Gay men, ternalized homophobia, and (re)fg the "gay voice"
Contents:
- FOX NEWS HOSTS CONFED ABOUT WHETHER TO CALL GAY MAN MR. OR MS.
- NFED_GAY_NOIS
- NFED GAY NOIS
- NO@NFED-GAY-NOISPLSASK ME ANYTHGFOLLOWPOSTSLIKFOLLOWGNFED-GAY-NOISSTYTOMOON-ACTIVATED202006LBIAN RIGHTSNFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWI'D SHIPNFED-GAY-NOISTRANS-ADVICEALTAFPATELFOLLOWHOW TO SPOT SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF BREAST CANCER VANELOSLASHFOLLOWREBLOG TO LERALLY SAVE A LIFEMAXIMASMACFOLLOWWHISH THEY TOLD THIS SCHOOL, ALL THEY DID WAS SAY “FEEL FOR LUMPS, YOU WILL KNOW WHEN YOU FEEL ” TRANS-ADVICEFOLLOWREMEMBER, MAL GET BREAST NCER TOONFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWSIGNAL BOOSTNFED-GAY-NOISTRANS-ADVICEKGBARDFOLLOWDO ANYONE KNOW ANYBODY THE TRANS MUNY, FTM SPECIFILLY, THAT LIV BERL CURRENTLY? I AM A BIG OF A BAD MEDIL SATN AND AM BERL FOR THE SUMMER, BUT AM AT A LOSS OF WHERE TO GO TO FOR HELP. I AM IMMEDIATELY FE AN AM NOT ANY DANGER, BUT WOULD APPRECIATE ASSISTANCE.KGBARDFOLLOWSIGNAL BOOSTG WOULD BE SO APPRECIATEDNFED-GAY-NOISDARE-I-SAY-ASEXUALFOLLOWI JT WALKED PAST THE APARTMENT BENEATH ME AND THROUGH AN OPEN WDOW I ULD HEAR MY DOWNSTAIRS NEIGHBOR CRYG FATLY WHILE THE SONG JOLENE PLAYED THE BACKGROUND AND IM JT LIKE… BCH ARE YOU OKAY…? DARE-I-SAY-ASEXUALFOLLOWI ACTUALLY END UP GOG BACK DOWNSTAIRS TO CHECK ON HER AND BROUGHT SOME LEFTOVER OKI I BAKED THIS AFTERNOON. SHE’S VERY SWEET AND GOG THROUGH A BREAKUP MOOD™️ AFTER BEG CHEATED ON. SHE’S G OVER TO MY GF AND I’S ANNUAL BAD MOVIE NIGHT ON FRIDAY AND SHE EVEN LET ME PET HER T NAMED CLARENCE DARE-I-SAY-ASEXUALFOLLOWMY GF THKS ’S FUNNY BUT VERY FTG THAT OUR DOWNSTAIRS NEIGHBOR WAS ABLE TO SUMMON A NCERNED LBIAN JT BY PLAYG JOLENE WHILE CRYG ABOUT BEG DONE DIRTY BY A MAN TRYCLOPSFOLLOWREBLOG TO SUMMON A NCERNED LBIAN YOUR HOUR OF NEEDNFED-GAY-NOISCLILLYLYNTHROPICFOLLOWLOOK, IM PRETTY FUCKG PISSED AT HOW THIS SE TREATS MY TRANS SISTERS, SO HERE’S AN PLETE LIST OF ROURC I FOUND THAT CLU STUFF FOR TRANS WOMEN AND TRANSFEM ENBI:HEALTHABOUT THE DANGERS OF TUCKGABOUT THE SYMPTOMS OF HEART ATTACKS TRANS PEOPLEMAP OF TRANS AND TERSEX IENDLY DOCTORS (DONT WORK ON MOBILE, BUT HER A POST WH MORE ABOUT )ABOUT HRT, DOCTORS VISS, AND BUDGETSABOUT THE TYP OF HORMON AND ANTI-ANDROGENSTIPS FOR STARTG HRTHOW TO GET HRTSURANC THAT VER HRT (MOSTLY US BASED, I BELIEVE- DIDNT HAVE THE ENERGY TO CHECK ALL THE LKS)THIS IS FOR POKEMON GO ERS, BUT S GOOD FOR GENERAL SUMMER STUFF AND OUTDOOR EXERCISE!CLOTHES/MAKEUP AND PRESENTING FEMININESUMMER ROURC AND ADVICE FOR WHEN YOURE SWIMMGUNRGARMENTS AND SWIMWEAR