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Contents:

• THE GAY VOICE
• HOW TO TALK WH A GAY OR LBIAN PERSON
• WHAT MEANS TO ‘SOUND GAY’
• HOW TO TALK ABOUT BEG GAY
• WHY DO GAY MEN SOUND LIKE ~THAT~?
• HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
• GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
• STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
• HOW TO CHAT SAFELY ON INTERACTIVE MALE GAY PHONE CHAT

THE GAY VOICE

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HOW TO TALK WH A GAY OR LBIAN PERSON

If you stggle to accept gay people, you may not be sure how to talk to them whout brgg up your own beliefs. Beg gay or lbian is only one aspect of a person, and don't have to be at the foreont of every teractn.

Gay men and lbians vary greatly their appearanc, the way they talk, and the way they behave jt the same as everyone else.

WHAT MEANS TO ‘SOUND GAY’

Try to thk about the reasons why you or other people might object to beg gay or lbian and wre some of the reasons down. What might the person who is gay or lbian say to fend him or herself agast your list? Beg a gay man or lbian do not mean that they are attracted to every sgle person they meet that is of the same sex, jt like you aren't attracted to every sgle person you meet that is of the oppose sex.

A gay or bisexual person may wish to disclose their sexual preferenc wh you, or they may not. If you are a person who stggl to accept LGBT+ people for whatever reason, and believe that is wrong then you may feel tempted to be mean to a gay or lbian person. You will have to take all of the same steps to mata a iendship wh a gay or lbian person as you would wh a straight person.

HOW TO TALK ABOUT BEG GAY

As wh all people, if you have a close gay or lbian iend who is stgglg their life, be supportive.

Lecturg a gay or lbian person about why their sexualy is, your opn, wrong will not make them sudnly say, “Oh, you know what, you're right. Would you change your md about beg heterosexual if a gay or lbian person me up to you and started talkg about why heterosexualy is wrong? If a gay person do ask you about your views, then feel ee to talk about them, but do wh kdns.

Jt bee someone is gay or lbian do not mean that they don't intify wh their own genr. For example, many people tend to assume that a gay man will be drsed brightly lored clothg, have perfectly styled hair, and speak a feme way. Article SummaryXTalkg wh someone who’s gay or lbian don’t need to be any different to talkg to straight people.

WHY DO GAY MEN SOUND LIKE ~THAT~?

() Wh a transgenr woman  Congrs and the immense populary of shows like Queer Eye and RuPl's Drag Race, gay culture is currently at the foreont of mastream Filipo nscns a way has never been before. Provg jt how funny the evolutn of language n be, achoo is the newt eratn of the classic beki term "pamta, " which refers to gay men who seem like they're straight.

” It’s a fascatg and nuanced film, which the filmmaker, David Thorpe,  his feelgs about his voice to look at attus toward homosexualy. It rais a plited discsn about gay pri, lgerg homophobia, disguised misogyny, and the extent to which we all alter the image that we prent to the the film begs, Thorpe is disturbed bee he realiz he don’t like his voice any more.

He rri out thoughtful nversatns wh his iends and proment gay and lbian figur – cludg Gee Takei, David Sedaris, Dan Savage, Margaret Cho and Don Lemon – about what means to “sound gay.

HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)

But so dog, v everyone to thk about what their own voice says about who they are, where they me om, and where they want to science of “the gay voice”To start wh, the stereotypil “gay voice” isn’t necsarily a study published 2003, Ron Smyth, a lguist at the Universy of Toronto, found that participants readily separated rerdgs of 25 diverse voic to those who “sound gay” and those who “sound straight. ” People picked up on featur of the gay stereotype – voic that were higher and more melod were more often labeled "gay. In Smyth's study, people rrectly gused a man’s sexualy about 60 percent of the time, only a ltle better than another small study at the Universy of Hawaii, both gay and straight listeners were equally as likely to misclassify people as gay or straight.

In fact, the straight men wh so-lled gay voic weren't aware that people thought they sound gay at turns out that what most people perceive as a stereotypil "gay voice" is jt a male voice that sounds more stereotypilly feme -- maly, higher pched and more melod.

And that often has more to do wh the voic that a person intified wh as they grew up, rather than and other rearchers say some men, both gay and straight, velop more feme voic bee they are fluenced by women when they are young.

GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?

"Some men wh 'gay voic' are straight, and some men wh 'straight voic' are gay, " says Smyth.

"There are butch and fem gay men, there are butch and fem straight men, there are butch and fem straight women.

If you've ever found yourself talkg to someone wh a different accent and gradually emulatg them, you're faiar wh the gay men, adoptg what's lled "mp" -- a theatril gay accent, like an old-school starlet -- n be a way of embracg their inty.

STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS

“As a hly mted gay man, I learned how mpg up uld be liberatg, ” Thorpe says the there may be more subtle ways that sexualy and our sense of self fluence our voic. Benjam Munson, who studi language and speech at the Universy of Mnota, found one study that gay men did e a slightly different pronunciatn than straight men.

However, the difference wasn’t the stereotypil “gay voice, ” but a tenncy to e a more ntemporary, pan-Amerin accent, rather than the old-fashned Mnota accent (like  the movie “Fargo") says that the gay men he terviewed may have wanted to nvey an inty that is more stylish and cuttg edge.

“As speakers of a language, we have lots of eedom how we pronounce sounds … People explo that variatn to create different social meangs, " he those who are proud n still feel stigma“Do I Sound Gay?

HOW TO CHAT SAFELY ON INTERACTIVE MALE GAY PHONE CHAT

” shows that even men who are out and proud may still rry wh them some shame about havg a stereotypil “gay voice, ” even if those feelgs are Savage, a gay activist and thor, argu  the film that this is a natural nsequence of boys beg bullied for walkg and talkg a certa way when they are young. Misogyny and homophobia are “evil tws, ” which both have a root sexism and valug thgs that are female, says Thorpe.

“[B]ee we do still live a misogynist and sexist culture, people cricize men who are effemate, whether or not they are gay, " says Thorpse. "“This is really an issue of genr that then be an issue of sexual orientatn that then be an issue of homophobia, " Thorpe said.

He grew up the Bible Belt the 1980s, when homosexualy was often nsired evil and the e of a new plague lled AIDS, Thorpe says.