Denstctg the "Sassy Gay Friend" | Jewish Women's Archive

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• WHAT TO KNOW ABOUT A SEEMGLY FAKE DOCUMENT A GAY RIGHTS CASE
• WHO IS JOSEPH ZIEGLER, THE GAY IRS WHISTLEBLOWER HUNTER BIN PROBE?
• CONFSNS OF A "SASSY GAY" STYLIST: I'M TIRED OF STROKG STRAIGHT WOMEN'S EGOS FOR MIMUM WAGE"I’M THE ONE-DIMENSNAL PAL THEY’VE SEEN ON TV, ONLY REAL AND THE FLH."{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY STEFON SASSERFEBARY 25, 2019/12:06 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:4912PX;WIDTH:7360PX;}GETTY IMAGPORTRA OF TRENDY STYLISH STYLIST GLASS, HOLDG HAND LIKE GAY LOOKG AT MERA ISOLATED ON GREY BACKGROUND, HAVG SRF AROUND NECKBY STEFON SASSERFEBARY 25, 2019 / 12:06 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"CONFSNS OF A \"SASSY GAY\" STYLIST: I'M TIRED OF STROKG STRAIGHT WOMEN'S EGOS FOR MIMUM WAGE","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2019-02-25T17:06:03.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2019-02-25T17:06:03.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"STEFON SASSER","KEYWORDS":"OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS WE APPROACH THE THIRD MONTH OF 2019, I FD MYSELF STUCK THE UTTERLY MORN PREDIMENT OF BEG THE TOKEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DPE KNOWG NEXT TO NOTHG ABOUT FASHN, I WORK AT A POPULAR RETAIL CHA. THE SHOP IS A LIBERAL METROPOLAN AREA, WHICH MEANS PEOPLE ARE MORE THAN OKAY WH ME BEG A VISIBLY QUEER MAN. MY LIMP WRISTS, GDY EARRGS, AND GLTERY NAIL POLISH AREN'T TERRENTS TO THE LARGELY HETEROSEXUAL CTOMER BASE. IF ANYTHG, MY APPEARANCE ATTRACTS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WORKG RETAIL MEANS HAVG PEOPLE ASK ME ABOUT CLOTH ALL THE TIME: “WHAT’S THIS BRAND?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“IS THIS A MORN-LOOKG DRS?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“DO THIS LOOK BORG?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THANKFULLY, I N HI MY LACK OF SARTORIAL KNOWLEDGE BEHD THE SASSY GAY PERSONA THAT OTHER GAYS HAVE ADOPTED FOR YEARS. WHEN I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY, I JT SUPPLY A STEREOTYPIL GAY QUIP. A STANDARD, “YOU LOOK FIERCE!” A HIGH VOICE OR WH LOTS OF VOL-Y TENDS TO SILENCE ANY DOUBTS A CTOMER MIGHT HAVE ABOUT A PURCHASE—PECIALLY IF THAT CTOMER IS A WOMAN, AND EVEN MORE SO IF SHE’S A WOMAN ABOVE THE AGE OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CLTON KELLY TLC'S WHAT NOT TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’VE BEEN PREPPED MY WHOLE LIFE TO BE A SASSY GAY STYLIST. I GREW UP REGULARLY WATCHG TLC’S WHAT NOT TO WEAR WH MY MOTHER AND SISTER, SOAKG UP CLTON KELLY’S WORDS AND SASSY, YET REFED MEANOR. MY MOM DIDN’T LIKE THE ROWDY ST OF QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT GUY AS MUCH, BUT WE WOULD STILL TCH RANDOM EPISOS WHEN CHANNEL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS A JUNR HIGH SCHOOL, I WATCHED THE VIRAL SASSY GAY FRIEND VIOS AND WNSED HOW MUCH VERBAL ABE WOMEN WOULD TAKE IF OM A IEND WH AN EFFEMATE VOICE. THERE WAS THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA ON E!’S FASHN POLICE; THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA MY FAVORE ACTN MOVIE RH HOUR 2; THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA DAMIAN (DANIEL FRANZE) OF MEAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE ROLE OF SASSY GAY AND SUBSERVIENT STORE CLERK GO HAND HAND. THE SASSY GAY IS A IEND! HE ONLY WANTS THE BT FOR YOU. HE’LL TELL YOU THE SASSY GAY TTH YOUR REAL IENDS (WHATEVER THEIR GENR OR ORIENTATN) ARE TOO SRED TO SAY. HE LOOKS GREAT AND WILL HELP YOU LOOK GREAT AS WELL! INSTEAD OF BEG A FULLY PRENT, ROUND HUMAN, HE’S ONLY THERE TO HELP YOU, THE FAHFUL CTOMER! THIS IS THE APPROACHABLE VERSN OF QUEERNS THAT ANY RETAIL EMPLOYER WANTS: A PERKY WORKER WHO CHARMS ANY CTOMER TO G {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE SASSY GAY IS A NTERED, G-RATED, STORE-IENDLY VERSN OF HIMSELF WH NO WANTS OF HIS OWN, SEXUAL OR OTHERWISE. LIKE THE FAIRY GODMOTHER WHO SHOWS UP FOR THE MAKEOVER AND DISAPPEARS AS SOON AS CRELLA HEADS OFF TO THE BALL, HIS SOLE PURPOSE IS TO PROP UP THE MA CHARACTER. HIS OWN MOTIVATN REMAS UNEXPLAED, UNIMPORTANT TO THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT’S THE MA WAY GAY MEN HAVE BEEN VISIBLE THE PUBLIC EYE: SNAPPY DRSERS WH SURFACE-LEVEL FLUENCE. THE OTHER PARTS OF GAYNS (FUCKG OTHER MEN, SOCIAL AND POLIL EQUALY, ETC.) ARE TOO APPROPRIATE TO TALK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}JANIS IAN (LIZZY CAPLAN) TRODUCG DAMIAN (DANIEL FRANZE) MEAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOCIETY TELLS TO BE GAY, BUT NOT TOO GAY. DON’T BE MSY. HISTORILLY, THE ALTERNATIVE TO BEG THE SASSY GAY IEND WAS BEG ABSENT, VISIBLE—RCED TO NOTHG. THE WORLD TELLS THAT PLAYG TO THE STEREOTYPE IS THE ONLY WAY WE N BE SEEN, HEARD, AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS THE SASSY GAY AT WORK, FAGGG UP KEEPS EASY AND SURFACE LEVEL. I NEVER HAVE TO SAY ANYTHG MEANGFUL OR HEARTFELT. ALL I HAVE TO DO IS ASK THEM ABOUT THEIR DAY AND THEN PICK A SGLE ASPECT OF TO SERT TO SASSY GAY MADLIBS: “COME TH, ___!” OR “WE LOVE ___!” WORKS JT FE. “C’MON, MISS ___!” GETS A LGH AND A SE EVERY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}REPEAT THE L OF EVERY GAY DURG A MAKEOVER MONTAGE, AND YOU’RE GOOD TO GO. IT’S THE VOICE AND VERNACULAR OF IENDLY THORY, THOSE GAYS ON TV. “I KNOW YOU’LL TELL ME THE TTH,” THEY WHISPER TO ME WH A GLIMMER THEIR EYE, NOT KNOWG I’VE LIED TO THEM ABOUT ALL OF THEIR CLOTH AND N’T WA FOR THEM TO GET OUT OF MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS EFFECT IS HEIGHTENED THE MORE EFFEMATE MY APPEARANCE IS. WHEN CTOMERS LIKE WHAT YOU’RE WEARG, THEY RPECT YOUR THORY MORE. BIG, GLTERY EARRGS OR A FUN DRS MEANS I’M SHOWERED WH PLIMENTS. THEY’RE THEN MORE AMENABLE WHEN I TELL THEM THEY N’T TRY ON SHO THE FTG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STILL, I N’T SHAKE THE FEELG THAT THEIR “I LOVE YOUR DRS” REALLY MEANS “I LOVE THAT YOU’RE WEARG A DRS AND THAT I, A OL LIBERAL, GET TO ASK YOU FOR ADVICE.” TODAY, A CTOMER EXCLAIMED, “I LOVE YOUR GLTERY NAILS!” AND LERALLY PET MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CARSON KRSLEY OF THE ORIGAL QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GRANTED, I’M NOT UNAWARE OF MY PRIVILEGE. I’M WHE MALE-PRENTG GAY A LIBERAL AREA. I’M SURE IF I WERE MORE GENR NON-NFORMG OR A PERSON OF LOR, I WOULDN’T BE ABLE TO PALIZE ON MY GAYNS SO EASILY. I DREAD G TO WORK EVERY DAY, BUT I RECENTLY WAS AWARD “BT ATTU” AT MY PANY’S HOLIDAY PARTY. I ALSO GOT EMPLOYEE OF THE MONTH WH MY FIRST THREE MONTHS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PLAYG THE ROLE OF THE SASSY GAY MEANS I’VE GOT ALL OF MY WORKERS FOOLED, YET I N'T HELP BUT FEEL LIKE I’M BEG THE FAGGOT URT JTER FOR MIMUM WAGE. I SPEND 30 OR MORE HOURS A WEEK BEG THE PET GAY OF ANYONE WHO WALKS TO THE STORE. I FEIGN HAPPS AND MAKE EVERYONE AROUND ME LGH WH MY CLEVER ASIS WHILE MY HANDS GET VERED HANGER GREASE. LATER, I FD MYSELF SNAPPG AT IENDS, WORN DOWN BY THE STRA OF PLAYG THIS TIRED, OVERLY ACMODATG ROLE ALL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M THE ONE-DIMENSNAL PAL THEY’VE SEEN ON TV, ONLY REAL AND THE FLH. WHEN THEY THK OF SASSY GAYS, I’M RIGHT UP THERE WH CARSON KRSLEY OF QUEER EYE AND CLTON—EXCEPT I’M REAL, AND THEREFORE EVEN MORE DAMNG EVINCE THAT ALL GAY MEN ARE HAPPY AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMETIM, THE MIDDLE OF THE SHIFT, I WONR IF I’LL EVER SRE A JOB OUTSI OF A RETAIL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMETIM, I HONTLY WONR IF ALL I’M GOOD FOR IS PLAYG A RITURE OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
• DENSTCTG THE "SASSY GAY FRIEND"

