Denstctg the "Sassy Gay Friend" | Jewish Women's Archive

Contents:

• SASSY GAY FRIEND
• EXCLIVE: BRIAN GALLIVAN ON SASSY GAY FRIEND, MIO, AND STUPID BIATCH
• DENSTCTG THE "SASSY GAY FRIEND"
• INTERVIEW WH BRIAN GALLIVAN: THE MAN, THE MYTH, THE SASSY GAY FRIEND
• WATCH: WHAT YOUR SASSY GAY FRIEND IS REALLY THKG
• TACKLG THE HUMOR OF GAY STEREOTYPG ONLE
• EVERYONE NEEDS A SASSY GAY FRIEND
• FRIENDSHIP TROUBLE: AN EXAMATN OF THE GAY BT FRIEND INTY AMERIN CONSUMER CULTURE
• CONFSNS OF A "SASSY GAY" STYLIST: I'M TIRED OF STROKG STRAIGHT WOMEN'S EGOS FOR MIMUM WAGE"I’M THE ONE-DIMENSNAL PAL THEY’VE SEEN ON TV, ONLY REAL AND THE FLH."{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY STEFON SASSERFEBARY 25, 2019/12:06 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:4912PX;WIDTH:7360PX;}GETTY IMAGPORTRA OF TRENDY STYLISH STYLIST GLASS, HOLDG HAND LIKE GAY LOOKG AT MERA ISOLATED ON GREY BACKGROUND, HAVG SRF AROUND NECKBY STEFON SASSERFEBARY 25, 2019 / 12:06 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"CONFSNS OF A \"SASSY GAY\" STYLIST: I'M TIRED OF STROKG STRAIGHT WOMEN'S EGOS FOR MIMUM WAGE","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2019-02-25T17:06:03.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2019-02-25T17:06:03.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"STEFON SASSER","KEYWORDS":"OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS WE APPROACH THE THIRD MONTH OF 2019, I FD MYSELF STUCK THE UTTERLY MORN PREDIMENT OF BEG THE TOKEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DPE KNOWG NEXT TO NOTHG ABOUT FASHN, I WORK AT A POPULAR RETAIL CHA. THE SHOP IS A LIBERAL METROPOLAN AREA, WHICH MEANS PEOPLE ARE MORE THAN OKAY WH ME BEG A VISIBLY QUEER MAN. MY LIMP WRISTS, GDY EARRGS, AND GLTERY NAIL POLISH AREN'T TERRENTS TO THE LARGELY HETEROSEXUAL CTOMER BASE. IF ANYTHG, MY APPEARANCE ATTRACTS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WORKG RETAIL MEANS HAVG PEOPLE ASK ME ABOUT CLOTH ALL THE TIME: “WHAT’S THIS BRAND?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“IS THIS A MORN-LOOKG DRS?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“DO THIS LOOK BORG?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THANKFULLY, I N HI MY LACK OF SARTORIAL KNOWLEDGE BEHD THE SASSY GAY PERSONA THAT OTHER GAYS HAVE ADOPTED FOR YEARS. WHEN I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY, I JT SUPPLY A STEREOTYPIL GAY QUIP. A STANDARD, “YOU LOOK FIERCE!” A HIGH VOICE OR WH LOTS OF VOL-Y TENDS TO SILENCE ANY DOUBTS A CTOMER MIGHT HAVE ABOUT A PURCHASE—PECIALLY IF THAT CTOMER IS A WOMAN, AND EVEN MORE SO IF SHE’S A WOMAN ABOVE THE AGE OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CLTON