Gay Men and Straight Men as Friends | Psychology Today

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• STRAIGHTTOBEGAY
• STANLEY TUCCI SAYS HE THKS STRAIGHT ACTORS SHOULD BE ABLE TO PLAY GAY CHARACTERS
• NORTH JERSEY STUNTS NEED GAY-STRAIGHT ALLIANC THEIR HIGH SCHOOLS. THIS IS WHY
• ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?
• KEV SPACEY: I N’T TELL WHETHER MEN ARE GAY JT BY LOOKG AT THEM
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY
• GAY-STRAIGHT/GENRS & SEXUALI ALLIANC
• STANLEY TUCCI IS PRETTY FE WH STRAIGHT ACTORS PLAYG GAY CHARACTERS
• LEGIMACY OF ‘CTOMER’ SUPREME COURT GAY RIGHTS SE RAIS ETHIL AND LEGAL FLAGS
• ‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’
• AM I GAY?
• STRAIGHT TO GAYSUBSCRIBESIGN HOMESTRAIGHT TO GAY PODSTARCHIVEABOUT{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"WEBSE","NAME":"STRAIGHT TO GAY","PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"STRAIGHT TO GAY","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":"},"SAMEAS":["]},"URL":","MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","URL":"},"SCRIPTN":"ACTIVIST AND THOR AMY SISKD SHAR STORI AND LSONS OM HER MISADVENTUR AS A GENERATN X LBIAN. ","POTENTIALACTN":{"@TYPE":"SEARCHACTN","NAME":"SEARCH STRAIGHT TO GAY","TARGET":"SEARCH_TERM_STRG}","QUERY-PUT":"REQUIRED NAME=SEARCH_TERM_STRG"}}ABOUT "STRAIGHT TO GAY"WELE TO MY NEWSLETTERDEC 5, 2021 • AMY SISKD35SHARE THIS POSTABOUT "STRAIGHT TO GAY"COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER2NEWTOPCOMMUNYA NOTE ABOUT THIS SUMMER...GIVEN RECENT EVENTS, THIS SEEMS LIKE A GOOD TIME TO PUT ON A TEMPORARY PSE. THE NEWS OF ROE BEG OVERTURNED IS HEARTBREAKG, AND POSSIBLY A…JUN 27, 2022 • AMY SISKD26SHARE THIS POSTA NOTE ABOUT THIS SUMMER...COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER10#26) A FAY OF CHOICETHE FAL STORY THE SERI ON DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF G OUTJUN 19, 2022 • AMY SISKD8SHARE THIS POST#26) A FAY OF COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER3#25) ORGANIZED RELIGN AND LGBTQ FAIWE NTUE OUR SERI ON DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF G OUTJUN 12, 2022 • AMY SISKD10SHARE THIS POST#25) ORGANIZED RELIGN AND LGBTQ COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER3#24) CTODY THE WILD WT OF WTCHTERNEXT, A SERI OF STORI ON DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF G OUTJUN 5, 2022 • AMY SISKD6SHARE THIS POST#24) CTODY THE WILD WT OF COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER6#23) IS GAY MARRIAGE AT RISK?ARE OBERGEFELL AND OTHER LGBTQ LANDMARK S AT RISK IF ROE IS OVERTURNED?MAY 22, 2022 • AMY SISKD12SHARE THIS POST#23) IS GAY MARRIAGE AT RISK?COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER4#22) TO THE WOMEN WHO SHOW UPAN UNEXPECTED SHOULR:  CELEBRATG A WOMAN HALF MY AGE WHO SHOWED UP A TIME OF NEED.MAY 15, 2022 • AMY SISKD22SHARE THIS POST#22) TO THE WOMEN WHO SHOW COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER2#21) SERENDIPY?AT FIRST I WASN’T SURE WAS REALLY HER, HOW ULD THIS POSSIBLY BE? I LGHED AT THE PUTER SCREEN, NO WAY!—I MEAN, WHAT WERE THE CHANC? THEN I…MAY 8, 2022 • AMY SISKD13SHARE THIS POST#21) SERENDIPY?COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER2SEE ALLSTRAIGHT TO GAYACTIVIST AND THOR AMY SISKD SHAR STORI AND LSONS OM HER MISADVENTUR AS A GENERATN X LBIAN. SUBSCRIBESTRAIGHT TO GAYSUBSCRIBEABOUTARCHIVESEMAPSHARE THIS PUBLITNSTRAIGHT TO COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHERSTRAIGHT TO GAY
• STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• WHAT THE WORLD CAN LEARN FROM GAY-STRAIGHT FRIENDSHIPS
• AM I GAY/LBIAN, BI, ACE/DEMI, STRAIGHT OR PAN? THE LGBTQ QUIZ ?️‍?

