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Contents:

• ‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
• 50 GAY DADS WH CHILD STOCK ILLTRATNS AND CLIPART
• SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’
• UK'S FIRST GAY DADS' TRIPLETS TO MAKE HISTORY WH 3 PARENTS ON BIRTH CERTIFIT
• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• REPORT REVEALS HOW TWO GAY MEN ALLEGEDLY VICTIMIZED THEIR ADOPTED SONS FOR YEARS
• FOR GAY MEN, HAVG A BLOGIL CHILD N BE PLITED
• WHAT DO CHILDREN LL THEIR GAY PARENTS?
• VIDEO: HAPPY FATHER’S DAY! DADS WH THEIR GAY CHILDREN
• THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
• GAY PARENTS RAISG KIDS: HOW WILL THEY FARE?
• THE STORY BEHD THE INIC PHOTO OF GAY DADS KISSG
• 33 FAMO GAY DADS FOR FATHER'S DAY
• MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI
• GAY PARENTG: 'S PLITED

‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD

Celebri like Anrson Cooper have helped normalize the ia of gay men raisg children, and no longer feels revelatory to see them on televisn, as did when “Morn Fay” premiered mon, Mr.

It’s an unrstandable impulse, which he attribut to a sire among gay parents to feel “normal” after havg their pabili as parents ntually lled to qutn. Heynen said, but rather a celebratn of the day-to-day liv of gay Jt for the YoungCly Rose, 61, and Ryan, 12Cly Rose, who liv Manhattan, was first photographed for “Dads” three years ago after meetg Mr.

50 GAY DADS WH CHILD STOCK ILLTRATNS AND CLIPART

Heynen “a lot of cred” for cludg a father like him — a sgle dad his 60s — sce he said there is often a lack of reprentatn of olr gay people art and media, which tends to foc on young, f men.

Our Missn: To spire, rm and gui gay, bi and trans men throughout their journey of fay buildg, and then to support the dads to live their bt thentic liv while navigatg fatherhood. In fact, gay sgle dads are part of a growg movement that has seen a signifint surge of tert the last few years, as noted by the New York get a more plete picture of the joys of fatherhood, Yahoo Life spoke to four sgle gay dads who prove that love is what tly mak a fay.

”Fzpatrick, whose father, a gay Black man, was killed senselsly by gun vlence the parkg lot of a gay bar when Fzpatrick was 18, says that fatherhood gave him unique opportuni to turn his paful past to purpose through the love of his dghter.

SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’

”“I was gog through that empts of growg olr as a gay man and not havg a signifint other and not havg the life I once lived, and not unrstandg where I was gog, ” he ntu. Father of six Barrie Drewt-Barlow is havg triplets wh his new fiancé Stt Hutchson and his ex hband Tony wh the pair spendg £1ln on their IVF fayThe fay uld soon make history wh three parents listed on the birth certifitBra's first gay dads are set to wele triplets after a £1ln journey to plete their IVF fay. But perhaps the most important rearch fdg is that gay dads and their dghters have closer relatnships when dads tell the tth—and the dads are ls clilly prsed than dads who hi this important rmatn om their children (Tornello, 2018).

UK'S FIRST GAY DADS' TRIPLETS TO MAKE HISTORY WH 3 PARENTS ON BIRTH CERTIFIT

So if you as a dghter or as a gay dad are still tiptoeg around the topic, ’s time to give yourselv a gift by gettg this skeleton out of the closet.

When our son was an fant, I worried that some people would thk that I won somethg by gettg the tle, or even that the name impli that I’m geilly related to our gay dads have pulled through stggl and self-reckongs to plant ourselv parentg and should have the kship nam we want. A months-long vtigatn has found that the horrific story of a gay uple allegedly sexually abg their two adopted sons may be even worse than origally reported as now appears the young children may have been victims of a pedophile rg.

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

The procs tak about two years and sts around $200, 000 per child - and prospective gay fathers don't meet eligibily creria for most health surance plans' fertily benefs, although this is begng to change.

Brent Monsr, MD, recently helped lead a study to document tails of how gay men e assisted reproductive technology to build their fai, cludg qutns such as how many children they wish to have and how often their efforts succeed.

REPORT REVEALS HOW TWO GAY MEN ALLEGEDLY VICTIMIZED THEIR ADOPTED SONS FOR YEARS

Cisgenr gay men are almost never clud this rearch, so as physicians we don't know anythg about their characteristics as reproductive health patients, even basic rmatn such as their mographics, clil cisn-makg patterns or out. It's important to keep md that our data reflect the experienc of dividuals who n afford reproductive medil re bee their employer-sponsored fertily benefs ver , and that is still an unual suatn for gay men. This data served as the foundatn for a grant applitn we've jt had approved to nduct a much larger populatn study that will give accs to rmatn on about 2, 000 embryo transfers annually gay men.

FOR GAY MEN, HAVG A BLOGIL CHILD N BE PLITED

A lot of people see a fertily doctor bee they have an unrlyg medil issue, whereas gay male upl ually have two possible sperm sourc, a young egg donor and a gtatnal rrier who has already had succsful pregnanci.

WHAT DO CHILDREN LL THEIR GAY PARENTS?

