If you’re a gay man havg problems wh your boyiend, might not be the bt ia to go to your straight girliend for help. Sure…
Contents:
- GENR, HEALTH BEHAVR, AND INTIMATE RELATNSHIPS: LBIAN, GAY, AND STRAIGHT CONTEXTS
- WHY DO GAY MEN JUMP INTO RELATNSHIPS?
- GAY RELATNSHIP DYNAMICS AFFECT PERCEPTN OF PARTNER’S HIV STAT
- GAY MALE RELATNSHIPS AND THE ADD/OCD SYNDROME
- HOW TO HAVE A GAY OR LBIAN RELATNSHIP
- RELATNSHIP DYNAMICS AROUND PRSN GAY AND LBIAN UPL
GENR, HEALTH BEHAVR, AND INTIMATE RELATNSHIPS: LBIAN, GAY, AND STRAIGHT CONTEXTS
Across much of the gay and bisexual male rearch on sexual posn self-label (i.e., llg onelf a top, bottom, or versatile), there exist two monali: (1) studi tend to foc almost entirely on dividual, relatnally sgle androphilic men; (2) studi rarely acunt for relatnshi … * gay relationship dynamics *
Th, there is likely more rearch on LGBTQ+ relatnship experienc journals such as Psychology & Sexualy, LGBT Health, Journal of Lbian Studi, Journal of Homosexualy, and the APA Journal of Sexual Orientatn and Genr Diversy.
New rearch (Haas & Lannutti, 2021) surveyg over 1, 300 transgenr, non-bary, gay, lbian, bisexual, and queer people om across the U. In rponse, we explored the role of self-label over sexual and relatnship satisfactn among gay and bisexual partnered men. The Effects of Prostate Cancer Treatment on Role-In-Sex Gay and Bisexual Men: Mixed Methods Rults om the Rtore-1 and Rtore-2 Studi.
Via n’t keep track of how many tim some of your gay iends have to change their “relatnship stat” on Facebook. You see him at an event wh a du attached to his arm, and engagement mors are any of those suatns sound faiar, I’m sure you’ve e to wonr why some gay men seem to jump om one relatnship to the next whout any real personal breathg room or self-disvery. This isn’t unmon; fact, I spoke wh lol gay psychotherapist, Alan Robarge, about this type of unhealthy datg and what leads dividuals to enter the typ of self-sabatogg Culture Conf Courtg: The ready availabily of cell phone “datg” and hook-up apps, like Scff, Grdr, and OkCupid, has changed the way we teract and unrstand timacy.
WHY DO GAY MEN JUMP INTO RELATNSHIPS?
We chatted wh a lol psychotherapist about some of the unrlyg reasons why seems that some gay men jump om relatnship to relatnship. * gay relationship dynamics *
”Attachment Injuri Are Really Common: Robarge claims that isn’t jt gay men who seem to have difficulti navigatg the murky waters of attachment.
69 tim more likely to misperceive a partner’s HIV stat than HIV-posive men, while men partnerships wh another man which they both intified as gay were 3.
In my psychotherapy and achg practice specializg gay men and gay male upl for what is now ( 2022) thirty years (whew! ), I keep noticg a pattern the gay male upl I serve that one partner seems to generally have a pattern of thkg and behavr that is aligned wh some of the classic symptoms of ADD (Attentn Defic Disorr, sometim referred to as Attentn Defic Hyperactivy Disorr) and the other partner has a pattern of thkg and behavr that is more aligned wh OCD (Obssive-Compulsive Disorr). When I see the ADD/OCD syndrome gay male upl, sometim we’re not even talkg about both, or even eher, partner tly meetg the objective, clil creria for rryg the official diagnosis of adult ADD or OCD that we would fd the DSM-5.
GAY RELATNSHIP DYNAMICS AFFECT PERCEPTN OF PARTNER’S HIV STAT
Enterg to a gay relatnship is much the same as enterg to any relatnship. Two people meet and get to know each other. Some thgs never change, even if the partners are of the same genr. Date first. More than once. A mon... * gay relationship dynamics *
There are other, siar dynamics (lled “dialectics”) that create the y/yang stctur gay male relatnships: We talk about the Alpha and the Beta partner, the Spenr and the Saver, the Distancer and the Pursuer, the Introvert and the Extrovert, the Fear of Engulfment vs. As gay men, we tend to seek out partners who offer what we didn’t get our childhoods, or what we “lack” as adults, and we need to “outsource” those tras, personified our partner, a plementary way.
GAY MALE RELATNSHIPS AND THE ADD/OCD SYNDROME
Although I have always enjoyed dog upl work wh gay men, I am hardly a specialist this area. So at tim when I’ve had qutns I’ve turned to my lleagu Rick Miller and Clton Power. Rick’s practice the Boston area specializ work wh gay men and Clton’s… * gay relationship dynamics *
In the ADD/OCD gay male uple, often the ADD partner keeps the OCD partner om beg too staid and “stuck the mud” their ways, and the OCD partner lends a certa foc and stcture so that the ADD partner don’t go flyg out of orb. To help live wh the between the two partners (although there uld be more; I have pleted a year-long certifite program expertise workg wh Consensual Non-Monogamy or even Polyamoro relatnships and fai, through the Sexual Health Alliance, where I was traed as a natnally Certified Sex Therapist as well), most often I work wh two-person gay male upl.
Margarida Gaspar Matos, Amic EdorAbstractAdolcent lbian, gay, and bisexual (LGB) romantic partners face the challenge of velopg satisfactory relatnships while managg strsors associated wh beg members of a stigmatized mory group due to their sexual mory stat. 99), pleted an onle survey nsistg of var socmographic measur, a relatnship dynamics qutnnaire, a self-asssment of relatnship satisfactn, and an adapted versn of the Gay and Lbian Opprsive Suatns Inventory.
HOW TO HAVE A GAY OR LBIAN RELATNSHIP
IntroductnLbian, Gay, and Bisexual (LGB) dividuals are often stigmatized as beg a mory, wh same-sex relatnships not beg supported or regnized the same way by society as are heterosexual relatnships [1, 2], fluencg how dividuals satisfy their needs and goals of timacy. In this sense, LGB young people are more likely to fd mechanisms to protect agast harassment and victimizatn [14, 15], such as tablishg signifint relatnships, sce the strategi would allow them to morate or mimize the impact of ternalized homonegativy [15]. The Inter n also help young people fd iends and romantic partners, wh anonymy beg an important factor the onle ntacts, as giv young people a sense of protectn om the stigma surroundg homosexual practic [18, 19] is clear that most human begs seek to explore their timacy through satisfactory romantic relatnships [20], and the are fundamental to human velopment [21].
Amidst the exploratn of their sexual inty, LGB adolcents may fear beg judged, exclud, or opprsed bee of their sexual orientatn [23] which may rult a procs of ncealment of their sexual inty, ternalizatn of homonegativy, and validatn of romantic same-sex relatnships [24].
RELATNSHIP DYNAMICS AROUND PRSN GAY AND LBIAN UPL
Teenagers wh same-sex attractn may be more prsed or experience lower self-teem due to ternalized homonegativy and worry about fdg a romantic partner; they also have doubts about havg a fay of their own, or always expect to feel different om their peers. The Gay and Lbian Opprsive Suatns Inventory—Frequency (GALOSI–F) [34] is a 49-em survey, which measur the equency of perceived heterosexist and antigay discrimatn faced by gay and lbian dividuals across a variety of settgs.