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Contents:

• LGBTQ LERATURE: FARM BOYS: LIV OF GAY MEN OM THE RURAL MIDWT
• BACKWOODS QUEER: LIFE AS A GAY MAN RURAL GEIA
• FIVE YEARS OLD AND GAY RURAL, WTERN KANSAS
• 'S-TOWN' AND THE LONELS OF BEG GAY THE RURAL SOUTH
• A GAY UPLE RAN A RAL RTRANT PEACE. THEN NEW NEIGHBORS ARRIVED.
• FARM BOYS: LIV OF GAY MEN OM THE RURAL MIDWT
• JAKE'S STORY OF BEG GAY RAL ATRALIA
• CONSERVATIVE NEIGHBOR TOSS AD RAT ON PROPERTY OF GAY UPLE’S RTRANT AMID FD
• ACTIVISTS NMN VLENCE AGAST LGBTQ MUNY ST. VCENT, WHERE GAY SEX IS ILLEGAL

LGBTQ LERATURE: FARM BOYS: LIV OF GAY MEN OM THE RURAL MIDWT

I wanted to wre a story that sh a light on an overlooked part of the AIDS epimic, those gay men who returned to the fai and muni that had rejected them, and on an tersectn we don’t see enough lerature: the queer and the ral. Like many queer kids, I learned about the world, and about myself, through books, gleang unspoken possibili about sexualy, genr, and masculy, om characters like tomboy Sut and her “cur” iend Dill to the homoerotic greasers The Outsirs.

Both love song to and crique of Appalachia, the majory of the stori this but llectn take place the mountas of Wt Virgia, where ’s not easy to be gay. The geo, poignant tle story explor g of age as a young gay boy the mountas, a queer love story that ends not tragedy but wh a gasp of hope. Grimsley wr about the realy of homophobia and vlence, but also about the bety and tenrns and hols of a place, of young love: “They step to rt a ltle way si the fort unr a gkgo tree, s goln leav showerg round them as they get their breath.

This lh, poetic, genero, philosophil novel, told om multiple characters’ pots of view, both gay and straight, exam the love and flaws and fivens of fay—whether blogil or chosen: “fay has no fixed boundari but is eternally changg, a river whose banks are formed by all those to whom she choos to bd herself wh the joys and burns of love. A young, gay, black man a small, ral town the South feels trapped by muny, by the opprsive relign of his fay, and by his own sexual reprsn.

BACKWOODS QUEER: LIFE AS A GAY MAN RURAL GEIA

This but novel spans the ral landspe of the Pacific Northwt, the gged mountas of Idaho, and small-town Texas, followg a woman who p her abive hband wh her dghter, and her gay eighteen-year-old son who fds love wh the foreman on a nstctn crew. Mrice by EM ForsterThe gay grand-daddy of them all, Forster’s elegant love story was wrten 1913, but – for fear of sndal – remaed unpublished until his ath 60 years later. For middle-aged gay men like me, the 1987 film adaptatn was a huge talyst our g out – and surprisgly sexy, too, for a Merchant Ivory number.

The stori llected by Garrger over the years have been shared on the Country Queers webse and Instagram page, and startg June 30, the new “Country Queers” podst will but on Apple Podsts, Spotify and ‘monotony and fabulosy’ of ral lifeFor the past seven years, Garrger has terviewed 65 people om 15 stat — om Arizona all the way to Vermont — and has llaborated wh queer anizatns cludg the Two Spir Natnal Cultural Exchange, the Kansas Queer Youth Network and the Internatnal Gay Roo Associatn. “When I tell my story, I tell people that I me out twice: one is the Wtern sense of beg gay, and the send was more of a cultural sense of beg gay, ” Apache told NBC News. “When I have nversatns wh people back home, there was a sort of fear or a kd of apprehensn when I said I was gay, bee their ncept, they thk of the gay person as somebody not livg unr rervatn, who didn’t have any rponsible ti to the cultural aspect of the tribe, which I thought was kd of an tertg perceptn, but wasn’t until I clared that I was g out as a Two Spir person that that nnectn ma more sense"‘I had to go back to the mountas’Hermelda Cortés, who serv as an edorial adviser for the new podst, was featured one of Country Queers’ Instagram takeovers.