WHAT TO KNOW ABOUT A SEEMGLY FAKE DOCUMENT A GAY RIGHTS CASE

Somehow, the origal “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” premiered on Bravo two s ago this month, prentg five gay men – each specializg a specific liftyle area – as they scend upon a (ually) heterosexual male subject need of some support, whether was wh clothg choic, groomg, anizatn or perhaps an unrlyg issue around self nfince.

It was a novel take on the makeover ncept, not only terms of beg one of the first monstroly succsful programs the then-nascent realm of realy TV, but also one of the first tl to feature not one – but five – gay people as the leads.

(For ntext, had only been five years sce the s “Ellen” got nceled, shortly after the ma character played by Ellen DeGener me out as gay.

WHO IS JOSEPH ZIEGLER, THE GAY IRS WHISTLEBLOWER HUNTER BIN PROBE?

Krsley agreed, sayg, “We meet people all the time who are probably their thirti now, who say, ‘I me om a very nservative fay, we were very relig, “Gay” was not somethg that was ever spoken about our home, and your show allowed to at least have that nversatn, if not make easier for me to e out. He add that of urse, isn’t only gay people who approach them wh spiratnal msag, and that at the time the origal show aired, the st saw how their visibily as gay people wh a larger straight world was beg received firsthand.

CONFSNS OF A "SASSY GAY" STYLIST: I'M TIRED OF STROKG STRAIGHT WOMEN'S EGOS FOR MIMUM WAGE"I’M THE ONE-DIMENSNAL PAL THEY’VE SEEN ON TV, ONLY REAL AND THE FLH."{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY STEFON SASSERFEBARY 25, 2019/12:06 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:4912PX;WIDTH:7360PX;}GETTY IMAGPORTRA OF TRENDY STYLISH STYLIST GLASS, HOLDG HAND LIKE GAY LOOKG AT MERA ISOLATED ON GREY BACKGROUND, HAVG SRF AROUND NECKBY STEFON SASSERFEBARY 25, 2019 / 12:06 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"CONFSNS OF A \"SASSY GAY\" STYLIST: I'M TIRED OF STROKG STRAIGHT WOMEN'S EGOS FOR MIMUM WAGE","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2019-02-25T17:06:03.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2019-02-25T17:06:03.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"STEFON SASSER","KEYWORDS":"OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS WE APPROACH THE THIRD MONTH OF 2019, I FD MYSELF STUCK THE UTTERLY MORN PREDIMENT OF BEG THE TOKEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DPE KNOWG NEXT TO NOTHG ABOUT FASHN, I WORK AT A POPULAR RETAIL CHA. THE SHOP IS A LIBERAL METROPOLAN AREA, WHICH MEANS PEOPLE ARE MORE THAN OKAY WH ME BEG A VISIBLY QUEER MAN. MY LIMP WRISTS, GDY EARRGS, AND GLTERY NAIL POLISH AREN'T TERRENTS TO THE LARGELY HETEROSEXUAL CTOMER BASE. IF ANYTHG, MY APPEARANCE ATTRACTS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WORKG RETAIL MEANS HAVG PEOPLE ASK ME ABOUT CLOTH ALL THE TIME: “WHAT’S THIS BRAND?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“IS THIS A MORN-LOOKG DRS?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“DO THIS LOOK BORG?