KELLY TLC'S WHAT NOT TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’VE BEEN PREPPED MY WHOLE LIFE TO BE A SASSY GAY STYLIST. I GREW UP REGULARLY WATCHG TLC’S WHAT NOT TO WEAR WH MY MOTHER AND SISTER, SOAKG UP CLTON KELLY’S WORDS AND SASSY, YET REFED MEANOR. MY MOM DIDN’T LIKE THE ROWDY ST OF QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT GUY AS MUCH, BUT WE WOULD STILL TCH RANDOM EPISOS WHEN CHANNEL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS A JUNR HIGH SCHOOL, I WATCHED THE VIRAL SASSY GAY FRIEND VIOS AND WNSED HOW MUCH VERBAL ABE WOMEN WOULD TAKE IF OM A IEND WH AN EFFEMATE VOICE. THERE WAS THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA ON E!’S FASHN POLICE; THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA MY FAVORE ACTN MOVIE RH HOUR 2; THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA DAMIAN (DANIEL FRANZE) OF MEAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE ROLE OF SASSY GAY AND SUBSERVIENT STORE CLERK GO HAND HAND. THE SASSY GAY IS A IEND! HE ONLY WANTS THE BT FOR YOU. HE’LL TELL YOU THE SASSY GAY TTH YOUR REAL IENDS (WHATEVER THEIR GENR OR ORIENTATN) ARE TOO SRED TO SAY. HE LOOKS GREAT AND WILL HELP YOU LOOK GREAT AS WELL! INSTEAD OF BEG A FULLY PRENT, ROUND HUMAN, HE’S ONLY THERE TO HELP YOU, THE FAHFUL CTOMER! THIS IS THE APPROACHABLE VERSN OF QUEERNS THAT ANY RETAIL EMPLOYER WANTS: A PERKY WORKER WHO CHARMS ANY CTOMER TO G {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE SASSY GAY IS A NTERED, G-RATED, STORE-IENDLY VERSN OF HIMSELF WH NO WANTS OF HIS OWN, SEXUAL OR OTHERWISE. LIKE THE FAIRY GODMOTHER WHO SHOWS UP FOR THE MAKEOVER AND DISAPPEARS AS SOON AS CRELLA HEADS OFF TO THE BALL, HIS SOLE PURPOSE IS TO PROP UP THE MA CHARACTER. HIS OWN MOTIVATN REMAS UNEXPLAED, UNIMPORTANT TO THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT’S THE MA WAY GAY MEN HAVE BEEN VISIBLE THE PUBLIC EYE: SNAPPY DRSERS WH SURFACE-LEVEL FLUENCE. THE OTHER PARTS OF GAYNS (FUCKG OTHER MEN, SOCIAL AND POLIL EQUALY, ETC.) ARE TOO APPROPRIATE TO TALK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}JANIS IAN (LIZZY CAPLAN) TRODUCG DAMIAN (DANIEL FRANZE) MEAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOCIETY TELLS TO BE GAY, BUT NOT TOO GAY. DON’T BE MSY. HISTORILLY, THE ALTERNATIVE TO BEG THE SASSY GAY IEND WAS BEG ABSENT, VISIBLE—RCED TO NOTHG. THE WORLD TELLS THAT PLAYG TO THE STEREOTYPE IS THE ONLY WAY WE N BE SEEN, HEARD, AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS THE SASSY GAY AT WORK, FAGGG UP KEEPS EASY AND SURFACE LEVEL. I NEVER HAVE TO SAY ANYTHG MEANGFUL OR HEARTFELT. ALL I HAVE TO DO IS ASK THEM ABOUT THEIR DAY AND THEN PICK A SGLE ASPECT