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Contents:

• JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH KEV MAXEN OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU
• CHRISTIANS DUMPED AD RAT AT GAY UPLE'S RTRANT NEIGHBOUR FD
• RUDY GAY
• ‘THE BIG OLE GAY EXPRS’: SEXUAL MORY STIGMA, MOBILY AND HEALTH THE SMALL CY
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• THE GAY EXPRESS
• DWAYNE ‘THE ROCK’ JOHNSON OPENS UP ABOUT PLAYG A GAY CHARACTER
• THE BIGGT MYTH ABOUT GAY SEX
• HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
• HOW ‘WHO R’ HAS BEE WORD ONLE FOR ‘I HATE GAY PEOPLE’
• OFFERG A WELG SPACE TO GAY AND LBIAN WORSHIPPERS, A MEGACHURCH STANDS OUT
• AMERINS’ SHIFTG ATTU ON GAY RIGHTS
• GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN'S HEALTH ISSU
• 5 (RATHER BLUNT) REASONS WHY GAY MEN STGGLE TO FD HAPPS

JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH KEV MAXEN OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU

The Front Porch Market & Grill (Image: Google)A nservative Christian uple dumped a ad rat at a rtrant owned by their gay neighbours as part of a long-nng fd that the lol church fears is now damagg the entire muny, by fuellg 'tribalism' and cint, which was ptured on CCTV last Augt, was the culmatn of a dispute between Mike Washer, 54, his wife Melissa, 53, and rtratrs William Waybourn and Craig Spldg, both 76.

Published: Augt 27, 2020What the Same-Sex Marriage Rulg Could Mean for Small BsWh same-sex marriage legal all 50 stat, small-bs owners are doublg down on efforts to attract this new Arizona's "Anti-Gay Bill" Bad For Bs? Rudy Gay: I thk ball-handlg probably the most, bee if I n bee a better ball-handler, chang me om a 3 to a 2, so chang my posn, and also mak me versatile, so I thk that’s one thg I’ve been workg on the whole season. Published fal eded form as:PMCID: PMC5300938NIHMSID: NIHMS819215AbstractRecent rearch has examed how gay and bisexual men experience and navigate the variatns sexual mory stigma that exist across geographic ntexts, wh implitns for their health.

CHRISTIANS DUMPED AD RAT AT GAY UPLE'S RTRANT NEIGHBOUR FD

This rearch also troduc a spatial dimensn to the existg stigma lerature, drawg attentn to variatns stigma and health across both time and place (Keene and Padilla 2014; Lewis 2014; Pearce 2012) particular, recent studi fd that geographic variatn stctural forms of sexual mory stigma predict a range of health out for lbian, gay and bisexual dividuals. For example, studi have found that lbian, gay and bisexual people have better mental health and lower mortaly stat wh more supportive sexual mory laws and polici and lower levels of anti-gay prejudice (Hatzenbuehler 2011; Hatzenbuehler et al.

Th, geographic variatns stigma may be relevant to unrstandg HIV transmissn among gay and bisexual men, the populatn at greatt risk for HIV fectn and the only major risk group for whom new cint s of HIV are creasg the USA (Centers for Disease Control and Preventn 2015) addn to the epimlogil studi, some qualative rearch has begun to explore how men experience the geographil variatns stigma (Bianchi et al.

RUDY GAY

In particular, wh a few exceptns (Lewis 2014; Wat and Gorman-Murray 2011), much ls is known about movement to and om smaller ci are an important and unrstudied se for populatn health rearch among gay and bisexual men. Though the majory of rearch on gay and bisexual men's health has foced on large urban areas, and to a lser extent ral areas, the majory of US rints live small ci wh populatns of ls than 250, 000 (only 18% live large ci of more than 250, 000 and only 19% live ral areas) (US Cens Bure 2015).

