Si Guys: Thkg Beyond Gay Male "Tops" and "Bottoms" | Psychology Today

Contents:

• I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’
• GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV
• SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
• GAY
• GAY
• GAY
• MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH

I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’

Pri, formerly known as Gay Pri, is a regnn of LGBTQ inty, affirmatn of equal rights, and celebratn of visibily, digny, and diversy the LGBTQ muny. G: Gay. Why gay or lbian and not “homosexual”?

While the word homosexual is still ocsnally ed some ntexts, you might have noticed that don’t make an appearance any versn of the LGBTQ acronym. As our age note on the term stat, “up until 1973, homosexualy was listed The Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs (DSM), psychiatry’s standard reference on the classifitn of mental illns.

GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

People aware of this former tegorizatn feel that the term homosexual still rri a negative nnotatn. ” In fact, the term homosexual was liberately rejected by early gay rights activists bee, acrdg to The New York Tim, “they did not want to be intified as exclively sexual begs. For the and other reasons, the term homosexual is wily nsired disparagg and offensive.

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

Instead, the terms gay and lbian are generally preferred. Gay, on the other hand, n be ed to scribe a person of any genr who experienc same-sex attractn, although is most often ed to scribe a man who is attracted to men. The days, the term homosexual is typilly limed to medil ntexts, if ed at all.

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On June 28, 1969, the New York Cy police raid the Stonewall Inn, a bar equented by gay and genr-nonnformg people (at a time when terms like LGBTQ didn’t yet exist). They attempted to arrt the gay and trans bar patrons, which started a seri of protts agast the police.

Partially rponse to Stonewall, 1970, queer activists New York Cy anized a march to Central Park wh the theme “Gay Pri. Trans activist Slyvia Rivera particular advoted for the more forceful slogan “Gay power.

The term queer, like the term homosexual, has a b of a troubled history. However, unlike homosexual, has been wily reappropriated by the LGBTQ muny as a label. Queer lerally means “strange or odd om a nventnal viewpot, ” and by at least by the late 1800s, queer was ployed as a rogatory term for an effemate or gay man.

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In 1990, this effort foced on queer as a llective term for gay and lbian people. Queer was seen as a way to refer to gays and lbians whout beg genr-sentialist or g divisns wh the muny.

We have already touched on the terms gay and lbian. homoromantic: a person who is romantilly attracted to people of the same sex or genr.

The gay male datg app, Grdr, recently add the sexual preference I created beyond jt top, bottom, and vers when to gay men engagg terurse: "si.

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That’s what happened 2013 when, an article I wrote for the Huffgton Post, “Guys on the Si, ” I created the term “si” for gay men who aren’t to beg a “top” or a “bottom” or practicg anal peratn.

MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH

Bee up until that time the gay muny, havg “real sex” was only about peratn.

And most gay male circl, this is still the se. The term “Si” was created when 2010, I was talkg wh some lleagu about “tops” (gay men who prefer the sertive role durg peratn) and “bottoms” (gay men who prefer the receptive role durg peratn) and outed myself for beg a gay man who don’t engage anal terurse at all.

Beg a “top, ” “bottom, ” or “vers” (short for "versatile, " or someone who uld go eher way) were the only acceptable mols the gay muny, and I felt dissed for not ftg to the mold. About a year and a half ago I formed a Facebook group lled “Si Guys” and some of the guys the group started a petn to Grdr, the gay datg app, to add “si” to their list of preferred posns and filters.