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When I first met <style data-emotn="css 9cezh6">{-webk-text-ratn:unrle;text-ratn:unrle;text-ratn-thickns:0.0625rem;text-ratn-lor:her;text-unrle-offset:0.25rem;lor:#E61957;-webk-transn:all 0.3s ease--out;transn:all 0.3s ease--out;}{lor:#595959;text-ratn-lor:borr-lk-body-hover;}</style><a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Pl Erickson" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>Pl Erickson</u></a> 2009, I had no ia I would one day learn he was a Republin operative wh an <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="(alleged) Rsian spy girliend" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>(alleged) Rsian spy girliend</u></a>, or that 2020, he would be <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="sentenced to seven years prison" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>sentenced to seven years prison</u></a> for dg vtors. Back then, I was too by noticg the most important thg: He ma me lgh. </p><style data-emotn="css aeyldl">{font-fay:Charter,Geia,Tim,Serif;font-size:1.1875rem;le-height:1.6;} strong{font-fay:Charter,Geia,Tim,Serif;font-weight:bold;} em{font-style:alic;font-fay:Charter,Geia,Tim,Serif;}</style><p data-no-id="1" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Of urse, when we met, I thought he was jt another succsful alum. In May 2009, the ftivi for our 25th Yale class rnn were unrway. Meetg Pl seemed like a happy accint: He was seated next to me at a morng class at Lsly-Ch, my favore lecture hall. </p><p data-no-id="2" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Ironilly, the subject of the lecture was “reventn of the self.” Ltle did I know I was stg bi a master of illn, a man who ma and rema his own inty, om a thk tank nservative to a racy storyteller, pendg who he was speakg to. And as much as pas me to say , I gus he beme exactly what I need: A iend. </p><style data-emotn="css f1dz33">{--data-embed-display:flex;-webk-align-ems:center;-webk-box-align:center;-ms-flex-align:center;align-ems:center;clear:both;display:-webk-box;display:-webk-flex;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;marg-bottom:0.9375rem;marg-left:to;marg-right:to;width:100%;}@media(m-width: 20rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 30rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 40.625rem){{width:50%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 48rem){{width:50%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 64rem){{width:50%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 73.75rem){{width:50%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 75rem){{width:50%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 90rem){{width:50%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}} a span{right:1rem;} img{width:to;height:85vh;} a{display:-webk-le-box;display:-webk-le-flex;display:-ms-le-flexbox;display:le-flex;posn:var(--posn, relative);} img:not(.ewcw41w1){display:block;width:100%;height:to;-webk-align-self:flex-start;-ms-flex-em-align:flex-start;align-self:flex-start;}</style><div size="small" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="3" class="align-center size-small embed css-f1dz33 e1xqj1sx4"><style data-emotn="css uwraif">{width:100%;display:-webk-le-box;display:-webk-le-flex;display:-ms-le-flexbox;display:le-flex;-webk-flex-directn:lumn;-ms-flex-directn:lumn;flex-directn:lumn;marg-left:to;marg-right:to;-webk-box-pack:center;-ms-flex-pack:center;-webk-jtify-ntent:center;jtify-ntent:center;}</style><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="seo" tle="seo" loadg="lazy" width="604" height="453" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><style data-emotn="css swqnqv">@media(m-width: 20rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 30rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 40.625rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 48rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 64rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 73.75rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 75rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 90rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}</style><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"><style data-emotn="css okwyab">{width:0;m-width:100%;paddg-top:0.625rem;font-fay:Gilroy,Helveti,Arial,Sans-serif;font-size:0.8125rem;le-height:1.2;} em, i{font-fay:her;font-style:alic;} em{font-style:alic;font-fay:CharterItalic,Geia,Tim,Serif;}</style><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">A picture of Pl Erickson and me at our 25th Yale Rnn 2009.</div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Alice Barn/Facebook</span></figptn></div></div></div><p data-no-id="4" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">He was funny and quick, whisperg an csant stream of mentary to me and only me. It was that faiar, fast “ agast the world” feelg, only achieved when stg next to a kdred spir a chair wh a sk attached. As a teacher for s, I’d gotten ed to beg on the other si of the classroom; whisperg wh a new iend durg a lecture was a thrill.</p><p data-no-id="5" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Unlike the rt of my classmat who were slyly referencg their own acplishments and multiln dollar salari, Pl did not ask me what I did. He seemed to re more about who I was, beyond the inti I’d rried wh me all of my troductns: A mother of two, a teacher, a wife of two s. <br /></p><p data-no-id="6" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">My life, back then, had a very tight route. Wakg my dghters up, gettg them to school, then myself to school to teach. Days filled wh rponsibili, chor, errands, activi. By years. The hoe smelled of glue sticks. I suppose I was ntent wh my life, wh motherhood, wh teachg, wh my long marriage. But I had been swallowed up by the mands. </p><p data-no-id="7" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">So when I found myself back on Yale’s Old Camp that weekend, this time as a 47-year-old, I was overwhelmed by the faiar yearng to be a part of the llege’s muny. The oversized tent, filled wh acplished classmat, brought me back to my younger self—the public school-ted girl om New Jersey wh roots Puerto Ri and the shtetl, stead of the Mayflower. </p><div supprsHydratnWarng data-no-id="8" data-embed="pullquote" class="embed css-0 e9hzx6g0"><style data-emotn="css 1eiql25">{text-align:center;marg:0rem;paddg-top:0.9375rem;paddg-bottom:0.9375rem;}</style><blockquote class="css-1eiql25 e1pe3zr91"><style data-emotn="css 1um4foy">{ntent:'“';display:block;font-fay:Juana,Geia,Tim,Serif;font-size:4.375rem;le-height:1.1;font-weight:300;height:2.25rem;marg-bottom:1.2rem;}</style><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-1um4foy eagam8p0"></span><style data-emotn="css aqnz0y">{font-fay:Juana,Geia,Tim,Serif;font-size:1.625rem;font-weight:300;letter-spacg:0.01em;le-height:1.2;marg:0rem;text-transform:upperse;}@media(max-width: 64rem){{font-size:2.25rem;le-height:1;}}@media(m-width: 48rem){{font-size:2.375rem;le-height:1;}}@media(m-width: 64rem){{font-size:2.75rem;le-height:1;}} b, strong{font-fay:her;font-weight:bold;} em, i{font-fay:her;font-style:alic;}</style><blockquote class="css-aqnz0y e1pe3zr90">"The tth was he gave away nothg about his life, so he really uld have been anythg."