‘THE BIG OLE GAY EXPRS’: SEXUAL MORY STIGMA, MOBILY AND HEALTH THE SMALL CY

This crease risk has been attributed to cultural norms urban gay enclav that enurage substance e and unsafe sex, the challenge of navigatg ntext-pennt health norms and social inti new settgs, and the loss of social support that n lead migrants to seek nnectns through fleetg, high-risk sexual enunters (Kobrak, Ponce, and Zielony 2015; Hammack 2009; Pachankis, Eldahan, and Golub 2016) prent study exam how stigma ntribut to patterns of mobily wh and beyond small cy spac, and the potential health implitns associated wh the forms of mobily. PsdonymAgeaRace/ethnicyRintial cyAaron27BlackHartfordCarlos46LatoNew HavenCharl25WheNew HavenDaniel41BlackNew HavenDarren29WheNew HavenDerek39BlackNew HavenDmond49OtherNew HavenDoug43WheNew HavenElijah51BlackNew HavenFrerick22WheNew HavenGee59WheHartfordHank58WheNew HavenHerbert20LatoNew HavenJamie21LatoNew HavenJason20BlackNew HavenJay48BlackNew HavenJordan31WheNew HavenKev27BlackHartfordKyle22MixedNew HavenMarc19BlackNew HavenMarv67BlackNew HavenMichael58WheHartfordPatrick41WheNew HavenPl54BlackNew HavenRafael29LatoNew HavenRonald63WheNew HavenSam31WheHartfordSean25WheHartfordSteven29WheNew HavenData llectn and analysisWe nducted semi-stctured terviews anised around broad them related to gay and bisexual life New Haven/Hartford, sexual and social workg, travel, HIV risk and protective behavurs and overall health.

For example, Marv (see Table 1 for the age, ethnicy and rintial cy of each participant) explaed that a suburban ntext where everyone knows everyone, beg openly gay n e ‘you or your fay problems’ addn to anonymy, small ci were scribed as providg a more acceptg environment relative to the smaller towns or ral areas om which several participants haled. It uld be bee – yeah, 's weird, 's like when I e to Hartford 's almost like I'm wele and then when I go back to my town 's like …Fredrick, who grew up a small town, also said that he felt more accepted as a gay man New Haven than back home:. But when I leave the bars, 's jt I'm still gay, but let's say I be ut about how to act’ addn to equentg signated gay-specific spac, participants also scribed claimg public spac for gay e, th creatg addnal unmarked ‘safe zon’.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

As Jordan explaed, before he me out, ‘those [gay bars] were like taboo plac that you would go and wear hats so that no one saw you’ participants scribed the navigatn of ‘safe spac’ New Haven and Hartford as a racialised and class-based procs. He explaed that he often felt stereotyped by the predomantly Whe bar patrons as beg a ‘thug’ or ‘gay for pay’, given proment racialised stereotyp of male sex workers (Tnis 2007) participants echoed Jay's sentiments about the exclnary nature and Whens of some small cy gay spac. I've been to a uple of gay events jt the muny and those have been – I'm gog to e the word ‘lacklter’ segregatn of cy and universy spac is not unique to the gay muny, but may have particular implitns for gay life a small cy where the size of the gay muny and the number of gay spac are already limed.

The stunts are on mp and the stunts, whatever they're volved , 's volved on mp, so the town is not summary, participants scribed New Haven and Hartford as ci that ntaed pockets of acceptance that were not uniformly welg to all gay and bisexual men. ‘The big ole gay exprs’: movement between small ci and gay enclavGiven the challeng of navigatg stigma a small cy, particularly for mori and non-stunts, many participants scribed seekg refuge ci wh larger and more well-tablished gay muni. I'll do [go to New york] when I feel like havg what I ll my gay day, when I feel like jt teractg wh gay people, when I'm sick of heterosexuals or jt sick of gog to [straight bars New Haven] and havg the we and the nversatn, where I jt get sick of talkg to straight people.

THE GAY EXPRESS

You know, we uld be as flamboyant and as gay, bee we're gog to walk around New york, be on the tra and not worry about summary, participants scribed movement om small ci to well-tablished gay enclav that was part motivated by stigma. They also scribed travel as a group activy, perhaps facilated by the existence of lol, albe small, gay muni the two small, mobily and health the small cyIn the sectns above, participants scribed the tersectns of stigma and mobily the unique ntext of small ci. First, participants scribed migratn to small ci, travel to enclav and navigatn of ‘safe zon’ as opportuni to pe sexual mory strs, a known source of health risk for gay and bisexual mory men (Hatzenbuehler 2009; Meyer 2003).

