Gay "Sis": How Language Fre Us to be Ourselv | Psychology Today

Contents:

• GAY SLANG 101
• I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’
• GAY
• SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
• GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

GAY SLANG 101

The gay datg app Grdr n seem like a mefield wh s extensive e of slang – here’s what terms like GEN, NPNC and si is the most popular LGBTQ datg app the world and a cemented part of gay culture. SiThe word “si” the ntext of Grdr, and gay culture more generally, refers to someone’s sexual preference. Acrdg to Urban Dictnary, a si is “a homosexual male who do not enjoy anal peratn (givg or receivg), but will engage other forms of same sex activy.

A third add: “Personally I’m not crazy about the term ‘si’ (sounds to me like someone lyg there, dog not much) but ’s good that Grdr acknowledg that there’s more to gay sex than anal. Although Lbian, Gay, Bi, Trans, and Queer (LGBTQ+) people have been around for lennia, the evolutn of language means that those wh the muny ntue to fd more clive and accurate terms to bt scribe themselv, as Stonewall’s ever-evolvg glossary of terms prov. Aromantic people are also the ace tegory and, siarly to asexual people, may intify as gay, lbian, heterosexual, or queer to fe the directn of their attractn to others.

”Gay: The word “gay” is generally ed to scribe someone who is sexually or romantilly attracted to people of the same genr. Homosexual: This antiquated term was ed historilly to refer to people who were attracted to people of the same genr, but ’s rarely ed today. “Homosexual” n also be found antiquated medil ntexts that nsir same-sex attractn to be a medilly dangero ndn.

I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’

” Beg trans or transgenr is unnnected to sexual orientatn, so a trans person may intify as gay, straight, lbian, or whatever is right for them the same way a cisgenr person would. Transsexual: Like “homosexual, ” “transsexual” is largely an outdated, historil term ed to refer to someone whose genr is different om what they were assigned at birth.

Only sce the begng of the 20th century has queer been ed to refer to people who intify as gay or lbian. GLAAD prefers that we don’t e the term homosexual bee ’s “aggrsively ed by anti-gay extremists to suggt that gay people are somehow diseased or psychologilly/emotnally disorred.

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Bee suggts that beg lbian, gay, bisexual, or of another sexual orientatn is a choice and the person n be “cured. It’s OK to scribe someone you know who publicly self-intifi as gay, lbian, bisexual, or another sexual orientatn as out.

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

But, people who are gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr also re about a wi variety of other polil, social, and cultural issu. It’s sometim ed as a disparagg way to scribe the recment of heterosexuals to a homosexual liftyle. Often ed to refer to asexual people  a siar manner as “gay” or “straight” are ed to refer to homosexual or heterosexual people.

Ally: A person who supports and rpects sexual diversy, acts acrdgly to challenge homophobic and heterosexist remarks and behavrs, and is willg to explore and unrstand the forms of bias wh themselv. An umbrella term that refers to members of a subculture the gay and bisexual male muni and is often fed as more of an attu or sense of fort wh natural masculy and bodi.

GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

Bicur: An dividual who typilly intifi as gay or straight while showg some cursy for a relatnship or sexual activy wh a person of the genr they do not favor.

Fluid: A sexual or genr inty that exists beyond a bary system of eher gay or straight, man or woman.