</blockquote><style data-emotn="css 5cb97h">{ntent:'”';display:block;font-fay:Juana,Geia,Tim,Serif;font-size:4.375rem;le-height:1.1;font-weight:300;height:2.25rem;marg-top:0.9375rem;}</style><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-5cb97h eagam8p1"></span></blockquote></div><p data-no-id="9" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">But Pl, wh his 6’4” stature, Midwtern upbrgg, and bevy of close llege iends, seemed to f wh everyone—and effortlsly pulled me onto the si of the tent where everyone else partied. For a change, felt like <em>they </em>wanted to spend time wh <em>me</em>. The night we met, Pl and I merged our iend groups and spent the eveng lghg. </p><p data-no-id="10" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">When my hband and dghters arrived at the rnn the next day, they found me sg. Pl quickly cultivated si jok wh both of my dghters. Even my hband Nick—always wary and rarely swayed by glamour—seemed to tolerate him. </p><p data-no-id="11" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">But was still Nick who raised the first red flag. After the rollickg fal rnn dner which Pl held urt wh stori of fightg "munists” durg llege summers and other outlandish adventur om his life straddlg merce, polics, and shadow anizatns, my hband stayed up late on Google. “Are you sure he exists?” Nick asked me. “Are you sure he went to Yale?” This was 2009, and Pl was visible on Google. (A later, <a href="(activist)" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk="(activist)" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="he would have a Wikipedia page" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>he would have a Wikipedia page</u></a>.) We joked that he was the CIA. Our iend, the spy. <br /></p><p data-no-id="12" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">The tth was he gave away nothg about his life, so he really <em>uld </em>have been anythg. An eccentric lnaire, or a polil operative. He was teemg wh celebry gossip that entranced my dghters; maybe he was a well-nnected lumnist. By the time the rnn end, I felt like I knew one thg that he was: a iend. And for a long, long time, I believed that he was one of my bt iends. That was my first mistake.</p><style data-emotn="css 1736von">{--data-embed-display:flex;-webk-align-ems:center;-webk-box-align:center;-ms-flex-align:center;align-ems:center;clear:both;display:-webk-box;display:-webk-flex;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;marg-bottom:0.9375rem;marg-left:to;marg-right:to;width:100%;}@media(m-width: 20rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 30rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 40.625rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 48rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 64rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 73.75rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 75rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 90rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}} a span{right:1rem;} img{width:to;height:85vh;} a{display:-webk-le-box;display:-webk-le-flex;display:-ms-le-flexbox;display:le-flex;posn:var(--posn, relative);} img:not(.ewcw41w1){display:block;width:100%;height:to;-webk-align-self:flex-start;-ms-flex-em-align:flex-start;align-self:flex-start;}</style><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="13" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="lisa nilaou" tle="lisa nilaou" loadg="lazy" width="3024" height="3024" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">My hband and me wh Maria Buta and Pl Erickson. </div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Lisa Nilaou</span></figptn></div></div></div><p data-no-id="14" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">After the thrill of the rnn weekend subsid, Pl immediately reached out to stay touch, anglg himself toward his ultimate posn as an honorary member of my fay. </p><p data-no-id="15" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">In the handwrten letters and long-wd emails addrsed to “Lady Lisa” he sent after the event, Pl ma me feel special and smart—worthy of such attentn—even if my orb stretched only the same town which I was raised, not Davos or Washgton D.C., like some of his other iends. He spoke wh the pace of Rob Williams and radiated charm like a firework a jar. It would be a crime, I thought, to look away. Or to say no to his prents, which were foisted upon the months after the rnn, and did not cease until—well, until his arrt 2019, more or ls. <br /></p><p data-no-id="16" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Our first post-rnn gatherg was at Sardi’s, a famo midtown Manhattan rtrant often vised by Broadway stars. From there, our years were marked by events he planned jt to brighten our liv, like that dner: Impromptu trips to high school basketball gam, where he cheered on my dghter, even when she was benched; tickets to Bce Sprgsteen's Broadway show, and a play for my dghter’s 16th birthday, wh a pickup by stretch limo. There was also a surprise appearance at my olr dghter’s graduatn party wearg a toga, a nod to my hband’s Greek-Cyprt herage. <br /></p><div data-embed="pose" data-no-id="17" class="embed css-0 e18i9nfs2"><style data-emotn="css 1hgr6no">{display:-webk-box;display:-webk-flex;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-webk-flex-directn:lumn;-ms-flex-directn:lumn;flex-directn:lumn;} .e18i9nfs1{marg-top:1rem;}@media(m-width: 61.25rem){ .e18i9nfs1{-webk-flex-basis:50%;-ms-flex-preferred-size:50%;flex-basis:50%;}}@media(m-width: 20rem) and (max-width: 61.25rem){ .e18i9nfs1:nth-of-type(2){marg-top:1rem;}}@media(m-width: 61.25rem){ .e18i9nfs1:nth-of-type(2){marg-left:1rem;}}@media(m-width: 61.25rem){{-webk-flex-directn:row;-ms-flex-directn:row;flex-directn:row;}}@media(m-width: 73.75rem){{width:109%;marg-left:-4.5%;}}@media(m-width: 75rem){{width:112%;marg-left:-6%;}}@media(m-width: 90rem){{width:130%;marg-left:-15%;}}</style><div class="css-1hgr6no e18i9nfs0"><style data-emotn="css wwfqzh"> img{height:to;}</style><div class="css-wwfqzh e18i9nfs1"><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="pl erickson" tle="pl erickson" loadg="lazy" width="980" height="982" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">Pl and Maria at Harry Potter World Orlando  2015.</div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Elena Nilaou</span></figptn></div></div></div></div><div class="css-wwfqzh e18i9nfs1"><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="maria buta" tle="maria buta" loadg="lazy" width="980" height="981" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">Maria and my dghters at Sea World 2015.</div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Elena Nilaou</span></figptn></div></div></div></div></div></div><p data-no-id="18" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">And then there was the trip to Orlando 2015, where we swam wh dolphs, and went on ris, and met his girliend, Maria Buta, a strikg red-head who regaled wh stori about her <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="childhood Siberia." class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0">childhood Siberia.</a> Maria, jt a few years olr than my dghters, would eventually tell me I was like a send mother to her.<br /></p><p data-no-id="19" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">The gifts went two directns. To memorate our Florida getaway, I sent him a blanket wh a blown-up photo; all six of , pettg dolphs and sg. He rpond an email: “No one EVER giv me birthday prents YOU!!!” <br /></p><div supprsHydratnWarng data-no-id="20" data-embed="pullquote" class="embed css-0 e9hzx6g0"><blockquote class="css-1eiql25 e1pe3zr91"><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-1um4foy eagam8p0"></span><blockquote class="css-aqnz0y e1pe3zr90">"It’s possible that, ultimately, my gift to Pl was more than the money I would eventually give him."