STRAIGHTTOBEGAY

So until they fd themselv a siar suatn, they don’t see how n be possible for a straight person to have a sexual experience wh a person of the same sex and not be gay or at least bisexual. “I am always very flattered when gay men e up to me and talk to me about ‘The Devil Wears Prada’ or they talk about ‘Supernova, ’ and they say that, ‘It was jt so betiful, ’ you know, ‘You did the right way, ’” he said.

Straight actors playg gay rol, however, isn’t nsired to be as “brave” recent years as ’s been the past, acrdg to cric Guy Lodge, who told The Guardian a 2021 terview: “The ia of beg ‘brave’ for playg gay is gog away.

STANLEY TUCCI SAYS HE THKS STRAIGHT ACTORS SHOULD BE ABLE TO PLAY GAY CHARACTERS

I’ve appreciated those who said I helped them love readg, of urse, and those who shared how important was to have a safe person and space to be themselv:“In this town, havg a iendly ally around school is super important, and you have helped more gay kids than you realize.

”My heart and memori are full of other ways our GSA spired safety at school:The pta of the football team, outsi my classroom, explag to his teammat that the Day of Silence was not about gay pri but stead protectg those who have been bullied and harassed, sometim to GSA member who got up ont of the staff and explaed the importance of honorg stunts’ stunt who me to me tears bee their parents threatened to throw them out if they tried to intify as stunt who ran to my classroom wh a iend, neher of them GSA members, bee a teacher was g his ad name and he didn’t know what to do, but my stunt, his iend, knew whom to ask for existence of this club, the fact that stunts know there is someone who will always hold safe space for them — every other Monday om 2:15 to 3:15 p. We need everyone to regnize the needs of vulnerable young people to be seen and accepted so they n grow, learn and safety and succs of everyone our school and throughout the muny pends on accs to the rourc and supportg every stunt who needs Signorelli is a teacher Wt Milford Township Public article origally appeared on NJ stunts need accs to gay-straight stunt allianc.

NORTH JERSEY STUNTS NEED GAY-STRAIGHT ALLIANC THEIR HIGH SCHOOLS. THIS IS WHY

Poilievre tells T to 'butt out' of New Bnswick's policy on LGBTQ stuntsPoilievre wish Canadians a happy Pri month — but won't say if he'll attend an eventThe "straight pri" movement has emerged recent years as a backlash agast growg social acceptance of gay, lbian, bisexual, transgenr and other sexually diverse Pri paras are held around the world throughout the summer months. They mark the June 1969 Stonewall rt, when gay bar patrons fought back agast a police crackdown — a pivotal moment wily seen as the start of morn gay rights paras are meant to celebrate a muny that has endured generatns of opprsn and events have taken on new promence at a time when some jurisdictns, notably the U. Osr-wng actor Kev Spacey has said he is attracted to mascule men but is not able to tell whether someone is gay jt by lookg at cross-examatn durg his trial on sex abe charg, the Hollywood star nied he was a “sexual bully” and told the jury he did not have a “power wand” to make people want to sleep wh about his sexual preferenc, Mr Spacey said he had prevly had romantic enunters wh men who would not scribe themselv as homosexual.

Wh theater doors bolted shut for the next…foreeable future, we’re thrilled to see some Broadway talent pop up the pilot episo of Boy•Friends, a new edy based off the My Gay Boyiend web-seri. Worst of all, though, the shame attached to the memori of those first tim marred how I would approach sex for was listeng to Years & Years’ new song “Sanctify, ” and seeg the band’s out gay sger Olly Alexanr talk about how the song was spired his sexual trysts wh straight men, that I realized that the feelgs are way more mon than people let on.

ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?

Sure, I know all about gay guys havg sex wh straight guys, but felt reassurg to see him scribe the “sat and sner role” he embodied durg those experienc, and to hear the uncertaty and melancholy weaved to the than anythg though, was the repeated lyril mantra of “I won’t be ashamed. Rearch specifilly lks the prence of Gay-Straight Allianc or Genrs and Sexuali Allianc (GSAs) to greater feelgs of school nnectedns among Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgenr, and Qutng (LGBTQ) stunts.