OF TO SERT TO SASSY GAY MADLIBS: “COME TH, ___!” OR “WE LOVE ___!” WORKS JT FE. “C’MON, MISS ___!” GETS A LGH AND A SE EVERY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}REPEAT THE L OF EVERY GAY DURG A MAKEOVER MONTAGE, AND YOU’RE GOOD TO GO. IT’S THE VOICE AND VERNACULAR OF IENDLY THORY, THOSE GAYS ON TV. “I KNOW YOU’LL TELL ME THE TTH,” THEY WHISPER TO ME WH A GLIMMER THEIR EYE, NOT KNOWG I’VE LIED TO THEM ABOUT ALL OF THEIR CLOTH AND N’T WA FOR THEM TO GET OUT OF MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS EFFECT IS HEIGHTENED THE MORE EFFEMATE MY APPEARANCE IS. WHEN CTOMERS LIKE WHAT YOU’RE WEARG, THEY RPECT YOUR THORY MORE. BIG, GLTERY EARRGS OR A FUN DRS MEANS I’M SHOWERED WH PLIMENTS. THEY’RE THEN MORE AMENABLE WHEN I TELL THEM THEY N’T TRY ON SHO THE FTG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STILL, I N’T SHAKE THE FEELG THAT THEIR “I LOVE YOUR DRS” REALLY MEANS “I LOVE THAT YOU’RE WEARG A DRS AND THAT I, A OL LIBERAL, GET TO ASK YOU FOR ADVICE.” TODAY, A CTOMER EXCLAIMED, “I LOVE YOUR GLTERY NAILS!” AND LERALLY PET MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CARSON KRSLEY OF THE ORIGAL QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GRANTED, I’M NOT UNAWARE OF MY PRIVILEGE. I’M WHE MALE-PRENTG GAY A LIBERAL AREA. I’M SURE IF I WERE MORE GENR NON-NFORMG OR A PERSON OF LOR, I WOULDN’T BE ABLE TO PALIZE ON MY GAYNS SO EASILY. I DREAD G TO WORK EVERY DAY, BUT I RECENTLY WAS AWARD “BT ATTU” AT MY PANY’S HOLIDAY PARTY. I ALSO GOT EMPLOYEE OF THE MONTH WH MY FIRST THREE MONTHS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PLAYG THE ROLE OF THE SASSY GAY MEANS I’VE GOT ALL OF MY WORKERS FOOLED, YET I N'T HELP BUT FEEL LIKE I’M BEG THE FAGGOT URT JTER FOR MIMUM WAGE. I SPEND 30 OR MORE HOURS A WEEK BEG THE PET GAY OF ANYONE WHO WALKS TO THE STORE. I FEIGN HAPPS AND MAKE EVERYONE AROUND ME LGH WH MY CLEVER ASIS WHILE MY HANDS GET VERED HANGER GREASE. LATER, I FD MYSELF SNAPPG AT IENDS, WORN DOWN BY THE STRA OF PLAYG THIS TIRED, OVERLY ACMODATG ROLE ALL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M THE ONE-DIMENSNAL PAL THEY’VE SEEN ON TV, ONLY REAL AND THE FLH. WHEN THEY THK OF SASSY GAYS, I’M RIGHT UP THERE WH CARSON KRSLEY OF QUEER EYE AND CLTON—EXCEPT I’M REAL, AND THEREFORE EVEN MORE DAMNG EVINCE THAT ALL GAY MEN ARE HAPPY AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMETIM, THE MIDDLE OF THE SHIFT, I WONR IF I’LL EVER SRE A JOB OUTSI OF A RETAIL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMETIM, I HONTLY WONR IF ALL I’M GOOD FOR IS PLAYG A RITURE OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
• WOULD OPHELIA HAVE DIED IF SHE HAD A SASSY GAY FRIEND?

