Many gay men want a perfect body, but the effort to get one creat real misery.
Contents:
- A HANDY GUI TO ALL GAY MEN
- WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT TOXIC GAY MASCULY
- TONEX: FIRST OPENLY GAY GOSPEL SINGER HAS NEW NAME AND NEW SOUND
- GAY MEN AND BODY PERFECTN
- HOW DID GOSPEL ARTIST TONEX BEE GAY ACTIVIST B-SLA?
- WHAT MEANS TO ‘SOUND GAY’
- HOW CAN I GET RID OF MY GAY VOICE?
- THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE GAY BNEI, WHERE LGBT PEOPLE CAN NOW GET STONED TO DEATH
A HANDY GUI TO ALL GAY MEN
Now, who would have thought that an app created for gay men uld still be discrimatory? * toned gay *
A study by the Universy of Waterloo has found that Grdr, the most popular datg app for gay, bisexual, two-spir and queer men, is negatively affectg men’s body image, and more so when is about weight.
Many of our participants see Grdr as a necsary evil, as ter-mediated munitn has served a unique historil role for gay men circumventg social, cultural and legal barriers to makg nnectns public spac. Here they like the world at large may stereotype gays as mcg wrist flippers wh great taste bent on givg everyone they meet a make over.
That said, when the gays see a fellow homosexual the public sphere, we try to plug them to the nvenient taxonomy the muny has ma for self. They may not be very faiar to the world at large, but they are certaly faiar to the brothers butt say that each gay person belongs to one of the typ is a b ceptive. Dcriptn: This young breed of gays is never over 30 and tends to be on the queeny si and hews closely to the nventnal stereotyp of gay man.
WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT TOXIC GAY MASCULY
The gay world is often reprented as some sort of monolhic whole that has the same culture. That is a lie. It is actually broken down to a handful of substrata to which each gay belongs. Here they are. * toned gay *
Wild, ornery, and still gettg over their g out issu, the twk is the gay gone wild, and is ba to olr men who are to tryg to suck off their youthful energy. Celebry Example: This is such a specific type don't really exists the world at large, but the Platonic ial of a circu boy is DJ Brett HenrichsenGay-Listers. They ually work advertisg, PR, marketg, or the entertament dtry and make a ton of sh which they e to have perfect apartments, fantastic wardrob, and summer hom near all the other gay-listers.
He drs eher the most current prissy fashns or like a homo versn of Terry Richardson, big glass, flannels, and jeans that looks so thrown together that took him hours to put together. You're more likely to fd them at a gallery openg or mol party, but every so often they'll be at a gay bar to b elbows, and other parts, wh the other homos. The drag queens are not only the urt jters of the gay muny, drsg up like clowns for our entertament, but they are also a bridge to the straight world.
As much as gay men appreciate the queens for their looks, w, and sha, straight people love a drag show even more than the queers do. Wh theater doors bolted shut for the next…foreeable future, we’re thrilled to see some Broadway talent pop up the pilot episo of Boy•Friends, a new edy based off the My Gay Boyiend web-seri. The show centers around two llege roommat, one gay and one straight, and their “journey through llege and to adulthood to bee the homo-hetero power uple of the ag.
TONEX: FIRST OPENLY GAY GOSPEL SINGER HAS NEW NAME AND NEW SOUND
W hen I was graduate school, I worked part-time retail. One of my -workers — let’s ll him Jake — was a whe gay man who liked to tell stori about his var datg explos each time we… * toned gay *
One of my -workers — let’s ll him Jake — was a whe gay man who liked to tell stori about his var datg explos each time we had a shift together. When I saw that his Instagram feed was prised primarily of imag of mcular black men, I cled to follow him ’s attus are a microsm of many of the toxic behavrs enacted by whe gay cisgenr men: the adulatn of nventnal masculy and mculary, the rejectn of femy as unsirable, and the sexual objectifitn of black and Lato men due to their supposed exoticism and light of the #MeToo movement and the exposure of sexual vlence and misnduct Hollywood, the feral ernment, and society at large, much attentn has been directed towards the toxic behavrs exhibed by heterosexual men that ntribute to a culture which sexual vlence and misnduct thrive.
But herent to the LGBTQ+ experience is a self-reflexive ntempt of another kd altogether: the faiar menace of ternalized homophobia. “Qualative studi revealed that olr lbians report equent experienc of homophobia, heterosexism and ageism the health re system and elsewhere, and that olr black gay men and lbian women feel alienated om the black muny, liberately nceal their sexual inty and orientatn, and feel isolated. My Instagram feed is saturated wh heavenly bodi of one kd (ually the toned, gay, Csian kd) or another, leadg me to the (un)avoidable ncln that my own body—limed and relatively amorpho as is—is trash-ma flh.
