'I'm a homophobe and my son is gay': Dad's emotnal nfsn

Contents:

• ‘I’M A HOMOPHOBE AND MY SON IS GAY’: DAD’S EMOTNAL REDD NFSN
• ANGRY___GAY
• DAD ACCINTALLY FDS OUT HIS SON IS GAY, ASKS REDD FOR HELP
• GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
• DAD ACCINTALLY DISVERS HIS TEENAGE SON IS GAY, CONSULTS REDD ON HOW TO RPOND
• JAGUARS NFL ACH OUT AS GAY US SPORTS FIRST

‘I’M A HOMOPHOBE AND MY SON IS GAY’: DAD’S EMOTNAL REDD NFSN

Guys, beg gay mak her more angry! The father admted to many acts “I’m a homophobe and my son is gay” (Pexels and Redd).

A father who says he was a “textbook homophobe” has repented after bullyg his gay son “every day of his life” for 20 years.

ANGRY___GAY

In a Redd post tled “I’m a homophobe and my son is gay, ” the anonymo parent nfsed to tryg to throw his child out of the hoe after he found out he was gay. The anonymo poster, who grew up Boston before jog the US Mare Corps and the police force, also admted to llg his son “a Nancy” for not wantg to fire his guns, and to tryg to make the theatre-lovg kid “act ls gay.

The father told the LGBT subredd that he had “hated gay people for as long as I n really remember and I hontly don’t know why, ” and that when he disvered he had a gay son, he “flipped out, said disgtg thgs to him, s**t that keeps me up at night. The dad told Redd he had discrimated agast other gay people var terrible ways, admtg that he “ed to throw rocks at gays” and that he had “tried to get someone kicked out of the Corps bee I thought he was gay. “I don’t know how I n ever five myself for all the liv I ma a livg hell high school, ” he add, before nfsg that when he was a police officer and pulled someone over who he thought was gay, he “would give them a ticket for anythg I uld thk of.

The ‘textbook homophobe’ stops hatg. The father said he didn’t know why he stopped beg a homophobe, rellg that “one day I woke up and I was changed. How my sual homophobia ma him feel unloved and ma him thk about suici when he was 13 years old.

DAD ACCINTALLY FDS OUT HIS SON IS GAY, ASKS REDD FOR HELP

angry___gay. u/angry___gay. Everyone I know personally like IRL has gotten a relatnship, gay and straight, ually by around 2 months.

Media Platforms Dign TeamA sgle dad accintally stumbled on his 13-year-old son's Google search history and noticed, to his surprise, that his son had been lookg up thgs like "I'm gay, what now? "He has seemed slightly down recently, as , he isn't as cheerful as he once was, and I sperately want to tell him that I love him regardls of which sexualy he is, " he "askgaybros" redd muny happily guid him. "Google 'how to tell my son I will love and support him no matter what' and leave his search history, " suggted one From RedbookAnother said that the dad should let his son "e to you wh this, " but the meantime said that the father should start discretely ditg that he was pro-gay rights by "makg a posive remark when gay marriage is discsed on TV, plimentg a show for their clivens of LGBT characters, etc.

GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET

"Armed wh sound suggtns, here's what the father an update posted to Redd a few days later, he explaed that he "started off wh talkg about general media wh [his son], " like "how awome was that Tim Cook (CEO of Apple) me out as beg gay...

"Later that eveng, after a few moments of silence, his son fally said, "I'm gay. But even though the nversatns that muted this lumn for six weeks are nowhere close to beg over, I do feel like some thgs that me up durg that time of ntemplatn are worth sayg now — particularly to my fellow whe gay cis out more stori on LGBTQ+ ins and activistsHowever, the ghost of Larry Kramer very much remaed my own head as I ma my way through a Pri month unlike any other.

I spent a few quiet afternoons readg his 1978 but novel Faggots, a satiril (yet clearly tobgraphil) look at the liv of gay men 1970s New York Cy that he wrote jt before AIDS ma him a figurehead of Amerin activism. Followg a man his late 30s (based on Kramer himself) who is seekg out a lovg, long-term relatnship a sea of hedonism, the novel has a clear msage: gay men need to start lovg each other stead of beg so obssed wh gettg fucked up and (lerally and figuratively) fuckg each other.

DAD ACCINTALLY DISVERS HIS TEENAGE SON IS GAY, CONSULTS REDD ON HOW TO RPOND

- Larry Kramer his but novelUpon publitn, Faggots was dismissed by many as puranil and self-loathg for s cricism of gay men's obssn wh vany, promiscuy and recreatnal dg e.

And while, on one level, the book is a wild (if at tim problematic) wdow to an era of gay culture 40 years the past, also felt like had a lot to say about gay culture today. What even do mean to say "gay culture"? In mastream gay media, the phrase almost always refers to a fairly specific subset of the LGBTQ "muny" largely ma up of whe gay cis men — even though many of the battl won around queer rights were fought by people of lour, trans and genr-nonnformg folks, and queer women, and fact the morn Pri movement self was large part iated by Black trans women.

If an imprsn of a monolhic "gay culture" fed by such a homogeneo mographic exists, is bee whe gay cis men have until very recently domated mastream reprentatn unr the LGBTQ umbrella and have, general, been hand a level of privilege the last that is wildly disproportnate to any other mographic unr said umbrella.

JAGUARS NFL ACH OUT AS GAY US SPORTS FIRST

(Prophetilly enough, Fire Island is where the climax of Faggots — Kramer's exriatn of "gay culture" — tak place. The panmic sentially shut down all of social gay culture, relievg me of prsur to participate .

Gay bars were shuttered and, unls you were beg a horribly irrponsible person, Grdr was no more. When was the last time I actually had a good time at gay bar full of people I have fely spoken to on social media or apps but who act like I'm pletely sane when I se or say hello person? In analyzg the show's pictn of young gay men livg San Francis, wrer Daniel Wenger diagnos what he terms the "new gay sadns": an entire generatn of urban, privileged gay men who seem to have no clue what they're lookg for or who they are.

Largely born the 1980s, they are the earlit wave of a "post-Stonewall, post-plague, post-activist" generatn of gays — "too old to have brought a boy to the prom and too young to have nursed a fantasy of nng away to an urban gay utopia, " Wenger explas. "Gay culture" should learn the same lson: "back to normal" is not enough. Queeri5 pneerg LGBTQ Canadian films you n watch for ee right nowI've seen many of my fellow whe gay cis men seemgly rise to the ocsn by retweetg Black and Indigeno voic, gog to ralli and vowg to te themselv on how to tly be anti-racist (though how performative that is some s is unclear).