The llectn clus Espac Dos (Spa) In the Name of the Father (Brazil), My Straight Boyiend (US), Tth or Consequenc (Brazil), Coffee Date (US), Poprn & Coke (UK), and productn, box office & pany PhotosMore like thisReview Half hearted llectn of gay short filmsThis is by far the poort llectn of gay shorts that I've seen marketed. Yet when the men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight bee for them bisexual, even if is unrstood as “bisexual-leang straight, ” is too gay to accurately scribe their inty. Jt for funI'm spic that I may be gayI've never had a csh on anyone, and am unsure where I lie on the spectm of sexualyWhat would your ial partner be if you two are gog to spend a week on an island?

While there may not be a simple answer, Stanley Tucci—who has played gay rol The Devil Wears Prada and 2020's Supernova (not to mentn Emma Stone’s father who was inilly gay once Easy A)—recently weighed , sayg that he believ ’s perfectly acceptable as long as ’s done “the right way. “I am always very flattered when gay men e up to me and talk to me about The Devil Wears Prada or they talk about Supernova, and they say that, ‘It was jt so betiful, ’ you know, ‘You did the right way. ”While Tucci didn’t elaborate on this particular form of bad-fah actg, ’s pretty easy to assume that he was referrg to the myriad of films which LGBTQ+ people have been rced to harmful, homophobic stereotyp over the years.

KEV SPACEY: I N’T TELL WHETHER MEN ARE GAY JT BY LOOKG AT THEM

Smh — who did not plan to start creatg weddg webs until her se was rolved — would first have to get a requt om a gay uple and refe, triggerg a possible plat agast her, the state ’s lawyers mataed that she didn’t have to be punished for vlatg the law before challengg . So based on the number of gay men the world (nsirg not every gay man lik anal stimulatn) pared to the number of straight men the world, there are probably 10x more straight men who would enjoy anal stimulatn than gay.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. We currently have a survey vtigatn unrway that explor some of the posive out of “bromosexual” iendships, cludg our theory that gay men and straight men n be optimal wg men for one another. Send, recent rearch has argued that genr and sexual orientatn might not be as black and whe as prevly thought, which opens up new avenu for explorg how gay and straight men n relate to one another.

HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY

If a straight guy and his gay male iend are ls rigid about their masculy and sexualy, they’ll probably be more likely to discs tails about their sexual and romantic liv openly wh one another. In short, women are able to tst the datg advice om gay male iends bee they know their gay iends don’t have any ulterr motiv: They’re not tryg to hook up wh them or pete wh them for guys.

GAY-STRAIGHT/GENRS & SEXUALI ALLIANC

Jt as a gay man might be able to pass on advice about women to his straight iend, a straight man uld nnect his gay male iend wh another sirable gay man, sce neher the gay man nor his straight iend are petg for the same person.

STANLEY TUCCI IS PRETTY FE WH STRAIGHT ACTORS PLAYG GAY CHARACTERS

We believe that havg a tstworthy nfidant to help wh romantic pursus is one of the major reasons straight and gay men are leavg the fort of their same-sex, same-orientatn iend groups to form “bromosexual” iendships.

LEGIMACY OF ‘CTOMER’ SUPREME COURT GAY RIGHTS SE RAIS ETHIL AND LEGAL FLAGS

My last post scribed a populatn of mal who nsir themselv heterosexual, do not label themselv gay or bisexual, chew volvement wh the LGBT muny, are often married or romantilly volved wh an oppose-sex partner, and who engage sex wh mal or exprs the sire to do so. Due large part to the popularizatn of the topic the btsellg 2005 book On the Down Low: A Journey to the Liv of 'Straight' Black Men Who Sleep wh Men, [i] Lato and Ain-Amerin men are the primary subjects rearch wh non-gay intified MSM.

One of the earlit studi, "The Bisexual and Non-Gay Attached Rearch Project" om the early 1990s, found that participants engagg same-sex sexual behavr but not intifyg as gay or bisexual scribed themselv as “kky, ” “normal, ” or “jt a guy.

‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’

[iii] Daryl Hood, Garrett Prtage, June Crawford, Tania Sorrell, and Chris O’Reilly, "Report on the BANGAR Project: Bisexual Activy/non Gay Attachment Rearch Targetg Strategi Intifitn Project.

Ramamurthi, Cleo Manago, Serg Ava, and Marv Jon, “Sexual Behavr, Sexual Inty, and Substance Abe Among Low-Ine Bisexual and Non-Gay-Intifyg Ain Amerin Men Who Have Sex wh Men, ” Archiv of Sexual Behavr 37, no.

