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Contents:
- 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
- I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
- IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
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A posive rult, back then, would have been a ath the clic a iendly gay unsellor asked Megan to step to his room and asked her if everythg was OK. “This poor gay guy was the target for all my built-up anger.
As her dad pulled up she opened her purse, fat wh not, and phed them all to the bewilred man’s hands before beg whisked is one of a potentially dyg breed of women: those who married closeted gay men. “Some women ntact the service before their hband is even aware they know he’s gay, ” she says.
I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
Never once did she spect he was gay. I’m not gay but really nfed and I thk I need you to move back to Atralia so I n work myself out. Lucy, now 24, hid at school the fact her dad was gay.
I don’t believe bisexualy, I thk he was gay, ” she says.
“When you love someone and you know you’re gay, you don’t marry them.
IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
And many of the men, embolned by the sense of eedom and h excement afford them by disverg the gay scene, pletely scrib the impact had on her children.
“My sons’ iends would e over and ask, is your dad gay? ”Siarly, Patricia took issue wh the blok who took her hband out for a beer so they didn’t look homophobic. ”Jt like many gay men do, their wiv n go through nial perds, Roxanne says, believg they n work thgs out.
“I know my hband is gay, he n’t stop himself om beg wh men, ’s impossible. Her anger wasn’t at him, but at his fay and culture for not lettg him be who he should have been the first place: “It was like he didn’t know how to be gay.