</blockquote><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-5cb97h eagam8p1"></span></blockquote></div><p data-no-id="21" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Consistently, for his birthday and on Christmas, I sent packag to his South Dakota home filled wh prents that would light a kid—toys om his favore rtoons, an assortment of every kd of M&M. “You are one (if not the LEADING) source of unmigated joy my life. There is never a nversatn, a meal or an adventure wh you that don't leave me a better man,” he emailed me one Christmas. </p><p data-no-id="22" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">I certaly uldn’t match his gifts terms of extravagance, but I gave him another kd of gift, which some might ll pricels: Time spent wh people who red about him. Sometim I thk of all of stg on my pat, tellg stori and lghg, and I see through a panoramic lens. Maybe that fun <em>was</em> real for him. It’s possible that, ultimately, my gift to Pl was more than the money I would eventually give him. </p><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="23" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="pl erickson" tle="pl erickson" loadg="lazy" width="4898" height="3265" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">Pl holdg urt durg a party on my pat 2017.</div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Lisa Nilaou</span></figptn></div></div></div><style data-emotn="css 18pb4rg">{borr:0;borr-bottom:th solid black;marg:1.875rem 0;clear:both;}</style><hr data-no-id="24" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="25" class="body-dropp css-hxci et3p2gv0">In 2014, five years after I met Pl, we gathered aga for our 30th rnn. When I was unable to secure a hotel room, Pl heroilly offered my hband and me his luxur acmodatns. As I rell, he even paid the bill. He was pecially genero that weekend, verg the tab when a large group of classmat gathered for pizza and beer at one of our favore New Haven jots the first night of the rnn. We were all shocked by his generosy. Cheeks flhed, feelg full and thankful, we let him pay.</p><p data-no-id="26" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">He was genero bee he wasn’t spendg his own money. In fact, by that time, he was probably spendg me. At some pot between the rnns, and the outgs, and the vatns, a whole bunch of had gathered at the Yale Club to celebrate our 50th birthdays 2012. That was when Pl set his trap, and I walked to wh a big, dumb se on my face, the one I rerved for my iends.</p><div supprsHydratnWarng data-no-id="27" data-embed="pullquote" class="embed css-0 e9hzx6g0"><blockquote class="css-1eiql25 e1pe3zr91"><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-1um4foy eagam8p0"></span><blockquote class="css-aqnz0y e1pe3zr90">"He was genero bee he wasn’t spendg his own money."</blockquote><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-5cb97h eagam8p1"></span></blockquote></div><p data-no-id="28" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">He knew I was the type to vt the Digny Chair, a vice that ma possible for people wh limed mobily to e the bathroom by themselv; he’d heard my story about my brother havg been a wheelchair as a child as he suffered through Guilla-Barre, a disease which leads to paralysis. He said we would get a return on our vtment. He said the money uld help pay for my dghters’ llege tns. </p><p data-no-id="29" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">My hband and I vted his sm, which I later learned om the FBI agent was a legimate patent—jt not one belongg to Pl. But there were other pch, too, for other people. A venture to velop land the<a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn=" Bakken oil fields of North Dakota" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u> Bakken oil fields of North Dakota</u></a>, near where he was raised South Dakota by adoptive parents, for example. That sm he ed on the <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="ernors and ngrsmen" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>ernors and ngrsmen</u></a> and all the other “important” people he spent most of the year wh, when he wasn’t dog thgs like droppg by our pat for an iced tea and a lgh wh his “New Jersey fay.” </p><style data-emotn="css 1mtk2uq">{--data-embed-display:flex;-webk-align-ems:center;-webk-box-align:center;-ms-flex-align:center;align-ems:center;display:-webk-box;display:-webk-flex;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;marg-bottom:0.9375rem;}@media(m-width: 20rem){{clear:both;marg-left:to;marg-right:to;width:100%;}}@media(m-width: 30rem){{clear:both;marg-left:to;marg-right:to;width:100%;}}@media(m-width: 40.625rem){{width:70%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:0rem;float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 48rem){{width:70%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:0rem;float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 64rem){{width:60%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:0rem;float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 73.75rem){{width:60%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:lc(-30% - 1rem);float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 75rem){{width:60%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:lc(-30% - 1rem);float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 90rem){{width:60%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:lc(-30% - 1rem);float:right;clear:right;}} a span{right:1rem;} img{width:to;height:85vh;} a{display:-webk-le-box;display:-webk-le-flex;display:-ms-le-flexbox;display:le-flex;posn:var(--posn, relative);} img:not(.ewcw41w1){display:block;width:100%;height:to;-webk-align-self:flex-start;-ms-flex-em-align:flex-start;align-self:flex-start;}</style><div size="large" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="30" class="align-right size-large embed css-1mtk2uq e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="lisa nilaou" tle="lisa nilaou" loadg="lazy" width="4898" height="3265" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><style data-emotn="css 78jldq">{paddg-left:0rem;}</style><div class="css-78jldq e1xqj1sx2"><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">Pl Erickson speakg to my dghter our backyard 2017.</div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Lisa Nilaou</span></figptn></div></div></div><p data-no-id="31" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">In addn to elaborate gifts, his currency was shadowy pronouncements that would later be proven te, cementg his stat as my hoehold's Nostradam, an emissary om the land of powerful people who knew thgs. After years of polil tidbs, 2016, while at my dghter’s graduatn party, he pronounced that Donald Tmp would be elected print. That one me te, of urse. </p><p data-no-id="32" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Wh our iendship, I nvced myself that pure fun uld be a bridge over polil differenc. He proved to me, a lifelong liberal and an ialist at heart, that some relatnships really uld surmount divis. I ngratulated myself for my open-mdns. </p><p data-no-id="33" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Now, I’m ls of an ialist. I realize that Pl had sized me up quickly: I was a middle aged woman need of some attentn. An easy mark. </p><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="34" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="pl erickson" tle="pl erickson" loadg="lazy" width="1890" height="2409" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">A letter Pl wrote to me 2012.