You so obvly nnot be gay, was her implitn, bee this is good was 2006, a full five years before Lady Gaga would set the Born This Way argument atop s unassailable cultural perch, but even then the popular unrstandg of orientatn was that was somethg you were born wh, somethg you uldn’t change. But what feels most accurate to say is that I’m gay – but I wasn’t born this people may fd their sir changg directn - and n't jt be explaed as experimentatn (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)In 1977, jt over 10% of Amerins thought gayns was somethg you were born wh, acrdg to Gallup. Throughout the same perd, the number of Amerins who believe homosexualy is “due to someone’s upbrgg/environment” fell om jt unr 60% to ias reached cril mass pop culture, first wh Lady Gaga’s 2011 Born This Way and one year later wh Macklemore’s Same Love, the chos of which has a gay person sgg “I n’t change even if I tried, even if I wanted to.

AM I GAY?

” Around the same time, the Human Rights Campaign clared unequivolly that “Beg gay is not a choice, ” and to claim that is “giv unwarranted crence to roundly disproven practic such as nversn or reparative therapy. ”People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backwardAs Jane Ward not Not Gay: Sex Between Straight Whe Men, what’s tertg about many of the claims is how transparent their speakers are wh their polil motivatns.

“Such statements, ” she wr, “fe blogil acunts wh an obligatory and nearly ercive force, suggtg that anyone who scrib homosexual sire as a choice or social nstctn is playg to the hands of the enemy. ” People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backward – even if they are themselv, for example, Cynthia Nixon of Sex and The Cy fame. ”Gay rights do not have to hge on a geic explanatn for sexualy (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)For Aravosis, and many gay activists like him, the public will only accept and affirm gay people if they thk they were born gay.

In fact, the homophobic and non-homophobic rponnts he studied shared siar levels of belief a Born This Way Samantha Allen not at The Daily Beast, the growg public support for gays and lbians has grown out of proportn wh the rise the number of people who believe homosexualy is fixed at birth; would be unlikely that this small change opn uld expla the spike support for gay marriage, for stance.

STRAIGHT TO GAYSUBSCRIBESIGN HOMESTRAIGHT TO GAY PODSTARCHIVEABOUT{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"WEBSE","NAME":"STRAIGHT TO GAY","PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"STRAIGHT TO GAY","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":"},"SAMEAS":["]},"URL":","MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","URL":"},"SCRIPTN":"ACTIVIST AND THOR AMY SISKD SHAR STORI AND LSONS OM HER MISADVENTUR AS A GENERATN X LBIAN. ","POTENTIALACTN":{"@TYPE":"SEARCHACTN","NAME":"SEARCH STRAIGHT TO GAY","TARGET":"SEARCH_TERM_STRG}","QUERY-PUT":"REQUIRED NAME=SEARCH_TERM_STRG"}}ABOUT "STRAIGHT TO GAY"WELE TO MY NEWSLETTERDEC 5, 2021 • AMY SISKD35SHARE THIS POSTABOUT "STRAIGHT TO GAY"COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER2NEWTOPCOMMUNYA NOTE ABOUT THIS SUMMER...GIVEN RECENT EVENTS, THIS SEEMS LIKE A GOOD TIME TO PUT ON A TEMPORARY PSE. THE NEWS OF ROE BEG OVERTURNED IS HEARTBREAKG, AND POSSIBLY A…JUN 27, 2022 • AMY SISKD26SHARE THIS POSTA NOTE ABOUT THIS SUMMER...COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER10#26) A FAY OF CHOICETHE FAL STORY THE SERI ON DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF G OUTJUN 19, 2022 • AMY SISKD8SHARE THIS POST#26) A FAY OF COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER3#25) ORGANIZED RELIGN AND LGBTQ FAIWE NTUE OUR SERI ON DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF G OUTJUN 12, 2022 • AMY SISKD10SHARE THIS POST#25) ORGANIZED RELIGN AND LGBTQ COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER3#24) CTODY THE WILD WT OF WTCHTERNEXT, A SERI OF STORI ON DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF G OUTJUN 5, 2022 • AMY SISKD6SHARE THIS POST#24) CTODY THE WILD WT OF COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER6#23) IS GAY MARRIAGE AT RISK?ARE OBERGEFELL AND OTHER LGBTQ LANDMARK S AT RISK IF ROE IS OVERTURNED?MAY 22, 2022 • AMY SISKD12SHARE THIS POST#23) IS GAY MARRIAGE AT RISK?COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER4#22) TO THE WOMEN WHO SHOW UPAN UNEXPECTED SHOULR:  CELEBRATG A WOMAN HALF MY AGE WHO SHOWED UP A TIME OF NEED.MAY 15, 2022 • AMY SISKD22SHARE THIS POST#22) TO THE WOMEN WHO SHOW COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER2#21) SERENDIPY?AT FIRST I WASN’T SURE WAS REALLY HER, HOW ULD THIS POSSIBLY BE? I LGHED AT THE PUTER SCREEN, NO WAY!—I MEAN, WHAT WERE THE CHANC? THEN I…MAY 8, 2022 • AMY SISKD13SHARE THIS POST#21) SERENDIPY?COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHER2SEE ALLSTRAIGHT TO GAYACTIVIST AND THOR AMY SISKD SHAR STORI AND LSONS OM HER MISADVENTUR AS A GENERATN X LBIAN. SUBSCRIBESTRAIGHT TO GAYSUBSCRIBEABOUTARCHIVESEMAPSHARE THIS PUBLITNSTRAIGHT TO COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHERSTRAIGHT TO GAY

