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Contents:

• BROADWAY LEGEND JOEL GREY MEMOIR REVEALS SECRET GAY AFFAIR WH HIS TEMPLE'S NTOR, SEX PLAY AS A CHILD WH
• THE HIDN GAY LIV FALLY BEG UNVERED
• AARON HERNANZ'S SECRET GAY LOVER OPENS UP ABOUT THEIR RELATNSHIP
• MY HBAND'S SECRET GAY LIFE
• ‘HONEY, I’VE GOT A SECRET’ : WHEN GAY MEN E OUT TO THEIR WIV
• TELL: AN INTIMATE HISTORY OF GAY MEN THE MILARY
• WHO IS THE SRNED 'GAY LOVER' WHO BROUGHT DOWN TODD CHRISLEY? REALY STAR'S EX-BS PARTNER IS A MARRIED DAD AND GRANDFATHER-OF-TWO WHOSE WIFE OF 34 YEARS IS 'STANDG BY HIM' - EVEN AFTER HE NFSED TO GAY AFFAIR AND HELPG TO M BANK D
• YOU CAN LIVE FOREVER REVIEW – SECRET AFFAIR FOR JEHOVAH’S WNS TEENS GAY AWAKENG

BROADWAY LEGEND JOEL GREY MEMOIR REVEALS SECRET GAY AFFAIR WH HIS TEMPLE'S NTOR, SEX PLAY AS A CHILD WH

16 — the 83-year-old actor chronicl what was like to hi his homosexualy durg the '40s, '50s and '60s when beg gay uld get you one of many revealg anecdot, Grey scrib how at the tenr age of jt 10 years old he had his first sexual enunter wh his siarly aged Burton and soon after enjoyed a relatnship wh Jerry, the 16-year-old elevator operator who worked his apartment, as teen Los Angel, Grey had sex wh his girliend's mother and embarked on an affair wh a ntor named Pl at his parent's temple.

'CABARET' ACTOR JOEL GREY, 82, COMES OUT AS GAY MANJoel Grey attends the New York Stage and Film 2014 Wter Gala at The Plaza Hotel New York Cy.

But when I heard people ravg about the show, wrten by Rsell T Davi, I was stck by how many of them admted to knowg ltle about the epimic – and the stctn wreaked among the gay muny. That’s bee, even today's much more acceptg society, the history of the gay and lbian muny is largely a fotten history. For a long time, the mastream public didn't want to hear our Ca's The Secret Life of Albert Entwistle tells the story of a secretly gay postman searchg for a lost love om his youth (Cred: Headle Review)"I would venture to say that the public were disgted and outraged, " says thor Crystal Jeans.

THE HIDN GAY LIV FALLY BEG UNVERED

It's about a lonely, socially awkward and secretly gay postman livg a fictnal town the north of England who hs retirement, realisg he wants to turn his life around and fally be happy – but to do this, he needs to fd the love of his life, a man he hasn’t seen for nearly 50 years. My novel is ridg on a wave of tert that dat back the UK to 2017 and the 50th anniversary of the begng of crimalisatn of homosexualy.

That same year, the so-lled "Alan Turg law" offered pardons to 49, 000 Brish gay men who’d been nvicted of homosexual acts – followg a mpaign arguably bolstered by the greater awarens brought about by The Imatn Game, the h film that picted the nvictn and chemil stratn of the Enigma-breakg puter scientist. Over on Instagram, The Aids Memorial shar photos and stori of people – predomantly gay men – who died of the disease, wrten by those who loved them.

You’d not tch many queer al mers jottg down their memoirs – Crystal JeansHowever, 's fictn that’s very much drivg the phenomenon of brgg "lost" stori of gay life om the past to light.

AARON HERNANZ'S SECRET GAY LOVER OPENS UP ABOUT THEIR RELATNSHIP

Over the last five years, a tr of Irish wrers have livered stunng gay-themed novels set predomantly perds of history that didn't wele them – John Boyne (The Heart’s Invisible Furi), Graham Norton (Home Stretch), and Sebastian Barry (the Costa Award-wng Days Whout End). In the theatre, Matthew Lopez's exploratn of gay male history The Inherance triumphed London before transferrg to New York, where opened the year after a well-received revival of Mart Crowley's semal 1968 play Boys the Band. Most recently, the ter explod wh behd-the-scen photos of Harry Styl om the shoot of new film My Policeman, an adaptatn of Bethan Roberts's 2012 novel starrg the pop superstar as a closeted gay man the 1950s.

However, as a way of explag the mystery surroundg why Harry left behd everythg he knew, Gale imaged a suatn which he was forced to leave as a rult of a gay affair beg exposed.