SASSY GAY FRIEND

The seri starred actor Brian Gallivan[6] as the tular character who viss famo characters om lerature and film, as well as a handful of historil figur, to give them advice om the perspective of a over-the-top stereotypil homosexual male. [7] The first Sassy Gay Friend YouTube vio was upload on Febary 17th, 2010 to the Send Cy's channel, pictg the character visg Ophelia om William Shakpeare's Hamlet right before she ms suici.

Throughout the rt of 2010, Sassy Gay Friend vios appeared on Paste Magaze[15], the Huffgton Post[16], Entertament Weekly[17], the New York Post[18] and Trendhunter. In Febary 2011, Sassy Gay Friend beme the spokperson for MiO[23], a liquid water enhancer product, dog a handful of man on the street terview vios (shown below) for the brand.

EXCLIVE: BRIAN GALLIVAN ON SASSY GAY FRIEND, MIO, AND STUPID BIATCH

The Send Cy h seri, “Sassy Gay Friend, ” featur Brian Gallivan, who b clever embedd advertisg wh hilar rants that tackle the bereft and befuddled mains of the Bard. Gallivan’s character, Sassy Gay Friend, pops up as if transported through a time mache to nsole and buck up historil hysteril women who uld have ed some pla old good advice.

DENSTCTG THE "SASSY GAY FRIEND"

LGBTQ, short for lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr and queer is an ialism ed to refer to a loosely nnected global muny of non-heterosexual and non-cisgenr people, as well as var supporters and anizatns, who are actively volved the advocy of civil rights for the genr and sexual mori. On the Inter and the English-speakg media, the term has been ed to scribe the muny of genr mori, the social movement for the advancement of their civil rights and a wi range of polil issu pertag to genr equaly, such as same-sex marriage, homophobia and discrimatory laws agast members of the LGBT muny. In the mid-to-late 1980s, the ialism LGB (lbians, gays and bisexuals) beme wily adopted as the preferred alternative to the terms "gay" and "homosexuals" to emphasize the growg diversy of sexual and genr mori.

", which reported that the anti-gay marriage anizatn Pennsylvania Fay Instute (PFI) listed Amerin fast food rtrant cha "Chick-fil-A ": as a -sponsor of two marriage nferenc. The Facebook image post was stantly met by polarized opns between supporters and crics of gay marriage, quickly latg to a lengthy bate of more than 23, 000 ments the first 24 hours.

Gay Wars Tippg Controversy refers to an onle hoax volvg an alleged se of discrimatn toward Dayna Moral, a wars at the Gallop Asian Bistro rtrant Bridgewater, New Jersey, who claimed that she was nied a tip om a fay she had served bee of her sexual inty. Phil Robertson's Anti-Gay Comment, better known as The Duck Dynasty Controversy, refers to a ntroversial statement ma by the star of the A&E realy TV seri Duck Dynasty on the subject of homosexualy a feature terview wh GQ December 2013. On September 26th, 2013, Guido Barilla, the chairman of the Italian food pany Barilla Group, stated an terview on the rad show La Zanzara that the pany would not nsir g gay upl advertisements for their pasta brand bee he do not agree wh their liftyl.

INTERVIEW WH BRIAN GALLIVAN: THE MAN, THE MYTH, THE SASSY GAY FRIEND

He went on to emphasize the importance of what he nsirs a tradnal fay, statg “If gays like our pasta and our advertisg, they will eat our pasta; if they don’t like that, they will eat someone else’s pasta. Pat Robertson's Gay AIDS Rg refers to a vio clip of the nservative Christian talk show host claimg that some San Francis's gay muny tentnally try to spread the HIV vis by cuttg each other wh special rgs.

Kim Davis is the unty clerk of Rowan County, Kentucky, who beme a ntroversial figure after refg to issue licens for same-sex marriag pliance wh the Uned Stat Supreme Court’s gay marriage lg June 2015. Orlando Nightclub Shootg was a mass shootg rried out by a lone gunman at Pulse, a gay nightclub Orlando, Florida, which rulted the aths of at least 49 patrons and wound 53 others on June 12th, 2016.

Outsi of his actg reer televisn and mils, Harris has garnered a large followg onle for his active social media prence and advocy of LGBT rights as an openly gay actor. It Gets Better Project is a social media mpaign lnched by Amerin thor and gay rights advote Dan Savage an effort to prevent suici among LGBT youth by enuragg gay adults to spread the msage that their liv will improve.

WATCH: WHAT YOUR SASSY GAY FRIEND IS REALLY THKG

Gee Takei Calls Out Anti-Gay Arkansas School Board Member is a viral vio featurg a public service announcement msage by Gee Takei, a Japane Amerin actor bt known for his supportg role as "Hika Sulu" the sci-fi TV seri Star Trek and polil activism advocy of Gay rights.