We regnize that this may be bee a lot of gay men requt tws or may ultimately want two children, and fertily doctors may be transferrg two embryos to try to save their patients money so they only have to go through the fertily treatment procs once.

I'm currently a fellow, and I have patients g specifilly to see me, not bee I'm the most amazg doctor but bee I'm gay, and they want a gay doctor. It's certaly ls nfg than the choice of lbian uple Nic and Jul the film The Kids are All Right: they are both "Mom" to their kids ll gay parents is a relatively new qutn. And although lbians are far more likely to have children eher om prev (heterosexual) relatnships as well as together (g a sperm donor), gay dads are still que rare.

VIDEO: HAPPY FATHER’S DAY! DADS WH THEIR GAY CHILDREN

I ask Barrie Drewt-Barlow, Bra's most famo gay dad, who wh his partner Tony has five children rangg age om one to 11, how they approached the issue.

THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

BACKGROUND:Gay men have bee fathers the ntext of a heterosexual relatnship, by adoptn, by donatg sperm to 1 or 2 lbian women and subsequently sharg parentg rponsibili, and/or by engagg the servic of a surrogate pregnancy rrier. The 2013 US Supreme Court’s legalizatn of full rights to marriage for same-genr partners provid full legimacy to fai created by lbian and gay upl and regnized that their children would be beneficiari of the sanctned legal stat of their parents.

Social science rearch has documented the well-beg of children raised by same-genr parents, 1, 2 and many profsnal associatns that addrs parentg have endorsed nfince and optimism about gay or lbian parents raisg children, cludg the Amerin Amy of Pediatrics, Amic Pediatric Associatn, Amerin Medil Associatn, and Amerin Amy of Child and Adolcent Psychiatry.

GAY PARENTS RAISG KIDS: HOW WILL THEY FARE?

As a rult of the velopments, over half of gay teenagers expect to bee fathers, 4, 5 and their possible pathways to parenthood have expand enormoly.

THE STORY BEHD THE INIC PHOTO OF GAY DADS KISSG

6 Prevly, most gay men beme fathers the ntext of a heterosexual marriage; some knew that they were gay and saw marriage as the only route to parenthood; others regnized and acknowledged their homosexualy later. 9, –11 More recently, new reproductive technologi have allowed gay men to provi sperm to a woman who would rry a pregnancy for them, a surrogate rrier. Th, gay fathers have risen numbers and visibily over the last , challengg assumptns that embracg a gay inty meant fog the possibily of parenthood.

Neverthels, gay men report spicn and cricism for their cisn to be parents om gay iends who have not chosen parenthood, barriers the adoptn procs, and isolatn their parental role.

16 Gay fathers have to ntend wh the still-prevalent belief that children need a mother to thrive and stereotyp associated wh gay men as ivolo, unstable, and unf parents.

33 FAMO GAY DADS FOR FATHER'S DAY

15 A recent study revealed that although gay fathers did not differ om heterosexual fathers the strength and qualy of their relatnships, feelgs of rejectn and havg to jtify themselv as parents affected fathers’ feelgs of petence as parents.

Our objective this study was to disver whether gay men ntue to enunter barriers beg fathers and stigma var ntexts and to exame associatns between the experienc and legal and social stctur that surround the fai. mographic rmatn about the rponnt and his children;the method(s) by which the child(ren) joed the fay;whether the rponnt had faced barriers accsg pathways to parenthood; andwhether rponnts had been “ma to feel unfortable, exclud, shamed, hurt, or unwele” specific social ntexts bee of beg/havg a gay father (active stigma), or had “avoid var suatns bee of worry about people’s judgments” (anticipated stigma). We distributed a lk to the survey through targeted Facebook advertisg, an advertisement Gay Parent Magaze, Twter, Meetup groups, and direct ntacts wh lbian, gay, bisexual, and transgenr (LGBT) parentg groups, advocy anizatns, LGBT muny and cultural centers, surrogacy and adoptn agenci, and church groups throughout the Uned Stat.

To unrstand the fluence of the social environment on gay fathers and their children, we ed the “equaly ratgs” created by the Movement Advancement Project () based on each state’s laws for protectn of LGBT fai (eg, laws regardg adoptn and foster re by lbians and gay men, the availabily of legal domtic partnerships, civil unns, and civil marriage, regulatns about bullyg schools, etc). We ed rankgs of specific relig groups reported by Hatzenbuehler et al, 20 which were based on the explic beliefs of each relign regardg homosexualy and marriage equaly; each relign was ranked om 0 to 4.

MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI

Pathways to fatherhood varied dramatilly on the basis of the birth date of the elst child (Fig 1), reflectg greater social acceptance of gay men beg parents recent years.

GAY PARENTG: 'S PLITED

Approximately one-fourth of rponnts reported experiencg stigma the past year om fay members, neighbors, gay iends, and/or service provirs such as waers, service provirs, and salpeople (see Table 2).

Fathers reported few stigma experienc related to havg gay parents directed at children om fay members, neighbors, or relig, school, or health re ntexts. The amount of muny support provid to members of sexual mori has been shown to be related to the well-beg of lbian and gay adolcents, 25, 26 adults, 24, 27 and children wh lbian or gay parents, 28 cludg rat of suicidaly and psychiatric disorrs.