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THANKFULLY, I N HI MY LACK OF SARTORIAL KNOWLEDGE BEHD THE SASSY GAY PERSONA THAT OTHER GAYS HAVE ADOPTED FOR YEARS. WHEN I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY, I JT SUPPLY A STEREOTYPIL GAY QUIP. A STANDARD, “YOU LOOK FIERCE!” A HIGH VOICE OR WH LOTS OF VOL-Y TENDS TO SILENCE ANY DOUBTS A CTOMER MIGHT HAVE ABOUT A PURCHASE—PECIALLY IF THAT CTOMER IS A WOMAN, AND EVEN MORE SO IF SHE’S A WOMAN ABOVE THE AGE OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CLTON KELLY TLC'S WHAT NOT TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’VE BEEN PREPPED MY WHOLE LIFE TO BE A SASSY GAY STYLIST. I GREW UP REGULARLY WATCHG TLC’S WHAT NOT TO WEAR WH MY MOTHER AND SISTER, SOAKG UP CLTON KELLY’S WORDS AND SASSY, YET REFED MEANOR. MY MOM DIDN’T LIKE THE ROWDY ST OF QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT GUY AS MUCH, BUT WE WOULD STILL TCH RANDOM EPISOS WHEN CHANNEL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS A JUNR HIGH SCHOOL, I WATCHED THE VIRAL SASSY GAY FRIEND VIOS AND WNSED HOW MUCH VERBAL ABE WOMEN WOULD TAKE IF OM A IEND WH AN EFFEMATE VOICE. THERE WAS THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA ON E!’S FASHN POLICE; THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA MY FAVORE ACTN MOVIE RH HOUR 2; THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA DAMIAN (DANIEL FRANZE) OF MEAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE ROLE OF SASSY GAY AND SUBSERVIENT STORE CLERK GO HAND HAND. THE SASSY GAY IS A IEND! HE ONLY WANTS THE BT FOR YOU. HE’LL TELL YOU THE SASSY GAY TTH YOUR REAL IENDS (WHATEVER THEIR GENR OR ORIENTATN) ARE TOO SRED TO SAY. HE LOOKS GREAT AND WILL HELP YOU LOOK GREAT AS WELL! INSTEAD OF BEG A FULLY PRENT, ROUND HUMAN, HE’S ONLY THERE TO HELP YOU, THE FAHFUL CTOMER! THIS IS THE APPROACHABLE VERSN OF QUEERNS THAT ANY RETAIL EMPLOYER WANTS: A PERKY WORKER WHO CHARMS ANY CTOMER TO G {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE SASSY GAY IS A NTERED, G-RATED, STORE-IENDLY VERSN OF HIMSELF WH NO WANTS OF HIS OWN, SEXUAL OR OTHERWISE. LIKE THE FAIRY GODMOTHER WHO SHOWS UP FOR THE MAKEOVER AND DISAPPEARS AS SOON AS CRELLA HEADS OFF TO THE BALL, HIS SOLE PURPOSE IS TO PROP UP THE MA CHARACTER. HIS OWN MOTIVATN REMAS UNEXPLAED, UNIMPORTANT TO THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT’S THE MA WAY GAY MEN HAVE BEEN VISIBLE THE PUBLIC EYE: SNAPPY DRSERS WH SURFACE-LEVEL FLUENCE. THE OTHER PARTS OF GAYNS (FUCKG OTHER MEN, SOCIAL AND POLIL EQUALY, ETC.) ARE TOO APPROPRIATE TO TALK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}JANIS IAN (LIZZY CAPLAN) TRODUCG DAMIAN (DANIEL FRANZE) MEAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOCIETY TELLS TO BE GAY, BUT NOT TOO GAY. DON’T BE MSY. HISTORILLY, THE ALTERNATIVE TO BEG THE SASSY GAY IEND WAS BEG ABSENT, VISIBLE—RCED TO NOTHG. THE WORLD TELLS THAT PLAYG TO THE STEREOTYPE IS THE ONLY WAY WE N BE SEEN, HEARD, AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS THE SASSY GAY AT WORK, FAGGG UP KEEPS EASY AND SURFACE LEVEL. I NEVER HAVE TO SAY ANYTHG MEANGFUL OR HEARTFELT. ALL I HAVE TO DO IS ASK THEM ABOUT THEIR DAY AND THEN PICK A SGLE ASPECT OF TO SERT TO SASSY GAY MADLIBS: “COME TH, ___!” OR “WE LOVE ___!” WORKS JT FE. “C’MON, MISS ___!” GETS A LGH AND A SE