</div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Lisa Nilaou</span></figptn></div></div></div><hr data-no-id="35" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="36" class="body-dropp css-hxci et3p2gv0">After his arrt Febary 2019, we learned some specifics of Pl's history—but certaly, not all of them. He transferred to Yale om the Universy of South Dakota, and went on to the Universy of Virgia Law School. He had <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="long-standg ti to the N.R.A" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>long-standg ti to the N.R.A</u></a>. He <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="produced a Hollywood film" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>produced a Hollywood film</u></a>, <em>Red Srpn</em>, starrg Dolph Lundgren. He worked on <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="several Republin mpaigns" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>several Republin mpaigns</u></a>, cludg Pat Buchanan's printial bid 1992. In 1997, he anized a<a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn=" Christian rally that brought 1.2 ln men to Washgton, D.C." class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u> Christian rally that brought 1.2 ln men to Washgton, D.C.</u></a>, pledgg to uphold spirual valu. Recently, Pl's time vortg wh the nservative and Christian ele brought him to a three-year stt on the board of the <u><a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Amerin Conservative Unn" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0">Amerin Conservative Unn</a></u>. He also served as an<a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn=" rmal advisor to Mt Romney" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u> rmal advisor to Mt Romney</u></a>. <br /></p><p data-no-id="37" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Acrdg to his <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="sentencg proceedgs," class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>sentencg proceedgs,</u></a> Pl allegedly took $5.3 ln <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="om approximately 78 vtors" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>om approximately 78 vtors</u></a>, a 22-year-long scheme stretchg back to 1997. In the end, all that worryg about our stat his social circle was for nght. We were as important as everyone else was: Important enough to be nned. </p><p data-no-id="38" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">This isn’t to say I didn’t know better. I did. Beyond his stori were puppet strgs, and I attached myself to them. Other people, when they looked at Pl, saw what he really was: A tall man sportg garish, lumpy polos and a Ronald McDonald haircut. </p><p data-no-id="39" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">But other people did not have Pl’s light shg on them. When that’s your ey, ’s all you n see. </p><div supprsHydratnWarng data-no-id="40" data-embed="pullquote" class="embed css-0 e9hzx6g0"><blockquote class="css-1eiql25 e1pe3zr91"><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-1um4foy eagam8p0"></span><blockquote class="css-aqnz0y e1pe3zr90">"Mr. Tale pulled me asi to tell me that Pl was not a nice man—and that I should be reful."</blockquote><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-5cb97h eagam8p1"></span></blockquote></div><p data-no-id="41" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">The last time I saw Pl and Maria was at a gatherg he had planned at an elegant rtrant on Manhattan’s East Si March of 2017. He ved my dghter to meet the famed journalist Gay Tale, ostensibly to help her wrg reer. I later learned Pl's relatnship wh the journalist dated back to 1993, when Pl was <u><a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="servg as John Wayne Bobbt’s media advisor" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0">servg as John Wayne Bobbt’s media advisor</a> </u>and Tale was verg the sndal. Before the night end, Mr. Tale pulled me asi to tell me that Pl was not a nice man—and that I should be reful. </p><p data-no-id="42" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">But by then, was too late.</p><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="43" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="pl erickson" tle="pl erickson" loadg="lazy" width="2048" height="1365" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">Pl and me my backyard 2017.</div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Lisa Nilaou</span></figptn></div></div></div><hr data-no-id="44" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="45" class="body-dropp css-hxci et3p2gv0"> In July of 2018, Maria, Pl’s girliend and my Rsian “dghter”<a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn=" was arrted" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u> was arrted</u></a> and charged wh actg as an agent for the Rsian Feratn. Maria was allegedly tryg to fluence Republin officials on behalf of the Rsian ernment. When the news broke, a classmate and I nnected over our shared relatnship wh Pl. </p><p data-no-id="46" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">By Febary of the followg year, Pl was dicted on charg unrelated to Maria’s headle-makg se. Instead, he was found at the center of a two-s long scheme to d vtors. My iend and I were jt two among many. She gave me the phone number of an agent at the FBI and assured me that I would feel better after I ma the ll. </p><p data-no-id="47" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">I spoke to the FBI agent South Dakota, where Pl grew up and later cultivated his ns, for over an hour. He was remarkably kd and supportive. He told me what distguished Pl om the dozens of crimals and n men he’d enuntered over the years was that he remaed a good iend to his victims throughout all. </p><p data-no-id="48" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Even after givg “iends” phony fancial statements, even while siphong off his “iends’” money to fund his adventur. Even while dog all that, he ntued the chara of iendship. He didn’t n away out of shame. The agent told me he had been alg wh n men for most of his long reer, and that Pl was one of the bt. Which of urse meant that he was one of the worst. </p><div supprsHydratnWarng data-no-id="49" data-embed="pullquote" class="embed css-0 e9hzx6g0"><blockquote class="css-1eiql25 e1pe3zr91"><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-1um4foy eagam8p0"></span><blockquote class="css-aqnz0y e1pe3zr90">"He told me he had been alg wh n men for most of his long reer, and that Pl was one of the bt."</blockquote><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-5cb97h eagam8p1"></span></blockquote></div><p data-no-id="50" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">The months followg my nversatn wh the agent were bleak. My hband was out of work. I was alg wh health issu that were probably related to all the strs. I felt empty, sort of like when the rnival leav town. The memori of fun were upled wh the realizatn that the fun was all a fa. </p><p data-no-id="51" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">As much as the loss of the money, what hurt was the ia that all of that—all the memori we shared—weren't real. We had wasted our time, and our energy. </p><p data-no-id="52" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">But I kept gog. I kept listeng to mic where the lyrics outweighed the melody, kept waterg my orchids, kept readg poetry and wrg my own. The orchids’ ntug blossoms gave me the ltle miracl I need to make to tomorrow; my hband and dghters and iends’ love gave me the support to stay upright when I got there.