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</p><p>Today I woke up, walked my pbull, ma some ffee, sat at my sk, and turned on my transgenr lamp.</p><p>You see, simply everythg I do is transgenr, bee I am transgenr. My lamp may look normal to any cis mons readg this say, but is fact a trans lamp, not bee is one of those bendy archecture lamps (she’s queerg beg upright), but bee I, a trans person, turn on and off daily.</p><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad---ntent"><div class="adslot adslot---ntent" data-no-id="i7xhbp"></div></div><figure class="AssetEmbedWrapper-eVDQiB byBkf asset-embed"><div class="AssetEmbedAssetContaer-eJxoAx dBHGoQ asset-embedasset-ntaer"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kGxnNB rponsive-asset AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embedrponsive-asset"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embedrponsive-asset rponsive-image"><noscript><img alt="Im So Trans When I Turn On My Lamp" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-imageimage" src=" srcSet=" 120w, 240w, 320w, 640w, 960w, 1280w, 1600w" siz="100vw"/></noscript></picture></span></div></figure><p>Don’t you know? Everythg n be trans now! At least that’s the imprsn I’ve gotten om social media, which for me, like for many trans and queer people, is my primary method of teractg wh fellow Alphabet Mafia Members — pecially lately.</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p>I have not been to a gay bar over a year, have not seen a drag show eons, have not protted wh my sisters the streets sce... well, I n’t even remember the last time I went to a trans prott. (2018, maybe?)</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-unslot nsumer-marketg-unslot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p>In the meantime, Twter has been keepg me notified of all the thgs that are queer and trans now, but ’s been hard to keep up. Iced ffee <a href=">is extremely gay</a>, obvly. There’s an <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">entire grown man wh an entire TikTok acunt</a> dited to explag how everythg — <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">drivg</a> badly, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">beg annoyg</a>, lovg <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">plants</a> — is gay, as if the very mon tras were the exclive provce of a sgle sexual orientatn. (Seemgly everythg is gay except two men havg sex).</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layoutasi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB kNleGZ sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-boxprimary"><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="adslot adslot--rail" data-no-id="elx7d2l"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-unslot nsumer-marketg-unslot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="adslot adslot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="ennh7g"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layoutntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bectqB body bodyntaer articlebody" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="bodyner-ntaer"><div class="TiktokEmbedContaer-kXMsjf dGAjyj"><div class="MsageBannerWrapper-krrtvl zGyQW ConsentBannerWrapper-bMdLtU WTFWJ" data-ttid="msage-banner"><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ MsageBannerContent-gLUJfX iUEiRd cBiKDS jWqkgM"><h4 class="ConsentBannerTle-lgaGAH gOfech">TikTok ntent</h4><p>This ntent n also be viewed on the se <a href=" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noreferrer" class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BaseLk-eNWuiM ConsentBannerLk-dJZMSz iUEiRd cBiKDS hMJHAg">origat</a> om.</p></div></div></div><p>“Many people don't know this, but the Pch om <em>Ocean's Eleven</em> is a lbian,” a <a href=">sce-leted tweet om a large rporatn reads</a>, referrg to a fictnal gadget that terfer wh nearby circury. “The Pch is a silent, stealthy, sly bch that, when activated, cuts the electricy all of Las Vegas for 30 sends. Her power. Her md.” What?...</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>Also, lemon bars <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">are bisexual</a>.</p><p>And then there’s bisexual lightg—which <a href=">one person at a very fancy news webse lled the BBC</a> cid was “an empowerg visual vice.” I have yet to meet a bisexual who feels empowered by this lightg, but I’m sure they exist. And of urse there is T4T reprentatn, which is not T4T at all, but mostly about people (<a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">cludg</a> <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">myself</a>) tweetg about how any short man and tall woman or short object and tall object is a trans uple (see <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">here</a>, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">here</a>, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">here</a>, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">here</a>, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">here</a>).</p><asi aria-hidn="te" class="PullQuoteEmbedWrapper-sc-EoVjf fQbAzo"><div class="PullQuoteDerativeBorr-sc-iUyOLj fAzNVP"></div><div class="PullQuoteEmbedContent-sc-kTcfhx eoUd"><p>"We’re stg our ho, miserable, isolated om each other, attemptg to survive a panmic, and watchg LGBTQ+ culture, polics, and everythg else bee creasgly rporatized, homogenized, and hollow."</p></div></asi><p>I’m jt havg fun, I tell myself, as I follow the social trends. <em>The people makg the generalizatns are jt playg around, don't roll your ey</em>, I thk as I watch tweet after tweet scroll past. Except that ’s all started to make me credibly sad.