TACKLG THE HUMOR OF GAY STEREOTYPG ONLE

The msage is specifilly addrsed to Clt McCance, a Arkansas School Board member who posted a seri of highly homophobic ments on his Facebook page rponse to recent the school-wi LGBT rights mpaign. Daniel Pierce Comg Out Vio refers to a vio Daniel Pierce, a neteen-year-old om Geia, which was upload to YouTube and shows his father and stepmother abg him after he told them he is gay. " It was first nceived and ed by Amerin lumnist Dan Savage and his rears an effort to publicly shame the former Republin senator Rick Santom for the anti-gay remarks he ma durg an terview wh the Associated Prs April 2003.

Comg Out Vios are rerdgs of long-time closeted lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr dividuals openly disclosg their sexual orientatn and/or genr inty to others for the first time. The seri starred actor Brian Gallivan as the tular character who viss famo characters om lerature and film, as well as a handful of historil figur, to give them advice om the perspective of a over-the-top stereotypil homosexual male. #AskTheGays is a satiril hashtag lnched by members and advot of the LGBT muny on Twter rponse to a gaffe uttered by 2016 Republin printial ndidate Donald Tmp while discsg the Orlando nightclub shootg at a mpaign rally June 2016.

Gaymer, a portmante of the words “gay” and “gamer, ” is an umbrella term for people who intify themselv as lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr or queer (LGBTQ) wh the vio gamg muny.

EVERYONE NEEDS A SASSY GAY FRIEND

"Sassy Gay Friend" very obvly plays on stereotyp -- the stereotype that gay men exist orr to be women's "sassy gay iends" and the stereotype that women are, as is repeatedly stated the vios, "stupid bch. In this stereotype, gay men exist only to help straight people, and are therefore rced to a supportg role and often sexualized so as not to be threateng (thk Stanford on Sex and the Cy). " By llg Juliet and Ophelia "stupid bch, " their so-lled sassy gay iend dismiss the prsn and heartbreak (not to mentn the misogynistic and paternalistic forc opprsg the young women) behd each of their suicis as well, silly.

FRIENDSHIP TROUBLE: AN EXAMATN OF THE GAY BT FRIEND INTY AMERIN CONSUMER CULTURE

This bridgg gap n also work the reverse way by helpg men make better cisns wh Sassy Gay Friend was ma popular by the popular Send Cy Network sk found on I was almost gog to get wh Steph, but fortunately my sassy gay iend knew om the drk she orred that she had herp and stopped me.

Wh each vio, Brian re-imag the tragic fat of some of Shakpeare’s (and Wtern lerature’s) most famo ladi as they might have occurred if they had only had a “Sassy Gay Friend” on hand to gui them. Not surprisgly, the five episos of Sassy Gay Friend (that range om Hamlet to The Givg Tree) have gone on to amass over 12 ln views on YouTube, largely thanks to their sharp dialogue, irreverent w and well-timed e of clever tchphras.

Gay men have been the hottt accsori for straight women ever sce "Will and Grace" ma ntered homosexuals safe for prime time, and acrdg to a Web seri by Chigo's edy troupe Send Cy, some of the most famo women lerature would have been better off wh their own Sassy Gay Friend. The Sassy Gay Friend is a character played by edian Brian Gallivan who pops up the liv of Shakpearean characters like Ophelia, Juliet and Lady MacBeth (and more recently, Na om "Black Swan") to save them om their impendg doom wh his signature tchphrase, "What, what, what are you dog?