<br /></p><p data-no-id="53" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">By May 2019, I was almost ready to return to Yale for my 35th rnn, but still “wobbly,” to e a term om a former roommate.</p><p data-no-id="54" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Before the rnn, we all received an vatn to participate on a panel wh the theme of “Curveballs.” I summoned the urage to volunteer, and joed other classmat who had alt wh a variety of challengg obstacl. The sun was streamg through the staed glass wdows when I walked to the podium and told my story—that Pl, the supposed iend I had met ten years prr near that very room, had betrayed me, nned me out of money, and had almost broken me. But he hadn’t. I was still standg.</p><p data-no-id="55" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Speakg the tth was liberatg and empowerg, and the kdns I received afterward om classmat was an unexpected reward. The experience remd me of Ktsugi, the Japane pottery that is prized for the cracks which are highlighted wh gold stead of beg hidn. I feel like one of those bowls. Cracked but stronger.<br /></p><p data-no-id="56" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">I thought of this image when I attend one of Oprah's <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="20/20 Visn Tour " class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>20/20 Visn Tour </u></a>stops wh my dghter January of 2020. Elena—culture edor for this webse, —was verg <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="the event Atlanta" class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>the event Atlanta</u></a>, and she brought me along as her gut. </p><style data-emotn="css 9417ib">{--data-embed-display:flex;-webk-align-ems:center;-webk-box-align:center;-ms-flex-align:center;align-ems:center;display:-webk-box;display:-webk-flex;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;marg-bottom:0.9375rem;}@media(m-width: 20rem){{clear:both;marg-left:to;marg-right:to;width:100%;}}@media(m-width: 30rem){{clear:both;marg-left:to;marg-right:to;width:100%;}}@media(m-width: 40.625rem){{width:50%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:0rem;float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 48rem){{width:50%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:0rem;float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 64rem){{width:50%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:0rem;float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 73.75rem){{width:45%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:lc(-30% - 1rem);float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 75rem){{width:45%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:lc(-30% - 1rem);float:right;clear:right;}}@media(m-width: 90rem){{width:45%;marg-left:1rem;marg-right:lc(-30% - 1rem);float:right;clear:right;}} a span{right:1rem;} img{width:to;height:85vh;} a{display:-webk-le-box;display:-webk-le-flex;display:-ms-le-flexbox;display:le-flex;posn:var(--posn, relative);} img:not(.ewcw41w1){display:block;width:100%;height:to;-webk-align-self:flex-start;-ms-flex-em-align:flex-start;align-self:flex-start;}</style><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="57" class="align-right size-medium embed css-9417ib e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="elena nilaou" tle="elena nilaou" loadg="lazy" width="2291" height="2670" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-78jldq e1xqj1sx2"><div class="css-okwyab e1xqj1sx1">A selfie taken before Oprah me onstage.</div><figptn class="css-1am3yn9 enfs9c50"><span class="css-1sepnu9 e6iqd2">Elena Nilaou</span></figptn></div></div></div><p data-no-id="58" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">In that stadium Atlanta, Oprah spoke about the importance of tentn. It was then that I realized that my tentn was to tell my story— orr to heal myself, y, but also to warn others to protect <em>themselv</em>. If someone only shows you one si of himself, that means he's hidg the other sis, too. </p><p data-no-id="59" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Sometim I wonr whether my appeal for Pl was more than jt that I was an easy mark, hont and vulnerable. Maybe he really <em>did</em> like as much as he showed he did, flowery letters and gts of lghter. Maybe he hoped that spendg time wh people who were whole would make him ls broken. Or maybe was a lie all along—though that is the one “maybe” I have yet to fully accept. <br /></p><p data-no-id="60" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">In November of 2019, Pl plead guilty to one charge of wire d and one charge of money lnrg, both feloni. On July 6th, 2020, I watched as District Judge Karen E. Schreier <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="sentenced Pl to seven years feral prison." class="body-lk css-9cezh6 et3p2gv0"><u>sentenced Pl to seven years feral prison.</u></a> “You’re a thief, and you have betrayed your iends and fay, pretty much everyone you know,” Schreier said. </p><p data-no-id="61" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">I had a bottle of champagne chillg for a long time, wag for Pl’s sentencg. But along wh that tone, I celebrated my own survival. I thought of the poet Lucille Clifton and her words, “Come celebrate wh me that everyday somethg has tried to kill me and has failed.” I thought of Oprah, and one of her mantras: “I n. I will. Watch me."</p><div supprsHydratnWarng data-no-id="62" data-embed="pullquote" class="embed css-0 e9hzx6g0"><blockquote class="css-1eiql25 e1pe3zr91"><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-1um4foy eagam8p0"></span><blockquote class="css-aqnz0y e1pe3zr90">"I thought of Oprah, and one of her mantras: I n. I will. Watch me."</blockquote><span aria-hidn="te" class="css-5cb97h eagam8p1"></span></blockquote></div><p data-no-id="63" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Before I hand over the letters Pl wrote me to the FBI, I read them aga and fave myself a ltle. “When I get the opportuny to steal a few hours wh someone like you, a source of radiatg joy, my work life dissipat. You give your hband, your children, and your iends the most tly prec gift life: Unndnal love om a pure heart. I unt myself blsed to share a morsel of that.” Pl wrote that January 2012—around the same time I wrote him the check. </p><p data-no-id="64" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">In the end, Pl did give me what I need. Pl had always enuraged my sire to be a wrer, and he gave me a story that I had to tell. Now, I know I didn’t need him to acplish . Lately, I’ve been wrg a memoir about my 50s, entled <em>Spi, Con Men, and Other Indigni of Middle Age</em>. 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Gay Tale. Wrer: Honor Thy Father. Gay Tale was born on 7 Febary 1932 Ocean Cy, New Jersey, USA. He is an actor and wrer, known for Honor Thy Father (1973), Bld (2016) and Shortcut to Happs (2003). He has been married to Nan Tale sce 10 June 1959. They have two children." data-id="ma

