How One Mother’s Love for Her Gay Son Started a Revolutn | The New Yorker

Contents:

• OD SADA SAMO ";
• IS TYLER, THE CREATOR G OUT AS A GAY MAN OR JT A QUEER-BAG PROVOTR?
• DEBRA GAY
• SUBS LOOKG FOR DOMS (GAY MEN ONLY)
• HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN
• WHY THE HELL DO MIC BEE "GAY"?
• PRINT-ELECT GAY NAM KATIE O’DAIR CHIEF OF STAFF
• GAY ILI LGBT TURIZAM: FICIJA, OPCIJE I GLAVNE STACIJE

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IS TYLER, THE CREATOR G OUT AS A GAY MAN OR JT A QUEER-BAG PROVOTR?

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DEBRA GAY

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Queer creators like Rebec Sugar (Steven Universe), Shadi Petoski (Danger & Eggs), Noelle Stevenson (She-Ra), Tim Ferle (High School Mil: The Mil: The Seri), and Dana Terrace (The Owl Hoe) have fought tooth and nail to get queer characters to their shows, and they succeed, whout the straight, cis privilege that Hirsch Hirsch wants to nsir himself an ally, that's fe, but he needs to stop pretendg that cludg two effectual and simple-md gay ps his show mak him an LGBTQ+ trailblazer. "Imam 40 goda i vjerovali ili ne saznao sam da sam gay prije godu dana, kada sam upoznao starijeg čovjeka, starijeg od mene setak goda, koji mi je otvor vrata do tada nepoznatog, sa kojim sam rad stvari o kojima nisam sm ni da pomislim i sa kojim sam i dalje u tajnoj vezi. Udobno uvaljen u fotelju, sa blagom erekcijom, gledali smo neko vrijeme i komentirali što se događa, kada je postav panje da li sam ikada gledao gay pornografiju, na što sam ja odor da nisam ali da nemam ništa protiv – moram da priznam da sam b znatiželjan.

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They asked if they uld kiss her; they asked if she would talk to their parents; they told her that they uldn’t image their own mothers and fathers supportg them so publicly, or supportg them at woman’s name was Jeanne Manford, and she was marchg alongsi her twenty-one-year-old gay son, Morty.

HOW ONE MOTHER’S LOVE FOR HER GAY SON STARTED A REVOLUTN

The anizatn they dreamed up that day, which started as a sgle support group Manhattan, was ially lled Parents of Gays; later, was renamed Parents FLAG, for Parents and Friends of Lbians and Gays; nowadays, is known only as PFLAG. The same year Avril was born, Morty’s psychiatrist summoned Jeanne and Jul to his office and rmed them that their beloved goln boy and sole survivg son was the bt of her knowledge, Jeanne Manford had never known anyone who was gay. Polil anizg was virtually impossible—one early gay-rights group that attempted to officially rporate New York was told that s mere existence would vlate state sodomy laws—and posive cultural reprentatn was all but nonexistent; there were no openly gay or lbian policians, punds, relig lears, actors, athlet, or micians the mastream.

Newspapers ed the words “homosexual” and “pervert” terchangeably, and the handful of gay people who appeared on televisn to discs their “life style” almost always had their fac hidn shadows or otherwise obscured. In 1974, when “The Pat Colls Show” aired a segment on parents of gay children, the host troduced by sayg, “Even if he mted murr, I gus you’d say, ‘Well, he’s still my child, no matter what. ”You uld f most of the solar system to the chasm between how the average Amerin of the era would have reacted that hypothetil suatn and how Jeanne Manford rpond upon learng that Morty was gay.

The first time he attend a gay-rights prott, he wore sunglass and turned away om the news meras, but he soon beme, his sister Suzanne (now Suzanne Manford Swan) told me, “unaaid and unstoppable. ” An eighteen-year-old regular at the Stonewall Inn, Morty was there when a fight broke out between patrons and the police the summer of 1969, an event that talyzed the gay-rights movement. Not long after, he was arrted for refg to move when police tried to shoo him off a stoop on Christopher Street, the heart of the Greenwich Village gay scene.

WHY THE HELL DO MIC BEE "GAY"?

The next time Morty wound up jail, Jeanne was woken up by an early-morng phone ll—not om him but om the arrtg officer, who, apparently expectg to Morty’s life, ma a show of askg Jeanne if she knew that her son was “a homosexual. In the sprg of 1972, the New York Daily News ran an edorial, headled “Any Old Jobs for Homos?, ” that referred to “fairi, nanc, swish, fags, lezz” and mend the Supreme Court for cidg that a public universy uld rcd a job offer to a man who applied for a marriage license wh his male partner. ) That edorial cid wh the annual Inner Circle dner, a parody show hosted by New York Cy journalists, which that year was slated to clu a mockg sk about a gay-rights bill.

“You would meet Jeanne Manford and you would never a ln years gus what she had her, ” Eric Marc, the thor of the 1992 book “Makg Gay History” and now the host of a podst by the same name, told me. Then she went on to exprs a sentiment never before aired a mastream publitn: “I am proud of my son, Morty Manford, and the hard work he has been dog urgg homosexuals to accept their feelgs.

PRINT-ELECT GAY NAM KATIE O’DAIR CHIEF OF STAFF

Only the New York Post— s last wang days as a liberal paper, before s purchase, a few years later, by Rupert Murdoch—agreed to publish letter ma Morty realize, fally, that his mother was not jt toleratg her gay son.

There was no pot gog if no one knew why she was there; she wanted to rry a first meetg of Parents of Gays was held nearly a year later, on March 11, 1973.

To reach parents directly, the Manfords placed an ad the Village Voice; to reach them directly, through their children, Morty and the lbian activist Barbara Love scend on New York Cy’s gay hangouts wh fifteen hundred signs and leaflets, handma and posssg somethg of the timate, supplint look of lost-pet posters. At the vatn of the Reverend Edward Egan, who was later forced to retirement bee he was gay, the meetg was held at the Metropolan-Duane Uned Methodist Church, the Wt Village. In addn to Jeanne and Jul, Morty and Love were prent to answer qutns that the parents attendance might not be fortable askg their own dghters and the time, most parents of gay or lbian children were a supremely difficult posn.

GAY ILI LGBT TURIZAM: FICIJA, OPCIJE I GLAVNE STACIJE

They were full of qutns, many of them ignorant but all of them scere: about whether their gay son would get more effemate every year; about how their “betiful blon dghter, jt neteen” uld possibly be a lbian. “As parents of gay persons, ” some of the anizatn’s earlit rmatnal material read, “we have learned to regnize our children’s exprsn of love as hont and moral.

Clayton County, that the protectns guaranteed by the 1964 Civil Rights Act on the basis of sex also extend to discrimatn agast lbian, gay, and transgenr Amerins.