DWAYNE ‘THE ROCK’ JOHNSON OPENS UP ABOUT PLAYG A GAY CHARACTER

For example, Jay explaed how the strs of g out to his fay ntributed to his dg e, but that leavg his hometown, and the associated strs of beg gay this space, helped him to get, participants scribed sexual risk associated wh mobily. The small ci of New Haven and Hartford attracted gay and bisexual men om surroundg smaller towns and suburbs where sexual mory stigma was more prevalent, there were limed opportuni for gay life, and lack of anonymy ma difficult to ver stigmatised inti.

THE BIGGT MYTH ABOUT GAY SEX

In this sense, New Haven and Hartford were scribed as both statns and as plac of parture for gay and bisexual an existg lerature has emphasised the migratn of gay and bisexual men to urban gay enclav (Bce and Harper 2011; Egan et al. Ined, recent mographic rearch pots to small ci as particularly attractive lol for sexual mory dividuals and upl, perhaps reprentg a more affordable and accsible alterative to gentrifyg gay enclav (Cooke and Rapo 2007). On the one hand, migratn to small ci may provi accs to ‘safe zon’ whout the ‘fast lane’ ntext of substance e and high-risk sex that has been associated wh health risk among migrants to tradnal gay enclav (Bce and Harper 2011; Carpiano 2006).

The challeng posed by this tersectn of multiple stigmas may be pound small ci given the limed and homogeneo nature of small cy gay addn to migratn, participants scribed regular back and forth movement between small ci and New york Cy. Siarly, whereas existg lerature on gay and bisexual men's leisure travel nceptualis vatns as discrete, relatively equent trips to relatively faraway statns (Clift and Forrt 1999; Hugh 1997), our fdgs suggt that gay and bisexual men livg near urban enclav might engage more equent and brief trips that nohels voke a vatn mentaly ee om the nstrats of lol scty and discsed above, the forms of mobily have several potential implitns for health. Fally, rearch that documents the role of social workg technology patterns of mobily, health and risk among gay and bisexual men will be an important ntributn to the we nnot extend the fdgs to the experienc of gay and bisexual men other small US ci, the data do speak to a phenomenon of stigma-duced movement that is unlikely unique to our study settg.

HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)

Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight. The laws the Bible were maly for health purpos - shunng homosexualy is right next to not gettg tattoos, not eatg pork, and not wearg mixed lens, but you n bet your bottom dollar all your neighbors do those thgs.

HOW ‘WHO R’ HAS BEE WORD ONLE FOR ‘I HATE GAY PEOPLE’

Sivan lled the qutn "wildly vasive, strange, and appropriate" on Twter after a fan tweeted that "the bar is on the floor" for the terviewer, and Sivan also cricized qutns about whether he and his boyiend's dog was a "Gayby" and whether he was a fan of "Will & Grace" on Magaze published an article about Sivan's tweets that origally lled the sger "hypocril, " but Sivan lled the take "disappotg, " and Out Magaze has sce changed the piece "due to the edorial team's termatn that did not meet our standards. Pop sger Troye Sivan was not happy wh how his terview wh a lol New Zealand LGBTQ publitn turned out, and has spent the past two days on Twter cricizg and Out Magaze for what he lled "wildly vasive, " "napropriate [sic], " and "disappotg" 's argument has divid some journalists, sce he cricized gay reporters specifilly for what some may nsir norms LGBTQ verage – but other journalists, and his fans, backed him up when he asserted that those norms are first voiced his displeasure after a recent terview wh Gay Exprs surfaced on Twter, when a fan tweeted out screenshots of the article wh the ptn "who's this terviewer the bar is on the floor.

Sivan was also asked whether he follows "any Instagram thirst-traps, " if he and his boyiend's dog is "like a Gayby, " whether he was a fan of the show "Will & Grace" on Netflix, and, a round of "quickfire qutns, " whether he was a "top or bottom.

