Gay Men and Their Mothers: Is There a Special Closens? | Psychology Today

my gay mum

My mother, and my (gay) self.

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"Mom, I'm gay. Article SummaryXTellg your mom that you’re gay n be nerve-wrackg, but wh a plan and a ltle bravery, you n get off your cht. You might want to clu thgs like when you learned you were gay, what ’s been like for you, and what your hop are for the future.

GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?

I'm gay. Perhaps is not surprisg that mothers and their gay sons often scribe their relatnships as close. However, beg gay might be a factor that mak some mothers and sons even closer.

This was found to be te for many of the mothers and sons I terviewed for the study scribed the book: Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child (). Neverthels, this closens uld have a downsi, at least temporarily, as many mothers ially blame themselv and the close relatnships for their sons' homosexualy.

‘TRMATIZED’ DGHTER OF LGBT PARENTS: ‘MY GAY MOMS OPPRSED ME’

So, perhaps is not pletely surprisg that once they learned their sons were gay, some of the mothers I terviewed felt that they had done somethg to damage them.

The fact is that I am the mother and I was told growg up that men bee gay bee their mothers are too motherg. For a long time, the psychiatric profsn blamed overly close maternal relatnships for g the "disease" of male homosexualy. Even though rearch sce the 1950's has bunked , this theory persists people's mds and rears s ugly head for mothers when they ially learn their sons are gay.

Fortunately, for many mothers of gay son—wh time and tn, they learn that the ia that they had somehow ma their son gay is ad wrong This was te of the mothers my study who also me to see the benefs havg a gay son as will be scribed later this post.

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'Trmatized' woman of LGBT parents: 'My gay moms opprsed me' .

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