</p><p>I have fallen victim to this impulse to ll anythg I relate to queer or trans, but I have cid, as of today, to clare a personal moratorium. My lamp is no longer transgenr, she simply… wa… <em></em> simply is a lamp. Bee when we ll everythg trans and queer, we ignore the sad fact that really nothg we’re dog is T4T, or queer, or even pla old gay. We’re stg our ho, miserable, isolated om each other, attemptg to survive a panmic, and watchg LGBTQ+ culture, polics, and everythg else bee creasgly rporatized, homogenized, and hollow. If everythg is trans, nothg is.</p><hr/><p><strong>This problem has been exacerbated</strong> by the ever-creasg abstractns of our existence — we’re more onle and ls -person than ever — but is not new. Ever sce the ventn of genr studi, amics have been sistg that animate objects and ways of beg are herently queer.</p><p>Perhaps most famoly (and famoly), Jack Halberstam’s 2011 book <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank"><em>The Queer Art of Failure</em></a> posed that the very ncept of failure was anti-heteronormative, and proposed that we uld ee ourselv om the strictur of patriarchal expectatns of succs by embracg failure stead.</p><p>In Halberstam’s view, anythg om Spongebob Squarepants to <em>Ltle Miss Sunshe</em> reprents the joy found through spurng of tradnal nventns. 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We, as queer people, get to ci what is queer, and get to ci what is not queer. So why, then, have we cid that so many thgs that do not materially support our cultur are queer or trans or gay?</p><div class="GenericCalloutWrapper-tojWn lmBTTa llout--has-top-borr" data-ttid="GenericCallout"><div class="ContentCardEmbedWrapper-kULtsE iGAJsG ntent-rd-embed ntent-rd-embed--stacked" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedWrapper"><div class="ContentCardEmbedImage-iwqgVw jlIubp ntent-rd-embedimage" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedImage"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW jvZaPI rponsive-asset"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa rponsive-image"><img alt="Image may nta: Art, Human, Person, Couch, Furnure, and Graphics" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-imageimage" src=" srcSet=" 120w, 240w, 320w, 640w" siz="100vw"/></picture></span></div><div class="ContentCardEmbedInfo-bDftKl bGnSrq"><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ ContentCardEmbedHed-kJVPGC iUEiRd gFmvMS cewqFA ntent-rd-embedhed" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedHed"><a class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BaseLk-eNWuiM ContentCardEmbedHedLk-eXLwe iUEiRd gFmvMS hRaEiJ eFUKSb ntent-rd-embed__hed-lk" href="/story/how-to-be-a-queer-person--the-world-post-quarante" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedHedLk">How to Be a Queer Person the World Post-Quarante</a></div><div data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedDek" class="ContentCardEmbedDek-bA-DKch hXdQfY">The world has changed, and so have you. Here’s how to emerge om quarante a healthy way.</div></div></div></div><p>Queer culture has always meant more than havg gay sex — there have always been movi, songs, and forms of dancg associated wh beg LGBTQ+. But, until recently, those piec of culture were acutrements to a physil culture. We existed on the streets, ballrooms, bars. We saw each other. Now seems the acutrements are all we have.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-2 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>Gatekeepg has gotten a rap as of late; people feel as if we do not allow anythg and everythg to intify or be intified as queer or trans that we are dog a disservice to our muny members. But I would like to pos that some forms of gatekeepg are good, if they keep materialy at the foreont of our queerns and transns.</p><p>Whout gatekeepg, too many thgs breach our gat: medcre televisn shows and rny Instagrammers and the <em>ia of failure</em> are now part of the queer muny. Perhaps is time to ask them to leave.</p><p>I’m not the first to pot out this worryg trend. In January, Nour Abi Nakhoul, a trans Canadian wrer, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">documented a phenomenon</a> of social media ers sayg “they’re lbians” about untls celebri, animals, and animate objects. While Abi Nakhoul thought the trend was mostly harmls fun, she also poted out that ’s happeng at a time when reprentatn of <em>actual</em> lbians barely exists. We retroactively ci that movie and televisn characters are lbians bee so few are exprsly labeled as such. We create the reprentatn that rporate culture has failed to create for .</p><p>Alex V. Green, another trans Canadian wrer, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">lamented 2019</a> that Gucci’s e of hollow “nonbary” athetics for a “universal” perfume showed jt how tached queer cultur have bee om any materialy.</p><p>“The label ‘non-bary,’ and the polil mands that such a label ought to entail, have bee so watered down and stripped of their material ronance that cisgenr signers have managed to eloquently pture s ntemporary meanglsns,” Green wrote.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layoutasi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-boxprimary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="adslot adslot--rail" data-no-id="ctm48"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" 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class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>By tachg transns and queerns om polics, om -person muny, om physil touch, om the thgs we produce when we are together, and attachg stead to thgs that were produced whout md — like blockbter movi and ffee wh ice cub — we ve the exploatn of our inti and our muni for prof.