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WHEN NEW JOURNALISM WAS NEW: GAY TALE ON HIS LEGENDARY ESQUIRE PROFILE OF FRANK SATRA

Gay tale, among many other acplishments, wrote the most famo le magaz. “Frank Satra had a ld,” which appeared high Tale’s 1966 Esquire profile, munited stantly that the piece would pay no attentn to the nicetie [...] * gay talese daughter *

Gay Tale's Memoir A Wrer’s Life - New York Magaze Book Review - Nymag. Gay Tale wh his wife, Nan (right), and dghter, Pamela, Marianne Barcellona/Time Life Pictur/Getty Imag. Gay tale, among many other acplishments, wrote the most famo le magaz.

Later on, he’d wre The Kgdom and the Power, the classic 1969 book about the Tim, and Thy Neighbor’s Wife, his study of the sexual revolutn, which he himself beme a character named “Gay Tale.

GAY TALE'S LEGACY WILL SURVIVE THE VOYR'S MOTEL SNDAL

After the massage parlors, after the affair, after the sndalo book that nearly broke up his fay, Gay Tale is wrg a new op—about his relatnship wh his wife. * gay talese daughter *

By Gay Tale. Gay Tale Exam His Very-Public, 50-Year Marriage for Upg Book -- New York Magaze - Nymag.

It isn’t until our third terview that I notice Gay Tale has been stg unrneath a patg of a naked woman wh a rabow g out of her vaga. It is here where they began their life together as a uple their mid-twenti, when the five-story brownstone was like a tenement and Gay lived 3F, a stud they both still refer to as his “bachelor pad”; this is where they raised their two dghters, Pamela and Cathere, and slowly took over every apartment the buildg before fally buyg 1973; this is where they have held numerable book parti for Nan’s celebrated thors; and this is where Gay has done much of the wrg—the historic Esquire piec, the bt sellers wh biblil tl—that brought him fame, fortune, and no small amount of personal agony.

GAY TALE’S OTHER PROBLEM

Voyr, the new Netflix documentary starrg Gay Tale about his article and book The Voyr’s Motel, is a nfed illtratn of te-crime’s pfalls. * gay talese daughter *

Gay wr his new afterword that the immediate aftermath of the book’s publitn, Nan acpanied him on talk shows “to expla that our maral love had remaed unthreatened while I nducted rearch New York massage parlors and a hedonistic nudist lony Los Angel”—which is only half te. Nan and Gay elopg Rome, Courty of Gay Tale. It seems far removed om Gay’s realm, jt a floor above, where he keeps the artifacts of his storied reer (cludg a life-size rdboard cutout of himself) along wh his untls bpoke sus and dozens of hand-bbled sho.

THE LIFE AND <STRIKE>LOV</STRIKE> LOVE OF GAY TALE

Gay Tale probably wish he'd had a ld. Instead, the 84-year-old journalist ventured out to Boston Universy last week, and ma a seri of... * gay talese daughter *

” Gay asks his wife. ” As slowly dawns on me that Gay has not told her that he has agreed to participate an article about their marriage, I n feel the tensn beg to rise. “Jonathan is gog to ll you, ” says Gay.

” About Gay, I say, but you too. Sudnly, Gay pip up, a stern edge to his voice, givg an orr.

GAY TALE

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” Nan giv me the digs and then Gay says, “Good!

That was when she put the A (her main name is Ahearn) to her name, as if to say wh a sgle letter: I am not jt Gay’s wife. The fay 1980, the year Thy Neighbor's Wife was Thomas Victor/Courty of Gay Tale. When I first lled Nan to schle an terview, the small talk was brief and mostly about Gay.

