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Contents:
- SAVAGE GARN'S DARREN HAY SAYS MIC 'SAVED MY LIFE' AFTER YEARS OF DENYG HIS GAY INTY
- DAN SAVAGE: THE GAY MAN WHO TEACH STRAIGHT PEOPLE HOW TO HAVE SEX
- LIVGTOPICSALL LIVGSAVAGE LOVETRAVELASTROLOGYFROM THE VLTHEALTHSTYLELGBT+SEX & ROMANCEBT OF VANUVERTRANSPORATNCARTOONSHOMELS VANUVER SAVAGE LOVE COLUMNSAVAGE LOVE: GAY PORN PERFORMERS JUGGLE ALTER EGOS, REAL LIFE
- BEN SAVAGE IS GAY
- IS FRED SAVAGE GAY?
- SAVAGE LOVE: I AM A LONELY, AGG GAY MAN; WHAT SHOULD I DO?
SAVAGE GARN'S DARREN HAY SAYS MIC 'SAVED MY LIFE' AFTER YEARS OF DENYG HIS GAY INTY
Savage has a new book celebratg 30 years wrg his sex advice lumn "Savage Love." He talked wh NPR about where he's been wrong, what's changed and why gay people know more about sex. * savage gay *
" Savage talked about what he has been wrong about over the years, how wrg has changed and why he thks gay people give better sex advice than straight people. I was a gay guy.
It was 1990 when we started talkg about the lumn and gay people didn't give sex advice to straight people. And so the joke was I was gog to treat straight people wh the same ntempt that straight advice lumnists had always treated gay people who wrote them letters.
I thk what my rears get and what a lot of straight people sort of tuively get is that your gay iends know a ltle b more about sex than you do, and maybe are a ltle better at than you are.
DAN SAVAGE: THE GAY MAN WHO TEACH STRAIGHT PEOPLE HOW TO HAVE SEX
Insi the world of gay-for-pay smut. * savage gay *
Gay people have to munite about sex. Gay people have to munite. You n't be gay if you n't talk about difficult sexual issu, you know, you n't e out to your fay whout nontg a difficult sexual issue.
That's why 's such a cliché for straight people to go to their gay iends wh their sex problems or sex qutns. End they go home to their wiv and male adult performers who go "gay for pay, " a term ed to scribe gay porn which two (or more) otherwise straight dus have sex on mera, the above scenar is jt another day at the Male Porn Stars Are Straight — But They Have Sex Wh Men for a LivgSource: YouTubeThis week, MTV is airg an episo of Te Life explorg the liv of two such performers, and their stggl to balance the seemgly nflictg mands of their profsnal and personal liv. "Ben is a married fay man who recently started performg gay sex films to support his kids...
They're risg stars the gay porn dtry, but will the prsur of every day life force them to rensir their lucrative reers? "Though the ble special is jt g out now, gay-for-pay porn is a fairly well-tablished phenomenon. In straight porn, the pay for men is notorly lower than the pay for women, so "gay porn [actors] general make a lot more than straight porn, " Damian McKnight, the CEO and producer of the succsful gay-for-pay se Broke Straight Boys, told the Daily Dot last year.
LIVGTOPICSALL LIVGSAVAGE LOVETRAVELASTROLOGYFROM THE VLTHEALTHSTYLELGBT+SEX & ROMANCEBT OF VANUVERTRANSPORATNCARTOONSHOMELS VANUVER SAVAGE LOVE COLUMNSAVAGE LOVE: GAY PORN PERFORMERS JUGGLE ALTER EGOS, REAL LIFE
The are tough tim for all of , but wh monkeypox spreadg, Dan spotlights the queri of gay and bi men this week. * savage gay *
The women get more exposure and rpect the dtry, and for gay porn 's the male stars. In a book that me out earlier this year, Not Gay: Sex Between Straight Whe Men, thor Jane Ward argued that male sexualy is a lot more fluid than most of are willg to acknowledge. " she prevly told said, adult entertament publicist Mike Stabile told Mic that he believ the sexualy of a gay-for-pay porn star is likely to be a b more flexible than your average joe.