CONFSNS OF A "SASSY GAY" STYLIST: I'M TIRED OF STROKG STRAIGHT WOMEN'S EGOS FOR MIMUM WAGE"I’M THE ONE-DIMENSNAL PAL THEY’VE SEEN ON TV, ONLY REAL AND THE FLH."{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY STEFON SASSERFEBARY 25, 2019/12:06 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:4912PX;WIDTH:7360PX;}GETTY IMAGPORTRA OF TRENDY STYLISH STYLIST GLASS, HOLDG HAND LIKE GAY LOOKG AT MERA ISOLATED ON GREY BACKGROUND, HAVG SRF AROUND NECKBY STEFON SASSERFEBARY 25, 2019 / 12:06 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"CONFSNS OF A \"SASSY GAY\" STYLIST: I'M TIRED OF STROKG STRAIGHT WOMEN'S EGOS FOR MIMUM WAGE","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2019-02-25T17:06:03.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2019-02-25T17:06:03.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"STEFON SASSER","KEYWORDS":"OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS WE APPROACH THE THIRD MONTH OF 2019, I FD MYSELF STUCK THE UTTERLY MORN PREDIMENT OF BEG THE TOKEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DPE KNOWG NEXT TO NOTHG ABOUT FASHN, I WORK AT A POPULAR RETAIL CHA. THE SHOP IS A LIBERAL METROPOLAN AREA, WHICH MEANS PEOPLE ARE MORE THAN OKAY WH ME BEG A VISIBLY QUEER MAN. MY LIMP WRISTS, GDY EARRGS, AND GLTERY NAIL POLISH AREN'T TERRENTS TO THE LARGELY HETEROSEXUAL CTOMER BASE. IF ANYTHG, MY APPEARANCE ATTRACTS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WORKG RETAIL MEANS HAVG PEOPLE ASK ME ABOUT CLOTH ALL THE TIME: “WHAT’S THIS BRAND?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“IS THIS A MORN-LOOKG DRS?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“DO THIS LOOK BORG?”{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THANKFULLY, I N HI MY LACK OF SARTORIAL KNOWLEDGE BEHD THE SASSY GAY PERSONA THAT OTHER GAYS HAVE ADOPTED FOR YEARS. WHEN I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY, I JT SUPPLY A STEREOTYPIL GAY QUIP. A STANDARD, “YOU LOOK FIERCE!” A HIGH VOICE OR WH LOTS OF VOL-Y TENDS TO SILENCE ANY DOUBTS A CTOMER MIGHT HAVE ABOUT A PURCHASE—PECIALLY IF THAT CTOMER IS A WOMAN, AND EVEN MORE SO IF SHE’S A WOMAN ABOVE THE AGE OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CLTON KELLY TLC'S WHAT NOT TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’VE BEEN PREPPED MY WHOLE LIFE TO BE A SASSY GAY STYLIST. I GREW UP REGULARLY WATCHG TLC’S WHAT NOT TO WEAR WH MY MOTHER AND SISTER, SOAKG UP CLTON KELLY’S WORDS AND SASSY, YET REFED MEANOR. MY MOM DIDN’T LIKE THE ROWDY ST OF QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT GUY AS MUCH, BUT WE WOULD STILL TCH RANDOM EPISOS WHEN CHANNEL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS A JUNR HIGH SCHOOL, I WATCHED THE VIRAL SASSY GAY FRIEND VIOS AND WNSED HOW MUCH VERBAL ABE WOMEN WOULD TAKE IF OM A IEND WH AN EFFEMATE VOICE. THERE WAS THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA ON E!’S FASHN POLICE; THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA MY FAVORE ACTN MOVIE RH HOUR 2; THE SASSY GAY FASHNISTA DAMIAN (DANIEL FRANZE) OF MEAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE ROLE OF SASSY GAY AND SUBSERVIENT STORE CLERK GO HAND HAND. THE SASSY GAY IS A IEND! HE ONLY WANTS THE BT FOR YOU. HE’LL TELL YOU THE SASSY GAY TTH YOUR REAL IENDS (WHATEVER THEIR GENR OR ORIENTATN) ARE TOO SRED TO SAY. HE LOOKS GREAT AND WILL HELP YOU LOOK GREAT AS WELL! INSTEAD OF BEG A FULLY PRENT, ROUND HUMAN, HE’S ONLY THERE TO HELP YOU, THE FAHFUL CTOMER! THIS IS THE APPROACHABLE VERSN OF QUEERNS THAT ANY RETAIL EMPLOYER WANTS: A PERKY WORKER WHO CHARMS ANY CTOMER TO G {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE SASSY GAY IS A NTERED, G-RATED, STORE-IENDLY VERSN OF HIMSELF WH NO WANTS OF HIS OWN, SEXUAL OR