Sexually nfed? Who ISN’T?! Try the GAY-O-METER!

Contents:

• AM I GAY?
• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• I DON'T LIKE WOMEN, I'M NOT GAY EHER AND I AM 20, NORMAL?
• THE GAY-O-METER! ?️‍? LGBTQ QUIZ
• I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• AM I GAY ENOUGH? WHAT TO KNOW ABOUT QUEER INTY

AM I GAY?

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr.

Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc. So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label. Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex.

Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. For example, gay men the Mormon fah are moral nflict.

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

Durg the’90s, I beme a “gay-affirmative therapist. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them. Beg a gay man, I was tryg to brg them to where I was at.

Durg this time, a man don’t see himself as gay, only homosexual. The term gay is too affirmative, and they are not ready to accept .

I DON'T LIKE WOMEN, I'M NOT GAY EHER AND I AM 20, NORMAL?

I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology. Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man. They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight.

THE GAY-O-METER! ?️‍? LGBTQ QUIZ

Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg. Beg homosexual, gay, or havg same-sex attractn is not sex addictn, and should never be treated as such. Hetero-Emotnal and Homosexual.

I thk of them as beg hetero-emotnal homosexuals. And I got news for you: that means you're gay.

But, like Rob said, if 's a hatred of women (which I don't thk you were sayg bee you mentned not beg gay, but... Want to evaluate whether you're gay, bisexual, bi-cur or straight? It is lled the GAY-O-METER!

I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN

If your self-"gaydar" is broken, this should help fix ! However, what I am ncerned about is that he is g me as a steppg stone to acknowledgg to himself that he is gay, or that he wants to be a heterosexual relatnship orr to reap the social benefs (havg kids, generally beg accepted society, etc. I’m worried bee (a) he’s never been wh a man before and beg wh me means he won't get that experience (assumg he don't cheat) and (b) he om an extremely relig fay the South who would likely not be able to accept his homosexualy (or even bisexualy).

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

I'm worried that we will spend years together, possibly get married, have kids, and then he will e to grips that he is fact actually gay.

I have a very strong sneakg spicn that he’s bidg his time until his parents die or until he cis that he's gog to e out to them as I stay wh him and thk about a future, knowg full well that he uld tell me one day that he's actually gay and wants to be wh a man, or that he wants to transn, and leave me wh a bunch of baggage, such as gettg a divorce (sharg ctody of kids, fanc), and time/energy/effort lost? A mon argument for the acceptance of homosexualy and same-sex marriage is that, if God is love, He would not nmn the love of others. The world and maybe even our own sensivi might say that allowg others to live a homosexual relatnship is to see to their well-beg.

Romans 1:26 says homosexualy is disgraceful and dishonorg. First Corthians 6:18 says that sexual immoraly, cludg homosexualy, is a s agast one’s own body.

AM I GAY ENOUGH? WHAT TO KNOW ABOUT QUEER INTY

If homosexualy rults a dishonorg, harmful separatn om God’s blsg, then the lovg thg to do is to stay away om . That beg said, those wh homosexual attractns are sperate need of love.

Even if they agree wh the Bible that homosexualy is a s and rolve not to seek fulfillment of their sexual sir, they mt still fd love other relatnships—the self-sacrificg love of agape and the iendly pannship of phileo. The need for love is no different for sgle heterosexuals than is for those wh homosexual attractn.

If God is love, why do He nmn homosexualy? Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight.