'Did I ever really know him?': the women who married gay men | LGBTQ+ rights | The Guardian

Contents:

• 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
• IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?

'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN

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I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

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IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?

I don’t believe bisexualy, I thk he was gay, ” she says.

“When you love someone and you know you’re gay, you don’t marry them.