GAY TALE’S ADVICE TO YOUNG WRERS: “GET OFF YOUR ASS”CELEBRATG THE PUBLITN OF A SPECIAL EDN OF HIS LEGENDARY PROFILE, “FRANK SATRA HAS A COLD,” THE JOURNALIST DISCSED THE STATE OF THE CELEBRY PROFILE AND THE POWER OF DRSG WELL TO GET WHAT YOU WANT.BY RACHEL TASHJIANDECEMBER 2, 2015© CORBIS. ALL RIGHTS RERVED.SAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVENEAR MIDNIGHT ON MONDAY GAY TALE WAS TUCKED TO A RNER BOOTH THE DOWNSTAIRS BAR AT THE 21 CLUB, SIPPG A BOMBAY MARTI WH A TWIST, WH A SPECIMEN OM HIS MUCH-ADMIRED HAT LLECTN STG POLELY BI HIM. IT WAS NEARLY TWO HOURS AFTER GUTS CLUDG FRANK STELLA, MICHAEL BLOOMBERG, HIS PARTNER DIANA TAYLOR—NOT TO MENTN THE HOST, TOM WOLFE—HAD HEAD HOME AFTER A LEISURELY, TIMATE DNER AT THE DG ROOM UPSTAIRS CELEBRATG AN EXQUISE TASCHEN EDN OF TALE’S GROUNDBREAKG CELEBRY PROFILE, “FRANK SATRA HAS A COLD.”“HERE I AM, YOU KNOW, ON THE OCSN OF ‘FRANK SATRA HAS A COLD,’” TALE SAID. “I REALLY HAVE A LD. WORSE THAN SATRA DID, I’LL BET.”BUT TALE WOULDN’T HAVE MISSED THE NIGHT FOR THE WORLD. “THAT’S ONE THG ABOUT JOURNALISM: YOU HAVE TO SHOW UP.”THE BOOK IS FELY WORTH SHOWG UP FOR—A TOME TAILOR-MA FOR JOURNALISM JUNKI. TALE’S PROFILE OF SATRA FOR THE APRIL 1966 ISSUE OF ESQUIRE—WRTEN AT A DISTANCE, TRAILG THE SGER AND TERVIEWG EVERYONE OM HIS -STARS TO HIS WIG GROOMERS AFTER REPEATED BSH-OFFS OM SATRA’S PUBLICIST—IS EQUENTLY CED AS ONE OF THE WORKS THAT STEERS IMPRSNABLE YOUNGSTERS TOWARD A REER JOURNALISM. AND WH S NEVER-BEFORE-SEEN PHOTOS OF SATRA, TALE-PENNED TRODUCTN, AND MARKED-UP MANCRIPTS OM THE ARCHIVE PRTED ON OLD-FASHNED LETTERPRS AND ACCENTED THE SWOONY BLUE OF SATRA’S EY, THE TASCHEN BOOK IS THE GLOSSIT JOURNALISM TEXTBOOK IMAGABLE, RELEASED A FEW MONTHS AHEAD OF THE PIECE’S 50TH BIRTHDAY AND WEEK OR TWO AWAY OM WHAT WOULD HAVE BEEN SATRA’S 100TH. IT MAK THE WORK OF REPORTG AND WRG AND EDG LOOK AS PRETTY AND IRREVERENT AND FUN AS A W ANRSON MOVIE.COURTY OF TASCHEN.IT MAY HAVE A PRETTY FACE, BUT FOR TALE, APPEARANCE N BE EVERYTHG. HE TRAC MUCH OF WHAT LED HIM TO JOURNALISM TO HIS PARENTS AND THEIR REERS THE GARMENT DTRY—HIS FATHER WAS A TAILOR AND HIS MOTHER OWNED A DRS STORE OCEAN CY, NEW JERSEY—WHICH NO DOUBT SPURRED AN OBSSN WH CLOTHG THAT SEEMS EXTRIBLE OM HIS WORK. “WHEN I WRE STORI, ’S LIKE MAKG A SU: THE PIEC HANG TOGETHER, AND YOU SKETCH,” HE SAID. “THE WHOLE PROCS: HANDWORK.”HE EVEN CREDS HIS FIRST JOB AT THE NEW YORK TIM—WHICH ME IMPROBABLY AFTER A “HUIATG” TERVIEW DURG WHICH HE DISVERED HIS LLEGE CLASSMATE HAD LIED ABOUT THE TIMACY OF HIS NNECTN TO THE MANAGG EDOR WH WHOM HE WAS MEETG, LEAVG TALE GRASPG TO EXPLA HIS DACY WALTZG FOR A MEETG WH THE BIGWIG UNANNOUNCED—TO THE THREE-PIECE SU HE WORE TO THE TERVIEW. “I WAS POLE, WELL DRSED,” HE SAID. “I JT KNOW, THOUGH I NEVER GOT ANY NFIRMATN, THAT I MA A GOOD IMPRSN.”BEE OF HIS NOTED OBSSN WH CLOTHG, TALE IS OFTEN HELD UP AS A DANDY (AS IS WHE-SUED WOLFE FOR THAT MATTER). THAT MIGHT DO A DISSERVICE TO HIM, BUT ALSO, EQUALLY, TO HIS SENSE OF ELEGANCE. THERE’S REALLY SOMETHG TO HIS PREOCCUPATN WH LIVG AND BEHAVG BETIFULLY. “I WAS VERY RICH 1980, AND 1981,” HE SAID, REFLECTG ON HIS BOOM YEARS, AFTER THY NEIGHBOR’S WIFE OPTNED FOR $2.5 LN. SO WHAT’S THE WILST THG HE BOUGHT? HE TOOK A LONG SIP OF HIS MARTI.“NOTHG. I HAD EVERYTHG. I HAD A TOWN HOE. CLOSETS FILLED WH HANDMA SUS. TWO BETIFUL OLD SPORTS RS THAT I HAD OM THE 1950S,” HE SAID. “I HAVE TWO BETIFUL DGHTERS, I HAVE A WIFE, I HAVE, OF URSE, A JOB, I HAVE A WIFE WH A JOB.”MOST POPULARVANY FAIR’S “IT’S RAG TEENS” COVER AT 20: WHERE ARE THEY NOW?BY SAVANNAH WALSHREMEMBERG SéAD O’CONNOR’S SUBLIME MIC AND RIGHTEO RAGEBY MIKE HOGANRED, WHE & ROYAL BLUE MAY BE “THE MOST EXPENSIVE B OF FAN FICTN EVER”BY SAVANNAH WALSHAS THE CLOCK TICKED TOWARD MIDNIGHT AND THE BAR’S PATRONS—MIDDLE-AGED UPL OF MURKY MARAL STAT, BANKERS TOO-SHY TI HAVG VODKA MARTIS—STARTED TO CLEAR, TALE MED ON WHY, AN AGE WHICH REPORTERS ARE NOTORLY RTRICTED OM CELEBRY SUBJECTS, ’S NOT EASIER THAN EVER TO WRE A PROFILE LIKE HIS, WHICH WAS BORN OF SATRA’S REFAL TO GRANT HIM ACCS. WHY IS SO HARD TO WRE A STORY LIKE THAT NOW?“IT SHOULDN’T BE. MAYBE THE PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT,” HE SAID. “I’M JT GUSG. WHEN I—YOU KNOW, MY ARISTOCRATIC IEND OM RICHMOND, VIRGIA, TOM WOLFE, HE WAS PROBABLY THE EXCEPTN—BUT MOST OF WERE NOT OM VERY TED BACKGROUNDS. WE WERE THE UNRCLASS. THE JOURNALISTS OF THE 1950S WERE PEOPLE LIKE ME. . . . PEOPLE THAT WENT TO HARVARD, YALE, THEY ULDN’T BE JOURNALISTS, WAG FOR SOME LABOR LEAR TO ANNOUNCE THAT THERE’S A SETTLEMENT AT THREE O’CLOCK THE MORNG OUT ON SOME WATERONT. . . . JOURNALISM WAS FOR THE LOW-LEVEL PEOPLE. ME.”“BUT WE HAD A KD OF PATIENCE ABOUT WAG,” TALE NTUED. “WE WERE GOG TO GET WHAT WE WANTED. I DON’T THK THIS NEW GENERATN HAS THE PATIENCE OR EVEN KNOWLEDGE OF HOW TO GET THGS. . . . YOU HAVE TO GET OFF YOUR ASS. MAKE SOMETHG HAPPEN WH YOUR PERSONALY, WH YOUR GODDAMN STYLE, YOUR CHARM, YOUR BETIFUL CLOTH, YOUR REASSURANCE, YOUR SALMAN HUCKSTER-IST LIRICE. KNOW HOW TO GET SOMETHG AND NOT BREAK HEARTS OR BE OFFENSIVE.”AND THEN THE RTRANT TURNED OFF THE MIC—SATRA’S “THE WAY YOU LOOK TONIGHT,” OF URSE—AND WAS TIME TO HEAD HOME. TALE HAD A LD TO SLEEP OFF, AFTER ALL.RELATED: HOW TOM WOLFE BEME … TOM WOLFEPHOTOS: HOW TOM WOLFE WOLFE1 / 16CHEVRONCHEVRONWOLFE HIS MANHATTAN APARTMENT. LEWIS’S DGHTER DIXIE, 13, LLED HIS SU AN “OUTGOG FASHN CHOICE.”RACHEL TASHJIAN