There is no hate crime law verg sexual orientatn or genr inty, and ’s still legal for an employer to fire someone for beg gay. “I had iends share stori of leavg therapy worse than they entered due to homophobia and ignorance amongst unselor, ” Gardner says. Image om Author: Woodland near Readg, UKFor a long time I felt the bt way to live a gay life was to move to the cy bee that is where I saw other gay people, gay venu, and gay culture.

FIVE YEARS OLD AND GAY RURAL, WTERN KANSAS

Didier Eribon and Eduard Louis offered two of the most pellg of the kds of stori, but at the end of Eribon’s excellent memoir, Returng to Reims, he also poted out that, ‘there are also plac where gay people meet small towns and the untry’ and that there are ral plac where ‘forms of sociabily and relatnaly that, even if ls numero, ls ncentrated, and ls visible, are no ls real’ ia that the untrysi is not a place for LGBTQIA+ people seems to persist, partly bee we see such a vibrant culture major metropolan areas, but also bee of the way which we engage wh our history, and what is ma visible. But perhaps now is the time, wh Covid-19 enuragg a renewed discsn on the benefs of a ral life, for LGBTQIA+ people to explore queer ral I was growg up Suffolk, England, the 1990s, the only ntext I had for beg gay, were my ral experienc of sire — the boys I would secretly velop a csh on. It was an isolatg and lonely experience, worsened by Thatcher’s discrimatory Sectn 28 law which enforced silence on gay issu school and allowed homophobia to enjoy the benefs of state support.

Ocsnally, on the televisn, I would see people like Freddie Mercury or Boy Gee but there was no gay ral lostar; there were no role mols, historil or current, around which I uld lote my of the LGBTQIA+ people I have spoken to as part of my work to ral queerns have exprsed siar experienc of feelg like the only gay the village. Adria Ptock, who is now Chair of Suffolk Pri, explaed how not havg any role mols, alongsi homophobia, ma her reprs her feelgs for many years, so that was not until she was her forti that she was able to e out.

'S-TOWN' AND THE LONELS OF BEG GAY THE RURAL SOUTH

Craig, om Suffolk, said that while he knew he was gay, the bullyg enuraged him to reprs those feelgs, date and marry a woman, before g out his mid is apparent that the lack of visibily ral areas n have long-term effects on gay people who live those areas, and how safe they feel to e out or to meet other people. ESSAY | LIFE | RURAL LIVING | LGBT+ | AUTOBIOGRAPHYFive Years Old and Gay Rural, Wtern KansasThe remarkable story of Kev and the doghoe(Not a Medium member? My sneakg spicn that the feelgs were very wrong beme realy when my grandmother found out urse, at five, I had no ncept of beg gay.

A GAY UPLE RAN A RAL RTRANT PEACE. THEN NEW NEIGHBORS ARRIVED.

As Ameri begs s next round of vourg queer muni whole, acquirg a taste for gay wboy poetry and trans small-town stori is sential. “No promo homo” legislatn might pri over the classroom as gospel, but librari, the ter, and other muny centers n fill the val gaps people’s LGBTQ+ tn. The largt cultural phenomenon surroundg gay ral cema jt might be “Brokeback Mounta, ” the movie based on Annie Proulx’s short story of the same name.

And no matter how much legislatn and harm that to trans and gay youth and adults the stat, they’ll still live out there, all the same, their voic refg to get choked out. It’s good practice to show gay and trans kids they’re not alone, queer adults that their liv are not so isolated, that to be LGBTQ+ and ral is more than patible.

The bsman and his wife, Melissa, first plaed to the Front Porch proprietors about pre-dawn vendor liveri 2019, not long after the nservative Christian uple moved their fancial firm right next door to the rtrant, which fli a gay Pri flag. (Front Porch Market and Grill)What’s more, the Washers say, the ad rat was jt one more sult that the uple, who once planted an “all liv matter” sign their ont yard, have endured sce movg next door to a rtrant owned by a gay uple.

FARM BOYS: LIV OF GAY MEN OM THE RURAL MIDWT

They married 2020, five years after they opened the Front Porch, which quickly beme a statn The Front Porch has been flyg a Pri flag on s pat sce 2016, not long after a gunman killed 49 people a gay bar Orlando.

Waybourn was print of the Dallas Gay Alliance when sued Parkland Memorial Hospal for failg to provi readily available medic to AIDS patients.

