Marriage and Beyond: 26 Relatnship Possibili for Gay Men

Contents:

• GAY LOVE, STRAIGHT SENSE
• GAY COUPL CAN TEACH STRAIGHT PEOPLE A THG OR TWO ABOUT ARGUG
• 30 GAY COUPLE GOALS FOR A HEALTHY RELATNSHIP
• SEVEN THGS GAY COUPL CAN DO NOW, THANKS TO THE SUPREME {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY ALEXANR STEVENSONJUNE 27, 2015/7:49 AMBY ALEXANR STEVENSONJUNE 27, 2015 / 7:49 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"SEVEN THGS GAY COUPL CAN DO NOW, THANKS TO THE SUPREME COURT","DATEPUBLISHED":"2015-06-27T11:49:42.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2015-06-27T11:49:42.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"ALEXANR STEVENSON","KEYWORDS":"MARRIAGE EQUALY","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TODAY WE ALL WOKE UP AN AMERI THAT'S A LTLE MORE EE: GAY AND LBIAN UPL WHO GET MARRIED (OR WHO ALREADY ARE) N NOW ENJOY THE 1,138 BENEFS THAT SAME-SEX MARRIED UPL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BELOW, WE LL OUT SOME OF THE BIG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}1. ADOPT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE THERE WILL STILL BE HURDL TO ADOPTN—PECIALLY THROUGH RELIGLY AFFILIATED AGENCI—SEND-PARENT ADOPTNS WILL BEE MUCH EASIER NOW THAT GAY UPL HAVE THE PROTECTN OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}2. SHARE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A GROWG NUMBER OF PANI OFFER BENEFS TO SAME-SEX UPL, EHER BY REGNIZG EXISTG MARRIAGE EQUALY LAWS OR PROVIDG THEIR OWN EQUIVALENT TO SPOAL BENEFS. BUT NOT ALL—AND SOME S UPL MT PAY TAX ON THOSE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW, THE PARTNERS AND CHILDREN OF LBIAN AND GAY EMPLOYE WILL TOMATILLY BE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}3. MAKE HEALTH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF YOU'RE HOSPALIZED AND UNABLE TO MAKE CISNS FOR YOURSELF, YOU WANT YOUR WIFE OR HBAND TO BE ABLE TO ADVOTE FOR YOU. PREVLY, SOME HOSPALS WOULD IGNORE PATIENT'S WISH AND PASS  CISN-MAKG RPONSIBILI TO PARENTS OR BLOOD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ALSO, MEDIL CENTERS THAT NTUE TO STOP GAY AND LBIAN PEOPLE OM VISG THEIR PARTNERS BEE OF "RELATIV-ONLY" POLICI WILL HAVE TO AMEND THEIR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}4. FILE TAX {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S NOT SOMETHG WE JUMP FOR JOY OVER, BUT SAME-SEX UPL WILL NOW BE ABLE TO FILE JOTLY ON THE STATE AND FERAL LEVEL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE THEY'VE BEEN ABLE TO BE FERAL TAX SCE 2013, MARRIED GAYS HAVE HAD TO FILE NUMERO RETURNS—CLUDG A "DUMMY" FERAL RETURN—IF THEY LIVED A STATE THAT DIDN'T REGNIZE MARRIAGE EQUALY. THAT'S A LOT LS PAPERWORK!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}5. INHER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF A HETEROSEXUAL DI WHOUT A WILL, HIS OR HER SPOE STILL HERS THEIR PROPERTY. PREVLY, IF A GAY PERSON DIED, THEIR FAY ULD NTT THEIR SURVIVG PARTNER'S RIGHTS TO PROPERTY— SOME S EVEN IF THERE WAS A WILL. NO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}6. GET {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PREVLY, GAY UPL WHO LIVED A STATE THAT DIDN'T ACKNOWLEDGE MARRIAGE EQUALY WOULD HAVE TO MOVE AND TABLISH RINCY ANOTHER STATE. (NOT SOMETHG YOU WANT TO DO WH YOUR EX.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN FACT, TEXAS JT GRANTED A GAY UPLE A DIVORCE A AFTER THEY FILED, AND SIX YEARS AFTER ONE PARTNER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW, WHEN A SAME-SEX UPLE ENDS THEIR MARRIAGE, THEY'LL BENEF OM THE SAME LAWS REGARDG SPOAL SUPPORT, CTODY RIGHTS AND MORE AS STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}7. GET FAY DISUNTS
• THGS GAY PEOPLE CAN'T DO
• OPTG FOR GAY COUPL COUNSELG? HERE ARE 4 THGS TO KEEP IN MD
• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
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• 5 THGS YOU STILL N’T DO IF YOU’RE GAY

