It's a new year and and a new , but that don't mean the world needs a new you. GQ unpacks the body image issu pervadg the gay muny.
Contents:
- WHY BODY IMAGE ISSU PERVA THE GAY COMMUNY
- LIVG AUTHENTILLY THE LGBTQ COMMUNY: HOW TO MOVE PAST “GAY SHAME” [VIO]
- ON SLUT-SHAMG AND GAY MEN
- BE KD. STOP THE OPPRSIVE CYCLE OF TERNALIZED GAY SHAME.
- BE KD. STOP THE OPPRSIVE CYCLE OF TERNALIZED GAY SHAME.
- GAY MEN PH BACK ON BODY SHAMG AMID HIGH RAT OF BODY DYSMORPHIA, EATG DISORRS
- GAWKER'S OUTG OF CONDé NAST'S CFO IS GAY-SHAMG, NOT JOURNALISM
- THE INTER EPTS AT GAWKER’S ROLE IN ‘GAY-SHAMG’ ‘BLACKMAIL’ ATTEMPT
WHY BODY IMAGE ISSU PERVA THE GAY COMMUNY
* gay shaming *
Body image issu aren’t unique to bi or gay men, but toxic thoughts pertag to self-worth and physil re have bee dangeroly prevalent wh the MSM (men seekg men) muny. ” Over the years, we’ve all heard that tre le: “You n be straight th, but gay fat. ”When I asked if any of my gay male followers had battled body image issu, someone rpond: “That’s lerally all of , surely.
” When agenda-settg gay men’s magaze Attu nducted a body survey 2017, 84% of people said they felt unr “tense prsure” to have a so-lled “good body. Rearch published last year by Philip Joy and Matthew Numer om Dalhoie Universy found that “social mands placed upon gay men to eat healthily and achieve a perfect body are lked to anxiety and prsn and have ser mental health nsequenc. ”Borris Visokoborskis, a 33-year-old gay fns stctor, says some of his personal traer lleagu are now fully booked until the end of Febary.
“Workg this dtry, I n tell you that lookg good is not enough any more for some gay guys who value their athetics and appearance, ” he says.
LIVG AUTHENTILLY THE LGBTQ COMMUNY: HOW TO MOVE PAST “GAY SHAME” [VIO]
Stgglg wh gay shame? Watch this blog to learn how to move past shame and live thentilly the LGBTQ muny! * gay shaming *
“A gay iend said to me that ’s hard to look fuckable the days, ” he says. ”Of urse, the social media era, our phon make easier than ever before to fall to the toxic trap of parg ourselv to other, more “fuckable” gay men.
Instagram tends to get the most blame, but Lewis, a 29-year-old gay man who says his body “jt don’t feel good enough, ” argu that Twter n be even more triggerg. "As a younger gay man, when I me out, I was told I was too fat, ” says 32-year-old Pete. ”Alex, a 28-year-old gay man of lor, says there’s a fetishistic element to the body image prsure he fac.
ON SLUT-SHAMG AND GAY MEN
“People shamg Andy Cohen for beg gay, a gay bar, wh other gay guys, durg gay Pri month,” one er tweeted. * gay shaming *
“But when I’m out, I still get ments om other gay guys about my body, so sometim I feel like I have to keep workg on .
Gee, a 35-year-old gay man, says his ncerns began when a iend mocked his "skny arms" nearly 15 years ago.
Keir, a 33-year-old gay man, says he unrtook 18 months of unselg, partly to tackle body image issu, and reports that ’s been reasonably effective.
BE KD. STOP THE OPPRSIVE CYCLE OF TERNALIZED GAY SHAME.
When faced wh gay shame, we have three choic. Eher we overpensate, we llapse – or we employ self-passn. * gay shaming *
Livg Authentilly the LGBTQ Communy: How to Move Past “Gay Shame” [Transcript] For some people, gay shame may seem like a term for only queer, cisgenr men.
However, gay shame n refer to any feelgs of ferry due to your sexualy/genr inty. Watch a ee webar on how to live thentilly by overg gay shame Breakg the cycle of gay shame the LGBTQ muny So how do we break the cycle of shame the LGBTQ muny?
BE KD. STOP THE OPPRSIVE CYCLE OF TERNALIZED GAY SHAME.
When faced wh gay shame, we have three choic. Eher we overpensate, we llapse – or we employ self-passn. * gay shaming *
For example, many are raised a relig hoeholds that hold beliefs like “gay people are unnatural or will go to hell. Read more about how gay men pensate for gay shame Developg a sense of LGBTQ empowerment Fdg the eedom and LGBTQ empowerment to be the te you may not be a lear journey.
GAY MEN PH BACK ON BODY SHAMG AMID HIGH RAT OF BODY DYSMORPHIA, EATG DISORRS
For many gay men, social media and datg apps are hotbeds of body image stggl and risg toxic masculy – the recent ‘10-year-challenge’ on Instagram shows this femmephobia. * gay shaming *
Movg past gay shame is an act of bravery and rilience. Therapy may be an optn for you if you would like support overg gay shame and havg a safe space to disver your thentic self. Most people have heard of “Gay Pri” reference to the LGBTQI muny’s month of celebratn, ftivals and paras each June.
Others may pot out where their relig texts directly ll homosexualy or beg transgenr a s.
Lbian, gay and bisexual people were allowed to serve the ary but uld not reveal their sexual orientatn whout riskg dishonorable discharge.
GAWKER'S OUTG OF CONDé NAST'S CFO IS GAY-SHAMG, NOT JOURNALISM
Eher a sgle event, such as gettg asslted for beg gay or beg fired by a transphobic employer, or the long-term effects of staed strs due to discrimatn, n lead to post-trmatic strs rpons or PTSD. 15 Signs You’re a Gay Misogynist. Gay men tend to enjoy talkg about ck.
This is the systematic opprsn of women, an jtice we ntribute to every time we ll women “bch” and thk ’s OK — bee we’re gay. On the eve of a polil admistratn that is cidly antiwomen, wh a print-elect who has eely bragged about sexual asslt, we n no longer s idly by and allow this behavr among gay men to ntue.
Blanket refals to a certa mographic of gay men — black, Asian, HIV-posive, kky — dite that you’re the sort of person who ref to see people beyond their membership said mographic. If you thk all fem guys are unattractive and refe to see them as more than their femy, you’re a gay misogynist. When I was a baby gay (high school, llege), I ed to make gaggg nois when people talked about vagas.
THE INTER EPTS AT GAWKER’S ROLE IN ‘GAY-SHAMG’ ‘BLACKMAIL’ ATTEMPT
You eely ll women “bch, ” thkg ’s fe to do so bee you’re gay. Some women have appropriated slurs like “bch” and “cunt” as power terms, jt as many gay men (not me) ll themselv “faggots.
For example, I eely e “queer” spe s history as a slur, and I love llg myself and other gay men “homos, ” even though some nsir this word a slur also ( my fense, “homo” is more basely factual than any other term: I am, after all, a homosexual). You thk promiscuy is a basic part of gay male culture, but a promiscuo woman is “slutty.
You e feme pronouns a rogatory way — particularly when makg fun of other gay men. When a fellow homo gets too dnk at the bar and gets horny or touchy, or do somethg embarrassg, you say, “Girl’s tanked. Sure, I ll fellow homos “girl” sometim, particularly at the gay gym, when ma egos are flarg.