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my husband's not gay

"My Hband’s Not Gay,” which airs Jan. 11, follows the stori of married men wh "same-sex attractn."

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THE PROFOUND LACK OF EMPATHY MY HBAND'S NOT GAY

* my husband's not gay *

It has started a ntroversy—one that reveals a lot about cultural tensns brilliance of the televisn special My Hband's Not Gay begs wh s name.

And prompts the pable, skg feelg that the lady doth prott too much: If she has to expla that her hband's not gay, she's already admted that his attractn to her is ls than, many people are angry about My Hband's Not Gay, which is s send stroke of brilliance.

‘MY HBAND’S NOT GAY’: MEET THE CAST OF TLC SPECIAL ABOUT 3 MORMON COUPL

GLAAD is llg TLC's My Hband's Not Gay "dangero" for the way portrays homosexualy, but should be nceled? * my husband's not gay *

The TLC show, which aired on Sunday night, follows four men who all experience "same-sex attractn, " or "SSA, " but who don't want to live "the gay liftyle" bee of their Mormon relig beliefs. As one of the men's wiv, Tanya, phily puts : "SSA, not gay.

" In the lead-up to the special's premiere, more than 100, 000 people signed a petn to get ncelled, claimg promot "'reparative therapy, ' a discreded and dangero practice that falsely claims to turn gay people straight.

'MY HBAND'S NOT GAY' STARS DEFEND TLC'S CONTROVERSIAL NEW SHOW

The guys on the TLC special My Hband’s Not Gay, which aired Sunday night, don’t intify as gay. Sure, they read as gay, they acknowledge that they... * my husband's not gay *

This approach to programmg succeeds, wildly, bee 's a pure distillatn of the appeal of realy televisn: self-righteo problem, though, wh makg realy televisn about gay men who don't want to be gay is that will variably lack empathy for the pa that likely f those men's liv.

MY HBAND’S NOT GAY MISUNRSTANDS WHAT IT MEANS TO BE GAY

The failure of My Hband's Not Gay is one of style, not substance; but the fact that has been protted for s substance says a lot about the cultural tensns surroundg homosexualy Ameri. The openg of My Hband's Not Gay is a straight llback to the the openg sequence of the fictnal HBO seri Big Love, about a polygamo fay of fundamentalist Mormons. They're also playful about gay stereotyp, like not beg able to play sports.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

And my attractn to mal—those are the two thgs that are kd of gay about me. It's a bound performance of sexualy: They've stctured their relatnships so that they n exprs their feelgs of attractn and even toy wh gay inty while still settg firm lims on their behavr.

The hbands n to an old iend who has cid to "live the gay liftyle"—what will he say to them? Watchg My Hband's Not Gay is like the passive emotnal experience of wanrg through a low-budget rnival, gawkg at the sishow eaks for a short moment before losg attentn and movg on.

All three of the upl featured have worked wh an anizatn lled Voic of Hope, sharg their experienc on tape and speakg publicly support of "non-gay liftyl" for people who experience "same-sex attractn. " While uld fairly be lled propaganda, 's not exactly "prayg away the gay": Voic of Hope is part of the Mormon anizatn North Star Internatnal, which says on s webse that "whether or not dividuals choose to make efforts to dimish or elimate homosexual feelgs, and whether or not those efforts succeed, is ls important to North Star’s purpos.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* MY HUSBAND'S NOT GAY

My Hband’s Not Gay, on TLC, misunrstands what means to be gay. .

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