GAY LOVE, STRAIGHT SENSE

Comg of age wh “a very nfed inty, ” wrer Andrew Solomon was certa he had to make a choice between creatg a fay and beg gay.

GAY COUPL CAN TEACH STRAIGHT PEOPLE A THG OR TWO ABOUT ARGUG

The margalizatn that attend growg up homosexual saw ank exprsn Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Inty, his 2012 exploratn of how parents raise children who are markedly different om themselv any one of a number of ways. Gay men and lbian women typilly report siarly tortured experienc reckong wh their own sexualy, nstantly lculatg the sts of hidg or revealg one of the most fg arcs of beg, self-policg their behavr for mannerisms that might betray their clatns before they themselv are prepared to acknowledge them.

It’s a ttament to urage that so many eventually do, spe the possibily of rejectn om those clost to them and a self-hatred ternalized om a wir culture that still often revil homosexualy.

For Solomon, as for many gay men and lbian women, the very stggle to be and to love on their own terms is reemg. Straight or gay, we all have a sire to be eply known, yet often fear that some private flaw mak ultimately unlovable.

30 GAY COUPLE GOALS FOR A HEALTHY RELATNSHIP

And some stem om doublg, the pound dose of a sgle genr, which sometim brgs out the bt partners (emotnal openns among lbians)—and sometim the worst (domance stggl between gay men, emotnal enmhment lbians). When partners don’t have to divi up rol by genr, they are also ee to share rol, and many gay upl do, reports Boston psychologist Richard Miller.

Lbian partners are pecially apt to work as a team, says Maya Kollman, a New Jersey–based therapist whose practice clus both gay and straight upl. Add to that the fiance assumg a stigmatized sexual inty and a claratn of homosexualy be an act of sexual liberatn, as “we n have whatever sex we want.

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ADOPT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE THERE WILL STILL BE HURDL TO ADOPTN—PECIALLY THROUGH RELIGLY AFFILIATED AGENCI—SEND-PARENT ADOPTNS WILL BEE MUCH EASIER NOW THAT GAY UPL HAVE THE PROTECTN OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}2. SHARE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A GROWG NUMBER OF PANI OFFER BENEFS TO SAME-SEX UPL, EHER BY REGNIZG EXISTG MARRIAGE EQUALY LAWS OR PROVIDG THEIR OWN EQUIVALENT TO SPOAL BENEFS. BUT NOT ALL—AND SOME S UPL MT PAY TAX ON THOSE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW, THE PARTNERS AND CHILDREN OF LBIAN AND GAY EMPLOYE WILL TOMATILLY BE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}3. MAKE HEALTH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF YOU'RE HOSPALIZED AND UNABLE TO MAKE CISNS FOR YOURSELF, YOU WANT YOUR WIFE OR HBAND TO BE ABLE TO ADVOTE FOR YOU. PREVLY, SOME HOSPALS WOULD IGNORE PATIENT'S WISH AND PASS  CISN-MAKG RPONSIBILI TO PARENTS OR BLOOD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ALSO, MEDIL CENTERS THAT NTUE TO STOP GAY AND LBIAN PEOPLE OM VISG THEIR PARTNERS BEE OF "RELATIV-ONLY" POLICI WILL HAVE TO AMEND THEIR {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}4. FILE TAX {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S NOT SOMETHG WE JUMP FOR JOY OVER, BUT SAME-SEX UPL WILL NOW BE ABLE TO FILE JOTLY ON THE STATE AND FERAL LEVEL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHILE THEY'VE BEEN ABLE TO BE FERAL TAX SCE 2013, MARRIED GAYS HAVE HAD TO FILE NUMERO RETURNS—CLUDG A "DUMMY" FERAL RETURN—IF THEY LIVED A STATE THAT DIDN'T REGNIZE MARRIAGE EQUALY. THAT'S A LOT LS PAPERWORK!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}5. INHER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF A HETEROSEXUAL DI WHOUT A WILL, HIS OR HER SPOE STILL HERS THEIR PROPERTY. PREVLY, IF A GAY PERSON DIED, THEIR FAY ULD NTT THEIR SURVIVG PARTNER'S RIGHTS TO PROPERTY— SOME S EVEN IF THERE WAS A WILL. NO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}6. 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(NOT SOMETHG YOU WANT TO DO WH YOUR EX.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN FACT, TEXAS JT GRANTED A GAY UPLE A DIVORCE A AFTER THEY FILED, AND SIX YEARS AFTER ONE PARTNER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW, WHEN A SAME-SEX UPLE ENDS THEIR MARRIAGE, THEY'LL BENEF OM THE SAME LAWS REGARDG SPOAL SUPPORT, CTODY RIGHTS AND MORE AS STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}7. GET FAY DISUNTS

