Narcissism among gay men and LGBT culture is explored by Steven Surman reviewg The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs. This is part two of two.
Contents:
- GAY RAGE
- GAY RAGE
- THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 02
- PRI AND PREJUDICE FOR GAY MEN
- THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 01
- GAY-RAGE ED MEANG
- GAY-RAGE MEANG AND FN
- ROXANE GAY
GAY RAGE
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GAY RAGE
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Most of the recent spate of suicis mted by young gay men have been attributed to homophobic bullyg. The gay youth is overwhelmed by a feelg of rage but nnot fd a suable outlet for his vlent feelg that is patible wh the sire not to harm others. Bee he is a gay youth and knows firsthand what is to suffer at the hand and mouth of another, he do not, or nnot, produce pa he feels upon another.
What we mt do as adults is to foc on equippg our LGBT (lbian gay bisexual transgenr) youth wh an emotnal rilience wh which they n LIVE THROUGH IT. Such reprentatn really do reveal homosexualy as a “life style” rather than an emotnal and polil realy that mands a particular procs of livg.
There mt be a return to ser, rigoro, and even somewhat…sry versns of “lbian gay bisexual transgenr. As Alan Downs pots out several tim The Velvet Rage, when two gay men are a relatnship wh one another, will only work out if they both wrangled wh and tamed their own mons.
THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 02
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This certaly sounds a lot like the premise Ross Rosenberg’s The Human Mag Syndrome, sce a narcissist and a pennt (gay or straight) are both magilly drawn to each other for havg the characteristics and personaly tras that the other is lackg. One gay therapist I know says, ‘Send only to HIV, betrayal is the most vastatg gay epimic.
I am sure ss wh many gay men, and ’s why so many of sh to and clg to toxic relatnships—this guy clud.
A gay man who pathologilly cis for sex is engagg a procs addictn bee ’s no longer about hookg up. Over the years I’ve had untls (and I mean untls) talks wh gay iends who all pla about how tired and vapid the gay social apps are. After my own breakup om the Gay Narcissist, I was glued to Scff, and I msaged as many men as possible the world over.
PRI AND PREJUDICE FOR GAY MEN
Gay narcissism as a ncept is explored by Steven Surman this analysis of the Velvet Rage by Alan Downs. Part one of two. * gay rage *
Sce I foced so much on the dark si of gay men and their relatnships, ’s important to highlight the sgle most important pot I took away om Alan Downs and The Velvet Rage, which is a hopeful one.
The latt blow to Wt Hollywood’s Boystown gay nightlife district is the closg of Rage, the gay bar at the northwt rner of Santa Moni Boulevard and San Vicente. Jacqui Squatriglia and Chris Barn, owner of Flamg Saddl, the gay Country / Wtern bar at 8811 Santa Moni Boulevard at Larrabee, announced s closg on Aug. Gym Bar, another popular gay bar, loted at 8737 Santa Moni Blvd., announced s permanent closg July, wh s owners sayg that the property owner, Elias Shokrian of Calex LLC Beverly Hill, had been unoperative negotiatg a way for them to pay their rent.
In 2014, Michel Thomas, who had worked as a promoter of events at Rage for 11 years, bought the bs om Maghame and Sattari, makg him the first gay man to own the gay bar. Thomas had lnched events such as GAMeboi, which tered to gay Asian men, and Rage also hosted special nights for other ethnic groups. ” “I have a problem wh a straight tablishment tryg to make money off of gay people, ” he said an terview wh WEHOville.