“It don’t seem to matter as much whether or not people believe that gay people are born that way as do that they simply know someone who is currently gay, ” Allen spe of the studi, those who ph agast Born This Way narrativ have been heavily cricised by gay activists.

STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS

Siarly, Ward has received her own hatemail for phg agast the lg LGB narrativ, wh some gays tellg her she’s “worse than Ann Coulter, ” the ntroversial US thor of books like If Democrats Had Any Bras, They’d Be Republins. And when I published my say on choosg to be gay, an irate Amerin lbian activist wrote me that had “jt been nfirmed” to her that my wrg was “directly rponsible for four gay aths Rsia.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

There is a unanimo opn that gay “nversn therapy” should be rejectedLet’s first be clear that whatever the origs of our sexual orientatn, there is a unanimo opn that gay “nversn therapy” should be rejected. The efforts are potentially harmful, acrdg to the APA, “bee they prent the view that the sexual orientatn of lbian, gay and bisexual youth is a mental illns of disorr, and they often ame the abily to change one’s sexual orientatn as a personal and moral failure.

WHAT THE WORLD CAN LEARN FROM GAY-STRAIGHT FRIENDSHIPS

The APA, for example, while notg that most people experience ltle to no choice over their orientatns, says this of homosexualy’s origs:“Although much rearch has examed the possible geic, hormonal, velopmental, social and cultural fluenc on sexual orientatn, no fdgs have emerged that perm scientists to nclu that sexual orientatn is termed by any particular factor or factors. ”Siarly, the Amerin Psychiatric Associatn wr a 2013 statement that while the of heterosexualy and homosexualy are currently unknown, they are likely “multifactorial cludg blogil and behavral roots which may vary between different dividuals and may even vary over time.

” Acrdg to LeVay’s rearch, a specific part of the bra, the third terstial nucls of the anterr hypothalam (INAH-3), is smaller homosexual men than is heterosexual as they might, scientists have stggled to inty any particular gen that nsistently predict the directns of our love and sire (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)Read moreYou n spot the problem wh this study a e away: were the gay bras LeVay studied born that way, or did they bee that way? Bis the dividual criqu leveled agast each new study announcg some gay gene disvery, there are major methodologil cricisms to make about the entire enterprise general, as Grzanka pots out: “If we look at the raveno pursu, particularly among Amerin scientists, to fd a gay gene, what we see is that the ncln has already been arrived at.

AM I GAY/LBIAN, BI, ACE/DEMI, STRAIGHT OR PAN? THE LGBTQ QUIZ ?️‍?

”The other problem wh Born This Way science is summed up nicely by Simon Copland: “Scientists are askg whether homosexualy is natural when we n’t even agree exactly what homosexualy is.

” Our sir may exprs themselv many different ways that do not all nform to existg notns of ‘gay’, ‘straight’ or ‘bisexual’ is one of the bt takeaways of Ward’s Not Gay, a peratg analysis of sex between straight whe men. ”Gay or not, our sir are oriented and re-oriented throughout our liv (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)In fact, the straight-intified men Ward studied for her book sometim found themselv suatns that sparked the sire for homosexual sex: aterni, ployments, public rtrooms, etc.

I’m claimg that at some pot durg llege, my sexual and romantic sir beme reoriented toward menThkg back to my llege romanc wh women and men, I n beg to unrstand how my own experienc might have helped me to ‘cultivate’ my sire for homosexualy. I want to be very clear: I’m not claimg I simply began to ‘grow to’ my homosexualy, or that as I beme more fortable wh beg gay, I allowed myself the eedom to exprs what had always been latent wh me. “Limg our unrstandg of any plex human experience is always gog to be worse than allowg to be plited, ” he gay rights activists pared sexualy to relign - a ccial part of our life that we should be ee to practise however we like (Cred: Ignac Lehamann)So what are we to do wh the Born This Way rhetoric?