“I had so many threats agast me that even the Dallas police statned squad rs outsi our home, ” Waybourn an activist, Waybourn says, his goals were clear: same-sex marriage, gays and lbians the ary, accs to lifavg medic. To the activist, feels like a step backward after a lifetime of fightg for gay pack the seats at the Board of Zong Appeals hearg hosted at Grace Epispal Church.

JAKE'S STORY OF BEG GAY RAL ATRALIA

“I have que a few gay iends, clients and a fay member, and I have patronized a gay-owned rtrant for years, ” he whether the Washers are tryg to remake The Plas to their image of Ameri — Whe, nservative, Christian — Melissa said, “I n see where you’re g om. Farm Boys unrm that cliché by tellg the stori of more than three dozen gay men, rangg age om 24 to 84, who grew up farm fai the midwtern Uned Stat.

This unrstandg of sexualy, which treated homosexualy as a psychiatric illns, was then normalized the public sphere, and spread across the untry. The perceptn of queerns as an urban phenomenon was then advertently rerced by the early pneers of LGBT studi, many of whom had moved om small towns and ral plac orr to be a part of the urban-based Gay Liberatn movements of the 1960s, 70s, and 80s. Another factor, Johnson said, was that the Stonewall rts and the Gay Liberatn movement helped create a distctly urban queer polil inty that beme the most visible mol of queer life.

“People livg wh their bt iends their entire liv, the arrangements that were faiar small areas, they didn’t look like the self-nsc, polilly actualized gay and lbian inty that many people were faiar wh. ” RFD has filled the role of the journal of rerd for the Radil Faerie movement sce 1979, and, while many LGBT people livg outsi urban centers do not intify wh this muny, also ma history by tablishg that ral LGBT people had their own voic and experienc which were often not well reprented the mastream gay and lbian prs. An example of the latter was the limed gree of verage given to ral gay life by The ADVOCATE om the late 1960s to the appearance of AIDS 1981.

CONSERVATIVE NEIGHBOR TOSS AD RAT ON PROPERTY OF GAY UPLE’S RTRANT AMID FD

At about the same time that the first issue of RFD was beg published, The ADVOCATE prted a story s November 6, 1974 issue entled “Gay Liberatn the Ozarks: We’re Not Ashamed. This was followed the July 26, 1978 issue by a longer story appearg as “Smoktacks, Haystacks, and to Bed We Go: Gay Life Rural Pennsylvania.

Among the people who agreed to be terviewed for the project were lbians livg the untry, both alone and a group suatn and a gay man om a farm fay who beme an actor. While several gay men and lbians subsequently me out to the thor her practice as a rult of the ad for the support group, no lastg anizatn was created.

ACTIVISTS NMN VLENCE AGAST LGBTQ MUNY ST. VCENT, WHERE GAY SEX IS ILLEGAL

Durg the 1980s as the AIDS panmic began to impact all LGBT muni regardls of lotn, many ral gay men found themselv beg activists to help prerve not only their own liv but the lol worlds they had grown up . An excellent example of such a transformatn took place North Dakota, when Bismarck librarian and puppeteer Darrel Hilbrant, son of a sheep rancher, created The Coaln, the first AIDS activist anizatn the state, and traveled wily speakg on AIDS preventn across the state, puttg a human face on the epimic and, the procs, beg the most wily known gay man North Dakota. The prence of AIDS ral LGBT life was also the subject of Joanne McCarthy’s 1988 social work this at California State Universy, The Psychosocial Impact of Aids and Related Health Concerns upon Gay Men a Rural Communy.

In later years, a body of dissertatns focg attentn on aspects of ral gay and lbian life om the perspectiv of social work, tn, soclogy, psychology, munitns, gerontology, history, geography, and anthropology would emerge. The 1980s also saw the birth of publitns created by and for ral LGBT people to serve as foms for discsn of issu and assist the growth of a sense of muny, such as Among Friends: News Magaze For Gays and Lbians of the Upper Midwt, published Madison, Wisns om 1983 to 1989, and the short-lived Midwt Tim, published Chigo begng January 1981. They clud Heartland: The Midwt’s Gay and Lbian Newspaper (which appeared Indianapolis om Febary 1990 to June 1991), Rockford, Illois’ Rock River News, the Pneers Newsletter of the Rural Southwt Wisns Gay and Lbian Alliance (begun 1994) and the Prairie Flame, published monthly Sprgfield, Illois om 1996 to 2008.