Urban Dictnary: Instagay

Contents:

• INSTAGAYS, UNFILTERED
• INSTAGAY
• ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
• INSTA GAY (OFFICIAL TRAILER)
• INSTAGAY
• THE DANGER OF INSTAGAYS
• 25 BT GAY LIVE CAMS: GAY CAM S TO VIS INCLUDG 100 PERCENT FREE GAY CAMS
• WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY

INSTAGAYS, UNFILTERED

The other night, a stranger wh an ambiguo-lookg avatar and a private acunt DMed me on Instagram to tell me he was gay.

He then asked how I rencile my homosexualy wh beg Mlim (he'd likely jt seen a vio about my relatnship wh my Mlim father. I wished him luck and signed off, “Congrats, beg gay is great. Meang the box of a succsful Instagay—the burgeong cult of betiful gay men on Instagram, wh follower unts that reach to five or six digs—mt be undated.

Chanc are, if you’re a gay man, you eher follow or have enuntered an Instagay onle. ”Perhaps unsurprisgly, the Instagay phenomenon is often cricized for beg vapid and misreprentg morn gay life. It seems like many Instagays know each other, and so their world is unique.

INSTAGAY

Dpe some ridicule, there’s no shortage of Instagays who have crossed the elive 500, 000 follower mark, om wrer/director Max Emerson to Jt and Nick, a gay uple based Ptsburgh. Ask a gay man to close his ey and picture one, and he might see Charl-Lrent Marchand, a 26-year-old former nway mol studyg to be a pastry chef. He broke 400, 000 followers last not unlike his peers, brands faiar to any Instagay follower are peppered throughout Charl’ feed, om Daniel Wellgton watch to the datg app Chappy.

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And while gay culture has always slavishly worshipped unrealistic ias of bety, om physique mol magaz and the cult of Tom of Fland, Instagay culture may take this worship to a new all, Instagays are algorhmilly-librated thirst traps, a new kd of social media star whose fame is predited on a heady batn of sculpted abs and the lavish trappgs of “fluencer” culture. What if the are our new gay ins? Is the superficialy of Instagay culture really somethg they should look up to?

How many of them are reachg out to Instagays for help through dark tim, as they do to me?

I sought to ask the Instagays directly. And if you’re lookg for Instagays, there’s one surefire way to fd them: On New York-based artist John MacConnell’s page, where he’s sketched hundreds of men, most of whom are Instagays, their unrwear or DMg John, 33, to talk about his experience, he ved me over to his Nola apartment.

INSTA GAY (OFFICIAL TRAILER)

By the time I climbed six flights to reach him, I had sweat through my whe drs shirt, and no filter uld glamorize me—I was the oppose of an Instagay. I ask if he thks his work ntribut to body dysmorphia the gay muny. He’s an artist, this is his art, and the role—if any—that Instagays play body dysmorphia wh our muny is almost impossible to ’s more fortable talkg about the good he’s seen om Instagram.

And he talks about his upbrgg, and I’m surprised to learn he spent high school gay nversn therapy, twice a week for three years. “When I me out, my fay took my phone and puter away so I uldn’t nnect wh other gay people. Maybe his feed—and maybe the Instagays—are more harmls than people thk.

”He talks briefly about Instagays who are speakg out and c exampl of posts where they tell their g out stori or support an iative like GLAAD’s Spir Day; he qualifi that the speakg out is somethg, even if ’s only “twenty percent of the time. I also wanted to know whether he approach Instagram differently given his reer (molg and actg) is most directly impacted by ; John works as an art director and Logan works early nversatn was more aligned wh my expectatns of an Instagay—he posssed a nfince that borred on arrogance, and threw around words like “my brand” and “my art” when referrg to his feed and his body.

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“Many people, pecially whe gay men, treat me like an rt. ”Watch therapist Zach Rawlgs discs body image issu the gay muny:A uple of weeks after terviewg Logan, he referenced our nversatn and posted wh a lengthy ptn about his g out, nversn therapy and all. But 's barely surprisg, given the quick scroll nature of Instagram anythg, Instagays are as flawed and plited as the rt of .

(And is astoundg how creatively an Instagay n draw a nnectn to a brand. A gay male who boasts an excs of followers and lik on his Instagram profile. A master of misdirectn, the stagay refully nstcts an onle persona that portrays himself as attractive, fun, rich, outgog, happy, and nfint; realy, he is typilly pla, sperate, awkward, secure, prsed, and more often than not— the Instagay mug.

Some lbians may prefer to intify as gay or as gay women.

THE DANGER OF INSTAGAYS

GAY. Sexual orientatn refers to the endurg physil, romantic and/or emotnal attractn to members of the same and/or other genrs, cludg lbian, gay, bisexual and straight orientatns.

As GLAAD not, "Transgenr people may be straight, lbian, gay, bisexual or queer. A person who transns om female to male and is attracted solely to men would typilly intify as a gay man.

This is my beef wh Instagays.

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Instagays, attractive gay men on Instagram who have followgs that surpass the tens of thoands, are an tablished facet of the culture of gay men. Each time an Instagay across my feed durg my social media scrolls, a gnive dissonance aris wh me.

Instagays obscure the perceptns of how gay men see themselv and what they expect the appearanc of other gay men to be. There needs to be a wir regnn that gay men wh ripplg abs who party every weekend are a mory, rather than the majory, the gay muny. This unrstandg would help elevate the self-teem of many gay men and relibrate the expectatns that we gay men have for each other.

WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY

The app’s potent effect on mental health is all the more worrisome when lookg at Instagays.

The elevated rat of mental illns, bed wh an app that is chock full of chiseled gay men livg up the party pals of the world, are a recipe for the stctn of gay male self-teem. Sometim seeg a fellow gay man who is seemgly the most attractive, succsful man who has ever existed triggers preciative thoughts that make me feel lonely and feated. In the ntext of Instagays, this tenncy to only portray the rosit parts of their liv tak the form of postg gym selfi when a person’s body is at s bt.

The ter, and therefore social media, is a val part of gay culture. Wh the birth of the ter, many gay teenagers have been able to fd a supportive onle muny that will affirm their sexual orientatn and genr inty if their lol muny is not as affirmg. Wh this md, is all the more important that the reprentatn of gay men on social media is one that is te to realy.