Gay Tale Stalked Frank Satra, Joed a Nudist Colony and Liaised Wh a Voyr as Part of His Journalistic Pursus; He Explas Why He Shuns Technology Entirely and Why He Fds Tmp Inspirg. * gay talese daughter *

Stuff of legend: One eveng 1972, when Nan and Gay were walkg home om dner at P.

Clarke’s, Gay spied a neon sign above a buildg on Lexgton Avenue near 59th Street that read LIVE NUDE MODELS. Gay said to Nan, “Let’s go check that out.

” Nan said to Gay, “No, no, no. The rultg piece, “An Eveng the Nu Wh Gay Tale, ” scrib Tale nng around the cy wh a bunch of louche swgers and livg up at sex clubs.

LEGENDARY REPORTER GAY TALE EXPLAS WHY HE FDS TMP INSPIRG

Many cred the articl Gay Tale wrote for Esquire magaze the 1960s as the begng of New Journalism. Tale talks about his new memoir, A Wrer's Life. * gay talese daughter *

To be fair, seemed that Gay had already been tryg Nan’s patience wh his rearch.

GAY TALE ON 'A WRER'S LIFE'

Voyr: Directed by Myl Kane, Josh Koury. Wh Gay Tale, Gerald Foos, Nan Tale, San Morrison. Journalism in Gay Tale reports on Gerald Foos, the owner of a Colorado motel, who allegedly secretly watched his guts wh the aid of specially signed ceilg vents, peerg down om an "observatn platform" he built the motel's attic." data-id="ma * gay talese daughter *

Nan told Gay: “It’s your book, ’s your style of rearch. “I told Gay, ‘Don’t do .

I prs a ltle further: There are a lot of people who still believe that Gay huiated you, I tell her. In the Hamptons, Courty of Gay Tale. “Her fn of marriage up agast me—they’re not what would be the dictnary, ” retorts Gay.

PETER BART: GAY TALE’S FAMED “FRANK SATRA HAS A COLD” BE HOT MOVIE PROJECT

Frank Satra’s dghter have optned rights to Gay Tale's famed Esquire article "Frank Satra Has A Cold" to make to a movie. * gay talese daughter *

Nan has said the past that she has not, though Gay, through y hts the prs, would perhaps like to believe otherwise.

This is not a woman livg a nunnery, ” Gay said an em the Daily News last year.

GAY TALE ON A NEW ILLTRATED EDN OF FRANK SATRA HAS A COLD

Is Gay a philanrg bastard or a pneerg anthropologist?

When I ask Gay if he is at all worried about draggg Nan and their relatnship and even their sex life back to the spotlight, he says he’s not.

“You know, I jt tst Gay, ” she says.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* GAY TALESE DAUGHTER

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