MASTERPOSTCLOTH AND GENERAL TIPSSHO, MAKP, AND GENERAL STUFFCLOTH AND MAKPMAKP TUTORIAL (WH PICTUR)LERALLY JT ALL THE MAKP ROURC YOU NEED, CLUDG PLAC TO BUY ON A BUDGET AND MORE ACCSIBLE BSHTHIS ISNT NECSARILY TRANS, BUT IS A BUNCH OF MAKP BLOGGERS ANIZED A WAY THAT YOU N EASILY FD PEOPLE WH SIAR FEATUR TO YOUR OWN EDIT: VOICE (UNFORTUNATELY I HAVENT HAD TIME TO WATCH ALL OF THE VIOS, BUT IM PLANNG ON DOG SO SOON)THE ART OF VOICE FEMIZATN (GO TO THE LIKE, THE TECHNIL STUFF OF , POSTED BY WHAT SEEMS TO BE A RELIABLE CHANNEL)5 TIPS ON VOICE FEMIZATN ( THE TERM “MTF”, IF THAT MAK YOU UNFORTABLE)FDG YOUR FEMALE VOICE (SEEMS TO BE AN OLR VIO SERI, HAS “MTF” AND “TRANSSEXUAL”, AT LEAST THE SCRIPTN. I HAVENT GOTTEN THE CHANCE TO CHECK NTENT)ARTICLE WH TIPS ON FEMIZATN, AND EXERCISTRANS VOICE ACHG TIPS ( THE TERM “MTF”) OTHERHELP WH NAME CHANG ( THE US) WEBICS WH AND ABOUT TRANS CHARACTERSAN ARTICLE FOR NON TRANS WOMEN ON HOW TO BE A BETTER ALLY TO TRANS WOMEN OF LORIF YOU HAVE ANYTHG ELSE, PLEASE FEEL EE TO EHER REBLOG WH OR TO MSAGE ME , AND ILL ED THE POST!NFED-GAY-NOISTRANS-ADVICEBI-TRANS-ALLIANCEFOLLOW#LWHTHETNFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWHAPPY CRYGNFED-GAY-NOISTRANS-ADVICEEFFECTUALMONFOLLOWTHIS IS A REALLY CUTE SONG ABOUT GETTG PEOPLE’S PRONOUNS RRECT. LIKE I THK SHOULD BE REQUIRED SCHOOLS NFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWYEETNFED-GAY-NOISKAJBSDFHGIGJHFDSAHJSIDPRIDE MONTH BABEEEEYYYYYYYI ORIGALLY MA THE TO BE ED AS HEARS BUT YOU N DO WHATEVER YOUD LIKE WH THEM!FD PART 2 HERE!WANT YOUR OWN PERSONAL FLAG? SHOOT ME AN ASK AND ILL BE HAPPY TO DO FOR YOU!NFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWT H I SNFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWHELO
- "DO I SOUND GAY?"
- "DO I SOUND GAY?"
- NFED GAY NOIS
- I'M A WRER BUT... — * NFED GAY SOUNDS *
- *CONFED GAY NOIS*
- FOX NEWS HOSTS CONFED ABOUT WHETHER TO CALL GAY MAN MR. OR MS.
FOX NEWS HOSTS CONFED ABOUT WHETHER TO CALL GAY MAN MR. OR MS.
* confused gay noises *
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Gay men, ternalized homophobia, and (re)fg the "gay voice" * confused gay noises *
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*sad gay nois*. Why do gay people sound gay?
I don't want to offend anyone wh this qutn but seems like gay people (pecially men) some tim have a certa tonaly to their voice that is siar to other gay guys. I know that that's by far not every gay person ever but seems like 's que a good portn. Sorry if I sound homophobic or some sh, I am really not, but that's jt a qutn that crossed my md and I n't thk of a reasonable explanatn.
