOMEN WH RELATNSHIP {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ADM I HAD HIGH EXPECTATNS FOR MY MARRIAGE, BUT I WASN'T THE LTLE GIRL WHO DREAMED OF A WHE DRS AND BIG FORMAL WEDDG. I ACTUALLY DIDN'T EVEN REALLY FANTASIZE ABOUT BEG SOMEONE'S WIFE. BUT DIDN'T I, A FEMIST LBIAN WHO DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO SOCIETY'S EXPECTATN OF WHAT A "WOMAN" SHOULD BE, WANT TO BE WANTED?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'M SECURE ENOUGH (NOW, ANYWAY) TO ADM THAT ULD'VE BEEN A PART OF WHY I SAID "I DO." THE IA OF MARRIAGE WAS ROMANTIC, BUT THE REALY? NOT SO MUCH. AND AT 25 (OR 26, OR 27), I DIDN'T REALIZE HOW MUCH WORK GO TO BEG SOMEONE'S SPOE. BY THE TIME I DID, MY SIRE TO WANT TO BE THE RIGHT SUATN WAS OVERSHADOWED BY THE HONT FACT THAT JT WASN'{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY EX-WIFE WAS (AND PROBABLY STILL IS) FANTASTIC. SHE WAS A DREAM FOR ANYONE WHO WANTS TO SETTLE DOWN, WHICH I THOUGHT I DID. OUR NEWFOUND EEDOM TO MARRY GAVE A NEW DREAM TO ASPIRE TO. BUT WE DIDN'T TAKE THE TIME TO CI IF WAS THE RIGHT DREAM FOR . (MY WIFE WAS SIGNIFINTLY OLR THAN ME. SHE ACHIEVED SOME MEASURE OF THE AMERIN DREAM—A SUCCSFUL REER, A HOE—AND THAT LIKELY FUELED HER SIRE TO TIE THE KNOT, TOO.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A 2011 WILLIAMS INSTUTE STUDY FOUND THAT 134,000 SAME-SEX UPL THE U.S. (ABOUT 21%) WERE LEGALLY BOUND SOME WAY. OF THEM, 62% WERE WOMEN, EVEN THOUGH WOMEN MAKE UP JT 51% OF SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS. THREE YEARS LATER, THAT PERCENTAGE ROSE TO 64%. IN MASSACHETTS ALONE, THE FIRST STATE TO REGNIZE THE EEDOM TO MARRY, 75% OF GAY UPL TYG THE KNOT WERE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S NOT HARD TO NNECT THE DOTS: MORE MARRIAGE MEAN MORE DIVORC. SO WHY ARE LADI SO HASTY TO SAY Y TO THE VT?GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAYBE WE'RE SHG TO MARRIAGE BEE 'S FALLY AVAILABLE TO . BUT FOR QUEER WOMEN, MIGHT BE BEE WE'RE WIRED THAT WAY. IN LBIAN LOVE ADDICTN, LREN D. COSTE SUGGTS WOMEN FD FORT RELATNSHIPS BEE ONCE WE FD A NNECTN, WE FEEL A SH OF DOPAME AND OXYTOC. (LERALLY ALL THE FEELS.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"MEN DON'T EM OXYTOC THE SAME WAY," COSTE TOLD PSYCH CENTRAL. "THEREFORE, WHEN TWO WOMEN GET TOGETHER THE 'OXYFT' IS BEYOND TOXITG."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PROBLEM, OF URSE, IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THAT CHEMIL SH WEARS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE'S NOT YET GOOD DATA ON THE SAME-SEX DIVORCE AND DISSOLUTN RATE POST-OBERGEFELL V. HODG—AT LEAST NOT BY GENR. THE WILLIAMS INSTUTE STUDY DID FD THAT THE 19 STAT THAT GRANTED SOME KD OF LEGAL REGNN TO GAY UPL BETWEEN 1997 AND 2011, THE RATE FOR SAME-SEX SPLS WAS ACTUALLY SLIGHTLY LOWER FOR SAME-SEX UPL THAN HETEROSEXUALS. (1.1% ON AVERAGE PARED TO 2%.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DIVORCE IS NEVER FUN (TAKE OM ME), BUT 'S LS EVABLE IF WE ENTER TO MARRIAGE WH PARTNERS WHO ARE REALLY RIGHT FOR , AND WHOM WE'RE REALLY RIGHT FOR. WE OWE TO OURSELV TO PUT THE WORK—OR EVEN MAKE PEACE WH SGLEHOOD—SO WE N STOP LG THE POCKETS OF DIVORCE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'M NOT SAYG LOWER YOUR EXPECTATNS OR HOLD OFF THE ALTAR FOREVER. JT TO NSIR HOW EASY IS TO BEE A ANOTHER STATISTIC STEAD OF HAPPILY EVER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}MARRIAGE EQUALYLOVE AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
But soclogists believe the higher divorce rate among lbians is ed by women havg higher expectatns and shg to a before same-sex marriage me to Bra, lbian upl were nearly twice as likely as gay men to end a civil partnership. In Massachetts alone, the first state to regnize the eedom to marry, 75% of gay upl tyg the knot were 's not hard to nnect the dots: More marriage mean more divorc. The Williams Instute study did fd that the 19 stat that granted some kd of legal regnn to gay upl between 1997 and 2011, the rate for same-sex spls was actually slightly lower for same-sex upl than heterosexuals.
At the start of this year, the Netherlands had 20 thoand gay upl. Until the troductn of gay marriage 2001, same-sex upl uld only formalise their relatnship through a registered partnership.
Even after gay marriage was troduced, relatively many same-sex upl have been optg for a registered partnership stead of a marriage.
20 YEARS OF GAY MARRIAGE THE NETHERLANDS: 20 THOAND UPL
Sce 2015, the share of gay upl optg for a partnership has creased. The divorce rate among heterosexual upl is parable to that of gay male upl: 16 percent were divorced after ten years. Majory of married gay upl Amsterdam.