OTHERWISE. LIKE THE FAIRY GODMOTHER WHO SHOWS UP FOR THE MAKEOVER AND DISAPPEARS AS SOON AS CRELLA HEADS OFF TO THE BALL, HIS SOLE PURPOSE IS TO PROP UP THE MA CHARACTER. HIS OWN MOTIVATN REMAS UNEXPLAED, UNIMPORTANT TO THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT’S THE MA WAY GAY MEN HAVE BEEN VISIBLE THE PUBLIC EYE: SNAPPY DRSERS WH SURFACE-LEVEL FLUENCE. THE OTHER PARTS OF GAYNS (FUCKG OTHER MEN, SOCIAL AND POLIL EQUALY, ETC.) ARE TOO APPROPRIATE TO TALK {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}JANIS IAN (LIZZY CAPLAN) TRODUCG DAMIAN (DANIEL FRANZE) MEAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOCIETY TELLS TO BE GAY, BUT NOT TOO GAY. DON’T BE MSY. HISTORILLY, THE ALTERNATIVE TO BEG THE SASSY GAY IEND WAS BEG ABSENT, VISIBLE—RCED TO NOTHG. THE WORLD TELLS THAT PLAYG TO THE STEREOTYPE IS THE ONLY WAY WE N BE SEEN, HEARD, AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS THE SASSY GAY AT WORK, FAGGG UP KEEPS EASY AND SURFACE LEVEL. I NEVER HAVE TO SAY ANYTHG MEANGFUL OR HEARTFELT. ALL I HAVE TO DO IS ASK THEM ABOUT THEIR DAY AND THEN PICK A SGLE ASPECT OF TO SERT TO SASSY GAY MADLIBS: “COME TH, ___!” OR “WE LOVE ___!” WORKS JT FE. “C’MON, MISS ___!” GETS A LGH AND A SE EVERY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}REPEAT THE L OF EVERY GAY DURG A MAKEOVER MONTAGE, AND YOU’RE GOOD TO GO. IT’S THE VOICE AND VERNACULAR OF IENDLY THORY, THOSE GAYS ON TV. “I KNOW YOU’LL TELL ME THE TTH,” THEY WHISPER TO ME WH A GLIMMER THEIR EYE, NOT KNOWG I’VE LIED TO THEM ABOUT ALL OF THEIR CLOTH AND N’T WA FOR THEM TO GET OUT OF MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS EFFECT IS HEIGHTENED THE MORE EFFEMATE MY APPEARANCE IS. WHEN CTOMERS LIKE WHAT YOU’RE WEARG, THEY RPECT YOUR THORY MORE. BIG, GLTERY EARRGS OR A FUN DRS MEANS I’M SHOWERED WH PLIMENTS. THEY’RE THEN MORE AMENABLE WHEN I TELL THEM THEY N’T TRY ON SHO THE FTG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STILL, I N’T SHAKE THE FEELG THAT THEIR “I LOVE YOUR DRS” REALLY MEANS “I LOVE THAT YOU’RE WEARG A DRS AND THAT I, A OL LIBERAL, GET TO ASK YOU FOR ADVICE.” TODAY, A CTOMER EXCLAIMED, “I LOVE YOUR GLTERY NAILS!” AND LERALLY PET MY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}CARSON KRSLEY OF THE ORIGAL QUEER EYE FOR THE STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GRANTED, I’M NOT UNAWARE OF MY PRIVILEGE. I’M WHE MALE-PRENTG GAY A LIBERAL AREA. I’M SURE IF I WERE MORE GENR NON-NFORMG OR A PERSON OF LOR, I WOULDN’T BE ABLE TO PALIZE ON MY GAYNS SO EASILY. I DREAD G TO WORK EVERY DAY, BUT I RECENTLY WAS AWARD “BT ATTU” AT MY PANY’S HOLIDAY PARTY. I ALSO GOT EMPLOYEE OF THE MONTH WH MY FIRST THREE MONTHS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}PLAYG THE ROLE OF THE SASSY GAY MEANS I’VE GOT ALL OF MY WORKERS FOOLED, YET I N'T HELP BUT FEEL LIKE I’M BEG THE FAGGOT URT JTER FOR MIMUM WAGE. I SPEND 30 OR MORE HOURS A WEEK BEG THE PET GAY OF ANYONE WHO WALKS TO THE STORE. I FEIGN HAPPS AND MAKE EVERYONE AROUND ME LGH WH MY CLEVER ASIS WHILE MY HANDS GET VERED HANGER GREASE. LATER, I FD MYSELF SNAPPG AT IENDS, WORN DOWN BY THE STRA OF PLAYG THIS TIRED, OVERLY ACMODATG ROLE ALL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M THE ONE-DIMENSNAL PAL THEY’VE SEEN ON TV, ONLY REAL AND THE FLH. WHEN THEY THK OF SASSY GAYS, I’M RIGHT UP THERE WH CARSON KRSLEY OF QUEER EYE AND CLTON—EXCEPT I’M REAL, AND THEREFORE EVEN MORE DAMNG EVINCE THAT ALL GAY MEN ARE HAPPY AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMETIM, THE MIDDLE OF THE SHIFT, I WONR IF I’LL EVER SRE A JOB OUTSI OF A RETAIL {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOMETIM, I HONTLY WONR IF ALL I’M GOOD FOR IS PLAYG A RITURE OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