NFED GAY NOIS
Nadal, thor of "That’s So Gay!
Microaggrsns and the Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgenr Communy" and Dr. “Do I Sound Gay?
”—one of summer 2015’s mt see documentari acrdg to Entertament Weekly—is a new film by David Thorpe, a gay Whe Amerin wrer based Brooklyn, New York. Through a seri of terviews and teractns wh Thorpe’s iends and relativ, a few celebri, and random strangers on the streets, we hear a spectm of perspectiv about what “sounds gay” and why soundg as such is perceived as bad. Many of the gay men the film adm to beg que fortable wh the sounds of their voic, not fully unrstandg why Thorpe would feel so strongly about his voice that he would even vis a speech pathologist and a celebry vol traer to get rid of his “gay voice.
NO@NFED-GAY-NOISPLSASK ME ANYTHGFOLLOWPOSTSLIKFOLLOWGNFED-GAY-NOISSTYTOMOON-ACTIVATED202006LBIAN RIGHTSNFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWI'D SHIPNFED-GAY-NOISTRANS-ADVICEALTAFPATELFOLLOWHOW TO SPOT SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF BREAST CANCER VANELOSLASHFOLLOWREBLOG TO LERALLY SAVE A LIFEMAXIMASMACFOLLOWWHISH THEY TOLD THIS SCHOOL, ALL THEY DID WAS SAY “FEEL FOR LUMPS, YOU WILL KNOW WHEN YOU FEEL ” TRANS-ADVICEFOLLOWREMEMBER, MAL GET BREAST NCER TOONFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWSIGNAL BOOSTNFED-GAY-NOISTRANS-ADVICEKGBARDFOLLOWDO ANYONE KNOW ANYBODY THE TRANS MUNY, FTM SPECIFILLY, THAT LIV BERL CURRENTLY? I AM A BIG OF A BAD MEDIL SATN AND AM BERL FOR THE SUMMER, BUT AM AT A LOSS OF WHERE TO GO TO FOR HELP. I AM IMMEDIATELY FE AN AM NOT ANY DANGER, BUT WOULD APPRECIATE ASSISTANCE.KGBARDFOLLOWSIGNAL BOOSTG WOULD BE SO APPRECIATEDNFED-GAY-NOISDARE-I-SAY-ASEXUALFOLLOWI JT WALKED PAST THE APARTMENT BENEATH ME AND THROUGH AN OPEN WDOW I ULD HEAR MY DOWNSTAIRS NEIGHBOR CRYG FATLY WHILE THE SONG JOLENE PLAYED THE BACKGROUND AND IM JT LIKE… BCH ARE YOU OKAY…? DARE-I-SAY-ASEXUALFOLLOWI ACTUALLY END UP GOG BACK DOWNSTAIRS TO CHECK ON HER AND BROUGHT SOME LEFTOVER OKI I BAKED THIS AFTERNOON. SHE’S VERY SWEET AND GOG THROUGH A BREAKUP MOOD™️ AFTER BEG CHEATED ON. SHE’S G OVER TO MY GF AND I’S ANNUAL BAD MOVIE NIGHT ON FRIDAY AND SHE EVEN LET ME PET HER T NAMED CLARENCE DARE-I-SAY-ASEXUALFOLLOWMY GF THKS ’S FUNNY BUT VERY FTG THAT OUR DOWNSTAIRS NEIGHBOR WAS ABLE TO SUMMON A NCERNED LBIAN JT BY PLAYG JOLENE WHILE CRYG ABOUT BEG DONE DIRTY BY A MAN TRYCLOPSFOLLOWREBLOG TO SUMMON A NCERNED LBIAN YOUR HOUR OF NEEDNFED-GAY-NOISCLILLYLYNTHROPICFOLLOWLOOK, IM PRETTY FUCKG PISSED AT HOW THIS SE TREATS MY TRANS SISTERS, SO HERE’S AN PLETE LIST OF ROURC I FOUND THAT CLU STUFF FOR TRANS WOMEN AND TRANSFEM ENBI:HEALTHABOUT THE