</p><p>We have phed for reprentatn, but mostly what we’ve gotten are <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">Pri paras sponsored by missile pani</a> and <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">predatory lenrs</a>.</p><p>But, as Abi Nakhoul noted, perhaps none of this even matters: by claimg everythg as lbian, or queer, or trans, maybe we’re simply disrdg wh the notn that reprentatn is at all liberatory. Perhaps there’s a layer of self-awarens behd the tweets that’s actually worthwhile.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-3 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>Maybe we’re all on the joke.</p><asi aria-hidn="te" class="PullQuoteEmbedWrapper-sc-EoVjf fQbAzo"><div class="PullQuoteDerativeBorr-sc-iUyOLj fAzNVP"></div><div class="PullQuoteEmbedContent-sc-kTcfhx eoUd"><p>"We existed on the streets, ballrooms, bars. We saw each other. Now seems the acutrements are all we have."</p></div></asi><p>“We know that isn’t any way a ser pastime to look at the world around tryg to regnize parts of ourselv ,” Abi Nakhoul wrote. “It don’t mean anythg for the bigger picture — won’t help to elimate the way our world is stctured to discrimate agast women and those who aren’t heterosexual. But ’s fun.”</p><p>I thk she’s half right: This kd of superficial reprentatn don’t really matter at the end of the day. But I thk we have reached a fever pch of scribg everythg as queer, trans, lbian, gay, bisexual, and all the rt bee we have so ltle that is actually queer our liv.</p><p>Gay bars have been closg for s, sex (which, lt we fet, is an tegral part of beg gay), <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">has been on the cle</a>. Our Pri paras have bee rporate monstrosi that functn more as vehicl to sell vodka and airle tickets than as opportuni to ph for liberatn.</p><div class="GenericCalloutWrapper-tojWn iezhXq llout--has-top-borr" data-ttid="GenericCallout"><div class="ContentCardEmbedWrapper-kULtsE iGAJsG ntent-rd-embed ntent-rd-embed--stacked" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedWrapper"><div class="ContentCardEmbedImage-iwqgVw jlIubp ntent-rd-embedimage" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedImage"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW jvZaPI rponsive-asset"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa rponsive-image"><img alt="Image may nta: Art" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-imageimage" src=" srcSet=" 120w, 240w, 320w, 640w" siz="100vw"/></picture></span></div><div class="ContentCardEmbedInfo-bDftKl bGnSrq"><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ ContentCardEmbedHed-kJVPGC iUEiRd gFmvMS cewqFA ntent-rd-embedhed" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedHed"><a class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BaseLk-eNWuiM ContentCardEmbedHedLk-eXLwe iUEiRd gFmvMS hRaEiJ eFUKSb ntent-rd-embedhed-lk" href="/story/queer-spac-lost-vid-19" data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedHedLk">An O to Queer Spac Lost Durg COVID — and Those We’re Fightg to Keep Alive</a></div><div data-ttid="ContentCardEmbedDek" class="ContentCardEmbedDek-bA-DKch hXdQfY"><em>them.</em> is ditg this seri to the spac taken om but also those that rema, persistg as bt any of n durg the tryg tim.</div></div></div></div><p>The panmic did not create the ndns, simply <a href=">exacerbated them</a>. We now live an exponentially bleaker environment where near-nstant isolatn is the norm. This lonels is pound by the fact that trans and queer people, pecially young trans and queer people, mt nstantly ph to fd muni that have been hidn om them.</p><p>In a world where social media platforms ban LGBTQ+ ntent, where schools refe to teach kids about queer history or queer sex, where you mt often leave your home and hometown simply to fd iends, mak sense that queer people, pecially young queers, would latch onto anythg that uld possibly be claimed as queer.</p><p>It’s the same reason so many people onle <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">ll everythg an ADHD symptom</a>, and why imag of mon objects <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">like backyard chairs</a> go viral: we are all starvg for actual muny, for materialy our liv, to be able to relate to each other across this vast, alienatg expanse of the ter.</p><p>It’s a perfectly unrstandable impulse, but distracts om our need for iends, lovers, and muny, leavg to rely on wh cheap and unfulfillg knockoffs of queer culture stead.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-4 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>I will not lambaste anyone for participatg the trends, as I have done , too. But I thk we n allow ourselv to hold two thoughts our heads at once: ’s okay to fd solace banal and trivial thgs while we get through this bleak perd, but we also need to ph for more.</p><p>From now on, every time I have the impulse to ll somethg T4T, or to ll an animate object trans, I will simply ask myself the followg qutn: Wouldn’t I be better off spendg this energy fdg someone to have sex wh? 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There’s an entire grown man wh an entire TikTok acunt dited to explag how everythg — drivg badly, beg annoyg, lovg plants — is gay, as if the very mon tras were the exclive provce of a sgle sexual orientatn.

(Seemgly everythg is gay except two men havg sex). Bee when we ll everythg trans and queer, we ignore the sad fact that really nothg we’re dog is T4T, or queer, or even pla old gay.

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