OFFERG A WELG SPACE TO GAY AND LBIAN WORSHIPPERS, A MEGACHURCH STANDS OUT

" The word "Gayby" is a queer slang term that b the words "gay" and "baby" that refers to the baby ( this se, figuratively) of a gay uple, and "top or bottom" refers to sex answered that he was "fely passg" on the "top or bottom" more: Troye Sivan reveals that Zac Eon was his first celebry csh – and shared the 'creepit story' about how they metThe sger quote-tweeted his fan and wrote "I thought about askg the terviewer about his absolute fave sex posn after that last qutn, but then i remembered how wildly vasive, strange, and napropriate [sic] that would be.

"When the official acunt for Coup De Ma magaze, another New Zealand-based publitn wh a signifintly larger followg than Gay Exprs, tweeted "sorry om the entirety of new zealand m this person who we are now petng for to be removed om our untry" at Sivan, he replied "Lol nooooo don't NZ is my fave and i n't wa to get there. "Two other proment publitns who vered the backlash to the terview were i-D and Paper, and the former lled the terviewer "creepy, " while the latter advised journalists "don't prod a gay man about his sex life! Bee of Feral Laws, one had to be 21 years old to drive terstate, so Richard and his son Doug (unr the spic of Gay’s Fuel Service) signed onto Bullet Exprs out of Brooklyn NY and ran cross-untry bee they allowed Doug to drive at this age as long as he was wh his Father.

AMERINS’ SHIFTG ATTU ON GAY RIGHTS

While Gay’s Fuel Service still ran majory of their tcks for LEO, Richard Gay spoke wh Al Southwick, Salman/part-owner of B-D-R Transport Brattleboro, VT and Doug teamed up wh Ray Parente one of the LEO drivers and that was the first trip wh B-D-R Transport which eventually went om that one tck beg leased onto B-D-R Transport to all of Gay’s Fuel Service tcks beg leased onto B-D-R Transport. Gregory & Douglas Gay (the fourth generatn) purchased B-D-R Transport 2003 and have grown the Company to the magnificent succs is today…Great-Grandpa & Grandpa would be very proud of them - we know their Dads are!! Estimated at only a few percent of the populatn, homosexuals project a larger prence partly bee so many of them are strategilly suated the cultural mand centers of the media, Hollywood, the profsoriate, and the publishg world.

GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN'S HEALTH ISSU

Datg back to the ancient Greece, anal sex played a role the exprsn of same-sex sexualy (albe, wh fewer varieti of lube) art of anal sex is the thg that, both posively and negatively, has e to reprent gay men. When a loved one tells you they don’t re that you’re lbian, gay, bisexual, trans or any of the other many scriptors of people our muny, they are tryg to, wh words, wrap their arms around you and give you a big hug.

Dpe the persistence of stereotyp that portray lbian, gay, and bisexual people as disturbed, several s of rearch and clil experience have led all mastream medil and mental health anizatns this untry to nclu that the orientatns reprent normal forms of human experience.

Helpful rpons of a therapist treatg an dividual who is troubled about her or his same sex attractns clu helpg that person actively pe wh social prejudic agast homosexualy, succsfully rolve issu associated wh and rultg om ternal nflicts, and actively lead a happy and satisfyg life.

5 (RATHER BLUNT) REASONS WHY GAY MEN STGGLE TO FD HAPPS

The phrase “g out” is ed to refer to several aspects of lbian, gay, and bisexual persons’ experienc: self-awarens of same-sex attractns; the tellg of one or a few people about the attractns; wispread disclosure of same-sex attractns; and intifitn wh the lbian, gay, and bisexual muny. Th, is not surprisg that lbians and gay men who feel they mt nceal their sexual orientatn report more equent mental health ncerns than do lbians and gay men who are more open; they may even have more physil health problems.

Lbian, gay, and bisexual youth who do well spe strs—like all adolcents who do well spe strs—tend to be those who are socially petent, who have good problem-solvg skills, who have a sense of tonomy and purpose, and who look forward to the future.