DANGERS OF TUCKGABOUT THE SYMPTOMS OF HEART ATTACKS TRANS PEOPLEMAP OF TRANS AND TERSEX IENDLY DOCTORS (DONT WORK ON MOBILE, BUT HER A POST WH MORE ABOUT )ABOUT HRT, DOCTORS VISS, AND BUDGETSABOUT THE TYP OF HORMON AND ANTI-ANDROGENSTIPS FOR STARTG HRTHOW TO GET HRTSURANC THAT VER HRT (MOSTLY US BASED, I BELIEVE- DIDNT HAVE THE ENERGY TO CHECK ALL THE LKS)THIS IS FOR POKEMON GO ERS, BUT S GOOD FOR GENERAL SUMMER STUFF AND OUTDOOR EXERCISE!CLOTHES/MAKEUP AND PRESENTING FEMININESUMMER ROURC AND ADVICE FOR WHEN YOURE SWIMMGUNRGARMENTS AND SWIMWEAR MASTERPOSTCLOTH AND GENERAL TIPSSHO, MAKP, AND GENERAL STUFFCLOTH AND MAKPMAKP TUTORIAL (WH PICTUR)LERALLY JT ALL THE MAKP ROURC YOU NEED, CLUDG PLAC TO BUY ON A BUDGET AND MORE ACCSIBLE BSHTHIS ISNT NECSARILY TRANS, BUT IS A BUNCH OF MAKP BLOGGERS ANIZED A WAY THAT YOU N EASILY FD PEOPLE WH SIAR FEATUR TO YOUR OWN EDIT: VOICE (UNFORTUNATELY I HAVENT HAD TIME TO WATCH ALL OF THE VIOS, BUT IM PLANNG ON DOG SO SOON)THE ART OF VOICE FEMIZATN (GO TO THE LIKE, THE TECHNIL STUFF OF , POSTED BY WHAT SEEMS TO BE A RELIABLE CHANNEL)5 TIPS ON VOICE FEMIZATN ( THE TERM “MTF”, IF THAT MAK YOU UNFORTABLE)FDG YOUR FEMALE VOICE (SEEMS TO BE AN OLR VIO SERI, HAS “MTF” AND “TRANSSEXUAL”, AT LEAST THE SCRIPTN. I HAVENT GOTTEN THE CHANCE TO CHECK NTENT)ARTICLE WH TIPS ON FEMIZATN, AND EXERCISTRANS VOICE ACHG TIPS ( THE TERM “MTF”) OTHERHELP WH NAME CHANG ( THE US) WEBICS WH AND ABOUT TRANS CHARACTERSAN ARTICLE FOR NON TRANS WOMEN ON HOW TO BE A BETTER ALLY TO TRANS WOMEN OF LORIF YOU HAVE ANYTHG ELSE, PLEASE FEEL EE TO EHER REBLOG WH OR TO MSAGE ME , AND ILL ED THE POST!NFED-GAY-NOISTRANS-ADVICEBI-TRANS-ALLIANCEFOLLOW#LWHTHETNFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWHAPPY CRYGNFED-GAY-NOISTRANS-ADVICEEFFECTUALMONFOLLOWTHIS IS A REALLY CUTE SONG ABOUT GETTG PEOPLE’S PRONOUNS RRECT. LIKE I THK SHOULD BE REQUIRED SCHOOLS NFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWYEETNFED-GAY-NOISKAJBSDFHGIGJHFDSAHJSIDPRIDE MONTH BABEEEEYYYYYYYI ORIGALLY MA THE TO BE ED AS HEARS BUT YOU N DO WHATEVER YOUD LIKE WH THEM!FD PART 2 HERE!WANT YOUR OWN PERSONAL FLAG? SHOOT ME AN ASK AND ILL BE HAPPY TO DO FOR YOU!NFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWT H I SNFED-GAY-NOISFOLLOWHELO
” However, most of the gay men the film were able to relate to the secury of havg a more feme voice and some even relled tim that their “gay soundg” voic (and general gay inti) had led to gettg bullied or worse. Overall, the film do a nice job of explorg a very real but largely unseen, unheard, and perhaps unspoken psychologil stggle that many gay men may have. Internalized Homophobia: An Unseen and Unheard Psychologil Stggle.
