It Was My Flt—Why Gay Male Victims of Domtic Vlence Often Dismiss It - #GAYNRD

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It's more mon than we thk and yet remas one of the most stigmatized experienc for gay men: domtic abe. It's likely to be dismissed by law enforcement, iends and fay members, and the victims themselv. As one man said, "When someone talks me through 's pretty obv — but when I'm the middle of , I jt figure out reasons why 's not that bad and ways 's probably my flt."

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IT WAS MY FLT—WHY GAY MALE VICTIMS OF DOMTIC VLENCE OFTEN DISMISS IT

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Studi show that gay men and bisexual women are more likely to experience severe physil vlence than their straight unterparts, cludg beg beaten, burned or choked. LGBT Natnal Help Center: Youth Hotle 1-800-246-PRIDE (7743); LGBT Natnal Hotle 1-888-843-4564; Sage LGBT Elr Hotle 1-888-234-7243; or Onle Chat at Gay Men’s Domtic Vlence Project Hotle: 1-800-832-1901. However, people who are lbian, gay and bisexual have an equal or higher prevalence of experiencg timate partner vlence, sexual vlence and stalkg as pared to heterosexuals.

26% percent of gay men and 37% of bisexual men – pared to 29% of heterosexual men – experienced rape, physil vlence, and/or stalkg by an timate partner at some pot their lifetime.

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Typil amg of partner abe as a heterosexual issue—wh men abg women—do a disservice to victims abive homosexual months to their relatnship, Chris's boyiend José phed him to the ground a f of anger and ripped the cloth off his body. Any attentn that I didn't give to him—whether I gave to iends, fay, or other guys, even jt other gay men who were my iends—he would get very upset if I hung out wh them too much.

They all intify as homosexual, and they all have had experienc wh physilly or psychologilly abive partners who left them fancially, mentally, or emotnally damaged.

"Yej Lee, an associate at the Anti-Vlence Program New York Cy, said that the assumptn of heterosexualy has been a huge stumblg block for gays and lbians seekg refuge om an aber. Sce the entire movement agast domtic abe started as a battered women's movement, Lee said, we are graed to thk that victims are all are married, straight a mental health unselor wh the Vlence Revery Program Boston, Jsi Newman says that bee the flt assumptn is that people are straight, there n be an attu wh shelters that a gay person somehow “served” the vlence.

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'"But Newman, Lee, and Valente all add that there are also ternal factors that keep a ver of darkns over the issue of domtic vlence the gay muny.

"I know gay upl the Bronx who beat the sh out of each other, " he said. "Chris moved om Chigo to New York when he was 21 so that he uld live life as an out gay man, he said. Materials provid by the CDC for vlence preventn and survivor empowerment promently feature women their statistics and 2013, the CDC released the rults of a 2010 study on victimizatn by sexual orientatn, and admted that “ltle is known about the natnal prevalence of timate partner vlence, sexual vlence, and stalkg among lbian, gay, and bisexual women and men the Uned Stat.

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