While the vios are funny (really, really funny, actually), they exist an unfortable space where you aren't sure if the character of the Sassy Gay Friend is a mentary on how our morn culture views homosexual men and their fag hags by ntextualizg a historil settg, or if they were jt bankg on a gay stereotype to get lghs, like Jack om "Will and Grace. It's ["Will and Grace"] turned what was once a special relatnship between two cultural outsirs -- gay men and the straight women who love them -- to an eye-rollg cliché... She bought to our culture's portrayal of gay men as fun-lovg party monsters so wholeheartedly that she's bld to her iend's barely ncealed disda and disapproval for all the markers that make up that stereotype: He's not to fashn, don't want to go out and dance bee he's jt orred Thai food, and uldn't give a crap about Lady Gaga.

This study seeks to addrs this void by offerg an analysis of the gay bt iend through an examatn of the quali that nstute the gay bt iend inty as is prented Amerin nsumer culture.

The quali are ascertaed through an analysis of popular Amerin televisn shows and movi featurg gay bt iend characters—Will & Grace, Ugly Betty, Glee, Sex and the Cy, Burlque, The Devil Wears Prada, and Sex and the Cy 2. This say propos five tegori through which one n unrstand the quali of the gay bt iend inty: socenomic stat, the body, personal relatnships, behavr, and lack of agency. The tegori nstct the gay bt iend inty as one that is pletely modified and sentialized and that, although touted as an ditn of creasg acceptance of gay people, nstut ltle more than a new form of opprsn.

WOULD OPHELIA HAVE DIED IF SHE HAD A SASSY GAY FRIEND?

Contemporary culture has bee saturated wh the gay bt iend; the July, 2010 issue of Teen Vogue pots out “the mt-have ems [for a fashnable teenage girl] clud a Proenza Schouler tie-dyed top, a shnken ary jack, neon bright chunky bracelets, and … a gay bt iend” (Talbot, 2010, page number). Ined, the gay bt iend n even be found on the shelv of booksellers natnwi Terrance Dean’s (2010) book, Straight om Your Gay Bt Friend: The Straight-Up Tth About Relatnships, Work, and Havg a Fabulo Life. Though the reprentatns of the gay bt iend are fictnal, the pervasivens of the inty poss as one wh the potential to affect the lived experience of real people a myriad of ways.