EVERY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}REPEAT THE L OF EVERY GAY DURG A MAKEOVER MONTAGE, AND YOU’RE GOOD TO GO. IT’S THE VOICE AND VERNACULAR OF IENDLY THORY, THOSE GAYS ON TV. “I KNOW YOU’LL TELL ME THE TTH,” THEY WHISPER TO ME WH A GLIMMER THEIR EYE, NOT KNOWG I’VE LIED TO THEM ABOUT ALL OF THEIR CLOTH AND N’T WA FOR THEM TO GET OUT OF MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS EFFECT IS HEIGHTENED THE MORE EFFEMATE MY APPEARANCE IS. WHEN CTOMERS LIKE WHAT YOU’RE WEARG, THEY RPECT YOUR THORY MORE. BIG, GLTERY EARRGS OR A FUN DRS MEANS I’M SHOWERED WH PLIMENTS. THEY’RE THEN MORE AMENABLE WHEN I TELL THEM THEY N’T TRY ON SHO THE FTG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STILL, I N’T SHAKE THE FEELG THAT THEIR “I LOVE YOUR DRS” REALLY MEANS “I LOVE THAT YOU’RE WEARG A DRS AND THAT I, A OL LIBERAL, GET TO ASK YOU FOR ADVICE.” TODAY, A CTOMER EXCLAIMED, “I LOVE YOUR GLTERY NAILS!” AND LERALLY PET MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CARSON KRSLEY OF THE ORIGAL QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GRANTED, I’M NOT UNAWARE OF MY PRIVILEGE. I’M WHE MALE-PRENTG GAY A LIBERAL AREA. I’M SURE IF I WERE MORE GENR NON-NFORMG OR A PERSON OF LOR, I WOULDN’T BE ABLE TO PALIZE ON MY GAYNS SO EASILY. I DREAD G TO WORK EVERY DAY, BUT I RECENTLY WAS AWARD “BT ATTU” AT MY PANY’S HOLIDAY PARTY. I ALSO GOT EMPLOYEE OF THE MONTH WH MY FIRST THREE MONTHS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PLAYG THE ROLE OF THE SASSY GAY MEANS I’VE GOT ALL OF MY WORKERS FOOLED, YET I N'T HELP BUT FEEL LIKE I’M BEG THE FAGGOT URT JTER FOR MIMUM WAGE. I SPEND 30 OR MORE HOURS A WEEK BEG THE PET GAY OF ANYONE WHO WALKS TO THE STORE. I FEIGN HAPPS AND MAKE EVERYONE AROUND ME LGH WH MY CLEVER ASIS WHILE MY HANDS GET VERED HANGER GREASE. LATER, I FD MYSELF SNAPPG AT IENDS, WORN DOWN BY THE STRA OF PLAYG THIS TIRED, OVERLY ACMODATG ROLE ALL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M THE ONE-DIMENSNAL PAL THEY’VE SEEN ON TV, ONLY REAL AND THE FLH. WHEN THEY THK OF SASSY GAYS, I’M RIGHT UP THERE WH CARSON KRSLEY OF QUEER EYE AND CLTON—EXCEPT I’M REAL, AND THEREFORE EVEN MORE DAMNG EVINCE THAT ALL GAY MEN ARE HAPPY AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMETIM, THE MIDDLE OF THE SHIFT, I WONR IF I’LL EVER SRE A JOB OUTSI OF A RETAIL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMETIM, I HONTLY WONR IF ALL I’M GOOD FOR IS PLAYG A RITURE OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

“For many people, we were the first real, live, real life gay people that they actually enuntered, ” Krsley observed. You’re the first gay person I met!

DENSTCTG THE "SASSY GAY FRIEND"

“Of urse you’ve enuntered gay people! And anythg gay the zegeist has the potential to bee policized, then and now.

“And we were a very nocuo group of five gay men helpg a straight guy try to get the job, or the look, or the girl. And for those who cricized the origal seri for rercg stereotyp by havg a gay fashnista or bety expert swoop to tidy thgs up, Colls creds his rint foodie Allen for a memorable moment at the show’s first NBC upont Los Angel back 2003, when he faced a slew of reporters and had the perfect retort.