THE VELVET RAGE BY ALAN DOWNS | SIX LSONS ABOUT GAY NARCISSISM | PART 01
Overstreet has many real tate holdgs Wt Hollywood, cludg the real tate at 8220 Santa Moni Blvd., home to the Out of the Closet thrift store and the Gold Coast bar on the rner of Santa Moni Boulevard and North La Jolla Avenue; 8246 Santa Moni Blvd., the lotn of La Jolla Jewelry; 8525 Santa Moni Blvd., where the Healthy Spot pet groomg bs is loted; 8861 Santa Moni Blvd., the lotn of the Chi Chi LaRue’s gay adult products bs; 8869 Santa Moni Blvd., home to Z Pizza; 8917 Santa Moni Blvd., home to the now-closed Halal Brothers, 9085 Santa Moni Blvd., the lotn of the Beverly Hills Karate Amy, and the parkg lot at 814 Larrabee St.
But nsir my posn: As someone om “the Rabow State” (Hawaii) who is now the edor--chief of this gay se, I have always been surround by rabows and expected to not only embrace them, but have them on my driver’s license, my cloth, all manner of accsori, and pecially my Zoom background durg every panel I do. I love the artists as much as the next queer, but there’s somethg irratg about the obssn wh rercg the “gayns” of the party by playg so-lled “gay anthems. — Cáne LópezPraisg Straight People as “Gay Ins”I mean, I get , but now that we’re movg to a time when more and more celebri are out, let’s retire the need to praise straight women for makg mic to bump gay bars.
Sometim cishet women’s relatnship to queerns n be toxic and jt downright weird — you know, “the gays love me” kd of women — and I feel like the “in” label fuels that fire. But I have also noticed that the Venn diagram of people who are nstantly sayg “be gay do crime” and people who would ll the ps on a shirtls guy a pup hood at Pri is almost variably a perfect circle. But is now fully 2022, and gays who still claim they’re grossed out by furri are jt beg performative and/or wards at this pot.
GAY-RAGE ED MEANG
Across Europe and North Ameri, numero clubs are known for tersectg LGBT nightlife wh the rave was London’s origal gay-only nightclub and is home to long-nng gay night G-A-Y. Also known as the “Gay-rage”, this fluential distheque attracted a voted patronage of primarily black gay men. Do not go gentle to that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day;Rage, rage agast the dyg of the wise men at their end know dark is right, Bee their words had forked no lightng theyDo not go gentle to that good men, the last wave by, cryg how brightTheir ail eds might have danced a green bay, Rage, rage agast the dyg of the men who ught and sang the sun flight, And learn, too late, they grieved on s way, Do not go gentle to that good men, near ath, who see wh bldg sightBld ey uld blaze like meteors and be gay, Rage, rage agast the dyg of the you, my father, there on the sad height, Curse, bls, me now wh your fierce tears, I not go gentle to that good, rage agast the dyg of the The Poems of Dylan Thomas, published by New Directns.
The wdow of Alan Downs’s therapy practice overlooks Santa Moni Boulevard and the heart of Los Angel’s glossy gay ghetto, Wt Hollywood.
The psychologist n stare out at the gay gym he and the “very gay” rtrant he ded at the eveng before we talk.
GAY-RAGE MEANG AND FN
Downs is at the heart of LA’s gay muny, yet the book that has ma his name pletely reasss the morn gay experience, holdg up an unsparg mirror to ’s spry self-help manual is lled The Velvet Rage: Overg the Pa of Growg Up Gay a Straight Man’s World. It is beg a touchstone gay culture jt as Christopher Isherwood’s Goodbye to Berl was the 30s, Larry Kramer’s Faggots the 70s and Edmund Whe’s A Boy’s Own Story the 80s.
ROXANE GAY
But The Velvet Rage is not fictn: addrs the myth of gay pri and, after three s of post-Aids ncentratn on gay men’s physil health, turns ward to their mental snappy tle is slippg, sometim ironilly, to the gay lexin.
” Boyiend fds partner trawlg through the thoands of profil on sex-on-mand webse Gaydar: “But ’s my velvet rage. ”Downs ed the phrase to refer to a very specific anger he enuntered his gay patients – whether was manifted dg abe, promiscuy or alholism – and whose roots, the book argu, are found childhood shame and parental rejectn.