MY HBAND'S SECRET GAY LIFE

Crystal Jeans's latt novel is The Inverts, which tells the story of two bt iends – one a lbian, the other a gay man – who enter to a fake marriage the 1920s. This was another reason I wrote The Secret Life of Albert Entwistle; I wanted to tell the story of one ordary young gay man tryg to exprs his love for another at a time when this would not have been accepted. But I also wanted to ntrast this disturbg, sometim horrifyg picture wh what life n be like for a gay man wh today’s much more acceptg society the UK – and celebrate how much progrs we’ve ma.

My spiratn was a seri of terviews I nducted wh olr gay men whilst I was Edor--Chief of Attu magaze, as part of our celebratn of the 50th anniversary of the start of crimalisatn. Pop star Harry Styl is starrg new film My Policeman as a closeted gay officer the 1950s (Cred: Getty Imag)"What we see all through history is that people are nied their past as part of a way to ntrol them, " says Hornby.

The steam room and sna at my lol Y served as a kd of after-work social club for men who were gay ― and for those who had wiv and kids. Bee there was so much to disver and try to unrstand, we cid he need space to date, to fd out if he was gay or some other orientatn, and to learn exactly what this meant for him ― and for .

‘HONEY, I’VE GOT A SECRET’ : WHEN GAY MEN E OUT TO THEIR WIV

I helped create his onle datg profile, took sexy pictur of him to upload, and sent him advice articl on gay relatnships. ”In between bouts of cryg the shower, sleepls nights and readg every self-help book sold on Amazon, I cid that if Stuart was gay, I uld be his bt iend ex-wife and we uld have this big gay fay. Some men who have sex wh men (MSM) thk they are too straight to be gay, but others see them as too gay to be straight.

Acrdg to the Centers for Disease Control, about 7 percent of men have sex wh men, but gay men are timated at about 4 percent of the populatn. Lisa Diamond has wrten that the genr of women's sexual sire may be fluid, but rearchers generally agree that for men homosexual attractns never reverse. MSM may say they are engaged homosexual behavr but rist assumg a gay inty bee they don't intify wh the stereotype.

" Future efforts to supprs homosexual attractn may e MSM to experience sadns; prsn and thoughts of suici; dg and alhol abe; and other self-stctive behavrs. For MSM, the first qutn they mt answer is, "How would you tend to live your life if the homosexual attractns never go away? Coupl mt addrs the primary issue: Should they rema married given the permanency of his stggle agast homosexual attractn?

TELL: AN INTIMATE HISTORY OF GAY MEN THE MILARY

He worked at a gas statn on the rner of North Van Ns Avenue and Hollywood Boulevard, out of which, he says, he and a dre of his male and female iends serviced Hollywood celebri—many of them closeted homosexuals. They provid a safety zone for people whose reers would have been ed if the tth about them emerged the s before gay rights and the AIDS crisis.

WHO IS THE SRNED 'GAY LOVER' WHO BROUGHT DOWN TODD CHRISLEY? REALY STAR'S EX-BS PARTNER IS A MARRIED DAD AND GRANDFATHER-OF-TWO WHOSE WIFE OF 34 YEARS IS 'STANDG BY HIM' - EVEN AFTER HE NFSED TO GAY AFFAIR AND HELPG TO M BANK D

Aaron Hernanz's high school gay lover has spoken on mera for the first time about their secret relatnship. SanSoucie spoke out a new documentary about Hernanz's life and their relatnship, tellg filmmakers: 'We prid ourselv on sports and if anyone knew that we had gay sexual activy together our liv would be ed. He was terrified he’d be exposed as the lculatg bastard he is — not simply a closeted gay man ught after a rels discretn.

” Jim, now 62, ns a group Boston lled GAMMA – the Gay and Married Men’s Associatn – one of many siar groups which meet ci around the a month they gather for two hours to share stori. In Boston, Jim says he’s seen men outed after beg arrted cisg at gay bears, or outed by private vtigators hired by their those who are still the closet, n be paful, terrifyg, and exhstg.

He knew he had been attracted to men adolcence, but was somethg he tried not to thk was the mid-70s, but spe the sexual revolutn happeng around him, he says homosexualy jt wasn’t somethg you thought loved his wife. “Some guys believe that beg gay has lerally jt happened then, but then you dig a ltle eper and you often fd out that they’ve had [those feelgs] sce childhood, ” he both Sydney and Boston, the average age of men who e to group meetgs has been fallg.

YOU CAN LIVE FOREVER REVIEW – SECRET AFFAIR FOR JEHOVAH’S WNS TEENS GAY AWAKENG

“A lot of the younger people we see knew they were gay and realised but wanted to have the tradnal fay and kids and thought they uld ratnalise , or told themselv they were bi, ” Jim says. ”Rippg off the band-aidJim says didn’t que click for him that he was gay until he was his early 30s and accintally stumbled upon a gay beat a public bathroom. A world of gay cisg opened up to him, he realised there were others like him, and that they were everywhere.