"They seemed to have more of a fluid sexualy, or were jt extremely sexual, even if they intified as straight their private liv, " he said of the gay-for-pay actors he's worked wh the past. "Of urse, there are some who are jt bee of the money, guys who sist on havg loud cellphone nversatns wh their girliends while on-set, or beg homophobic. ), another qutn remas: Why the hell are gay guys so drawn to porn featurg straight (or "straight") dus the first place?
BEN SAVAGE IS GAY
Porn star Dev Fran advis a rear who works gay porn to choose when and to whom he wants to disclose his alter ego orr to create boundari between work and real life. * savage gay *
That's a ltle more plited, as some believe that gay men's tenncy to fetishize straight men engagg gay sex stems om a ep-rooted place of self-loathg or shame.
"Bee of ternalized homophobia (which typilly looms large before and durg the early g-out procs), they're more often lookg for men who act mascule, " thor Joe Kort wrote 2013 for the Huffgton Post. "Gay guys are attracted to hot guys, no matter of their orientatn, " he wrote 2012. "Also, many gay guys thk straight guys are even hotter bee they're so naturally butch and hard to get.
"Regardls of why sells, though, participatg gay-for-pay porn isn't always a walk the park. For stance, when gay-for-pay porn star Chris Tyler was asked by the Village Voice what the harst part of his job was, he answered:"Takg a 10-ch-pl dick.
IS FRED SAVAGE GAY?
Why do so many cisgenr men -- cludg gay men -- thk they know better than trans people? * savage gay *
"Talk about workg hard for the out the full preview for MTV's Te Life: I'm a Gay for Pay Porn Star below:Source: YouTube.
The 50-year-old openly gay sger penned an emotnal op-ed for the HuffPost on July 1, revealg that stggl he had g to terms wh his sexualy led him to "the brk of suici.
SAVAGE LOVE: I AM A LONELY, AGG GAY MAN; WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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After the group disband 2001, Hay — who was married to ex-wife Colby Taylor om 1994 to 2000 — eventually me out as gay. But the HuffPost say is the first time he has ndidly addrsed the severe mental health stggl he once faced due to beg gay. Dan Savage is famoly gay, one of the most famo gay Amerins, and I had no ia how eply many straight people related to him—even more, how much they loved him, how grateful they were for what he said, for what he wrote, for promot the nuclear fay un bee he believ that is a healthy mol for everybody: gay upl, straight upl, children.
You are not the only one who has wonred if Ben Savage is gay. Many fans have also asked this qutn. Ben has not addrsed the mors of him beg gay. * savage gay *
After a rough adolcence, he expected to fd a ltle pany the theater partment llege, and he was a b perplexed, he rells, to be "the only gay guy the actg program.
" Blamg straight people for closeted gay people do not make immediate sense, but remember that was the mid-1980s, gay men were fillg the graveyard, Ronald Reagan was dog nothg, and an out, proud gay inty was one possible munn agast the enemy. If straight people were shamg gay people to the closet, fuck straight people.
"After readg their letters for a uple years, I realized gay men and women were plic this too.
Is Fred Savage Gay? Come and learn what has been said lately about this and what is Fred Savage sayg about this. * savage gay *
If you've had sex once wh a man, they say you're gay. Gay men want you to be gay—if you look like Tom Cise. There is not a lot of speculatn whether Seth Rogen is gay.
I am a gay man my late 50s and have never been a relatnship. I am so lonely, and the paful empts I feel is beg absolutely unbearable. * savage gay *
As I learned Seattle, he is one of the few men as borgly earnt on the pleasur of parentg as I am; he is adorg of his hband, Terry, and much of his ft work—his books, his This Amerin Life says—are hymns to close now, Dan Savage is our untry's sex doctor and s love doctor, s number-one gay and s cheerlear for straights, s theorist of gay marriage and of straight marriage.