In medil practice, where ableism, homophobia, transphobia, racism, misogyny, or ageism uld mean the difference between diagnosis and misdiagnosis, proper and improper treatment, well then, to the barris!
GAY MEN AND BODY PERFECTN
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The gay media reprents bety and sirabily the form of youth and gym-toned bodi, makg the gay scene a harsh place for people who do not nform to such ials. Whilst the gay media perpetuat body perfectn and helps mata the distrs, the unrlyg disturbance that mak so many gay men predisposed to the stggl is homophobia. In my practice, I see many gay men whose real stggle is the fear of rejectn, the hypervigilance of threats makg vulnerabily tolerable for them.
HOW DID GOSPEL ARTIST TONEX BEE GAY ACTIVIST B-SLA?
What the way we talk says about gay pri and lgerg prejudice * toned gay *
Gay men may not be able to intify the unrlyg pa by themselv but gay-affirmative therapy, they n have a space to unpack the var layers of their disturbanc. ” It’s a fascatg and nuanced film, which the filmmaker, David Thorpe, his feelgs about his voice to look at attus toward homosexualy. It rais a plited discsn about gay pri, lgerg homophobia, disguised misogyny, and the extent to which we all alter the image that we prent to the the film begs, Thorpe is disturbed bee he realiz he don’t like his voice any more.
He rri out thoughtful nversatns wh his iends and proment gay and lbian figur – cludg Gee Takei, David Sedaris, Dan Savage, Margaret Cho and Don Lemon – about what means to “sound gay. But so dog, v everyone to thk about what their own voice says about who they are, where they me om, and where they want to science of “the gay voice”To start wh, the stereotypil “gay voice” isn’t necsarily a study published 2003, Ron Smyth, a lguist at the Universy of Toronto, found that participants readily separated rerdgs of 25 diverse voic to those who “sound gay” and those who “sound straight.
WHAT MEANS TO ‘SOUND GAY’
I thk I have a ep nasal qualy to my voice and I'd like to get rid of . Too often, people ask me if I'm gay when they've only jt met there any vol/nasal exercis that actor's e ... * toned gay *
In Smyth's study, people rrectly gused a man’s sexualy about 60 percent of the time, only a ltle better than another small study at the Universy of Hawaii, both gay and straight listeners were equally as likely to misclassify people as gay or straight. In fact, the straight men wh so-lled gay voic weren't aware that people thought they sound gay at turns out that what most people perceive as a stereotypil "gay voice" is jt a male voice that sounds more stereotypilly feme -- maly, higher pched and more melod. And that often has more to do wh the voic that a person intified wh as they grew up, rather than and other rearchers say some men, both gay and straight, velop more feme voic bee they are fluenced by women when they are young.
HOW CAN I GET RID OF MY GAY VOICE?
If you've ever found yourself talkg to someone wh a different accent and gradually emulatg them, you're faiar wh the gay men, adoptg what's lled "mp" -- a theatril gay accent, like an old-school starlet -- n be a way of embracg their inty. “As a hly mted gay man, I learned how mpg up uld be liberatg, ” Thorpe says the there may be more subtle ways that sexualy and our sense of self fluence our voic. Benjam Munson, who studi language and speech at the Universy of Mnota, found one study that gay men did e a slightly different pronunciatn than straight men.
THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE GAY BNEI, WHERE LGBT PEOPLE CAN NOW GET STONED TO DEATH
However, the difference wasn’t the stereotypil “gay voice, ” but a tenncy to e a more ntemporary, pan-Amerin accent, rather than the old-fashned Mnota accent (like the movie “Fargo") says that the gay men he terviewed may have wanted to nvey an inty that is more stylish and cuttg edge. “As speakers of a language, we have lots of eedom how we pronounce sounds … People explo that variatn to create different social meangs, " he those who are proud n still feel stigma“Do I Sound Gay? ” shows that even men who are out and proud may still rry wh them some shame about havg a stereotypil “gay voice, ” even if those feelgs are Savage, a gay activist and thor, argu the film that this is a natural nsequence of boys beg bullied for walkg and talkg a certa way when they are young.
“[B]ee we do still live a misogynist and sexist culture, people cricize men who are effemate, whether or not they are gay, " says Thorpse. "“This is really an issue of genr that then be an issue of sexual orientatn that then be an issue of homophobia, " Thorpe said. He grew up the Bible Belt the 1980s, when homosexualy was often nsired evil and the e of a new plague lled AIDS, Thorpe says.