As psychology profsors and rearchers, the first thg that popped to our mds while watchg the film was the ncept of ternalized opprsn, particularly ternalized homophobia* (please see note below about the term “homophobia”), which may be fed as the negative attus that LGBTQ people have about themselv bee of their sexual orientatns.
We believe ternalized homophobia is why a gay man would dislike soundg feme. Internalized homophobia is why a gay man would dislike “soundg gay. ” We believe ternalized homophobia is why “soundg ls like a man” would make a gay man view himself as ferr and unsirable, even to the ey (or ears) of other gay men.
"DO I SOUND GAY?"
In this regard for our LGBTQ brothers and sisters, rearch suggts that people velop ternalized homophobia bee they learned that beg different or genr nonnformg was bad (om their fai, iends, society general) and so they also learned not to love themselv.
"DO I SOUND GAY?"
In other words, people have ternalized, accepted, or believed the homophobic msag that society has imposed upon them. So beg strsed out and psychologilly bothered by “soundg gay"—to the pot that one’s self-teem and other aspects of one’s life are negatively affected—is a very tellg “symptom” of ternalized homophobia.
Several other terviewe the movie also shared other mon ncepts that are related to, if not signs of, ternalized homophobia, cludg “passg” (i. For example, thor David Sedaris talked about stanc which others may have prumed that he was heterosexual and he retrospectively ponrs what many gay men may also wonr: “Why do passg as straight make me feel good? ”—another likely sign of ternalized homophobia.
In addn, as a gay man, the first thor (Kev) also knows what ’s like to be ostracized for his high-pched, loud, and flamboyant voice. This wispread societal margalizatn of the “gay voice” and pretty much everythg that is “gay” is very real, as most if not all of are socialized or tght to associate negativy, ferry, and “otherns” wh beg gay.
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) n attt to this wispread homophobia as he has wnsed – and even participated – many such stanc of otherg, teasg, and bullyg gay men, pecially those who speak wh high-pched, highly-feme, and flamboyantly “gay voic. Combattg Internalized Homophobia and Re-Defg the “Gay Voice”.
By the end of the film, Thorpe proclaimed that he has bee fortable wh the “gayns” of his voice.
We believe, however, that two of the other celebry terviewe—Dan Savage and Tim Gunn—more profoundly sum up the perfect batn of what many gay men stggle wh when to their voic.
I'M A WRER BUT... — * NFED GAY SOUNDS *
Author Dan Savage stat that their voic are the “last chunk of ternalized homophobia” that gay men stggle wh. Ined, many are openly gay every aspect their liv.
They have strong gay male iendships and even stronger romantic relatnships and partnerships. Rearch suggts that opprsn— this se homophobia or heterosexism—n be ternalized so eply that even those of who are most aware, most cril, and most “liberated” (or “lonized” as some other margalized peopl may refer to ) may still be affected by .
*CONFED GAY NOIS*
So for our LGBTQ brothers and sisters, they n love themselv and be proud of their inti, but that ltle piece of ternalized homophobia might always exist. Dpe this, we’d like to thk that we uld at least beg to bat ternalized homophobia simply by changg the fn of “normal. “Now, when people say ‘You sound gay, ' I simply turn to them and say ‘Thank you!
D., is an Associate Profsor of Psychology at the Cy Universy of New York, the Executive Director of CLAGS: The Center for LGBTQ Studi, and the thor of That’s So Gay! Microaggrsns and the Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgenr Communy.
FOX NEWS HOSTS CONFED ABOUT WHETHER TO CALL GAY MAN MR. OR MS.
*Note: Instead of “homophobia, ” some folks may e the term “heterosexism” – and this se “ternalized heterosexism” – which has been argued to be a more appropriate term given that anti-LGBTQ prejudice is not jt an dividual-level, clil-soundg problem (as the term “phobia” impli), but is also a wispread form of opprsn that is rooted our culture, society, and stutns.
For this piece, however, we e the term “homophobia” as is more regnized by the general society and is the term heard often the “Do I Sound Gay?