“Our sexual IQ is bigger, ” says psychologist Joe Kort, who teach at the Universy of Michigan and se both heterosexual and homosexual upl his clil practice. Touchg, kissg, oral and masturbatory experienc—even for many gay men “this is exactly what their sexual repertoire nsists of, ” adds Miller. Rare is the heterosexual uple who enjoy the sexual eedom gays reap by breakg through the big taboo of homosexualy.

” In fact, at the fish of therapy ssns, psychologist Kort urg all the heterosexual and gay male upl his practice to “fd your ner lbian. By ntrast, the more open sexualy of the gay male muny, says Miller, mak male upl fortable sharg their sexual experience, even tappg .

THGS GAY PEOPLE CAN'T DO

In long-term observatnal studi of both gay and straight relatnships, Gottman, who is a profsor emer at the Universy of Washgton and founr of Seattle’s Gottman Relatnship Instute, has found that same-sex upl beg more “softly” brgg up a topic of nflict.

They also ploy more humor discsg disagreements, he has reported the Journal of Homosexualy, and that -lat the disagreement. “Another tertg thg that emerged the uple nversatns, ” Gottman found, “was that gays and lbians are more hont. “In 200 years, heterosexual relatnships will be where gay and lbian relatnships are today, ” Gottman predicts.

Especially for gay men, but also for gay women, good iends are also potential lovers and sex partners.

OPTG FOR GAY COUPL COUNSELG? HERE ARE 4 THGS TO KEEP IN MD

As a rult, homosexuals have had to learn how to be iends wh people they are attracted to and how to live a world wh lots of threats whout beg overly nfed. It also enurag gays to velop ternal rtrats rather than abidg by external on, such as marriage vows, not even a possibily until recently. It’s not that boundari never get crossed: Gay men, he reports, often hook up sexually first, then bee iends, matag the secury and emotnal mment of their primary relatnship.

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Homosexual partners n sometim pick on each other over the smallt nuanc of behavr, pecially signs of effemacy.

But general, observers report, gays engage ls micromanagement of behavr than heterosexual upl do.

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Sometim the loosened requirement for gays is a nsequence of cultural homophobia: Not all gays are at the same pot the g-out procs, and not all fai are fully acceptg of same-sex partnerships. Gay men pecially do not have that role expectatn; they are not cled to take personally any parture om the template.

5 THGS YOU STILL N’T DO IF YOU’RE GAY

Rearch shows that 50 percent of gay male upl have open relatnships, says Kort, although the number may now be creasg as gays marry and tablish fai, actns that shift gay culture more to the mastream.

Some gay male upl negotiate an open relatnship that has very strict l to , observ David Greenan, a psychologist and fay therapist New York who se gay and straight upl his clil practice.

In 2007, Andrew Solomon relquished all vtig of shame about beg gay and before 300 guts mted himself to his partner an elaborate ceremony at a stately English untry hoe. Hodg legalized gay marriage natnwi, cludg the 14 stat that did not prevly allow gays and lbians to wed. Adults (37%) favored allowg gays and lbians to wed 2009, a share that rose to 62% 2017.